Carmen Grover is mom to 11 babies, 4 earthside and 7 in her heart. These are their names in order: Amity, Will, Kaia, Baby G, Case, Maelie, Butterfly Baby, Jude, Aida, Zach, and Charlotte. She is the author of A Diary to My Babies and the journal companion to that grief memoir, A Diary to Our Babies. Two of her losses have been to TFMR and she's come on today to talk about her babies and these resources that she's created for the loss community.

Ebook versions available on all the typical platforms and Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Diary-My-Babies-Journeying-Pregnancy/dp/1772584231

Carmen has also graciously gifted our listeners with a free copy of A Diary to My Babies if you’d like just the PDF. You can claim your copy by emailing her here: [email protected]

EPISODE SPONSORED BY OUR UPCOMING TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:

Starting in just a few days!! Apply now to save your spot in our group grief support program (small intimate groups of 5 or 6 max)

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, here’s the link to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

When TFMR is for YOUR health, also called Termination for Maternal Health or Termination for the Pregnant Person’s Health, it can bring an extra layer of survivor’s guilt. Marie-Laure shares how she lost her baby Juliette to early onset preeclampsia with severe features and IUGR (intrauterine growth restriction). Her symptoms became more pronounced around 22 to 24 weeks pregnant. She shares the roller coaster of her illness and diagnosis and end of the pregnancy with Juliette.

TFMR for maternal health can feel less represented in the ending a wanted pregnancy space - let’s talk about it!

You can also find out more about Marie-Laure and follow along with her story and get support at She Isn’t a Taboo instagram page https://www.instagram.com/she_isnt_a_taboo/

Resources mentioned:
1. The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents. Apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

2.The TFMR Doula instagram page www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula

Grief circle info:

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Samantha is a TFMR mom who lost her second daughter to anencephaly at 17 weeks pregnant. She came on today to share how this great loss has shifted her relationships and beliefs.

Resources mentioned:
1. ASCEND TFMR Grief Circle - If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

2. The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents. Apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Ale Muñoz, co-author and editor of TFMR story anthology “Flowers in Our Womb” shares the inspiration behind this book and why sharing your own story of TFMR pregnancy loss can be so transformative.

Find Flowers in Our Womb on Amazon in Kindle (e-book), paperback, and hardcover https://a.co/d/5jAa5eF

Resources mentioned:
1.“Releasing a Wanted Pregnancy” TFMR support & resources pamphlet. Free download here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/pamphlet

2.The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents. Apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

Grief circle info:

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Alissa shares how she got a “grey” diagnosis (a term for a condition that could be survivable through fatal, on a spectrum of outcomes) for her baby in her second trimester which led to a decision to end her wanted pregnancy. As a postpartum and high-risk NICU and PICU healthcare worker herself, she felt that her prior knowledge and vicarious lived experience helped her make an informed choice with her baby.

She talks about going back to work after pregnancy loss, and how she continues to advocate for her clients in all their medical decisions and in their grief in their own pregnancy, baby and infant losses.

Resources mentioned:
1.“Releasing a Wanted Pregnancy” TFMR support & resources pamphlet. Free download here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/pamphlet

2.The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents. Apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

Grief circle info:

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Becky shares her story of IVF and embryo loss followed by TFMR for Down’s Syndrome. After all the fertility challenges, she was able to get pregnant again with what is currently a healthy pregnancy. Listen in to her journey through pregnancy after TFMR and how she lives with grief and hope at the same time.

Resources mentioned:
The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

Grief circle info:

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in May 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Jenn Hepton, parenting coach and founder of Motherhood Redefined + Loss in Transition shares her story of losing twins to TFMR, her other fertility and miscarriage losses and stillbirth of baby Loey.

Even through all these tragic losses, Jenn shares light and healing through EFT, the "T.I.M.E. technique" and hypnobreathwork - practices she has used herself and with her clients.

SPONSORED BY:
If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in May 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

Other resources mentioned:
The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

Find Jenn Hepton at
www.instagram.com/motherhood_redefined
www.instagram.com/jenn_hepton
And her website www.jennhepton.com, https://www.lossintransition.ca/

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Liz tells her story of receiving an Edward's Syndrome (also known as T18) diagnosis and coming up against restrictive abortion laws and little understanding in the abortion space for her pregnancy loss. She also shares her experience with grieving during a time of massive loss with the Palestinian genocide.

Resources mentioned:
The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

The Brazilian movie "Incompatible with Life"

**If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in May 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Robin Imholte, a TFMR mom and mom to a rainbow baby born after loss, tells her story of her baby's giant omphalocele diagnosis, a condition where organs are developing (or very poorly developing) outside of the body cavity. She shares her struggle with TTC (trying to conceive) after the death of her baby Ellie.

Resources mentioned:
The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

Mira Fertility Tracker (Robin's recommendation)
https://www.miracare.com

**Also, if you are a bereaved TFMR parent, I invite you to check out our upcoming RETREAT on April 4 through 7th, 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/tfmr-retreat

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Sex and intimacy after a traumatic baby loss/pregnancy loss can be HARD, and can create opportunities for healing. Kate Carson, baby loss coach, shares FIVE impediments to intimacy after TFMR pregnancy loss and some beautiful tools and practices to gently come back into your body and sensuality.

Resources mentioned:
1st Program opportunity!
Join Kate and Sabrina at our IN-PERSON TFMR RETREAT, April 4th to 7th in Tepoztlan, Morelos, Mexico, a beautiful healing mountain town outside Mexico City. More info here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/tfmr-retreat

2nd Program opportunity!
Learn more and apply to join our next TFMR grief circle program Ascend here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-apply

FREE support
Apply to join our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

OTHER LINKS MENTIONED:
To find out more about Kate Carson and her Baby Loss Coaching, go to nightbloomcoaching.com

Kate also helps to admin another TFMR support group, Ending a Wanted Pregnancy. To find out more and apply to join this closed Facebook group: endingawantedpregnancy.com

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/