Ever met someone who rambles on about their great day to a person whos clearly bumming? Like a homegirl that gushes about her great relationship while you're sulking over a recent break-up. Either that broad is a self-centered jerk or she lacks some feels smarts. The ability to clock an emotion, control it, and express it authentically. It's also that ability to be like "oh damn this person is clearly hurting my beeeee" Experts call this emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence: the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

This episode of OGWIT, I discuss being feels smart with dear homie of the show, John! What is emotional intelligence? How is it measured? And what are the benefits of developing this kind of intelligence.

As always if you'd like to support OGWIT visit my patreon page! www.patreon.com/ogwitpodcast

TRIGGER WARNINGS

it gets a little ranty and there's some potty language as per usjj but otherwise you're clear to fly!

if there are some cringe, heartbreaking, ohnothatsnotokay moments please let me know via email ([email protected]) or IG (@ogwitpodcast) and I'll do my best to revise the notes.

Thank you!

It's check-in time! Time to check-in with myself, figuring out how I'm doing while I balance my life's lifings. And to check-in with YOU, the listeners! I want to hear what you think about OGWIT.

What do you like? What could ya leave? And what keeps you coming back to listen.

NEWS NEWS NEWS NEWS

A new mini-series is coming to Oh Gawd! What is That?! Mental Health Hamilton is a mini-series created by myself and friend of the show, MoonQueenTiff, all about one of our favorite productions Hamilton by Lin Manuel Miranda (LMM LMM LMM). This series will feature Tiff and I sharing our not-at-all expert opinions on both the performance and the actual events that shaped American history.

also, as mentioned in this mini-teeny-tiny-sode, I HAVE A LOT ON MY PLATE! I've assessed my daily and weekly routine and have decided to give OGWIT the time that it deserves and, most importantly, the time I can actually spare. Episodes will be released bi-weekly with bonus content on Patreon down the road.

Thank you so much for following, subscribing, liking, reviewing, and all that good stuff baby.

I appreciate you beyond words

Amanda of OGWIT

@ogwitpodcast on IG

I've cried holding my stomach wanting my waist to shrink. I've compared myself to people on social media being fully aware I'm yearning to be like them. I've bullied myself about my daily routines, pinpointing my "weak points".

Negative body image built on negative self talk and rumination on my body flaws. Can you relate?

This episode I rant about my body image journey and what I do to combat the effects of negative self talk in a world that is hyper critical of the female form.

trigger warning

explicit language used throughout

colorization

body alternations

cosmetic surgery

Walter White, Don Draper, Tony Soprano.

These are not "good guys". The antihero is a character who's a fucking asshole. Deficient in every social aspect level society finds essential to warding off anarchy but some part of them reaches us.

However there are baddies who are just plain bad and we can’t look away. There’s no catchy songs to defuse the level of violence we witness with a truly terrible malefactor. So what's the draw?

In this episode Amanda and John discuss the psychological theories behind what makes outlaws so tantalizing for us.

*Trigger Warning*

In this episode we discuss...

Violence-Mutilation-Rape-Brainwashing-Child Abuse-Childhood trauma-Hero complex-PTSD-I mispronounce Carl Jung a lot

Like a lot of other kindhearted empaths I find myself drawn to the "bad guy" except unlike my counterparts I don't want to fix them, I just want to watch 'em work. Of course I know what they're doing is wrong..but for some reason I am captivated.

What's that all about? What makes the villain so damn appealing when they should be revolting? And at what point does our villain become an anti-hero, a lovable maniac we can't help but root for?

Join myself and friend of the show John as we discuss some of the baddies we love to despise (but kinda hope don't get caught)

Explicit language and the phrase "quote unquote" used frequently throughout

*Trigger Warning*

In this episode we discuss...

Violence-Mutilation-Rape-Brainwashing-Child Abuse-Childhood trauma-Hero complex-PTSD

This is part two of Amanda and special guest Tiffani aka @MoonQueenTiff gabbing, ranting, and cackling their way through explaining why this line of work needs regulation and decriminalization.

As of right now, the world on online sex work is a modern day wild, wild west. Without a presence around to uphold the law, sex workers are being harassed, beaten, robbed and killed. And why is there no presence to keep workers safe from violent monsters disguised as men? Because the workers are criminals in the eyes of the law.

Help normalize and decriminalize Sex Work!

Check out https://decriminalizesex.work/ for more info on how you can support those who are not being supported.

*Warning*

Explicit Language used throughout

Normative Language

Generalizations used throughout/Opinion Piece

As of Spring 2020 the world closed it's doors, stayed inside, and started taking nudes for profit. According to Insider Report, OnlyFans reported a staggering 75% uptick in their model sign-ups in early April alone. That's a whole lot of ass.

In this two part episode, Amanda and special guest Tiffani aka @MoonQueenTiff shed a red-light (get it) on the day in the life of an "OnlyFans Girl". Mainly you'll hear the full tea on what makes sex work work and the occasional rant about the hypocrisy that fuels the stigma around the world's oldest profession.

*Warning*

Explicit Language used throughout

Normative Language

Generalizations/Opinion Piece

Quoting Transphobic Language

"Men are trash."

"Blondes are more fun."

"Black people dance well."

Blanket statements made about a group or class of things, that's a generalization!

These opinions are founded on personal experiences or poor data. '

I've done it, you've done it, we all do it.

But when do our "well-founded" generalizations turn into blatant prejudice? *asking for a friend*

TRIGGER / STRESSOR WARNING

Explicit language is used throughout

Sexual Assault

Rape

Theft

Political Tension

Gender Norms

Normative Language

Hetero Normative Language

possibly too much realness that makes you feel a bit attacked

This episode is all about love and the paths we take in it. Using intel from relationship expert Darlene Lancer, we'll fill our mental wealth bank with the tools to spot an addictive relationship and what to look forward to in a healthy romance. More importantly, we'll discuss life after shitty relationships and how to recover from the sick pattern of puppy love that grasps at us all.

Did you know millennials are having less sex than their more sexually repressed ancestors? It's true, you guys. Americans born in the late 80's and 90's are having less sex than ever before. With our culture poppin' with sexual tension and accessibility to porking, how is it possible we're not banging like granny and grandpa did? Listen to the episode and find out, durh.

Society and Me episodes focus on ones' place in society. This concept is inspired by Amanda's need to find companionship in her weirdness. Turns out there is no "normal".

TRIGGER WARNINGS

Explicit Language is used throughout

Gender Norms

Hetero Normative Language

Rape Culture

possibly too much realness that makes you feel a bit attacked

SOURCES

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-therapy/202006/the-great-sex-recession-why-are-we-not-having-sex

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-016-0798-z?TB_iframe=true>

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/269763975_Viewing_Sexual_Stimuli_Associated_with_Greater_Sexual_Responsiveness_Not_Erectile_Dysfunction