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What do you think of when you think of your mother? Do you have fond memories? Do you feel safe? Secure? Many think of their mothers as a bastion of safety in an increasingly crazy world. But that's not the case for everyone. For some, the relationship they share with their mother is a complex one - fraught with pain and trauma that leaves them scarred for life.

That was certainly the case with my mother, who was a covert narcissist. This week, I'm going to take you on a journey into the heart of this relationship - as I share what it was like growing up with a mother who hurt you more than she helped you. We're going to explore what it means to be damaged by the "mother wound" and what it means to rebuild. This is not an episode you are going to want to miss. Raw. Powerful. This is the story of the year.

What We're Talking About: 

• What Do Narcissistic Mothers Look Like?
• The Life-Long Cost of the Mother Wound
• How to Process the Grief of the Mother Wound

A Few More Resources: 

• Healing the Mother Wound
• Cutting Ties with a Toxic Mother
• When Your Parent is a Closet Narcissist
• A Love Letter to My Narcissistic Mother

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This week, I'm bringing you a very special guest - Tiffany Carter, top business coach and podcast host - as we chat about all things toxic family. We're going to deep-dive into our own toxic childhood experiences and describe what it took to build happy, healthy, and successful lives. From the terrors and horrors of the early days, to escaping out fragmented relationships - Tiffany and I don't hold back in this very special, one-of-a-kind episode. Perfect for those who are recovering from toxic childhood abuse and dysfunction.

Don't sell yourself short. Childhood trauma and abuse is one of the biggest causes of mental and physical illness throughout the country. When we are betrayed by those who should love us most, it creates a wound that never quite heals. The best thing we can do is learn how to improve our live in small, practical ways, until we are free enough to build a future that fills us up from the inside out.

What We're Talking:

• The Ins and Outs of Childhood Trauma 
• Dealing with Narcissistic Parents 
• Building a Path to Recovery

A Few More Sources: 

• Understanding Narcissistic Parents 
• How to Heal from Childhood Trauma
• Truths on the Other Side of Trauma

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Trauma dumping is one of the most insidious relationship behaviors that no one likes to talk about. It plagues our friendships, our marriages, and even our closest family relationships. It destroys connections and destroys the sense of safety and support we seek in those we love. To dump your trauma, without permission, is the ultimate show of disrespect. And it's also a display of low emotional intelligence and selfish behavior.

Have you been a victim of trauma dumping? Does someone in your life use this tool to manipulate or control you? When we don't ask permission before unloading our pain on  others, we can hurt them, create pain, and destroy the trust they have in us. This behavior  isn't benign or "a part of being a friend".  It's hurtful and emotional abusive. Set boundaries that protect yourself from trauma dumping in every form.

Understanding Trauma Dumping:

•  What is Trauma Dumping?  
• How Does Trauma Dumping Work? 
• How to Deal with Trauma Dumping?

Additional Resources: 

• Are You a Victim of Trauma Dumping?
• How to Set Better Boundaries
• Signs of Covert Narcissism 

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Childhood trauma encompasses experiences that shape you and change you forever. When you are emotionally, physically, or mentally abused, damaged, or terrorized in childhood it changes the way you see yourself and the cycles you set up for everything from your relationships to then career choices that you make. To understand our childhood trauma we have to pull back some serious layers. And that takes time, and a bit of discomfort too. 

That's because childhood trauma damages your brain. But without the tools to counter that brain damage, you get left in the darkness with the inability to manage your life and your basic desires and functions. Want to improve your life? Want to put an end to the cycles of pain, self-flagellation, and resentment that are making you miserable? Looking at your childhood trauma archetype could carry many important clues. 

Understanding Childhood Trauma:

•  What does childhood trauma look like?  
• How does our childhood trauma settle? 
• How to deal with our childhood trauma

Additional Resources: 

• Confronting Our Childhood Trauma
• Trauma Makes You More Prone to Abuse
• How Childhood Trauma Affects Relationships
• What is Your Childhood Trauma Archetype? 

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In the world of toxic relationships, there are 10 definite types we should always avoid. From chronic liars, to the enablers who destroy us - facing our patterns and confronting our bad beliefs is key. Unless you want to keep walking into the same old heartbreaks, you have to put your foot down and make some major changes. 

This week, it's the big, bad toxic relationships episode and we are taking a deep dive into the most toxic relationship styles that get in the way over-and-over again. If you want to stop dancing with cheaters, liars, and abusers, this is a must-listen episode. Figure out what you keep giving in and understand the patterns that are holding you back in life and love.

Understanding Toxic Relationships:

• What are toxic relationships? Why  do we settle?
• The 10 most toxic relationship styles.
• Building healthier relationships from the inside out.

Additional Resources: 

• Why We Fall for Abusers
• This is Why You Keep Going Back
• The Toxic Relationship Types to Avoid

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This week we are breaking down enmeshment, and what it means when a family is too close. The fact of the matter is that enmeshment is a tool used by many toxic and abusive families. This behavior allows them to project a close and caring structure, but that's hardly the case behind closed doors. We'll explore that in this week's episode, as well as what we can do to recover from the affects of enmeshment in childhood.

There are a lot of consequences for those who are raised under the thumb of an enmeshed family. Lacking in autonomy and respect, you never learn how to set boundaries or stand up for yourself in any real way. This snowballs into toxic intimate relationships in adulthood, as well as an inability (and an unwillingness) to show up for yourself in those moments which matter most. To get the life you want, you must learn how to stand on your own and create space in the name of your needs and authenticity. 

Understanding Family Enmeshment:

•  What is enmeshment in families?  
• How to spot the signs of enmeshment
• Dealing with enmeshment habits in adulthood

Additional Resources: 

• What is Enmeshment?
• Dealing with Toxic Family Enmeshment
• You're Building an Enmeshed Relationship

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Covert narcissists. They are one of the most toxic and insidious personality type on the planet, but so many of us fail to see them in our own lives. Why?  It's because the covert narcissist is someone who uses pity, emotional manipulation, and disaster in order to control their experiences and the people in their lives. They are the eternal victims; the friend who always needs to be rescued, and the partner who can't stand on their own. 

The damage inflicted on our lives (and wellbeing) by the covert narcissist is infinitely more extreme than the damage done by overt and obvious narcissists.  That's because the covert narcissist is a passive creature, who would rather use their manipulations beneath the cover of ignorance and darkness. The only effective way to protect yourself from this type of narcissist is by arming yourself in understanding and personal strength.

Understanding Covert Narcissists:

•  What Is a Covert Narcissist?  
• Spotting the Signs of Covert Narcissism
• How to Handle the Covert Narcissist

Additional Resources: 

• The Warning Signs of Covert Narcissism
• When Your Best Friend is a Covert Narcissist
• Covert Narcissism and Your Parents

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Bad relationships. We've all had at least one in our lifetime. For some of you, that relationship involved a partner who cheated endlessly; or a partner who disrespected you or ignored you. Others, however, had abusive, terrorizing, and soul-destroying partners who completely changed the way you saw the world and yourself. Recognizing a bad relationship and addressing it are two different things. And we're going to do both in this episode.

This week, we are going to break down terrible relationships. What actually makes a relationship bad? And when is a relationship worth saving and worth letting go? This is the ideal episode of anyone who's ever been through a nasty breakup, anyone who's been cheated on, and anyone who's been hurt by the partners they've invested in. Does this sound like  you? Address the truth behind your bad relationships and you can find better ways to build on your love next time around. 

Understanding Bad Relationships: 

• Signs You're In a Bad Relationship
• How Toxic Relationships Affect our Lives
• Knowing When It's Time to Walk Away

Additional Resources:

•  Signs Your New Partner Is a Bad Fit
• How Toxic Relationships Change You
• The Mindsets That Land Us in Bad Relationships 
• What You Need to  Know About Leaving a Bad Relationship

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Are you struggling to find a partner of value and substance? Do dating apps make you uncomfortable? Believe it or not, dating companies and couples alike are taking a different approach to dating and meeting the partners they desire. It's not all about instant sexual gratification anymore. People want to meet partners who are their equal, and partners who reflect their deeper values and goals. They don't want to increase their odds by playing a numbers game. And they certainly don't want to work through all the "frogs".

So what has brought about this massive shift in the dating consciousness? Why are so many people fatigued by swiping left and right? There are a lot of reasons we're slowing down and being more intentional in the way that we date. From our core desires to dramatic societal shifts inspired by COVID culture, there are so many reasons people like you are choosing to slow it down and take it easy when it comes to meeting someone new. Mindful dating is where it's at. But being more intentional is not always as straightforward as it sounds.

Understanding Slow Dating: 

• What is Slow Dating? 
• Why Slow Dating Works 
• How to Slow Date in a Fast World

Additional Resources:

• Why You Should Try Slow Dating
• What is Slow Dating 
• How Slow Dating Can Change Your Life

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Has your decades-long marriage ended? Gray divorce is on the rise across the US and there are a lot of reasons for it. With the fastest growing group of divorces being in the Over-50 bracket, these silver-splitter breakups are expected to triple by 2030. So why are so many couples calling it quits in the golden age of their lives? 

Well, we are entering a new age. More than ever, there's an emphasis on both personal honesty and radical self-acceptance. People know what they deserve, and they are no longer willing to settle for unfulfilling partnerships, or ties that hold them down. Come explore this fascinating rise in late-stage divorce with me and break down what happens when we face a Gray Divorce in the modern age. 

Understanding Gray Divorce: 

• What is Gray Divorce? 
• What do the numbers say?
• The Reality of Late-Stage Divorce
• How to Navigate a Gray Divorce

Additional Resources:

• The Gray Divorce Revolution: Rising Divorce Among Middle-Aged and Older Adults
• Gray Divorce is On the Rise and This is Why  
• Handling Your Gray Divorce the Right Way
• Late-Stage Separation and Your Adult Children
• Issues to Consider in a Gray Divorce

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Love the podcast? Leave a 5* review. Ready to commit to the next level of transformation? You have the power to turn your life around, but it starts with making a choice and taking action. Join my email list to get the best advice delivered right to your inbox. Really ready to make some major changes? Get coached by me. Apply for my signature 8-week private coaching program. Visit www.therealebjohnson.com for all the details.

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