On Relating with Ryan Ginn

In this episode I talk with veteran business coach and entrepeneur Jed Bickford about his experience working with couples who are engaged in various types of business ventures and how he helps them maintain their connection in the midst of the various threats a business venture can impose on them. He's done the work himself as well! He and his partner Madison have launched a successful used clothing store in Boulder, CO while deepening their relationship.

Here's a bit about Jed:

Jed McCabe Bickford is an entrepreneur, angel investor, and mentor to couples who are in business together.

Jed is an interesting blend of business owner, advisor, and coach. After selling his first business, he went on to be part of the leadership team at EMyth, a business coaching company founded by the author of *The E-Myth Revisited*, Michael Gerber. After spending years managing marketing, product development, and IT — and getting a deep training in business coaching — he left to focus on mentoring business owners.

He’s worked with hundreds of founders, small business owners, and startup teams to support holistic growth and healthy team dynamics.

Jed co-owns and serves as CFO at Apocalypse, a secondhand clothing store in Boulder, Colorado, with his partner, Madison Moorhead.

In this episode I talk with veteran couples therapist Jeff Pincus about the dangers of going into full blown threat response in the couple system and how to repair things when things get ugly.

Jeff lays out the "AIR+P" repair process:

Acknowledge the behavior

Impact (name the impact your behavior has had on the other)

Regret expressed about the behavior

Plan: come up with a plan to insure this kind of behavior doesn't happen again

Jeff also explains how we are wired to do the less than loving thing in our interactions with our significant other.

Here's a little about Jeff

Jeff Pincus is an internationally recognized couple therapist, relationship coach and educator whose mission is to help couples to Love Well. He has helped thousands of couples transform their relationships in the three-day intensives and workshops he leads. He views the complex, challenging and even painful moments of intimate relationship as a potent mandate to heal, grow and do the loving thing. His work is informed by neuroscience, somatic psychotherapy, systems thinking and Tibetan Buddhism. He walks his talk, sometimes imperfectly, with his wife Rachel.

Learn more about Jeff’s work at: jeffpincus.com

Follow him on social media:

Twitter: @jeffpincus

Instagram: jeffpincus108

Facebook: Jeff Pincus

In this episode Victor Warring returns to share a clear step by step outline of how to have your first talk about sex with someone your dating as well as how to have a deeper, clearer talk about sex with someone you've been with for awhile.

Victor is a Somatic (body-centered) Sexuality Educator, Mentor,

Coach and also an Erotic Activist. He works one on one, with people

in relationships and with communities and groups to re-wild and

reclaim their connection to sexual and erotic aliveness. Using a range

of supports from counseling to experiential movement practices, Victor

offers permission and support to his clients to normalize the normal

human desire of erotic wholeness.

To see more of Victor’s work and writing visit him on:

Facebook:

Ab Ovo: Somatic Sexuality and Relationship Coaching

Instagram:

@bonobo_man

The "STARS" talk link: https://www.evelindacker.com/post/stars-safer-sex-talk-for-everyone

In this episode of On Relating, Connor Beaton shares his mission in founding Man Talk, an organization that teaches men to step into their authenticity and become better individuals, partners, fathers, friends and bosses.

After hitting rock bottom in 2014, Beaton realized that it was time to become radically honest. He began having conversations about everything that was holding him back: Doubt, shame, unfaithfulness, anger, pride and ego. Driven by a desire to understand masculinity, he embarked on a quest of mentorship and self-discovery. Now, he leads men across the globe in search of a better future for their masculine selves.

Connor Beaton founded ManTalks in 2014 as a grassroots movement to further the cause: giving men the tools and training to create a truly self-led life.

Connor’s Website: mantalks.com

In this episode my dear mentor Stan Tatkin shares his current understanding regarding what it takes for long term relationship to endure and thrive over time. He also describes the psychological impacts of betrayal on the "discovery partner" and the "secret keeping" partner. We share are thoughts on the role of shame in the betrayal healing process as well. Enjoy!

Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT is a Clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, and co-founder of the PACT Institute. Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship RX, Wired for Dating, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships.

In this episode veteran couple's therapist Dr. Hans brings his neurobiological lens and lays out how we can:

1. Stop letting old patterns rule our current relationship

2. Thread the needle between stability/care and Adventure

3. Bring more play and less "processing" into our relationships

Dr. Hans Stahlschmidt holds a German psychology degree from the Freie Universität Berlin and practiced in Berlin as a licensed psychologist. He received his PhD from Pacifica Graduate Institute in Santa Barbara, CA. While drawing upon a range of psychological approaches, he has made the PACT (the psychobiological approach to couples therapy) model his theoretical and practice-related home.

In this short podcast I share my humbling experience of being in couples therapy and what I'm learning being on the other side of things.

In this podcast I interview veteran IFS (Internal Family Systems) trainer and therapist Nancy Sowell. She gives a succinct introduction to the therapeutic benefits of thinking about humans as composed of many facets or parts and she does a demo with moi! There's no better way to understand something as powerful and complex as IFS than through witnessing a demonstration. Enjoy!

Nancy Sowell, LICSW, is an Internal Family Systems (IFS) trainer, consultant, and therapist. She is a teaching associate at Harvard Medical School in the Department of Psychiatry at the Cambridge Health Alliance, where she has been a clinical supervisor for many years. Nancy has been a psychotherapist since 1992, working with individuals, couples, and groups. www.nancysowell.com

In this episode Dr. Angelique Millette breaks down her top three takeaways from the coaching hundreds of parents through the most difficult of time over the last year. Here they are:

1. Excessive screen time creates significant behavioral issues (if there was any doubt) and there is a way for parents to shift their families screen culture!

2. You need not worry about your children they are crazy resilient!

3. It's of great benefit for parents to be with their kids through their emotional cycles (rather than outsourcing it to other professionals like teachers).

She offers some valuable specifics on all of the above that will be of great support to all of you moving forward.

Here's a little background on Angelique:

Dr. Angelique Millette is a parent coach, pediatric sleep consultant, family sleep researcher with offices in Austin, TX and San Francisco, CA. Twenty years of working with families, Dr. Millette has developed The

Millette Method™ a multi-disciplinary approach to family sleep and child behavior. The Millette Method™ does not follow one specific sleep or behavioral method, but rather uses a “tool-box” of different methods and approaches and takes into account family schedule, child development, challenging behavior, temperament, and parenting philosophy, all while keeping an eye on parental overwhelm, and emotional health. Dr. Millette’s research addresses the relationship between infant sleep locations, maternal mood disorders, and attachment.

In this episode of On Relating, Kendra Cunov helps us understand the boxes we find ourselves in.

Kendra explains how she helps her clients radically flip the scripts that they subconsciously write for their lives...leading to deeper and more meaningful connections as a result.

She helps individuals and couples explore the invisible frameworks around our relationships and how we have the power within each of us to set ourselves free!

About: Kendra Cunov has been studying and facilitating Authentic Relating, Embodiment Practices & Deep Intimacy Work for over fifteen years.

She works with individuals, couples, and even businesses and organizations.

Attend a workshop, work intimately with Kendra or read more about her background on her website:

https://www.kendracunov.com/about/