October. Seventh

I question my security often; I question my impulses and my reactions and try to understand the root of them, whether principles and boundaries are fed to me by my environment or whether I create them to feel safe and/or in control. On this episode I dissect a work husband and work wife scenario and I think about why so many people felt triggered. Besides the fact that accepting gifts and gestures can be misleading, the conclusion was that if you feel secure in self and in your unit you won’t internalise other peoples intentions for your partner but that all boils down to ego…let’s unpack that.

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People sometimes get offended when I tell them that religious text is no different from any other text we consume; they don’t like it when I say that the stories, messages and translations of history are just that, accounts of history. Spirituality is really just a concept that mirrors “research”. The older I get the more I feel like religion is a Political tool used to control people as done throughout history; I do recognise where and how the principles and stories within religious text and teachings are great guides for life but I believe spirituality is where we establish our own relationship with a higher being by way of our own experiences and testimonies. I met a witch, I can’t believe I had such a narrow minded perspective witchcraft entails…I really ever considered the dark side of it all, perhaps because of culture and society but still…

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Let’s talk about being mad; how easy is it for you to identify with madness. Do you think being “mad” is subjective? If yes who, who is anyone, who are we to dictate and draw up a hierarchy of madness? If we are all villains in somebody’s story then surely we are also all, in some ways, guilty of being mad no? Or perhaps we are all too narcissistic to think so…

Let’s be honest…we are all winging it. As intentional and aware as we all might feel we are we don’t have a clue what the most of our dating outcomes entail. What we do know is that some actions create a domino effect of turnouts and that essentially we are responsible for how we show up in dating and romantic interactions. What does that actually mean though?

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Let’s be honest…we are all winging it. As intentional and aware as we all might feel we are we don’t have a clue what the most of our dating outcomes entail. What we do know is that some actions create a domino effect of turnouts and that essentially we are responsible for how we show up in dating and romantic interactions. What does that actually mean though?

Casual sex is not immediately fertile ground to build a relationship…no surface interaction is fertile ground to build relationships however in this day and age where luxury, friendships and sex are so easily accessible, it is important to identify ways to remain aware, honest and intentional about what your true desires are; it goes without saying that this is very difficult to master and know whilst going through the motions of life, so, on this episode I dive deep into a theory which propose the art of dating lies in a healthy rotation of three and discuss the risk of unintentional casual sex and interactions.

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Stay away from men who believe in “humbling women” or men who’s sense of power and control is rooted in sex and intimidation. On this episode we loosely discuss the varying male personality types and identify the true traits of an alpha male. What’s your type?

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Woman who are deemed as “traditional” or those who may be more conservative in expression are titled as “good girls” and sometimes “boring” whilst the modern woman who may fit the frame of being a “city girl” has to deal with being perceived as “not wifey material” and a “Bad b***”. Why do we assume that these expressions are linear? Better yet what’s with all the stigmas? On this episode I discuss the two expressions and explain how most women do both.

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Can we normalise 'dependancy'  just as much as much as 'independence' please? 

Is anyone else tired of pretending they don't crave true intimacy, companionship and support? 

When did the fight for equality turn into, the 'we don't need men' campaign?

Of course we can talk about how powerful and valuable an independent woman is, or why the fight for equality must go on but can we do all that without pushing these fake narratives which suggest we are all heartless, that we don't crave to be seen and heard beyond the surface and that that everyone is disposable?

Whilst this episode does not immediately discuss the varying waves and expressions of feminism, it definitely kills the most common misconception that all feminist hate men. Whilst we are here, am I the only person who thinks most men don’t know what else to bring to the table besides their ability to provide for you financially?

    

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