Out Loud & Laughing

By Bryan Ruiz and Jon RuizSociety & Culture

Out Loud & Laughing episodes

March 24From Electro-Pop Legend to the Architect of a Queer Music Revolution with Logan Lynn
In this engaging episode, Bryan Ruiz and Jon sit down with Logan Lynn, a prominent figure in the LGBTQIA+ music scene and the founder of Music in Demand, a talent agency dedicated to uplifting queer and trans artists. Logan shares his journey from being an openly queer musician to becoming a powerful advocate for the community, emphasizing the importance of visibility and representation in the music industry. He discusses how Music in Demand aims to disrupt traditional gatekeeping practices, making it easier for artists to connect with opportunities and audiences without barriers.
Logan reflects on his personal experiences in the industry, highlighting the challenges he faced and how they shaped his mission to create a supportive environment for other LGBTQIA+ artists. He emphasizes the need for collaboration and community, especially in a time when many are trying to silence queer voices. The conversation also touches on the agency's goals, including upcoming festivals and the importance of mental health in the high-pressure music industry, showcasing Logan's commitment to fostering a safe and inclusive space for artists to thrive.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction to Logan Lynn
01:24 The Vision Behind Music in Demand
04:48 Disrupting the Music Industry
07:43 Queer Culture's Influence on Mainstream Music
13:29 Mental Health and Recovery in the Music Industry
17:56 Finding New Talent and Representation
24:46 Impact Over Fame: Logan's Philosophy
26:15 How to Support LGBTQIA+ Artists
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LGBTQIA+, Music in Demand, Logan Lynn, queer artists, mental health, music industry, representation, talent agency, visibility, community support
Takeaways
You don't have to fit in to belong.
We're trying to disrupt mainstream music through queer visibility.
If you're doing something that matters to you, it likely matters to someone else.
28 min
March 19Sketch Comedy and Personal Journeys with Aaron Goldenberg
In this engaging episode, Jon and Bryan welcome Aaron Goldenberg, a talented actor and creator known for his comedic content that resonates with LGBTQ+ culture. They explore Aaron's journey in comedy, the inspirations behind his work, and how his upbringing has shaped his humor. The conversation delves into the themes of reclaiming trauma through laughter, using one's platform for charitable causes, and the liberating experience of vulnerability. The episode concludes with a fun game of 'This or That' and a discussion about Aaron's upcoming projects, including a book about his personal journey.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction to Royal Tee and Aaron Goldenberg
00:02 NEWCHAPTER
01:18 Exploring Aaron's Content and Inspirations
02:54 The Impact of Upbringing on Comedy
09:31 Reclaiming Trauma Through Humor
13:39 Using Platform for Good: Charity and Family
17:37 The Liberation of Vulnerability
24:46 Fun and Games: This or That with Aaron
32:17 Closing Thoughts and Future Projects
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Aaron Goldenberg, comedy, LGBTQ+, Mean Gays, charity, personal growth, vulnerability, content creation, storytelling, cultural commentary
Takeaways
Aaron's content is a blend of sketch comedy and personal experiences.
The Closeted Husband series reflects the struggles of living in a repressive environment.
Humor can be a tool for reclaiming trauma and personal growth.
Aaron uses his platform to support charitable causes, particularly for his sibling.
Vulnerability in sharing personal stories can be liberating and empowering.
The importance of humor in navigating the complexities of LGBTQ+ culture.
Aaron's creative process involves brainstorming and character development.
The impact of upbringing on Aaron's comedic style and content.
Engaging with audiences through humor can foster connection and understanding.
Aaron's upcoming book explores his journey with faith and identity.
35 min
March 17Cory Allen: The Book of Transformative Magic
In this engaging conversation, Bryan and Jon welcome Cory Allen, a former Secret Service agent turned author and advocate, to discuss the complexities of queer fatherhood and building a legacy. Cory shares his unique journey from law enforcement to parenting, emphasizing the emotional challenges and joys of fatherhood, particularly through the lens of his new children's book. The discussion touches on the importance of authenticity, empathy, and the need for representation in literature for LGBTQ+ families, as well as the realities of navigating the IVF process. Throughout the conversation, Cory highlights the significance of being vulnerable and open as a parent, aiming to leave a lasting legacy for his children. Purchase his book at https://www.coryallenbooks.com/.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction to Queer Fatherhood and Legacy
03:44 Transitioning from Secret Service to Parenthood
05:32 Emotional Vulnerability and Fatherhood
07:57 Creating a Legacy Through Literature
09:38 Navigating the IVF Journey
13:47 Core Values and Empathy in Parenting
15:26 Authenticity and Strength in Fatherhood
16:42 Fun and Games: Special Agent Dad Edition
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queer fatherhood, legacy, emotional vulnerability, parenting, IVF journey, empathy, authenticity, children's literature, LGBTQ+ families, fatherhood
Takeaways
Cory Allen transitioned from a high-stakes career in the Secret Service to the equally demanding role of a father.
The experience of fatherhood has opened Cory up to expressing his true emotions.
Cory's new children's book aims to help men express their emotions and connect with their children.
Legacy is a significant theme for Cory, especially as he navigates fatherhood in his forties.
Cory emphasizes the importance of empathy as a core value to pass down to his children.
The IVF journey can be filled with unexpected challenges and emotional stress.
Cory believes that authenticity is a form of strength in parenting.
Representation in children's literature is crucial for LGBTQ+ families.
Cory's experiences highlight the need for candid conversations about parenting in the LGBTQ+ community.
The chaos of parenting is a shared experience that many can relate to.
23 min
March 12Authenticity, Congeniality & the Crown with Sapphira Cristál
In this engaging conversation, Sapphira Cristál shares her journey from a talented performer to a stand-up comedian, discussing the challenges and triumphs she faced along the way. She reflects on her experiences in the drag community, the influence of her upbringing, and the importance of resilience in the face of rejection. Sapphira also delves into her creative process, the significance of personal branding, and the joy of connecting with her audience through humor. The discussion culminates in a fun rapid-fire segment, showcasing her personality and insights. Book tickets for her tour here: https://www.sapphiracristal.com/tour
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction to Sapphira Cristál
06:42 The Joy of Performing Solo
15:35 The Role of Family Support
20:39 Rapid Fire Questions: This or That
26:24 Closing Remarks and Upcoming Shows
27:58 NEWCHAPTER
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Sapphira Cristál, Drag Race, stand-up comedy, resilience, performance, church influence, family support, personal branding, color symbolism, rapid fire questions
Takeaways
Sapphira finds joy in connecting with people through comedy.
The journey to success often involves facing multiple rejections.
Family support played a crucial role in Sapphira's career.
Sapphira's experiences in church influenced her artistic journey.
She emphasizes the importance of self-investment and growth.
Sapphira's stand-up is a form of 'drag therapy' for herself and the audience.
The significance of color symbolism in her branding is profound.
Sapphira enjoys the freedom of performing solo compared to group tours.
She believes in the power of resilience and hard work.
Sapphira's unique style blends high fashion with comfort.
29 min
March 10Miss Bouvèé: The Art of Drag and Activism
In this engaging conversation, Miss Bouvèé (@missbouvee) shares her journey as a drag performer and activist, discussing the transformative power of drag, the importance of community support, and her latest art installation, 'Visibility Is the Protest.' She emphasizes the need for joy and connection through music and art while navigating the challenges of activism in today's political climate.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction to Miss Bouvèé
02:46 The Transformation of Eric to Miss Bouvèé
05:47 Art and Activism: A Year in Review
08:35 Visibility Is the Protest: Art Installation
11:38 The Power of Music and Connection
15:51 Finding Joy Amidst Activism
19:43 Claiming Space: Love and Respect
22:45 The Bouvier Beauty Edition: This or That
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Eric Swanson, drag, activism, art, music, LGBTQ+, community, visibility, protest, performance, Florida, Miss Bouvèé
Takeaways
Miss Bouvèé feels transformed when she puts on her eyelashes, marking the transition from Eric to her drag persona.
The removal of rainbow crosswalks symbolizes a larger issue of visibility for the LGBTQ+ community.
Art and activism are intertwined in Miss Bouvèé's work, showcasing the power of performance to command attention.
The installation 'Visibility Is the Protest' aims to raise funds for Naples Pride and spark conversations about LGBTQ+ rights.
Music serves as a powerful connector, evoking memories and emotions that resonate with audiences.
Maintaining a light spirit amidst activism is crucial, supported by friends and loved ones.
The drag community is vital in advocating for LGBTQ+ rights and visibility.
Miss Bouvèé's performances aim to educate and inspire empathy among audiences.
Respecting others' experiences is essential, even when disagreeing with their views.
The essence of drag lies in its ability to challenge norms and create safe spaces for expression.
33 min
March 05Graham Gremore: Creating Queer Joy and Impact
In this episode, Bryan and Jon welcome Graham Gremore, the editor-in-chief of Queerty, to discuss the evolving landscape of LGBTQIA media, the balance between celebrating queer joy and addressing community challenges, and the importance of inclusivity in storytelling. Graham shares insights on navigating local leadership in Minneapolis, the unique consumption of media within the queer community, and the exciting upcoming events like the Queerties. The conversation also touches on Graham's personal journey through various cities and the fun dynamics of working at Queerty.
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Time Stamps:
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Queer Media and Community Engagement
02:47 Navigating Challenges and Celebrating Joy in the LGBTQIA Community
05:59 Local Journalism and Community Impact
08:59 Evolving Queerty: Amplifying Diverse Voices
11:46 Breaking Traditional Journalism Norms
14:57 The Fun Side of Queer Media
17:39 Looking Ahead: Future Plans for Queerty
23:41 Cultural Connections and New Orleans Magic
27:52 The Queer Experience: Games and Preferences
33:46 Supporting Queerty and Community Engagement
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Queerty, LGBTQIA, Graham Gremore, queer media, community challenges, inclusivity, journalism, Queerties, queer culture, Minneapolis
Takeaways
Graham emphasizes the importance of reading the room to gauge community sentiment.
Queerty aims to balance serious news with celebrations of queer joy.
Local leadership in Minneapolis is facing significant challenges but is doing their best.
Graham has been intentional about amplifying diverse voices within the LGBTQIA community.
The evolution of Queerty reflects a broader understanding of inclusivity beyond just gay men.
Digital media requires breaking traditional journalism norms to engage audiences effectively.
The queer community tends to be more skeptical of media, questioning narratives due to past experiences.
Graham enjoys cultural commentary and engaging with readers through interactive content.
The Queerties are a significant event for the community, celebrating queer achievements.
Graham's personal experiences in various cities have shaped his perspective on queer culture.
35 min
March 03 Harnessing Advocacy with a Fellow Gator, Jonathan Lovitz (HRC)
In this engaging conversation, Jonathan Lovitz shares his journey from a theater background to becoming a prominent advocate for LGBTQ rights. He discusses the importance of visibility, community engagement, and the role of local elections in shaping a better future. Lovitz reflects on his experiences in the Biden administration and emphasizes the need for hope and action in the face of adversity. He encourages listeners to find their passion and contribute to the fight for equality and justice.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction to Jonathan Lovitz
01:14 Early Life and Advocacy Journey
04:02 The Importance of Visibility
06:10 Theater Background and Political Engagement
09:17 Transition to the Biden Administration
12:50 Pride in Representation and Community
15:32 Motivating the Community
19:17 The Hard Truths of Activism
21:38 The Importance of Local Elections
25:39 Fun Segment: This or That
31:58 Legacy and Impact
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Jonathan Lovitz, advocacy, LGBTQ rights, Biden administration, community engagement, visibility, political activism, local elections, theater, representation
35 min
February 26 The Power of Chosen Family with Daniel Blevins, Founder of Stand In Pride
In this episode, Bryan and Jon engage with Daniel Blevins, the founder of Standin' Pride, discussing the importance of chosen family, the journey of creating a supportive community for LGBTQ+ individuals, and the personal experiences that shaped Daniel's mission. They explore the evolution of Standin' Pride from a viral TikTok video to a nonprofit organization, the significance of emotional support in various life events, and the ongoing need for community involvement and resources.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 The Power of Chosen Family
03:07 Standin' Pride: A New Beginning
05:58 Personal Journey and Parenting
08:56 Coming Out and Authenticity
12:12 Beyond Weddings: Expanding Support
14:46 Community Needs and Volunteerism
17:51 Balancing Life: Hobbies and Self-Care
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chosen family, Standin' Pride, LGBTQ+, community support, coming out, emotional support, nonprofit, parenting, technology, personal journey
28 min
February 24 Transforming Lives: The Power of Authenticity with Eric Feltes
In this engaging conversation, Bryan Ruiz and Eric Feltes explore the transformative journey of self-acceptance and authenticity, particularly within the LGBTQ+ community. Eric shares his personal experiences and the foundation of his life coaching practice, emphasizing the importance of community, self-love, and the process of unmasking one's true self. The discussion delves into overcoming the inner critic through compassionate curiosity, the significance of acknowledging emotions, and the value of finding beauty in messiness rather than striving for perfection. Eric highlights the breakthroughs he witnesses in his clients, illustrating the profound impact of coaching on personal growth and acceptance.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction to Life Coaching by Feltus
01:38 Eric's Journey and Transformation
04:20 Creating a Supportive Community
07:04 Unmasking and Authenticity
11:30 Compassionate Curiosity and Inner Critic
17:02 Breakthrough Moments in Coaching
19:16 Valuing Messiness Over Perfectionism
19:51 The Performance of Identity
22:11 Acknowledging and Embracing Emotions
24:16 Understanding Guilt vs. Shame
25:46 The Lightning Round: Quickfire Insights
30:54 Connecting with Eric Feltes: Resources and Programs
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Life Coaching, LGBTQ+, Self-Love, Authenticity, Community, Inner Critic, Transformation, Coaching Breakthroughs, Guilt vs Shame, Personal Growth
34 min
February 19 The Power of Queer Joy in Media with Rachel Shatto
In this engaging conversation, Rachel Shatto, editor-in-chief of Pride.com, discusses the balance of reporting on the hardships faced by the LGBTQIA community while celebrating their joys. She emphasizes the importance of authentic storytelling, the role of curiosity in her work, and the challenges of combating misinformation in media. Rachel also shares insights into her daily routine, the significance of taking breaks for mental health, and her collaborative approach to leadership. The episode concludes with a fun 'This or That' segment, showcasing Rachel's personality and interests.
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Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction to Rachel Shatto and Her Work
01:11 Balancing Hard News with Queer Joy
03:49 The Role of Authentic Storytelling
07:30 Curiosity as a Driving Force
10:15 Leadership and Team Collaboration
12:26 A Day in the Life of an Editor
15:03 Combating Misinformation in Media
17:50 Protecting Personal Peace
21:12 Fun and Games: The Chateau Edition
22:30 Crafting the Perfect Headline
23:27 The NYC Rooftop vs. LA Poolside Debate
25:35 Cocktails, Beers, and the Social Scene
27:25 Reality Shows as Modern Documentaries
31:10 The Art of Interviewing vs. Being Interviewed
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Rachel Shatto, queer media, Pride.com, LGBTQIA, storytelling, authenticity, joy, mental health, media ethics, cultural commentary
36 min