Only One In The Room

Have you ever thought it was love at first sight only to find yourself obsessing over that person to the point where you wonder if there’s maybe something else going on?

In 2007, author, podcast host, and professional certified life coach, Andrea Owen, read the book, Facing Love Addiction, by Pia Melody and wondered, “how did this woman sneak into my life and spy on me?”

So what would you do if you struggled with an addiction that many people don’t even believe is real? Would you keep your self-diagnosis a secret and try to deal with it on your own? Or would you talk about your struggles on your hit podcast and let your experience be a guide for others?

More from Andrea Owen:

Visit the website: https://yourkickasslife.com

Check out the books: https://yourkickasslife.com/books/

Listen to the podcast: Make Some Noise

Finding Andrea Owen:

Instagram: @heyandreaowen

Twitter: @heyandreaowen

Youtube: Your Kick Ass Life

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A few weeks ago I received a pitch that read, “The current addiction system doesn’t work and is killing more people every year. But here’s the catch, the system continues to blame the individual. Something has to be done before more lives are lost, which is why Dr. Adi Jaffe is going against the status quo in order to completely change the way addiction is thought of and help millions of people break free from their addiction."

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a #1 best-selling author of The Abstinence Myth and a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, relationships, and shame. He lectured in the UCLA Psychology department for the better part of a decade and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country - until he started IGNTD.

Visit: www.igntd.com

Instagram: @dradijaffe

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Start living a happier life today! As an Only On In The Room listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at Betterhelp.com/One. Join the over one million people who have taken charge of their mental health with the help of experienced Better Help professionals.

Be sure not to miss our weekly full episodes on Tuesdays, Scott Talks on Wednesdays and our brand new series On My Nightstand on Fridays by subscribing to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. 

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Today’s reading is from the chapter titled, “Scene Number One” by the critically acclaimed author, Meg Weber.

Meg Weber writes memoir about sex, grief, love, family, therapy, and tangled relationships. Meg's writing gives voice to the ways her life continues to unfold outside the boundaries prescribed for her. She is a queer mental health therapist who specializes in gender and sexuality. She lives in her hometown of Portland, Oregon with her teenager and their labradoodle named Portland. 

Visit her website: https://www.megweberwriter.com

Instagram: @megweber8

Twitter: @meg8weber

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Scott Slaughter co-host and producer of The Only One In The Room has a short and casual, yet deep conversation with our guest Matt Cox right after the show.

Special thanks to our Sponsor Betterhelp:

Start living a happier life today! As an Only On In The Room listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at Betterhelp.com/One. Join the over one million people who have taken charge of their mental health with the help of experienced Better Help professionals.

Don't miss our new Friday series On My Nightstand.

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Imagine being a conman doing a lengthy prison sentence for a variety of bank fraud charges and finding that instead of the yard or the track, you feel drawn to the library.

Matt Cox, former conman and true crime author, spent years in prison writing stories, starting with his own and then going on to write the stories of his fellow inmates.

But what would you do if you realized that once you were released the only legal ways you knew how to earn money were now off the table? Would you go back to a life of crime or would you embark on a new career and become a legit true crime author?

More From Matt Cox:

Youtube channels:

Mathew Cox & Inside True Crime

Cox Pop Art

Website: https://insidetruecrime.com

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Be sure not to miss Scott Talks on Wednesdays, our Sunday release called Sunday Edition & our brand new series On My Nightstand releasing on Fridays by subscribing to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. 

Join our Only One In The Room Facebook Group if you'd like to ask a question of any of our upcoming guests for this series. 

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Hari says this about gender language: “I stopped forcing myself into the category of ‘male’ which never seemed to fit me long ago, and though ‘maleness’ is the language that most tongues wrap easiest around when I am seen, it is not the language that makes room for my existence in this world.”

Hari Ziyad is a cultural critic, a screenwriter, and the editor-in-chief of RaceBaitr. They are a 2021 Lambda Literary Fellow, and their writing has been featured in BuzzFeed, Out, the Guardian, Paste magazine, and the academic journal Critical Ethnic Studies, among other publications. Previously they were the managing editor of the Black Youth Project and a script consultant on the television series David Makes Man. Hari spends their all-too-rare free time trying to get their friends to give the latest generation of R & B starlets a chance and attempting to entertain their always very unbothered pit bull mix, Khione.

For more information about Hari, visit www.hariziyad.com.

Instagram: @hariziyad

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Start living a happier life today! As an Only On In The Room listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at Betterhelp.com/One. Join the over one million people who have taken charge of their mental health with the help of experienced Better Help professionals.

Be sure not to miss our weekly full episodes on Tuesdays, Scott Talks on Wednesdays and our brand new series On My Nightstand on Fridays by subscribing to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. 

Join our Only One In The Room Facebook Group if you'd like to ask a question of any of our upcoming guests for this series. 

Also visit the website www.theonlyonepod.com for the latest from our host Laura Cathcart Robbins like featured articles and more.

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To celebrate the two-year anniversary of The Only One In The Room, today’s On My Nightstand reading is the essay that started it all. After this 2018 Huffpo article I authored went viral, I received five hundred and sixty-eight direct messages, all from people who connected with the feeling of being othered. Many of those messages were accompanied by this hashtag #theonlyoneintheroom and so we decided to create a podcast that would tell those stories.

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Laura Cathcart Robbins is an author, freelance culture writer, and host of the popular podcast, The Only One In The Room, living in Studio City, California. She has been active for many years as a speaker and school trustee and is credited for creating The Buckley School’s nationally recognized committee on Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. Her recent articles in Huffpo and The Temper on the subjects of race, recovery, and divorce have garnered her worldwide acclaim. She is a 2018 LA Moth StorySlam winner and currently sits on the advisory board for the San Diego Writer’s Festival and the Outliers HQ podcast Festival. Laura is also a founding member of Moving Forewords, the first national memoirist collective of its kind. Find out more about her on her website, or you can look for her on Facebook, on Instagram, and follow her on Twitter.

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Scott Slaughter co-host and producer of The Only One In The Room has a short and casual, yet deep conversation with our guest Kristin Casey right after the show.

Special thanks to our Sponsor Betterhelp:

Start living a happier life today! As an Only On In The Room listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at Betterhelp.com/One. Join the over one million people who have taken charge of their mental health with the help of experienced Better Help professionals.

Don't miss our new Friday series On My Nightstand.

Be sure to join our Facebook Group for the most up-to-date info on guests, episodes and more.

You can also DM us on Instagram @theonlyoneintheroom or email us via the website at www.theonlyonepod.com

Also visit the website for the latest from our host Laura Cathcart Robbins like live events, appearances, featured articles and more.

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From the beginning, she was someone who viewed sex differently from her peers. Sexual desire wasn’t something to be ashamed of or hidden away. It was something to be openly explored and cherished.

Intimacy coach Kristin Casey, was a sex worker for years before she discovered that she had abilities to help people, men who were victims of sexual trauma, experiencing performance anxiety or things like pleasure avoidance, dissociation, and inexperience.

So what would you do, if there was an opportunity to expand your practice and become a sex surrogate? Would you decide that talk therapy was enough? Or would you choose to engage with your clients in a physical, intimate way?

More from Kristin Casey:

Visit the website: https://kristincasey.com

Explore her coaching options

Finding Kristin Casey:

Instagram: @kristin_casey_writer

Twitter: @MsKristinCasey

Special thanks to our Sponsor Betterhelp:

Start living a happier life today! As an Only On In The Room listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at Betterhelp.com/One. Join the over one million people who have taken charge of their mental health with the help of experienced Better Help professionals.

Be sure not to miss Scott Talks on Wednesdays, our Sunday release called Sunday Edition & our brand new series On My Nightstand releasing on Fridays by subscribing to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. 

Join our Only One In The Room Facebook Group if you'd like to ask a question of any of our upcoming guests for this series. 

Also visit the website www.theonlyonepod.com for the latest from our host Laura Cathcart Robbins like featured articles and more.

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Today’s On My Nightstand Reading is from chapter four, Drunk On The Road from Under The Wave At Waimea. Timed to Theroux's eightieth birthday, UNDER THE WAVE AT WAIMEA is the story of aging big-wave champion surfer, Joe Sharkey. Joe’s struggling to come to terms with the fast-approaching end of his career when he accidentally kills a stranger near Waimea, Hawaii after a night of drinking. As Joe and his girlfriend, Olive, deal with the repercussions of the accident she throws herself into uncovering the dead man’s identity and helping Joe find vitality and refuge in the waves again.  

Paul Theroux has written over fifty books (this will be his 54th) both fiction and nonfiction, making him one of the most prolific authors of our time. Some of his best-known works include The Great Railway Bazaar, Dark Star Safari, and Mosquito Coast, which has been adapted by Apple as a series that is set to be released on April 30 and stars Theroux's nephew, actor Justin Theroux. 

Instagram: @paul.theroux

https://www.paultheroux.com/

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