Have you ever found yourself longing to be noticed? To be chosen? To hear someone say, You matter. You’re enough. I see you. In this week’s podcast episode, I share:

• How the longing to be chosen shows up in our lives.
• Why these desires are not about shame but about deeper connection.
• A 7-step process to respond to intrusive thoughts and uncover the truth behind them.

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Today, we will learn how to just be ourselves, present in the moment, without overcompensating, performing, or needing to be "extra", inspired by the carefree nature of my son on the soccer field.

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Today, we’re going to talk about the things we didn’t learn from our dads, or our mentors, or our peers—and how that shaped us. But more importantly, we’re going to talk about how to fill that gap. Because here’s the truth: it’s not a liability. It’s an opportunity to grow, to connect, to stretch yourself, and to celebrate the journey of learning along the way.

For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

If you’ve longed for a life shared with a wife — a woman to build a future with, to be known and loved by, and to love in return—this episode is for you.

Together, we’ll explore the deeper questions beneath “Am I Marriage Material?”

While I longed to be in the athletic, game-time locker room, energized with the team before stepping onto the field, I was doing good to make it through showering after junior high PE.

If you’ve ever felt like me—like you didn’t measure up, were stuck on the sidelines, or hiding parts of yourself because you were afraid of being seen—this episode is for you. 

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Those five words can feel like a prison — locking us in shame, self-doubt, and fear.

But what if that phrase could be transformed from a whisper of shame to a declaration of hope?

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Do your same-sex attractions feel overwhelming at times? Maybe it’s a physical sensation that catches you off guard. Maybe it’s a romantic feeling that stirs something in your heart. Or maybe it’s a thought pattern that loops in your mind. These things can feel powerful, but I want you to know they are not you. They are experiences that are just passing through.

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When we admire something in others, it’s like God is whispering, “This is already in you. I’ve planted this seed—now let’s grow it together.” It’s not about striving to be someone else, it’s about stepping into the fullness of who He’s called you to be.

For more tools to live beyond your unwanted same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

If you act out sexually with another guy, use porn, or entertain comparisons, what emotional home are you coming from? Is it loneliness? Shame? A need for validation? For many of us, those moments aren’t just about the act itself—they’re about seeking comfort in an emotional home we’ve lived in for years.

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Time is sacred. It’s a gift from God, entrusted to us to use wisely. But too often we waste it obsessing over things that don’t serve us—whether it’s comparing ourselves to others, spinning in shame, or acting out in ways that don’t align with our values. It's a missed opportunity to step into the life God has called you to live. Make the best use of your time and energy and get excited about what's next!

For more tools to live beyond your unwanted attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.