In this episode, I’m digging into the real shifts that happen when leaders stop performing, stop softening themselves, and start showing up with clarity, honesty, and real authority — especially in major gifts work. Regina, an Executive Director in Courage Lab, shares her experience of shedding the “always upbeat, always polished” persona and stepping fully into her CEO energy. She talks about what changed when she stopped trying to be overly cheerful for donors who didn’t need or value that, how being direct actually accelerated trust, and what she’s learning as she leads a new development director through this work. Together, we explore what authentic leadership looks like, why relationships deepen faster when you tell the truth, and how taking courageous action creates real momentum inside an organization.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

• Why donors don’t need (or want) a polished persona — they want clarity, vision, and real talk

• How Regina realized she was draining energy by trying to sound upbeat instead of operating as a CEO

• The difference between relationship building and performing happiness

• How direct, honest communication fast-tracks donor trust

• Why showing donors the real challenges — not just the “shiny penny” — actually strengthens the partnership

• How her development director stepped into courage early, even while still learning the organization

• The mindset shift that helped her team make direct asks confidently, even without long-term relationships

• What happened when donors began engaging more deeply, referring others, and leaning into honest conversations

• How consistency, authenticity, and direct asks created organizational momentum

• Why Regina invested in Courage Lab, what stood out to her, and why the accountability model made all the difference

• What changed for their board, their fundraising approach, and their long-term strategy

• The transformation she’s already seeing just one month into the program — and what she hopes others take away from this work

This conversation is such a powerful reminder that major gifts aren’t built on performance — they’re built on leadership. When you stop worrying about being overly positive, deferential, or “pleasant” and instead tell the truth about what’s needed, donors rise to the occasion. Regina’s story shows what’s possible when an Executive Director claims her authority, leads authentically, and commits to courageous action even before everything feels perfect. It also shows how quickly things can shift when a team has the right structure, accountability, and support. If you want to hear what this kind of transformation looks like behind the scenes — and you’re curious about what Courage Lab can unlock for you — this episode is absolutely worth a listen.

Want 15 leads in 5 minutes? DM me "Breakfast burrito" on LinkedIn and I'll send you a pdf and 6-minute training to help you generate 15 leads for your nonprofit in minutes. It's totally free. All you need is an email to sign up. DM me "Breakfast burrito" - I'm from Texas, what can I say? - to get your pdf and mini training. 

If you're an org with at least $800k annual budget and major gifts is your top priority, but you need a better strategy and approach, get on the waitlist for the next CourageLab cohort here: https://julieordonez.kit.com/couragelab2 

Hey friend — this episode is a bit of a rant, because honestly, I just can’t take it anymore. There is some really bad fundraising advice floating around the nonprofit world, and one piece in particular absolutely drives me up the wall. You may have heard it before — “If you want money, ask for advice. If you want advice, ask for money.”

The idea behind it is that you should ask donors for their input first as a “relationship building tactic,” and then eventually you’ll be able to ask for money. But here’s what actually ends up happening: nonprofit leaders avoid asking for financial support altogether. They keep having meetings, asking for advice, collecting feedback… and meanwhile, the mission is still under-funded. I see this constantly with EDs, CEOs, development staff — and it’s not relationship-building. It’s manipulation. It’s having a hidden agenda.

And I don’t do hidden agendas.

In this episode, I talk about why “ask for advice to get money” is dysfunctional, manipulative, and ultimately ineffective in raising sustainable funding. I share why honesty is the real trust-builder, why clarity is more respectful than tip-toeing around your intentions, and why being direct is not rude — it’s actually generous. If we’re asking for support because our work matters, then we don’t need to hide that.

We also talk about:

• Why confidence matters more than perfectly scripted asks
• How “advice collecting” is often just procrastination dressed up as strategy
• Why you should only ask for advice from people who have actually done what you’re trying to do
• How implementing someone’s feedback (and reporting back) is what actually strengthens relationships
• Why direct, honest asking raises more money faster — without the emotional exhaustion

If you've been told to “build the relationship first” but were never taught how, this episode is going to feel like taking a huge breath of fresh air. You don’t need to manipulate. You don’t need to disguise your intentions. You don’t need to be scared of asking.

You need courage, clarity, and clean communication — and we talk about all of that here.

Take a listen — especially if you’ve been avoiding the ask. This might be the moment everything clicks.

Want 15 leads in 5 minutes? DM me "Breakfast burrito" on LinkedIn and I'll send you a pdf and 6-minute training to help you generate 15 leads for your nonprofit in minutes. It's totally free. All you need is an email to sign up. DM me "Breakfast burrito" - I'm from Texas, what can I say? - to get your pdf and mini training. 

If you're an org with at least $800k annual budget and major gifts is your top priority, but you need a better strategy and approach, get on the waitlist for the next CourageLab cohort here: https://julieordonez.kit.com/couragelab2 

Hey friend! I’m recording from my new apartment in Chicago, and I’m so excited to bring you Part 3 of my series on end-of-year giving strategies. This episode is a pep talk about the single most important thing I want you to focus on for a successful end of year: asking for more.

I know it sounds simple, but asking for more is the strategy that makes the biggest difference in raising money. I’m talking about asking current donors, loyal supporters, and even monthly donors for more — without overthinking it, without worrying about what’s “too much,” and without trying to budget their philanthropy for them. Your job is to communicate the need, build relationships, and invite generosity. The rest is up to them.

• Why asking for more is the #1 strategy for end-of-year success
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• How to stop worrying about what’s “too much” for your donors
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• Why perfectionism and over-preparing can actually hold you back
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• How humility can make up for lack of know-how or missteps
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• Why fundraising is risky — and why that’s okay
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• How to turn mistakes into stronger donor relationships
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• Tips for having confident, clear conversations with your supporters
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• My approach to determining ask amounts and staying decisive
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• How to navigate awkwardness, conflict, and uncertainty with donors
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The truth is, most of us overthink asking for more, and that hesitation costs time, energy, and ultimately, donations. I want you to feel set free from the fear of asking for too much or getting it “wrong.” Humility, emotional intelligence, and willingness to risk are your allies — they allow you to make the ask, repair missteps if needed, and build stronger, healthier relationships.

Whether you’re raising major gifts for the first time or trying to hit your end-of-year goals, this episode is packed with practical advice and encouragement to help you lean in, take the risk, and ask for more.

DM me CL to learn about joining Courage Lab, my cohort for leaders who want to raise $100K+ in just 1–2 hours a week.

Want 15 leads in 5 minutes? DM me "Breakfast burrito" on LinkedIn and I'll send you a pdf and 6-minute training to help you generate 15 leads for your nonprofit in minutes. It's totally free. All you need is an email to sign up. DM me "Breakfast burrito" - I'm from Texas, what can I say? - to get your pdf and mini training. 

If you're an org with at least $800k annual budget and major gifts is your top priority, but you need a better strategy and approach, get on the waitlist for the next CourageLab cohort here: https://julieordonez.kit.com/couragelab2 

Hey friend, I’m coming to you from Chicago (yes, I just moved here a few days ago!) and I’m not missing a beat. Rain or shine, I’m showing up to help you crush your end-of-year fundraising goals.

This episode is part two of our mini-series on end-of-year giving. If you haven’t already listened to the workshop replay in the previous episode, go back and queue that up - it’s full of strategy, tactics, and my full roadmap for hitting your year-end goals.

Today, I’m sharing three specific practices that keep me focused, grounded, and effective during the chaos of year-end fundraising  especially when it comes to major gifts. These are simple, doable habits that make a massive difference when the pressure is on.

In The Episode I’m breaking down:

• The First 60: Why the first 60 minutes of your day should always go to donor outreach — and how that one habit can completely shift your fundraising momentum.
• Ruthless Time Management: How to make decisions based on one question — “Will this help me reach my fundraising goal?” — and why saying no more often is actually the most selfless thing you can do.
• Assume the Best: How adopting an abundance mindset changes the way you lead, ask, and connect — and why believing the best in your donors (and yourself) directly impacts how much you raise.

I’m also getting real about boundaries, board dynamics, and what healthy leadership looks like for fundraisers who are tired of being stretched too thin.

End-of-year giving can feel overwhelming — but it doesn’t have to. If you want to hit your goals without burning out, it comes down to focus, boundaries, and belief.

These three habits are what I return to again and again,  they’re how I protect my time, serve my donors well, and keep my energy focused on what actually moves the needle.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re drowning in meetings, stretched between competing priorities, or second-guessing how to show up for donors -  this episode is your permission slip to lead differently.

Want 15 leads in 5 minutes? DM me "Breakfast burrito" on LinkedIn and I'll send you a pdf and 6-minute training to help you generate 15 leads for your nonprofit in minutes. It's totally free. All you need is an email to sign up. DM me "Breakfast burrito" - I'm from Texas, what can I say? - to get your pdf and mini training. 

If you're an org with at least $800k annual budget and major gifts is your top priority, but you need a better strategy and approach, get on the waitlist for the next CourageLab cohort here: https://julieordonez.kit.com/couragelab2 

Hey friends,  Welcome to this week’s episode, a special replay of a workshop I hosted on end-of-year fundraising strategies. If you’re in the nonprofit or fundraising world, this is a must-listen! I’m diving into **practical, tactical advice** for how I approach major gift fundraising to crush ambitious year-end goals. Spoiler alert: this is all about keeping it *simple*—because simplicity is the vibe here.  

Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode:  

1. Mapping Your Fundraising Roadmap

  We kick things off by setting goals and creating a clear strategy to get there. I break down my personal two-page strategy document and how it helps me stay focused.  

2.The Magic of Working Backward 

  Learn how I approach setting ambitious goals—like raising $500K—and break them down into manageable steps. Whether it’s identifying top donors or focusing on one-on-one asks, I’ll walk you through my thought process.  

3.Ask Amounts & Projections  

 I introduce my “Ask Amount Framework” and show you how to determine the right ask based on a donor’s passion, trust level, and capacity. Then, we dig into projections: how to estimate potential gifts with realistic confidence levels.  

4. Courage in Fundraising  

   Let’s get real—asking for big gifts takes guts! I share my journey from sweating over a $2K ask to confidently asking for millions. You’ll hear how to build your courage muscle and get more comfortable with the big asks.  

5. Simple Over Busy

   Whether it’s skipping unnecessary events or learning to advocate for your time, I’ll show you how to cut the noise and focus on what really drives results.  

6. Donor Engagement Tips 

   From sending meaningful updates to personalizing your outreach, I share ways to keep donors engaged, invested, and excited to give—without overwhelming yourself.  

This is like sitting down with a fundraising coach who’s giving you the playbook to simplify and amplify your efforts. Whether you’re just starting out or looking to refine your approach, you’ll walk away with actionable tools to hit your goals.  

Take Action:  

I encourage you to workshop your own fundraising strategy as you listen. Think about:  

- Your big fundraising goal.  

- Who your top 20 donors are.  

- What ask amount feels bold but achievable.  

Let’s make this end-of-year campaign your best one yet!  Enjoy the episode.

Want 15 leads in 5 minutes? DM me "Breakfast burrito" on LinkedIn and I'll send you a pdf and 6-minute training to help you generate 15 leads for your nonprofit in minutes. It's totally free. All you need is an email to sign up. DM me "Breakfast burrito" - I'm from Texas, what can I say? - to get your pdf and mini training. 

If you're an org with at least $800k annual budget and major gifts is your top priority, but you need a better strategy and approach, get on the waitlist for the next CourageLab cohort here: https://julieordonez.kit.com/couragelab2 

If you’ve ever wondered whether your gala is really worth all the time, money, and energy it takes to pull off, this episode is for you. I’ve been in the trenches planning big-name events with celebrity co-chairs and keynote speakers, and I’ve also seen nonprofits raise six- and seven-figure gifts in just a few conversations. When you compare the cost, the time, and the results—it’s not even close.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the true ROI of galas versus focusing on major gifts, why galas are almost always more exhausting than they are profitable, and how you can start raising unrestricted dollars in less time with a better strategy.

 IN THIS EPISODE, I TALK ABOUT:

• Listener wins: real stories of people who closed $15K, $75K, and even seven-figure gifts just from listening to this podcast
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• The hidden costs of galas- staff time, hard expenses, and energy drain
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• Why gala money is often restricted (and why that ties your hands)
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• The challenge of converting gala guests into loyal donors
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• How major gifts free up your time and bring in bigger, unrestricted dollars faster
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• A client case study: what shifted when she stopped underestimating her board and started asking for more
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• The real reason leaders cling to galas (hint: it’s a courage problem, not a strategy problem)

If you say you value relationship-building, why are you still prioritizing event planning? Major gifts are hands-down the highest ROI strategy, and they don’t burn out your team. You can raise six figures in just a few hours a week with the right strategy, confidence, and language—and without spending nine months planning a gala.

Want 15 leads in 5 minutes? DM me "Breakfast burrito" on LinkedIn and I'll send you a pdf and 6-minute training to help you generate 15 leads for your nonprofit in minutes. It's totally free. All you need is an email to sign up. DM me "Breakfast burrito" - I'm from Texas, what can I say? - to get your pdf and mini training. 

If you're an org with at least $800k annual budget and major gifts is your top priority, but you need a better strategy and approach, get on the waitlist for the next CourageLab cohort here: https://julieordonez.kit.com/couragelab2 

 Hi friends! I’m so excited to share this episode with you because it’s a conversation with one of my Courage Lab grads, Cara Augspurger. Cara is the Executive Director of the Grace Care Center Foundation just north of Indianapolis, and she’s an all-star leader who has experienced incredible growth over the last six months.

When Cara and I started working together, she was confident in operations and communications but hesitant around major gifts and board engagement. Fast forward just half a year, and her board has hosted an event that raised $273,000 in one night - with multi-year commitments and new major donors at the table. Even more powerful? Cara’s own confidence has skyrocketed.

In this episode, Cara shares how she went from overthinking and procrastinating to boldly inviting donors and board members into the mission  and the specific Courage Lab strategies that helped her get there.

• Cara’s journey from board chair to solo ED  and why she invested in coaching instead of a bonus
• How she made the case to her board to join Courage Lab
• The mindset shift that stopped her from overthinking major gifts
• The event strategy that brought in $273k in one night (with 18 three-year commitments!)
• Why accountability, templates, and consistent invitations completely changed her fundraising results
• How she’s now 25% ahead of her fundraising projections - for the first time in organizational history

Cara’s story is proof that you don’t have to do fundraising alone  and that courage, clarity, and accountability can change everything. Whether you’re a solo ED or just feeling stuck, her transformation shows what’s possible when you stop playing it safe and step into major gifts with confidence.

Want 15 leads in 5 minutes? DM me "Breakfast burrito" on LinkedIn and I'll send you a pdf and 6-minute training to help you generate 15 leads for your nonprofit in minutes. It's totally free. All you need is an email to sign up. DM me "Breakfast burrito" - I'm from Texas, what can I say? - to get your pdf and mini training. 

If you're an org with at least $800k annual budget and major gifts is your top priority, but you need a better strategy and approach, get on the waitlist for the next CourageLab cohort here: https://julieordonez.kit.com/couragelab2 

Season seven of Nonprofit Courage Lab kicks off with a truth-telling pep talk. End-of-year fundraising doesn’t have to mean sleepless nights, burnout, or tolerating underperforming teams and boards. You’re capable of raising millions—unrestricted—and doing it in a way that feels fun and sustainable.

In this episode, I’m calling out the silent habits that hold fundraisers back: saying yes when you need to say no, underestimating yourself and your donors, making excuses for your team, and tolerating mediocrity that poisons your culture. I’ll share what separates the organizations that thrive from those that fall behind—and why advocating for yourself, leading unapologetically, and setting clear expectations are non-negotiables for success.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

• The funding shifts impacting nonprofits right now—and how to prepare
• Why saying “no” is a leadership skill, not a risk
• The hidden cost of making excuses for underperformers (and how to stop)
• How to use empathy without enabling dysfunction
• A real coaching example: turning around a million-dollar deficit with better leadership conversations
• Why advocating for yourself changes everything—from your workload to your fundraising results

You are capable of more than you realize. It’s time to stop underestimating yourself, stop apologizing, and stop tolerating excuses—from yourself, your team, or your board. When you step into your leadership unapologetically, you’ll raise more money, lead healthier teams, and create lasting change.

Want 15 leads in 5 minutes? DM me "Breakfast burrito" on LinkedIn and I'll send you a pdf and 6-minute training to help you generate 15 leads for your nonprofit in minutes. It's totally free. All you need is an email to sign up. DM me "Breakfast burrito" - I'm from Texas, what can I say? - to get your pdf and mini training. 

If you're an org with at least $800k annual budget and major gifts is your top priority, but you need a better strategy and approach, get on the waitlist for the next CourageLab cohort here: https://julieordonez.kit.com/couragelab2 

We’ve made it to the final episode of Season 6! Honestly, I’ve lost count of how many episodes we’ve done together, but I do know this: I’m so grateful for you. Thank you for being here, for trusting me, and for committing to your own journey of becoming a more courageous fundraiser, leader, and human.

In this episode, I’m talking all about how to build confidence — and not in the fluffy, "say affirmations in the mirror" kind of way (though hey, nothing wrong with that!). I'm diving into the real, practical ways I’ve built confidence myself and how I’ve seen my clients do the same.

Here’s the truth: Confidence is self-trust. And self-trust is built one promise at a time.

I break down:

• Why we often break our word to ourselves (and how it erodes trust)
• How understanding your own motivation style (shoutout to Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies!) can change everything
• Why your environment matters so much — and how to get in rooms with people who are braver than you
• The critical link between courage and confidence (spoiler: courage comes first)
• Practical steps to build momentum, keep your promises, and track your growth
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Plus, I get into the difference between confidence and arrogance, how people-pleasing keeps us stuck, and why living by obligation will always dull your light.

I share a few client wins too — like someone who raised $560K in just 6 months as a one-person shop. Not because they suddenly became confident overnight, but because they created an environment where courage was the norm.

Take this with you:

Make a list of the things you’ve been putting off.

Give yourself a deadline.

Tell someone.

Take the risk.

Track the win.

Repeat.

If you’ve been feeling like confidence is just out of reach — listen to this. I promise, you are more capable than you think. And building self-trust is totally possible, no matter where you’re starting from.

 I’d love to hear from you:

What’s a courageous risk you’ve taken recently? Share it in the comments or DM me on LinkedIn — let’s celebrate together.

If this episode resonated, pass it on to a colleague who needs a confidence boost today.

Here’s to living by design, not default.

Want 15 leads in 5 minutes? DM me "Breakfast burrito" on LinkedIn and I'll send you a pdf and 6-minute training to help you generate 15 leads for your nonprofit in minutes. It's totally free. All you need is an email to sign up. DM me "Breakfast burrito" - I'm from Texas, what can I say? - to get your pdf and mini training. 

If you're an org with at least $800k annual budget and major gifts is your top priority, but you need a better strategy and approach, get on the waitlist for the next CourageLab cohort here: https://julieordonez.kit.com/couragelab2 

Hey friend ,in this episode I’m breaking down the three biggest pain points I see over and over again when it comes to raising the money you need to fund your mission. Whether you're a nonprofit CEO, ED, or development leader, these are the places where we often get stuck... but we don’t have to stay stuck.

Here’s what we’re diving into:

It’s not enough to copy what worked for another organization. I walk through how to develop a fundraising strategy that’s aligned with your culture, your team, your values, and your capacity -not just what looks good on paper. Spoiler: if your org deeply values sustainability, don’t expect an events-heavy model to work.

No one talks about how much courage it takes to raise major gifts. To face rejection. To say no to donors who want to dictate your mission. To speak up when something’s not working. Courage is the backbone of effective fundraising, and I’m sharing real stories -including my own failures - to help you build that muscle.

I used to say “relationships” were the third key, but I’m refining that: it’s actually emotional intelligence (EQ). I break down the four components of EQ and why it’s the number one indicator of fundraising success. You’ll get a peek into the book I’m currently rereading (Emotional Intelligence 2.0), and how this work has changed the way I lead and raise money.

Whether you're struggling with awkward board meetings, feeling stuck in fear, or wondering why your strategy just isn’t landing - this one’s for you.

If you loved this episode or had a lightbulb moment, hit me up on LinkedIn and let me know. 

Want 15 leads in 5 minutes? DM me "Breakfast burrito" on LinkedIn and I'll send you a pdf and 6-minute training to help you generate 15 leads for your nonprofit in minutes. It's totally free. All you need is an email to sign up. DM me "Breakfast burrito" - I'm from Texas, what can I say? - to get your pdf and mini training. 

If you're an org with at least $800k annual budget and major gifts is your top priority, but you need a better strategy and approach, get on the waitlist for the next CourageLab cohort here: https://julieordonez.kit.com/couragelab2