Nurturing Habit

What does it feel like when you are not taking up the space ion the world that you deserve?

The truth is, even those of us who believe strongly in equality for women, in parenting, in relationships (and that's me), still let ourselves be small. We don't insist. We don't speak out. We don't get pissed off and say, "No. I deserve this." And I'll be honest, that's me, too. But I'm learning to do better. And I know that the more I take up my own space, the more I give you permission to take up your space. This episode is about what it looks like to give up your space, why you need to quit doing that, and what it can look like to take it back. In this episode:

• Some real life examples of how women give up or don't claim their space
• What it looks and sounds like when you are giving up your space
• WHY we give up our space
• Why you need to start claiming your space back
• How I can help you, if this is your struggle, too

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Did you know that there's bacteria in dirt that can elevate your mood? I didn't either, but the spring after my ex and I separated, I would come home from work and head straight out into the garden to get my hands into the dirt. I didn't know why it helped me feel better, I just knew that the feeling of my hands in dirt and on plants was soothing to my soul. And the beneficial bacteria was probably helping, too. Humans are sensual beings. But when your life is busy and you are focused on just keeping everything running and everyone safe, you aren't noticing the sensations that are entering your body all the time. This is such a simple form of self-care, and accessible all the time - anytime. And the benefit of noticing your sensations and also tuning into them is that you will feel more in your body and out of that swirling to-do list and worry in your mind. You will be more aware of what your body and your heart are hungering for, and then can take the steps to feed yourself even more deeply. It is a win-win-win process. In this episode

• Why nurturing your senses can decrease anxiety and depression and improve your relationships
• Ideas for how to feed each of your five senses
• Why you might be "touched out" but also feel sensually parched

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If your experience of motherhood feels often harder than you expected or imagined it would be, you aren't alone. If you have been feeling like you lost track of your real self somewhere in the midst of laundry and homework and doctors appointments, you aren't alone there, either. Obviously this is not an episode on now to nurture yourself in business, as recent episodes have been. No, this is me changing directions a bit, with a new focus in my business and on this podcast. Listen now to find out where I'm going, why I'm so excited about it, and what it means for you - especially if you felt like I was describing your life just now. In this episode

• Why I'm changing directions in this podcast and in my business
• What I'm so fired up about
• How I can help YOU if I'm describing your life

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Have you ever seen your introverted personality as holding you back, especially in a job or how you run your business? Well, this episode is for you, then. My guest, Nicole Burgess, is a licensed psychotherapist, host of the podcast Soulfilled Sisterhood, and empowerment mentor for introverted professional women. She helps women remove their good girl masks, end people pleasing behaviors and blaze their own soul-filled trail in life. Nicole's mentoring blends the practical with the spiritual to support women in increasing self-confidence and their capacity to handle any challenges they are faced with and a sense of accomplishment as they take the action they know they need to take and see positive results. In this episode:

• How being "selfish" can actually make you so much more able to give
• Why knowing you are an introvert can change how you feel about your work
• How to rock networking as an introvert (and an HSP)
• Tips to help you transition from the various roles in your life
• What is an HSP and how to manage if you are one
• Why being an introvert is truly a strength, and how to hold on to that in a world that may see it as a weakness
• Why you should never use your introversion as an excuse not to do something
• Why having a small but mighty business might be just perfect for you.
• Nurturing tips for introverts and HSPs.

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In this week's podcast I'm talking about how getting really clear about your priorities can help you feel more in control and successful in your life, too. I'll share how you can figure out the things you want to prioritize, if you aren't really sure right now, and I give lots of examples from my own life about how I shift priorities on the fly when circumstances demand it. In this episode:

• What having solid priorities has to do with kicking that persistent feeling of guilt.
• Why being clear about your priorities gives you more time and energy.
• How to figure out what your priorities are - for this year/month/day
• You know what's important, but there's no room in your life. Now what?
• What if you have a bunch of priorities?

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The work that fits your life best before you have babies is not likely going to be the same as the work that fits best after. Nor is is likely to look like the work that fits best when you kids get older, or after they move out. That doesn't mean it has to be a different business altogether, but what you and your family needs in those seasons is going to be really different. But how do you navigate those changes? How do you know what opportunities and ideas to pursue at any time, and how do you trust that if you don't follow an idea, that you aren't making a mistake? Stephanie Lee is an artist, teacher, maker, and a mom, who has been navigating this windy path for a couple of decades now. Through all of this, she's been growing her family while shifting her business to fit her life and her family's needs (both for her time and for her income). In this episode:

• Why boundaries make you more creative, not less
• The one thing that will get you out of being stuck, every time
• Why challenges can be a blessing
• How Stephanie learned to choose which opportunities to follow and which to let pass, when her babies were little (and she's still using this technique)
• The technique Stephanie uses - and teaches - for knowing you are always on the right path

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Are you one of those people who sets New Year's Resolutions but quit them (or forgotten them) by the end of January? Have you set goals and then not made any progress toward them, and you aren't sure why they feel so hard? You aren't alone! Achieving goals can feel really hard, but that's because most of us are approaching them all wrong.

In this episode:

• Why you need to deeply connect with WHY you want to achieve a goal
• A new way to set a goal that will get you where you want to go
• Three tips to actually achieve your goals
• The one thing we all forget about goals, and why it is important to remember

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Who you are is shaped by your culture, your history, your heritage, as well as what you are doing in your life in the present. And our lives, and our businesses, are so much more interesting, rich, and meaningful if we bring all of that history to light and include it in our story. Is who you are fully part of the story you tell of yourself? This week's guest, Emily Halpern, is a coach for creative professionals, a classical soprano, and a lover of all things heritage, culture, and food. Her career has taken her from the stage of the New York Philharmonic to the kitchens of Chez Panisse, to the halls of the Tenement Museum, to the adventures of entrepreneurship.For over 15 years, her focus has been consistent: exploring and expressing the practices, attitudes, and ideas that help us to understand ourselves and one another.Whether face to face with clients, on stage, or in the kitchen, her drive to enrich every day with beauty, meaning, and genuine connection is at the core of everything she does. In this episode:

• Going beyond your genetic history and learning the stories of your ancestors
• How to find your cultural story - even if you don't feel strongly connected with your culture
• How to find the line between cultural exchange and cultural appropriation
• Learn to talk about why your cultural story enhances your client's story - and how to use that in your marketing

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In this first episode of Season 3, where I'll be talking about how we nurture the work we do in the world, I'm talking about a whole new way of structuring a life and a business, and braiding the two of them together. Whether you are just starting a business or have an established company that just isn't working quite right for the rest of your life, I'm sure you'll find some new ideas in this discussion. In this this episode:

• You get to decide how to build your own business. It doesn't have to look like anyone else's.
• What are your non-negotiable? What do you want to achieve and what are you not willing to sacrifice?
• How I designed my own business to fit my life in this season.
• Why you need to find the fun and arrange your time so you are having it.
• Why a coach or mentor is essential to supporting this new way of being in business.

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Do you have things that you want to do, but they just never seem to happen? You put them off, you forget about them, you have a bunch of excuses? In this episode, I'm going to dig into resistance - the name for why you do that. Why do you resist the things you think you really want to do? It turns out there's probably a really good reason, but until you spend some time trying to understand the reason, you won't be able to untangle it, do the thing, or build a better habit to make sure you don't resist so much in the future. Learning to understand your resistance is one of the biggest keys in feeing more in control of your life and your time, so it is worth learning about it and practicing it in your life. In this episode:

• Fear is there to protect you - but you don't have to stay stuck
• Resistance can look like different things - what's your pattern?
• Reconnect with your why - give yourself the motivation to do the work of changing
• Bringing fear out into the open takes away its power
• preview of season 3 topics, starting in November

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