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The date’s wrapping up. The conversation flowed, there was chemistry, and then… he leans in or asks if he can kiss you. What do you do? Is kissing on the first date too much, or is it the perfect way to see if there’s a spark?

In this episode, we’re talking all about the first date kiss—when to go for it, when to hold off, how to handle it if he asks, and how to trust your instincts without overthinking it. 

Nobody is perfect—even the guy you really like is bound to have something that drives you crazy. Maybe he chews gum like a cow, is constantly late, or wears way too much cologne. The question is: Can you live with it, or is it something that needs to be addressed?

In this episode, we’re breaking down how to handle annoying habits in a relationship—when to let things go, when to speak up, and how to bring it up without causing unnecessary tension. Because the little things can add up, but they don’t have to be dealbreakers.

Dating can be exciting, nerve-wracking, and, let’s be honest, a little awkward if the conversation doesn’t flow. So what do you talk about to keep things engaging, fun, and effortless? You want to leave the date feeling like you got to know each other—not like you were interviewing for a job or sitting through a therapy session. In this episode, we’re breaking down the best conversation topics for a date—what to bring up, what to avoid, and how to make sure you both leave wanting more. Whether you’re new to dating or just need a refresher, we’ve got you covered.

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

You’re dating someone who checks a lot of the boxes—they’re kind, attractive, successful—but something just feels off. Maybe it’s the chemistry, the excitement, or that spark you can’t quite put your finger on. So what do you do? In this episode, we’re talking about what to do when something feels "missing" in a relationship. Do you communicate and give it a chance, or do you walk away? How do you figure out if this is something that can be fixed—or if it’s a dealbreaker? Let’s break it down.

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

First dates can be exciting, but having your radar up is also important. While you’re getting to know someone, it’s important to observe their behavior and notice if anything feels… off. Red flags on a first date don’t always scream “run,” but they do offer clues about how someone might act in a relationship. This episode is all about the subtle (and not-so-subtle) warning signs that could signal this person isn’t right for you. From how they treat waitstaff to excessive negativity about their ex, we’re breaking down what to watch for so you can date smarter and save yourself time, energy, and heartache.

Website:www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

You’re thinking about him. You pick up your phone. You start typing… but then you hesitate. Should you text first? Or should you wait for him to reach out? You don’t want to seem too eager, but you also don’t want to play games. In this episode, we’re breaking down the rules (or lack of rules) when it comes to texting first. When is it okay? When should you hold back? And how do you text in a way that keeps the energy balanced?

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

Love is great, and passion is exciting, but at the end of the day, friendship is what truly sustains a relationship. You can be wildly in love with someone, but if you don’t genuinely like them, the relationship won’t stand the test of time. In this episode, we’re breaking down why friendship is the foundation of a strong relationship—how it builds trust, deepens intimacy, and makes love last. If you want a relationship that’s not just romantic, but also fun, supportive, and fulfilling, this one’s for you.

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build. Feeling truly secure in who you are comes from self-awareness, self-love, and taking action to improve the areas of your life that need it. So, how do you get there? In this episode, we’re breaking down what it means to be secure in yourself—from building strong self-esteem and setting personal goals to making sure your lifestyle, career, and mindset align with the person you want to be. If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt or insecurity, this is your guide to becoming your most confident, secure self.

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

We get it—he’s hot, the chemistry is insane, and he’s an amazing kisser. But before you jump into bed, ask yourself: Is he actually interested in you, or is he just looking for a convenient hookup? In this episode, we’re breaking down how to spot the signs of a guy who’s only in it for sex, how to set boundaries, and how to make sure you’re getting what you want out of dating. Whether you’re looking for a relationship or just want to avoid getting played, we’ll help you navigate the difference between a real connection and a booty call.

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

We’ve all been there—checking our phones, rereading the last message, wondering why he hasn’t texted back yet. But here’s the truth: sitting around waiting for his text isn’t just frustrating—it’s a waste of your time and energy. In this episode, we’re talking about how to shift your focus away from your phone and back onto you. From staying busy and investing in yourself to setting healthy communication expectations, we’re covering everything you need to break the habit of waiting around and start living your best life.

Website:www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books:

- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year

- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography