Own Your Identity

When you stay open in the midst of discomfort, you give yourself permission to hope, to dream, to love, to fail, to get hurt, and to rise again. That is the stuff of life. And it all starts with a willingness to sit in the discomfort, to hold space for the impossible, and to trust that something beautiful is on the other side.

In this episode, you'll hear men speak directly to the young man I call Timothy. When I record each of my podcast episodes, I imagine sitting across from him in his living room, letting him know he is not alone and is more powerful than he thinks. I've invited others to do the same. Listen in.Interested in joining a 12-week coaching group with me and a small group of men? Learn more and book a free discovery call at ​ownyouridentitynow.com/groupcoaching​ to apply.

My five-year-old son came up to me with this big grin on his face and asked, “Dad, can we wear matching clothes today?” He wasn’t trying to prove anything. He just wanted to connect. He wanted to say, “You’re like me. I’m like you.” It inspired me.

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Some mysteries are traps—they pull us into obsession, comparison, or fear. Others are healthy invitations—they call us to grow, to trust, and to live more fully alive. In this episode, I explore both.

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This is the story of how my dad and I came in and out of each others lives. Whether you have been deeply hurt or have hurt others deeply, I want you to know you’re not alone.

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Showing up fully in life regardless of my attractions or the story I told myself about them was a must for me. I have too much to give to stay stuck. Why is change a must for you?

One of the biggest struggles I’ve faced has been with my romantic feelings toward other men. It felt true that giving myself over to a man sexually would somehow be the answer to this deep longing I felt—to be wanted, to be loved, to feel whole. But it was a lie.

When we experience a strong unwanted attraction towards a guy, we’ve got a few options. We can move in the direction our mind and body are suggesting, fight against it, let it pass, or - my favorite - get curious.

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You have two choices: Believe others are ALWAYS better off for your presence or believe they MIGHT BE better off. In this episode, I'll share the benefits of believing with certainty that when you walk into a room, others are better off for it.

In this episode, I unpack two powerful actions to leverage our past and future to empower us in the present: 1. Decide that everything in our past is an asset rather than a liability.  2. Develop certainty that our future will exceed our expectations.