You’re dating someone who checks a lot of the boxes—they’re kind, attractive, successful—but something just feels off. Maybe it’s the chemistry, the excitement, or that spark you can’t quite put your finger on. So what do you do? In this episode, we’re talking about what to do when something feels "missing" in a relationship. Do you communicate and give it a chance, or do you walk away? How do you figure out if this is something that can be fixed—or if it’s a dealbreaker? Let’s break it down.

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

First dates can be exciting, but having your radar up is also important. While you’re getting to know someone, it’s important to observe their behavior and notice if anything feels… off. Red flags on a first date don’t always scream “run,” but they do offer clues about how someone might act in a relationship. This episode is all about the subtle (and not-so-subtle) warning signs that could signal this person isn’t right for you. From how they treat waitstaff to excessive negativity about their ex, we’re breaking down what to watch for so you can date smarter and save yourself time, energy, and heartache.

Website:www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

You’re thinking about him. You pick up your phone. You start typing… but then you hesitate. Should you text first? Or should you wait for him to reach out? You don’t want to seem too eager, but you also don’t want to play games. In this episode, we’re breaking down the rules (or lack of rules) when it comes to texting first. When is it okay? When should you hold back? And how do you text in a way that keeps the energy balanced?

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

Love is great, and passion is exciting, but at the end of the day, friendship is what truly sustains a relationship. You can be wildly in love with someone, but if you don’t genuinely like them, the relationship won’t stand the test of time. In this episode, we’re breaking down why friendship is the foundation of a strong relationship—how it builds trust, deepens intimacy, and makes love last. If you want a relationship that’s not just romantic, but also fun, supportive, and fulfilling, this one’s for you.

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build. Feeling truly secure in who you are comes from self-awareness, self-love, and taking action to improve the areas of your life that need it. So, how do you get there? In this episode, we’re breaking down what it means to be secure in yourself—from building strong self-esteem and setting personal goals to making sure your lifestyle, career, and mindset align with the person you want to be. If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt or insecurity, this is your guide to becoming your most confident, secure self.

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

We get it—he’s hot, the chemistry is insane, and he’s an amazing kisser. But before you jump into bed, ask yourself: Is he actually interested in you, or is he just looking for a convenient hookup? In this episode, we’re breaking down how to spot the signs of a guy who’s only in it for sex, how to set boundaries, and how to make sure you’re getting what you want out of dating. Whether you’re looking for a relationship or just want to avoid getting played, we’ll help you navigate the difference between a real connection and a booty call.

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

We’ve all been there—checking our phones, rereading the last message, wondering why he hasn’t texted back yet. But here’s the truth: sitting around waiting for his text isn’t just frustrating—it’s a waste of your time and energy. In this episode, we’re talking about how to shift your focus away from your phone and back onto you. From staying busy and investing in yourself to setting healthy communication expectations, we’re covering everything you need to break the habit of waiting around and start living your best life.

Website:www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

Dating should be fun, exciting, and full of potential—but sometimes, we sabotage ourselves without even realizing it. Whether it’s texting too much, overanalyzing every interaction, or ignoring red flags, small missteps can add up and get in the way of building a real connection. And let’s be honest, dating can already be challenging enough—you don’t need to make it harder on yourself. The good news is most dating mistakes are completely avoidable. In this episode, we’re breaking down the most common pitfalls that can derail a great connection and how to steer clear of them. Whether you’re new to dating or looking to refine your approach, we’ve got you covered.

Website:www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

Dating a man with kids is a completely different experience than dating someone without them. His priorities, schedule, and lifestyle will always revolve around his children, as they should. If you’re considering a relationship with a father, you need to manage your expectations and understand what comes with it—both the challenges and the rewards. In this episode, we’re breaking down everything you need to know before dating a man with kids. From understanding where you fit into his life to navigating potential complications with an ex, we’ll help you decide if this is the right path for you. 

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

We’ve all had that nightmare scenario—you run out for a quick errand in your worst sweats, messy hair, no makeup… and then boom—you run into your ex. Even worse? He’s with someone new, and you’re standing there looking like you just rolled out of bed. This episode is all about why looking presentable isn’t just about him—it’s about you. When you look good, you feel good, and that confidence changes how you carry yourself. Whether you’re running errands or heading to brunch, we’re talking about how to always feel put together, effortlessly stylish, and ready for whatever (or whoever) comes your way. 

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography