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146  It's the holiday season, and maybe you picked up extra work to help a coworker, agreed to join a neighbor's event, told your family you would finish the cleaning, or volunteered to gift wrap.

Let's examine our motivation behind the things we're doing!

We shouldn't be doing as many things for people as we are doing to control others' perceptions of us. Emily discusses how the intention behind what we do for others and maintaining that is important. The motivation behind giving and serving others can be very different, even if the action is the same. 

Emily's story of maintaining a clean-ish house becomes untangled when she shifts the motivation behind it. Her internal pressures on maintaining a clean home stemmed from wanting to appear productive. She expresses how we can flip the narrative, and instead of doing something to control how others view us, we do it out of love. We can clean the house because it makes us feel good. We decide to stay home with the family to be present in our children's lives and in that moment. We said no to something to make another thing a priority. 

Dive into this episode with Emily as she continues this December series on people-pleasing and self-acceptance. Learn how to make love your motivation rather than what other people think of you. Untwist those narratives and discover the key to radically shifting our actions. 

Before the next episode plays, listen to Emily's prompt and take a moment to reflect on one area of your life you want people to respect you. Then, ask yourself how it would look different if you just loved instead of trying to control how other people perceive you. 

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145 "I leave home every time I lose faith in the voice that calls me the Beloved." - Henri Nouwen, The Return of the Prodigal Son

In today's Life-Giving Friday episode, Emily uses Henri's full quote (view here) as a reminder of our identity. It is our nature to find ways to define who we are in our hunt for our identity. What we do and fulfill can be replicated by someone else. However, what cannot be fulfilled or replicated is you. 

You are loved for your individuality and your uniqueness. You do not need to look for approval from somewhere or someone else. Your identity is Beloved of God. 

Whenever you begin to doubt your goodness and self-worth, write these affirmations down:

I am Beloved

I am chosen

I am loved by God

Your worth and value are not up for grabs. It cannot be changed or shaken. 

You are beloved of God, and that is so powerful!

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144 Do you want to overcome the fear of judgment or the fear of what other people think of you? Those fears are the thieves of confidence.
 
In this episode, Emily talks about self-acceptance, acknowledging our fears, and stealing back our confidence. Our confidence gets stolen when we are busy trying to fit in, measure up, and be sure that others' perceptions of us are good. Do not let the shame or fear attached to people pleasing make a statement about your worth or value.

Emily teaches us that self-acceptance acknowledges all of our traits. Self-acceptance is to accept all parts, even the less-than qualities. Our core need is to want to be accepted and fit in. We can meet our core needs by being mindful of how we meet them.
 
We can be authentically ourselves and attract those who will value us for who we are and repel those that won't.

Learn more about confidence and how you can grow more confident by visiting the link here. Emily offers tips and tricks to feel more confident in yourself!

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143  Are you actively working out your "gratitude muscle," or have you plateaued unknowingly?

Emily gives a new perspective on how we view and practice gratitude in today's Life-Giving Friday episode. We have access to many opportunities we might not have noticed before. Whatever season you may be in right now, take a moment to recognize the things in your life that you have to shift how you take care of yourself and others.
Listen to this episode and be in awe of the wonderful things we have!

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142 Do you know how to say no, even in situations you feel compelled to say yes? Do you want to live a more rested life and a life you want to live? 

In today's episode, Emily talks all about boundaries. She outlines what boundaries are and what they are not. Boundaries are not:

• being too much
• being rude or demanding
• an ultimatum
• what someone needs to do for you
• set to restrict or trap you
• not demands, expectations, or idle threat

Boundaries are:

• putting the power in your hands
• concise and kind
• if/then statements
• put in place to help you live the life you want to live
• a course of action used to take care of yourself
• what YOU do

Boundaries identify our triggers and understand what we need for ourselves. These are repeatable actions and phrases used to reinforce the borders we have in place. 

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141  Get ready to grab a paper, open the notes app on your phone, or type this out! In today's episode, Emily teaches a simple journaling prompt that you can revisit as many times as you need. Instead of utilizing pre-written affirmations, Emily shares a different way of writing affirmations that focuses on shifting your view of the world around you. Words are so powerful and impactful that they can trigger and challenge your beliefs.

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140  What does it mean to be enough? Do you wrestle with the feeling you are enough or not, or do you constantly feel you are falling short?

In this episode, Emily chats with Dr. Kathrine McAleese about these questions and more. They discuss parts of Dr. Kathrine's book "Enough" and uncover what our "enoughness" means, who we are, who we were, and who we will be. Find out how you can feel worthy in the way God calls for us to be, and learn how to make your path forward to reach your potential.

Dr. Kathrine McAleese is a mindset coach, sociologist, mentor, and author. Originally from Northern Ireland, she now lives in the United States teaching others how to build their confidence.  Dr. Kathrine aims to motivate and inspire through her online classes and seminars using her experience and degrees in Theology, Marriage and Family Therapy, and Sociology. She has committed herself to help everyone become the best version of themselves. Her book "Enough" is out and available now!

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139 Have you ever heard of the phrase "if it feels good, do it"?
In this Life Giving Friday episode, Emily shares why she encourages coaching clients to do this! 

Maybe you have been told that your desires are sinful or selfish. Today Emily encourages us to do something that feels good. We can trust that the nudges of the Holy Spirit inside will guide us.

What would your life look like if you listened to the advice "if it feels good, do it"? What chances or risks would you take if it aligned with who God is calling you to be?

Let Emily know on Instagram if you gave this a try!

If you're looking to untangle the narratives that your desires are sinful and step into what God has created you to be, Emily is here to guide and support you with 1-on-1 coaching. You can sign up here! 

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138 How do you deal with the feeling of being overwhelmed? Does it seem heavier through different seasons? Do you feel the weight of your checklist weighing down on you?

Emily is here to give us three tips we can use when dealing with overwhelm. We don't have to give in to the frantic energy that comes with it. Emily guides us with these tips when we feel weighed down by a cluttered mind space:

1.  Brain dump - write down everything on a piece of paper about things you need to get done. Then, create four quadrants on your paper with the categories like "Things you need to buy," "Urgently: needs to be done by me," "Later: needs to be done by me," and "Doesn't need to get done by me." 
2. Set realistic expectations - pick one thing from the list you made that needs to get done today and put your focus on that one task. Set a time limit using a clock or timer to complete it, and get as much of it done as possible, but do not watch the clock! Then, move on to the next task. 
3. Get past the all-or-nothing mentality - you can knock out many tasks a little bit at a time, whether you finished them or not. You are still moving forward. 

Let Emily know in the comments on Instagram if any of these tips helped you or if there are tips of your own that work when you feel overwhelmed. 

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137 Have you ever woken up in the morning, and your mindset was off? Did you feel defeated and overwhelmed, or like you’re in a funk?

In this episode, Emily shares how she felt just like this and found power behind these words of affirmation: “I am loved for who I am. I do not have to hide.”

Let this episode empower you to feel like you do not have to hide parts of yourself for fear of rejection. You do not have to have everything together or live up to the expectations others have placed on you.

Emily can help you untwist the narratives holding you back from living confidently the way God wants for you by signing up for 1-on-1 coaching here.

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