What are you avoiding that you don’t want to die wondering about?

In this conversation with Harrison Bly, author of Bent on Men, we explore a simple but confronting rule of life: don’t die wondering.

We talk about what it looks like to:

• Say the honest thing in friendships
• Share your story instead of hiding it
• Get curious about your attractions instead of fearing them
• Take small, meaningful risks that move you toward connection

Harrison shares how vulnerability didn’t come all at once, but through a series of small decisions to stop avoiding and start engaging.

This episode is an invitation to stop playing it safe — and start living with courage, curiosity, and faith.

Because the greatest tragedy isn’t failure… It’s living a life where you never stepped forward — and always wondered what could have been.

About Harrison Bly:

Harrison Bly is an author and speaker helping men find hope and freedom in the tension between faith, identity, and same-sex attraction. His book Bent on Men is a raw and honest look at his journey toward authenticity, healing, and connection. https://harrisonbly.com/

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What happens when the story you’ve been telling yourself about your attractions begins to change?

In this episode, Jason talks with Kevin, a graduate of the Own Your Identity group coaching program, about his journey from shame and isolation to honesty, community, and a renewed understanding of identity.

Kevin shares about growing up with confusing attractions, the loneliness of secrecy, and the courage it took to finally open up to safe people. He also talks about how learning he wasn’t alone changed everything.

This conversation is a reminder that your attractions don’t define you — and that sharing your story can be a powerful step toward freedom.

For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

What if you’ve been measuring the wrong thing? For years, I defined success in my SSA journey by whether I felt more drawn to women than men. In this conversation, I share why attraction isn’t a test — and how real growth is about staying grounded, aligned, and steady no matter what you feel.

Living with shame can make life so much harder than it needs to be. My friend Lare and I invite you to choose a greater future than what shame offers. You are not broken and you aren't alone.

Are your goals helping you become more alive—or just more controlled? This episode invites you to move beyond avoidance and into legacy, asking a simple but challenging question: what do people experience of life when they’re with you?For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com

What if part of our healing isn’t just honoring what hurt, but remembering what made you feel alive? In this episode, I reflect on wonder as a practical posture—one that calms the nervous system, expands perspective, and helps you engage life with greater openness and courage.

For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Do you brace yourself when someone says, "there you are"?

In this episode, I discuss how this phrase can feel like pressure. But what if you let it be an invitation to just be yourself?

For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

You don’t need to eliminate your attractions to be free.
This episode reframes same-sex attraction as information rather than identity and offers a framework for responding with clarity, strength, and agency. Discover how to reclaim your power — and join the new course, Reclaim Power Over Attractions.

What if the first thing God asked a man to do wasn’t to lead, protect, or achieve—but to create?

In this episode, we explore the overlooked masculine calling of creativity: shaping life, bringing order from chaos, creating safety, setting vision, and reflecting the generative heart of God. Whether you’ve doubted your influence or felt outside traditional masculinity—especially for men navigating SSA—this message will remind you of the creative strength God placed in you from the beginning.

For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Fantasy escapes reality. Vision transforms it.

Vision gives direction, clarifies choices, changes what you tolerate, and activates courage.

In this episode, you will learn to craft a clear and compelling vision capable of lasting transformation.

For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.