4217 One Night Last Stand - Call In Show - October 3rd, 2018

Question 1: [1:23] - "I've been thinking a lot about the qualities I need and desire in a lifelong mate, and I'm wondering if I'm holding my partners to an unrealistic or foolish standard. I recently broke up with a woman because I didn't find our conversations to be substantive enough to really sustain a relationship decades into the future. In short, I didn't think my needs for intellectual stimulation were being met within the romantic relationship. Since then, however, I've been wondering if I'm expecting too much from one person. I also want to make sure that I'm not evaluating female romantic partners with the same criteria I would a male friend. Is it possible to be in a healthy and lasting relationship in which one person's intellectual needs are met outside of the relationship: via work, friends, and solitary activities such as reading books? Or is compartmentalizing such a big part of my life a surefire way to end up resenting the other person and feeling stifled?"Question 2: [34:07] – “Do you think young people should be encouraged to have strong opinions on government and politics? Upon reflection the strong convictions I had one way or another haven't done me any favors. I don't think they are doing other young people any favors either. It's alienated me and others for no practical reason, it's pushed many of my former classmates to being unemployable, and the convictions are founded more upon indoctrination rather than real world experience or understanding.”Question 3: [45:34] – “I'm a 25-year-old woman in a committed relationship of 4 years. Since the beginning of the relationship, I have done practically a 180 in terms of my political views, and beliefs in general. I'm a college dropout, which I now consider to be a blessing since I'd probably be working the same job I am now, had I finished, and now have only $6,000 of debt left on my student loans. My boyfriend (hopefully future husband) is a teacher who is buried in debt from graduate school. He is the primary bread-winner, but I've recently discovered that he owes much more in student debt than I had previously thought. This realization has caused us both a great deal of stress in recent weeks. I work in HR and contribute much less than half, but still a fair chunk of our living expenses. You've said quite often that women are most happy in the home. I didn't think this way for most of my late teens and early twenties... But as I've come into my mid-twenties, I find myself being much more aware of my indoctrination in that regard. I've realized that I'd love to be a stay at home mother. I don't think it's quite too late for me, but it almost is. How can we manage a traditional life in this day and age, with two incomes being practically required? Do we have to be rich for me to be a stay at home mom? Is there any hope for me, for us, to do our small part to improve the world by giving our children a stable, healthy upbringing?”Question 4: [1:52:00] – “I'm a 22-year-old college student entering my final year of college who was raised by a family that personifies the term "Bible Belt". I recently began to date this girl whose sexual history consists only of one-night stands up until me. I knew about the one-night stands before we began dating but I proceeded to pursue her anyways. I have negative thoughts and emotions about these one-night stands constantly and there has been an incident where I was compared to one of the guys she slept with. Even after speaking to her about that, I still cannot seem to get it out of my head and we never arrived at any closure. How do I process and cope with these thoughts and emotions? Am I just subconsciously looking for a way to end the relationship because her history goes against my morals and values?”Your support is essential to Freedomain Radio, which is 100% funded by viewers like you. Please support the show by making a one time donation or signing up for a monthly recurring donation at: http://www.freedomainradio.com/donate