Omar Pinto Coaching

Most of us have experienced some form of trauma in our lifetime, which can be a one-time event such as a car accident, or repeated trauma that occurs for months or years. However for many, trauma is deeply rooted in childhood events.

While throughout life we become physically and psychologically vulnerable, those who have experienced trauma can equate being emotionally vulnerable as a threat to our safety and security. Holding tightly onto control, the fear of emotional exposure brings up feelings that we may not be willing to face.

In this week's Omar Pinto Coaching Podcast, the group helped Sara. She found herself falling off of her recovery routine due to the pandemic and life events. Overwhelmed by things she can't control, she doesn't let those get overly close to her. Equating vulnerability to a decrease in safety, she feels it's easier to handle everything on her own.

• [0:26] Sarah on her recent predicaments and how having a plan of action is helping her move forward.
• [4:32] She explains her physical and emotional relationship with her family.
• [12:46] Sarah on her need to do everything and have things done her way.
• [29:40] The trauma she experienced as a teenager, which led her to heavy drinking and eventual alcoholism at 15 years.
• [34:16] How lack of trust and self-worth can make you feel unsafe in who you are and how others perceive you.
• [39:52] How isolation leads to loneliness, which later turns into self-hatred.
• [45:56] Why she needs to be vulnerable to feel safe again, trust, and let her guards down.
• [52:38] Tori and Leo share the lessons they've learned from Sarah's coaching session.

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Some of us who have rigid standards and don't adapt well to change can throw around the word "control freak". Where does this behavior stem from? The idea of being in control means you can set benchmarks, tasks, objectives and unrealistic expectations of yourself. However, with unrealistic expectations comes the idea of striving for perfection, and what closely follows behind is failure.

In this week's Omar Pinto Coaching Podcast, the group helped Tori. Struggling with letting go of her perfectionistic ways; her unrealistic expectations of herself have created opportunities to fail and not accept responsibility. By playing the role of the victim, Tori has learned how to set herself up for an endless cycle of self-sabotage. The group also helped Katie. With a few weeks sober, she wants to quit drinking due to health reasons, but finds her new found sobriety disconnects her from her family.

What You Will Discover:

• [0:22] Tori shares her control-freak tendencies and how they're negatively affecting her work.
• [3:17] How you can create opportunities to fail by setting unrealistic expectations for yourself.
• [8:40] How Tori unconsciously self-sabotages by continuing to play the victim who needs saving.
• [17:13] The three steps Tori needs to take to start letting go of control.
• [24:16] Katie shares her alcoholic predicaments and how that is negatively impacting her given her age.
• [39:57] How the feeling of being on the outside and unwanted by her family leads Katie to alcoholism.
• [49:09] Why Katie needs to start tapping into her feminine energy and motherhood instincts to show compassion for herself.
• [1:01:01] Katie receives some words of encouragement in order to boost her courage to show up.

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Addiction is a family disease, and each person in the family is affected. When someone struggles with substance use disorder the equilibrium of the entire family is thrown off. Anger turns into hurt, which can turn into bitterness, and broken promises turn into lies.. But what happens when the person becomes sober and begins to see the miracles of recovery?

In this week's Omar Pinto Coaching Podcast, the group helped Kellie. After a period of sobriety, Kellie relapsed during a family event and has yet to address the behavior between herself and her family. With a riff between herself and her sister, Kellie faces an ultimatum to agree to go to a treatment facility or lose the support of her family. Stuck in a space of always caring for her family, Kellie realizes she needs to maintain space and set boundaries between herself and her family to let everyone heal from past hurts and hang ups.

In this week's Omar Pinto Coaching Podcast, you'll learn:

• [0:22] Kellie shares her struggles with addiction and how it's costing her family relationships.

• [8:21] How Kellie should approach her sister who is very upset about her relapse.

• [20:46] The unforgiving nature of Kellie's family and why she needs to focus on her recovery first.

• [31:57] Why she feels the need to build her life away from being co-dependent on her family.

• [35:22] How trying to force being the glue of her family led her into a deep end.

• [44:44] The importance of staying away from family toxicity and taking yourself and your recovery seriously.

• [52:34] Kellie receives love, support, and encouragement to continue being strong in her recovery journey.

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Why is it that so many of us on the path of recovery find ourselves reverting back to old ways without even realizing how we got there, ultimately not fulfilling our purpose.

The chaos can be comfortable, self-destruction can be familiar, and it's what we know. In addiction, we may have felt that our negative consequences were justified by our bad behavior. We deserved the misery. We deserved the pain. We deserved to be miserable, alone, and afraid.

When we enter the world of recovery, we don't just stop thinking this way. It takes time. When we get overwhelmed with life in recovery, we can hear these same messages we used to tell ourselves and resort back to old ways of thinking, leading to a downward spiral.

In this week's Recovery Coaching call, the group helped Amber. Angry, bitter, and overwhelmed, and newly sober, she reached a point where she sat at the liquor store in contemplation of drinking again. The group helps Amber untangle her limiting beliefs by recognizing the hatred she has towards herself and understanding the roles she's played in relationships with her Father and Husband; where she begins to ultimately heal her 17 year old self to become confident in the person she is today.

Listen in to learn why you need to forgive yourself and let go of the need to fulfill others' expectations of you.

What You Will Discover:

• [1:59] Amber talks about her recent struggles and the anger and regrets she has towards herself.
• [9:24] The disadvantage of keeping count and holding onto your past mistakes.
• [14:14] She talks about her family's past and why she left her career in law enforcement.
• [23:27] Why Amber needs to forgive herself and let go of believing she failed her family.
• [44:33] How to reconnect and reparent herself to the brave full of life 17-year-old Amber.
• [49:03] Amber receives words of support and encouragement from others.

For the show notes and links for this episode go to omarpinto.com/039.

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If you've suffered from addiction, trauma, or have been hurt and betrayed, an automatic and natural response to feel bitter, distrust, anger, or resentment. However, when we hold onto the negativity, hurts and fail to heal, they can manifest in other areas of our life, keeping us stuck and providing secondary gains to benefit us or protect us in some way.

In this week's Omar Pinto Coaching Podcast, the group helped Kris. With 13 days sober, Kris is resentful and bitter towards her husband, and believes they have grown apart. With trust issues from childhood trauma, the group helps Kris discover that these thoughts and feelings of anger have helped protect her and kept her isolated for years, providing secondary gains to self-sabotage, hold onto her addiction, and create a cycle of distrust with everyone that surrounds her.

In this week's Omar Pinto Coaching Podcast, here's what you'll discover:

• [0:28] Kris shares her predicaments with her husband and how it's contributing to her drinking.
• [8:46] She opens up about her childhood traumas and experience with dissociative amnesia.
• [16:00] Her lack of trust and obsession with perfectionism and other mental issues.
• [19:33] The negative emotions that she's holding onto and how she's using them to protect herself.
• [39:17] The importance of giving yourself permission to question what you don't know.
• [42:01] The steps she needs to take to go over 42 days of soberness and healing.
• [54:59] How striving for perfection is about hiding the ugly happenings of your life.
• [57:00] Kris receives support from others for her courage to open up.

For the show notes and links for this episode go to omarpinto.com/038.

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What would happen if you stopped carrying the weight of the guilt and shame of your past?

Would you feel happier, self-sabotage less? Would you allow yourself to be joyful with no expectations?

For those who have experienced hurt, betrayal, and loss, there's a deep understanding of what it means to have your joy taken from you in a split second. When you allow yourself to feel joy, the aftereffects of these events create a foreboding sense of unease, irritation, unworthiness, and anger out of fear the other shoe is going to drop or something bad may happen.

In this week's Recovery Coaching call, the group helped Shannon. Feeling like she is undeserving of happiness, for years, she's struggled with the aftereffects of her Father's death and her mother's betrayal. Recently getting sober and having young children, the moment she begins to feel joy and move towards it, the survival mechanisms she had once used to protect herself and no longer serve her.

Listen in to learn the importance of working on yourself to find the love you're looking for from within yourself.

What You Will Discover:

• [0:37] Shannon talks about her unhealed pain coming from her broken relationship with her dad.
• [5:18] How she's foreboding joy by blaming herself on things that aren't her fault.
• [16:53] How she uses anger to chase people away to avoid disappointments.
• [21:19] How she can learn to forgive herself and let go of the hurt and pain.
• [27:13] The importance of writing letters to those you've wronged to start your healing process.
• [41:18] Shannon receives words of encouragement and love from everyone.
• [49:30] Learning how to forgive yourself by continually doing the internal work.

For the show notes and links for this episode go to omarpinto.com/037.

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Do you struggle with self-judgment and feeling responsible for other people's successes or failures? It is important to understand that you can only do the work for yourself and guide others to follow you to the light.

In this episode of Omar Pinto Coaching, Leo shares his struggles with self-judgment about other people's failures and successes. The group also helps Shannon who shares her struggles with personal and family issues and how they're impacting her life.

Listen in to learn the importance of listening to your intuition to understand everything you need to about yourself and managing expectations of others around you.

"The level of success and the level of failure is all based on the individual's desire to do the work." [19:18]

What You Will Discover:

• [0:24] Leo explains his struggles with self-judgment about other people's failures.
• [14:22] Why you're not responsible for other people's successes or failures.
• [20:33] How to show up as who you are fearlessly and not as a victim.
• [32:14] The power of trusting your intuition to understand things around and inside yourself.
• [37:04] Shannon talks about her personal and family struggles and the regrets she carries with her.
• [51:04] Understanding that you have everything you need inside of you.

For the show notes and links for this episode go to omarpinto.com/036.

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It's normal to care about what others think and worry about how our decisions will impact them, but once we allow the fear of disappointment to take over, we're simply hitting our own head against the wall.

Somewhere along the way, we've seemed to glorify this fear to mean that we care. However, the fear of disappointing others can be a powerful negative emotion that can eat away at our happiness, our passions, and even create resentment. In this week's Recovery Coaching Call, the group helped Corey. Going back to work after time unemployed, she's taken a new job that requires her to be away from home traveling. Feeling pressure and overwhelm, her main decision of staying in this position is the fear of disappointing her husband.

When we find we do things out of the fear of disappointment, we also become at risk of bitterness, resentment, and anger, which can quickly lead to relapse.

What You Will Discover:

• [0:27] Corrie explains the problems she's having with her new job and why she wants to fail.
• [14:10] The pressure, fear, and overwhelm she's feeling brought by her new job.
• [19:05] How the feelings of resentment can eventually lead to self-sabotage.
• [24:25] How guilt, fear, and obligation are manipulating Corrie to stay in a job she's not happy in.
• [36:22] The pain of regret from past actions that led to a different outcome.
• [46:24] How to turn your past mistakes into the motivation to go after what you want in your life.
• [53:46] Learning how to adapt and overcome to make your life better than before.

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Do you often feel the need for acknowledgment and acceptance from the people you love? It is sometimes better to accept that it may never happen and that you have to heal and start finding that acceptance within yourself.

In this episode of Omar Pinto Coaching, Omar has a coaching session and primarily speaks with Carrie, who has a toxic and hurt relationship with her father. Carrie shares the type of relationship she's had with her dad over the years and processes where her hurt feelings are coming from.

Listen in to learn the importance of forgiving yourself from the way you act as a result of hurt from a parent. You will also learn how to forgive yourself by changing your behaviors and learning to help others.

The best thing I can ever do when I'm upset with another person is genuinely completely put myself in their shoes, and then it's almost impossible to be upset with them. Kimberly [59:19]

What You Will Discover:

[0:28] Sonia explains how coaching has changed her relationship with her mom and her children.

[4:19] Kimberly describes how she's been spending time and learning more about herself.

[8:27] Carrie on feeling unhappiness and unsettled in her life.

[10:13] Carrie describes the lack of acknowledgement and respect from her father.

[17:00] She explains her relationship with both her parents growing up, plus their relationship today.

[22:39] The need for acknowledgment and acceptance that Carrie feels she needs from her dad.

[30:44] Why you sometimes have to say what you need to say to start healing the hurt.

[38:42] Learning to find acceptance within you rather than from the person who hurts you.

[41:21] Travis on healing from his toxic dad and how he's learning to move on from that pain.

[46:05] Learning to forgive yourself from the beliefs you have about yourself to be okay.

[55:59] How to genuinely put yourself in someone's shoes to understand them and remove your anger towards them

For the show notes and links for this episode go to omarpinto.com/034.

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Accountability is understanding that our life decisions impact us and everyone around us. In addiction recovery, accountability is untangling mental and emotional patterns that have been rooted within our innate nature for years or even decades. Establishing accountability in recovery takes time and patience.

In this weeks Recovery Coaching call the group helped Shelley. Nearing the end of her probation, she finds herself having reservations about using now that she's no longer accountable with drug testing. The group also helped Sonia. From a habitual marijuana habit to gaining sobriety, and now going back to school, she's fearful she will fail and disappoint herself in continuing a cycle of never finishing what she starts.

Often, we allow our thoughts, feelings, and emotions to overwhelm us. If we allow these emotions to serve as our internal guidance system, they begin to tell us what to do next. When we're fearful we're going to fail, we show up, thank the fear, and allow others to hold space and guide our next moves.

In this week's Omar Pinto Coaching Podcast, you'll learn:

• How negative emotions can serve us for good
• How to create an accountability system
• How to recognize the "little wins" and celebrate them
• How becoming vulnerable can create the most change in our lives.

For the show notes and links for this episode go to omarpinto.com/033.

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