Out Loud & Laughing

By Bryan Ruiz and Jon RuizSociety & Culture

Out Loud & Laughing episodes

November 11, 2025 One Word Episode: Lust
In this engaging episode, Brian and John dive into the concept of lust, one of the seven deadly sins. The conversation kicks off with humor about flavored water and ends with a profound exploration of what lust means beyond just sexual desire. They discuss the definition of lust, seven stages of lust, and how society and marketing can manipulate our feelings. They humorously debate topics like uniform fetishes, digital thirst trapping, and even the emotional and chemical effects of lust on the human body. Tune in for a candid, funny, and insightful discussion that goes beyond the bedroom.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction and Casual Banter
01:25 Diving into Lust: Definition and Exploration
09:42 Seven Stages of Lust
14:48 Lust Beyond Sexual Desire
19:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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21 min
November 06, 2025 From Broadway to Therapy: Brian Spitulnik
Join us as we sit down with Brian Spitulnik, an inspiring figure known for his empowering social media presence and extensive 15-year career on Broadway. Brian Spitulnik shares his journey from performing in the iconic musical 'Chicago' to becoming a psychotherapist focusing on the gay community. Discover how he transitioned during the pandemic, the importance of vulnerability and courage, and the transformative power of community through his app, Gainfully. Don't miss this heartfelt conversation about identity, self-care, and the importance of support in the LGBTQ+ community.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction and Greetings
00:14 Meet Brian Spitulnik: Social Media Influencer
00:59 Broadway Beginnings and Experiences
02:29 Transition from Broadway to Therapy
07:10 Impact of Identity on Therapy Work
11:19 Creating the Gainfully App
15:19 Courage, Vulnerability, and Therapy Insights
21:42 Social Media vs. Private Practice
24:17 Conclusion and Farewell
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27 min
November 04, 2025 Jim Verraros Joins Us Again! (Part 2)
In this spirited episode, the hosts welcome back Jim as he shares exciting updates on his latest single and the creative process behind its upcoming music video. The conversation delves into the nuances of being a gay artist, the importance of community support, and the challenges of mainstream recognition for queer artists. Jim also opens up about his personal relationships and the experiences that have shaped his journey. The episode wraps up with light-hearted discussions on nostalgia, pop culture, and the evolving dynamics of the queer community. Tune in for an engaging and heartfelt dialogue filled with laughter, insight, and authenticity.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction and Greetings
00:52 Jim's Latest Projects and Collaborations
01:24 Concepts and Themes for the New Music Video
04:55 Discussion on Gay Male Artists and Community Support
10:19 Personal Reflections and Experiences
28:00 John's New Relationship
32:42 The Power of Self-Improvement
33:33 John's Journey of Self-Work
34:10 The Importance of Taking Time
36:21 Navigating New Relationships
38:35 Reflections on Past Marriages
42:20 The Evolution of Identity
52:24 Nostalgia and Music
01:02:50 The Future of Self-Care
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Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7obVHRF8knOr0WUMOZLJnM
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39 min
October 30, 2025 Halloween | From Slay to Play
Join Jon and Bryan as they dive into the fun and creative world of Halloween costumes. From discussing the different tiers of costume effort to exploring the notion of Halloween as 'gay Christmas,' they share amusing anecdotes and costume ideas. They also touch upon Halloween's origins and its evolution into the modern-day celebration filled with outrageous and sexy costumes. It's a lively and entertaining conversation that celebrates the spirit of Halloween and creativity.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction and Halloween Excitement
00:24 Why Halloween is the Gay Christmas
01:10 Creative Halloween Costumes
05:33 Family Halloween Traditions
08:51 The Importance of Candy
09:50 Reflecting on Past Halloween Costumes
10:14 Halloween Costume Ideas for the Family
11:09 Last-Minute Halloween Plans
12:20 Creative and Scary Costume Concepts
13:37 Trending Costumes and Pop Culture
14:35 Humorous and Satirical Costume Ideas
19:18 The Evolution of Halloween Traditions
20:13 Final Halloween Wishes and Safety Tips
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21 min
October 28, 2025 Jim Verraros Joins Us Again! (Part 1)
In this spirited episode, the hosts welcome back Jim as he shares exciting updates on his latest single and the creative process behind its upcoming music video. The conversation delves into the nuances of being a gay artist, the importance of community support, and the challenges of mainstream recognition for queer artists. Jim also opens up about his personal relationships and the experiences that have shaped his journey. The episode wraps up with light-hearted discussions on nostalgia, pop culture, and the evolving dynamics of the queer community. Tune in for an engaging and heartfelt dialogue filled with laughter, insight, and authenticity.
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@OutLoudAndLaughing?sub_confirmation=1
Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction and Greetings
00:52 Jim's Latest Projects and Collaborations
01:24 Concepts and Themes for the New Music Video
04:55 Discussion on Gay Male Artists and Community Support
10:19 Personal Reflections and Experiences
28:00 John's New Relationship
32:42 The Power of Self-Improvement
33:33 John's Journey of Self-Work
34:10 The Importance of Taking Time
36:21 Navigating New Relationships
38:35 Reflections on Past Marriages
42:20 The Evolution of Identity
52:24 Nostalgia and Music
01:02:50 The Future of Self-Care
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Visit us at www.OutLoudAndLaughing.com
Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7obVHRF8knOr0WUMOZLJnM
Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLvTk63DP29cMR3QjT_xkkHygIX2MZi1c9
28 min
October 25, 2025 Unpacking Childhood Lies & Myths
In this hilarious episode, hosts Jon and Bryan reminisce about all the funny and bizarre lies their parents told them as kids. From being warned that making a face would make it permanently stuck like that to the absurdity of believing in pee dye in pools, they cover it all. They also dive into traditional parental lies about pets, eating habits, and more. Listen as they explore these hilarious and sometimes traumatizing moments, all while sharing their own personal anecdotes.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction and Childhood Memories
00:59 Parental Lies and Funny Threats
04:34 Poolside Confessions and Etiquette
09:39 More Poolside Lies and Parenting Stories
11:49 The Knuckle Sandwich Dilemma
12:29 Parental Lies and Favorite Children
13:07 Cuban Coffee and Childhood Myths
15:18 Superstitions and Silly Beliefs
17:54 Money Doesn't Grow on Trees
18:59 Dealing with Pet Deaths
20:17 Concluding Thoughts and Farewell
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21 min
October 21, 2025 (He’s Back!) Controversial Coffee Chats with It’s Ben A Week
In this episode, Jon and Bryan welcome Ben back to dive deep into hilarious and edgy conversations about their personal lives. From wearing shorts in Texas, pumpkin spice lattes, and Starbucks barista behavior to recounting a recent jail experience for speeding, nothing is off-limits. The group also discusses the passionate sides of tech preferences (Android vs. iPhone), Disney adults vs. Universal fans, and the extreme loyalty of Taylor Swift fans. No topic is too taboo as they explore everything from talking to text, the absurdity of the current culture, to their childhood memories and obsessions with housewives and high-end sneakers. Tune in for a mix of humor, honest confessions, and controversial takes!
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction and Shorts Debate
00:31 Pumpkin Spice and Starbucks Rant
02:28 Texting Etiquette and Voice Memos
04:12 Android vs. iPhone Debate
09:39 Disney Adult Confessions
12:29 Horse Riding and Therapy
19:15 Road Rage and Public Etiquette
26:24 Housewives Drama and Candy Obsession
29:58 Cinnabon and Dual Business Ideas
30:52 Elementary School Game Night Dread
31:45 PTA Involvement and Gossip
33:45 Sperm Donation and Parenting
38:08 Amazon Subscriptions and Consumerism
41:03 Climate Change and Political Commentary
42:11 Epstein Files and Legal Troubles
44:26 Personal Encounters with the Law
57:44 Podcast Farewell and Final Thoughts
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59 min
October 17, 2025 Is It Gay? Public Transit!
Join hosts Jon and Bryan in this hilarious and insightful episode of 'Out Loud and Laughing' as they dive into the world of transportation to determine what modes of travel might be gay, straight, bi, or non-binary. From subways and monorails to ferries and airplanes, no form of public transit is left out of their cheeky and candid analysis. They also discuss various facets of air travel, iconic vehicles like San Francisco's cable cars, and the nuances of Uber services. Sip on a drink, sit back, and enjoy the ride!
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction and Banter
00:18 Is It Gay? - Public Transportation Edition
01:27 Subway vs. Monorail
03:30 Turnstiles and Payment Methods
05:32 Water Taxis and Ferries
06:47 Cruises and River Barges
09:04 Exploring the Iconic Cable Car
10:49 Greyhound Buses: A Bisexual Journey
13:30 Airplane Classes: The Gay Gradient
16:06 Red Eye Flights: A Missed Opportunity
17:41 Uber and Taxi Services: The Driver's Influence
19:55 Concluding Thoughts on Transportation
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21 min
October 14, 2025 A Unique Perspective with Kaelan Strouse
Join Jon and Bryan as they introduce Kaelan Strouse, a mindfulness and sex positivity advocate, to the chat. In this insightful conversation, Kaelan discusses his personal journey of overcoming societal and internalized shame regarding sexuality, identity, and spirituality. He shares how mindfulness, a dedicated yogic practice, and exploring various aspects of sexuality helped him find self-love and joy. Kaelan also addresses common misconceptions about sex positivity, the balance of being an influencer, and talks about his work in helping others embrace their true selves. Tune in for a deep dive into spirituality, self-acceptance, and the intersection of body positivity and divine energy.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction and Greetings
00:15 Meet Kaylyn: Our Special Guest
00:50 Kaylyn's Journey to Self-Acceptance
01:06 Exploring Spirituality and Sexuality
04:03 The Path to Wholeness
08:25 Challenges and Misconceptions
16:45 The Role of an Influencer
19:51 Final Thoughts and Farewell
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26 min
October 09, 2025 Jon & Bryan's Algorithms: Does It Say "Top" or "Bottom"?
In this hilarious and introspective episode, Jon and Bryan explore the world of TikTok algorithms and their implications on their sexual identities. They dive into a series of quizzes to determine whether they're tops, bottoms, or somewhere in between. The results lead to a deeper discussion about the fluidity of sexual roles, the impact of societal labels, and the importance of self-exploration and communication in relationships. Join them for an entertaining journey through self-discovery, filled with laughs, surprising revelations, and thoughtful insights.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction: TikTok Algorithm Insights
00:27 Exploring Personal Algorithms
01:38 Taking the Quizzes
02:13 Quiz Results Discussion
02:58 Understanding Sexual Preferences
08:01 Final Quiz and Reflections
15:58 Concluding Thoughts on Sexuality and Relationships
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21 min