Not Your Strong Black Woman

By Nassimbwa Ruffin

Here we welcome softness, tears, vulnerability, weakness, authenticity, peace, love, and joy.

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The podcast currently has 37 episodes available.

Not Your Strong Black Woman episodes:

April 20, 2026 How to Stick to Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty
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In this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin breaks down why setting boundaries is one thing—but keeping them is where many people struggle. If you’ve ever felt guilty saying no, found yourself overgiving, or watched people push back when you started changing, this episode is for you.
You’ll learn what boundaries really are, why they can feel so uncomfortable, and how to stay consistent using Nassimbwa’s REST Framework:
✨ R – Recognize when your boundaries are being crossed
✨ E – Evaluate what the boundary needs to be
✨ S – Shift your behavior to match the boundary
✨ T – Train yourself to stay consistent
This episode also explores how to respect boundaries when you’re the one receiving them—because healthy relationships require both setting limits and honoring them.
If you look strong on the outside but feel tired on the inside, this conversation will give you practical tools to protect your peace without abandoning yourself.
💎 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this reminder today.
💎 Hi Treasure, I’m Nassimbwa Ruffin.
I’m a licensed therapist helping women move from surviving to thriving through confidence, healing, and realistic self-care.
🤍 Connect With Me
🌐 Website: https://nassimbwaruffin.com
🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nassimbwaruffin
🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-strong-black-woman/id1728269564
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nassimbwaruffin
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nassimbwaruffin
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8min
April 13, 2026 4 Easy Ways to Stop Running on Empty
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If you’ve been tired, overwhelmed, emotionally drained, but still getting everything done… this episode is for you. We’re talking about functional freeze, why so many women keep pushing past their limits, and 4 easy ways to REST using my R.E.S.T. framework: Recognize, Evaluate, Shift, and Train. Because functioning is not the same thing as feeling okay.

💎 Hi Treasure, I’m Nassimbwa Ruffin.
I’m a licensed therapist helping women move from surviving to thriving through confidence, healing, and realistic self-care.
🤍 Connect With Me
🌐 Website: https://nassimbwaruffin.com
🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nassimbwaruffin
🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-strong-black-woman/id1728269564
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nassimbwaruffin
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nassimbwaruffin
📩 Become an exclusive treasure: https://nassimbwaruffin.com

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11min
April 06, 2026 4 Easy Ways to Have Confidence in Difficult Times
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When life gets hard, it’s easy to start expecting the worst. But what if confidence in difficult times starts with what you prepare your mind, body, and spirit for?
In this episode, I share what shifted in me after waking up in the hospital and how I learned to stop preparing for the worst and start preparing for better. I’ll walk you through 4 easy ways to build confidence in difficult times using practical tools that can help you breathe, reset, and keep going.
💎 Hi Treasure, I’m Nassimbwa Ruffin.
I’m a licensed therapist helping women move from surviving to thriving through confidence, healing, and realistic self-care.
🤍 Connect With Me
🌐 Website: https://nassimbwaruffin.com
🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nassimbwaruffin
🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-strong-black-woman/id1728269564
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nassimbwaruffin
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nassimbwaruffin
📩 Become an exclusive treasure: https://nassimbwaruffin.com

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10min
March 30, 2026 4 Easy Ways to Lower Stress
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Feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, or stuck in survival mode?
In this episode, we’re talking about stress, cortisol, functional freeze, and how chronic stress affects the body — especially for high-functioning women who keep pushing through even when they’re tired.
You’ll learn:
✨ What stress actually is
✨ What cortisol is and how it impacts your nervous system
✨ What functional freeze looks like
✨ 4 easy ways to reduce stress using my REST framework
If you’ve been feeling burned out, disconnected, anxious, or emotionally drained, this episode is for you.
💎 Hi Treasure, I’m Nassimbwa Ruffin.
I’m a licensed therapist helping women move from surviving to thriving through confidence, healing, and realistic self-care.
🤍 Connect With Me
🌐 Website: https://nassimbwaruffin.com
🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nassimbwaruffin
🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-strong-black-woman/id1728269564
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nassimbwaruffin
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nassimbwaruffin
📩 Become an exclusive treasure: https://nassimbwaruffin.com

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9min
February 04, 2026Confidence in the Storm: 3 Easy Ways to Reclaim Your Power (Even When Life Feels Heavy)
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In this episode of Not Your Strong Black Woman, we explore how trauma, stress, and overwhelming life events can impact confidence—and why struggling after a storm doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.
Using trauma-informed psychology, faith-based encouragement, and practical self-care tools, Nassimbwa Ruffin explains what happens when the brain goes into survival mode and how that affects self-talk, emotional regulation, and confidence.
You’ll learn:
What trauma really is and how it affects the brain and nervous system
Why confidence often drops after hard experiences
Three easy, practical ways to reclaim your power—even while you’re still healing
How safety, support, and self-talk help rebuild confidence after trauma
This episode is for anyone searching for:
how to rebuild confidence after trauma,
how to heal from emotional pain,
how to stop surviving and start thriving,
and trauma-informed self-care for confidence.
If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or disconnected from yourself, this episode will remind you: you’re not broken—you’re healing.
💎 Hi Treasure, I’m Nassimbwa Ruffin.
I’m a licensed therapist helping women move from surviving to thriving through confidence, healing, and realistic self-care.
🤍 Connect With Me
🌐 Website: https://nassimbwaruffin.com
🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nassimbwaruffin
🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-strong-black-woman/id1728269564
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nassimbwaruffin
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nassimbwaruffin
📩 Become an exclusive treasure: https://nassimbwaruffin.com
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18min
January 22, 2026 Breaking the Cycle of Negative Self-Talk
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What if confidence isn’t something you lack—but something shaped by how you talk to yourself?
In this episode of the Not Your Strong Black Woman Podcast, Nassimbwa Ruffin explores how negative self-talk quietly affects your confidence, your choices, and what you believe you deserve. She breaks down where negative self-talk comes from, why it feels so automatic, and how thoughts turn into feelings and behaviors.
You’ll learn Nassimbwa’s simple framework RCR—Recognize, Challenge, and Reframe, and how AI can be used as a supportive tool to help slow your thoughts, identify negative self-talk, and practice kinder, more honest self-talk—without shame or forced positivity.
Because confidence starts in the conversations you have with yourself.
The 30-Second Reset: A Negative Self-talk Mindset Shift (Video) Available
💎 Hi Treasure, I’m Nassimbwa Ruffin.
I’m a licensed therapist helping women move from surviving to thriving through confidence, healing, and realistic self-care.
🤍 Connect With Me
🌐 Website: https://nassimbwaruffin.com
🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nassimbwaruffin
🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-strong-black-woman/id1728269564
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nassimbwaruffin
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nassimbwaruffin
📩 Become an exclusive treasure: https://nassimbwaruffin.com

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14min
January 05, 2026 How to Own a Room: 3 Easy Ways to be Confident
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Confidence isn’t about being the loudest in the room—it’s about being rooted in who you are.
In this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin shares 3 easy, practical ways to be confident that don’t require performing, people-pleasing, or pretending to be someone you’re not. You’ll learn how to anchor your confidence in your identity, trust the way you show up, and walk into any space grounded instead of shrinking.
This episode is especially for the woman who need a reminder that they are exactly who God says they are.

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💎 Hi Treasure, I’m Nassimbwa Ruffin.
I’m a licensed therapist helping women move from surviving to thriving through confidence, healing, and realistic self-care.
🤍 Connect With Me
🌐 Website: https://nassimbwaruffin.com
🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nassimbwaruffin
🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-strong-black-woman/id1728269564
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nassimbwaruffin
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nassimbwaruffin
📩 Become an exclusive treasure: https://nassimbwaruffin.com

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7min
December 04, 2025 5 Easy Ways to Practice Self-care
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If you’ve ever said, “I don’t have time for self-care,” this episode is for you.
Today, we’re breaking self-care all the way down — making it simple, doable, and something you can practice even on your busiest days.
In this episode, I share what self-care is, the benefits of self-care, and five easy self-care techniques you can start using today to calm your nervous system, lower stress, and support your emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. No long routines. No fancy equipment. Just small, powerful moments of care you can weave into real life.
By the end of this episode, you’ll see that self-care doesn’t require time you don’t have… it just requires intention. Let this be your reminder that you deserve to be cared for too.
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💎 Hi Treasure, I’m Nassimbwa Ruffin.
I’m a licensed therapist helping women move from surviving to thriving through confidence, healing, and realistic self-care.
🤍 Connect With Me
🌐 Website: https://nassimbwaruffin.com
🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nassimbwaruffin
🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-strong-black-woman/id1728269564
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nassimbwaruffin
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nassimbwaruffin
📩 Become an exclusive treasure: https://nassimbwaruffin.com

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26min
October 16, 2025 3 Easy Ways to Be Vulnerable
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In this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin opens up about what it truly means to be vulnerable—and why so many of us avoid it. 💎 She breaks down how hiding behind strength can actually hold us back and shares three simple ways to start embracing vulnerability in your everyday life. This episode is a gentle reminder that real strength is found in authenticity.

💎 Hi Treasure, I’m Nassimbwa Ruffin.
I’m a licensed therapist helping women move from surviving to thriving through confidence, healing, and realistic self-care.
🤍 Connect With Me
🌐 Website: https://nassimbwaruffin.com
🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nassimbwaruffin
🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-strong-black-woman/id1728269564
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nassimbwaruffin
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nassimbwaruffin
📩 Become an exclusive treasure: https://nassimbwaruffin.com

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13min
July 07, 2025 3 Easy Ways to Focus on the Things You Can Control
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When life feels heavy, it’s easy to spiral thinking about everything that’s out of your hands. In this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin shares 3 simple but powerful tips to shift your focus back to what you can actually control — your mindset, your actions, and your energy.

💎 Hi Treasure, I’m Nassimbwa Ruffin.
I’m a licensed therapist helping women move from surviving to thriving through confidence, healing, and realistic self-care.
🤍 Connect With Me
🌐 Website: https://nassimbwaruffin.com
🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nassimbwaruffin
🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-strong-black-woman/id1728269564
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nassimbwaruffin
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nassimbwaruffin
📩 Become an exclusive treasure: https://nassimbwaruffin.com

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9min

FAQs about Not Your Strong Black Woman:

How many episodes does Not Your Strong Black Woman have?

The podcast currently has 37 episodes available.