Optimal Parenting Daily

What are you grateful for?

I know, I know. Obligatory episode for the week of Thanksgiving. But I promise you, this isn’t your cookie-cutter conversation about gratitude. Because in this week’s Momtra, I’m heavily emphasizing cultivating gratitude within the challenging situations - the ones where it’s easy to forget about gratitude and fixate on the sh**.

So I’m giving you my take on the importance of gratitude, some ideas for habits to build gratitude as well as examples from my life where I can recognize gratitude despite the painful circumstances.

Plus, how gratitude can literally be a superpower!

Links:

7-Day Balance Breakthrough - https://www.sarahbivens.com/breakthrough

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Why do we settle for bull***?

But seriously, why? Why will we become a real-life meme representation of “it’s fine, I’m fine!” when it is not in fact fine and we are not fine?!

Today I’m exploring why we might settle for things in our lives, pulling from some of my own examples. Smaller examples of compromising ourselves and settling for less sets a tone and a pattern for how we then see ourselves, conduct ourselves and value ourselves.

I’m proclaiming no more settling, and instead, embracing our choice to experience what we want!

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Ready to up your visualization game?

This Monday Momtra is inspired by a quote from Napolean Hill. Let’s just say it f***ed me up. In a great way. It made me think differently about how I’m envisioning and manifesting in my life. So of course I wanted to share it with you!

Here’s the quote:

“The intensity with which you impress your subconscious with a picture of your plan directly affects the speed with which the subconscious will go to work to attract the picture’s physical counterpart by inspiring you to take the right steps.”

Share with me your thoughts on this and where you see it apply in your life!

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Need an energy boost?

Let me be your hype girl. Let me remind you for a minute of how badass and amazing you are. I’m here for you. Come back to this place whenever you need it.

This is part two of a three-part series - The Pep Talk Series

Be sure to check out last week’s if you missed it and stay tuned for the final one next week!

Links:

Orgasmic Mama - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/orgasmic-mama/

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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How do our experiences in the bedroom impact the the other areas of our lives?

Today I’m sharing 4 recent instances where I really owned my power when it comes to my sexuality. From my sexual health, maturity and pleasure, I used my awareness and voice to create some magical results.

From tracking my sex, having period sex, speaking up and using the sexual energy to reconnect and refuel, I share all of this because I know someone is going to get something out of it. It’s that knowledge that keeps me in the space of staying open, vulnerable and sharing some deeply intimate things with you. Because I believe we all win.

Links:

Orgasmic Mama - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/orgasmic-mama/

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

Period Tracker App I use - https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/period-tracker-by-gp-apps/id330376830?mt=8

Habit Tracker App I use - https://www.theydbg.com/

Company I buy lube from - https://thebloomi.com/ - use the code SARAH10 for 10% off your order

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Have you experienced postpartum anger?

I think it’s important that we’re bringing more awareness to the cocktail of emotions that mothers can experience at any particular stage of the journey. Today, I want to talk about anger, or what I am classifying as “hot boiling mom rage.” Yep, that’s my scientific term for what I’ve realized I’ve experienced off and on for about a year now.

It took loving and supportive friends around me to dissect it and get to the root of where it was coming from. Come to find that it goes back decades. And that I’ve actually always had the anger hanging out there, but I just wasn’t managing it in a healthy or effective way. I was in denial about the fact that I had been angry and had suppressed it. So now, as my anger sat so clearly in front of me, it had me asking the question, “What the hell do I do with it?”

From conversations with little me to seeing my daughter Maya as one of my greatest teachers in this lesson, I get real and raw with you in this episode. So see where you might relate to any of it and how you could learn from some of my experience to heal your own anger.

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Why do we choose suffering?

Seriously, I think it’s happening in our lives way more than we realize. We let things stick around and bring a certain level of pain and frustration, and we’ll let it hang out there. We come to tolerate them and go about our days. But what if we stopped and take a moment to identify the group of little things that when compiled together, are actually preventing us from experiencing our lives and ourselves at full volume?

Today’s Momtra was is a brilliant download from one of my clients, Jess. She had this realization that she was allowing certain things to stick around, like small little rocks stuck in your shoe. She’d go throughout the day and neglect to remove these tiny nuisances. And then lightbulb moment - Where am I allowing other “rocks” to stay where they are and how long have I been walking around with them?!

I believe when we hold onto the “rocks in our shoes,” we train ourselves to compromise and accept less for ourselves, expect less of ourselves and invest less in ourselves. So of course, I say f*** that. So what are your rocks and why have you been letting them stay where they are? Just by asking the questions and beginning the awareness, you create the opportunity to let go and release your suffering.

Links:

Unleash Your Humble Badass course - https://www.sarahbivens.com/badasscourse

 

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Why can it feel so difficult to just be yourself sometimes?

Really though - understanding who you are and loving who that is (unconditionally) can be a b****. I’m here to remind you that you don’t need to wait on being yourself and enjoying your life. No person, dollar amount or experience dictates this.

Plus listen in for a special announcement about the future of the podcast.

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Ready for some share time?

I’m hopping on the mic and completely unscripted and without any topic direction. I’m sharing what’s coming up for me right now in this moment, asking you to check in with yourself, and then I share some very personal and vulnerable things going on with me lately and how I’m processing. 

Links:

YourDay Balance Game app - https://www.theydbg.com/

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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How often do you say this phrase: “Yeah, but…”

In this episode, I’m drawing our attention to the tendency to count ourselves out, play small and cancel out opportunities to invest in ourselves.

So think twice before using “BUT.”

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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