Ownit! Powercast

Welcome to episode 228 where we get into how to identify what we need and work on getting them met.

In this episode, we explore the art of recognizing and addressing your emotional and psychological needs. Many of us struggle with understanding what we truly need, which can have a profound impact on our overall well-being. We discuss the common signs of unmet needs, such as stress, anxiety, and emotional triggers, and why people often become disconnected from their own needs. Through a range of mindfulness exercises, we offer practical tools to help you become more aware of your present emotions and thoughts, paving the way for a more fulfilling life.

Key Takeaways:

Self-Awareness Is the First Step: Recognizing your emotional and psychological needs starts with self-awareness. Pay attention to your emotions and thoughts, and don't judge them. Self-reflection is the gateway to understanding your needs.

Mindfulness is a Powerful Tool: Mindfulness exercises can help you connect with your inner world. Whether it's through breath awareness, body scanning, or loving-kindness meditation, these practices can enhance your ability to identify and address your needs.

Normalize Your Needs: Understand that everyone has emotional and psychological needs. It's okay to take time for self-care, seek support, and set boundaries. By normalizing these needs, you empower yourself to live a healthier and more balanced life.

JUST BY

Checking in with

what you need

is giving yourself an

important message.

That you matter,

and what you need matters,

and you're not crazy…

and that you can

trust yourself.

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Resources:

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Welcome to episode 227 where we process the importance of vulnerability in asking for what we need.

In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of vulnerability and its role in meeting our needs in healthy ways. We explore how embracing authenticity and openly expressing our desires, fears, and insecurities can create deeper connections in our relationships, both personally and professionally. We discuss the significance of recognizing and fulfilling healthy needs, emphasizing that vulnerability is the key to unlocking self-acceptance, personal growth, and emotional resilience.

Key Takeaways:

Vulnerability is a Path to Deeper Connection: Embracing vulnerability and openly sharing our authentic selves can lead to deeper and more meaningful connections in our relationships. When we express our needs, emotions, and insecurities honestly, it creates a safe space for open communication and understanding, fostering trust and intimacy.

Healthy Needs Are Essential for Well-Being: Recognizing and fulfilling our healthy needs is vital for personal growth and well-being. These needs, when met in a healthy way, contribute to emotional well-being, personal development, and resilience in the face of life's challenges. By acknowledging and expressing our needs, we pave the way for a more fulfilling and balanced life.

Effective Communication is Key: Practicing effective communication is a fundamental skill for expressing needs in a healthy way. Using "I" statements, being clear and specific, and actively listening to others are all essential components of effective communication. By honing these skills and maintaining empathy and patience, we can build stronger relationships and create a more inclusive and supportive environment, both in our personal and professional lives.

Anytime you process tender childhood things

it can make you feel very exposed.

As hard as it is to do, the level of healing

that can come from this can be profound.

To finally be seen, to be heard and to be validated.

That no, you're not crazy or needy or ridiculous.

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to episode 226 where we explore how important it is to make sure we are getting needs met in healthy ways.

In this episode, we explore the intricate dance of balancing our individual emotional and psychological needs with the needs of our personal and professional relationships. Navigating this delicate equilibrium is essential for building and maintaining healthy connections. We discuss the challenges that arise when personal desires intersect with the needs of a relationship, the importance of clear communication and boundaries, and the significance of compromise and self-care. By recognizing the intricate interplay of individual and collective needs, listeners gained insights into fostering more fulfilling and harmonious relationships.

We also delve into the role of self-awareness in recognizing and understanding our own needs, providing practical techniques for becoming more attuned to our emotional and psychological well-being. Acknowledging and addressing our needs is essential for personal growth, self-compassion, and maintaining emotional balance. I encourage listeners to start their journey toward a deeper understanding of their needs, paving the way for more enriching personal and professional relationships while prioritizing their own well-being.

Key Takeaways:

Balancing Act of Relationships: Balancing personal needs with the needs of others in relationships is an ongoing journey that requires open communication, empathy, and compromise. Understanding the distinction between individual and relationship needs is crucial for maintaining healthy, harmonious connections.

Self-Awareness Matters: Self-awareness plays a pivotal role in recognizing and understanding your emotional and psychological needs. By being in tune with your emotions and triggers, you can better navigate the challenges of balancing self-care with supporting others in your personal and professional relationships.

Prioritize Self-Care: Don't neglect the importance of self-care. Honoring your own needs is not selfish; it's an essential part of maintaining your emotional well-being and contributing positively to your relationships. Prioritize self-care to ensure you have the energy and capacity to meet the needs of both yourself and those you care about.

We WILL get needs met…

In healthy ways, or unhealthy ways.

There's no third option.

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to episode 225 where talk about how to know when it's time to make a big change in our life.

In this episode, we dive into the essential topic of recognizing when it's time for a significant life change. We discuss common signs and indicators that might be telling you it's time to take a bold step towards personal growth and a more fulfilling life. From feeling unfulfilled and trapped in your current situation to persistent stress, our conversation shed light on these crucial cues that often go unnoticed. We share inspiring real-life stories of individuals who recognized these signs and successfully navigated transformative journeys. Throughout the episode, we emphasize the importance of self-reflection, goal-setting, and creating a plan for change. We also explore strategies to overcome common fears and hesitations that often hold people back from embracing change. By the end of this episode, you'll be better equipped to assess your own life and take the first steps toward a positive and meaningful transformation.

Key Takeaways:

Shame's Internal Struggle: Shame is an internal battle, leading to low self-esteem and an unrelenting self-critical voice that can be emotionally draining.

The Anxiety Connection: Shame often fuels anxiety, both social and generalized, as individuals fear judgment and rejection from others.

Perfectionism as a Double-Edged Sword: While perfectionism can mask shame temporarily, it can also lead to immense stress and hinder genuine self-acceptance and personal growth.

Life changes are a journey, not a race.

With determination, patience,

and the right support,

you'll create a more fulfilling life,

one step at a time.

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to episode 224 where get into a profound topic: shame.

In this episode, we delve into the profound emotional consequences of shame, exploring its impact on individuals' self-esteem, self-criticism, anxiety, and overall mental health. We discuss how shame can lead to a perpetual cycle of self-doubt and social withdrawal, making it challenging for individuals to form meaningful connections and fully embrace their authentic selves. Moreover, we shed light on the link between shame and depression, as well as the development of perfectionism as a coping mechanism to avoid shame.

Key Takeaways:

Shame's Internal Struggle: Shame is an internal battle, leading to low self-esteem and an unrelenting self-critical voice that can be emotionally draining.

The Anxiety Connection: Shame often fuels anxiety, both social and generalized, as individuals fear judgment and rejection from others.

Perfectionism as a Double-Edged Sword: While perfectionism can mask shame temporarily, it can also lead to immense stress and hinder genuine self-acceptance and personal growth.

When we carry around shame inside us,

it tends to make us feel like we're just not good enough,

and constantly doubting ourselves.

This can make it pretty tough

to be themselves and have good,

healthy relationships.

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Resources:

John Bradshaw: Healing the Shame That Binds You

https://a.co/d/4iAgKeW

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Welcome to episode 223 where start the month with a brand-new episode all about confidence!

In this episode we dove into the profound connection between self-doubt and the establishment of healthy boundaries. Self-doubt can be a pervasive force that affects personal and professional life, often leaving individuals questioning their abilities and self-worth. Today we explored how boundaries play a crucial role in breaking free from the grip of self-doubt and nurturing self-assurance.

Understanding Self-Doubt:

First, let's dissect self-doubt. It's more than just a fleeting moment of uncertainty; it's a persistent internal voice that can chip away at one's confidence. We discussed the common signs and consequences of self-doubt, and how recognizing and acknowledging it is the first step towards transformation.

The Role of Boundaries:

But what do boundaries have to do with self-doubt? Boundaries are the invisible lines that define our personal space, emotional limits, and what's acceptable in our interactions. We explained how failing to set clear boundaries can contribute to feelings of overwhelm, overcommitment, and burnout, all of which can fuel self-doubt.

How Establishing Boundaries Boosts Confidence:

Now, let's shift our focus to how establishing and maintaining boundaries can be a powerful tool for boosting self-assurance. By respecting your own needs and limits, you send a message to yourself and others that your feelings and well-being matter. This newfound self-respect fosters self-assurance and a belief in your capabilities.

Towards the end of our episode, I introduced our "Find Your Voice" course, which is designed to help individuals embrace their authentic selves, build self-esteem, and establish healthier boundaries. Plus, I have a special offer exclusively for our podcast listeners.

Takeaway 1: Break Free from Self-Doubt: Recognize the signs of self-doubt and discover practical steps to break free from its grip, allowing your confidence to flourish.

Takeaway 2: Empowerment Through Boundaries: Learn how setting and maintaining boundaries empowers you to respect your own needs and limits, fostering greater self-assurance.

Takeaway 3: Your Journey to Self-Discovery: It's so important to embrace your authentic self, overcome self-doubt, and embark on a journey of self-discovery that leads to a more confident and fulfilling life.

Self-doubt can manifest as hesitation, fear, or uncertainty.

It's that moment of pause before you speak up in a meeting,

apply for a new job or pursue a personal goal.

It can make you question your worth, your competence,

and your place in the world.

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.mykajabi.com/find-your-voice

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to episode 222 where we pull another one forward…an episode all about how being real is necessary if we want to be assertive.

In episode 98, we discuss how being brave means risking being open, being honest, confronting, setting limits with others and asking for what we need. The ability to do these things is crucial if we want to have healthy relationships. We explore how to be assertive means to be genuine and therefore emotionally honest. It's the best way but not always the easiest nor is it always well received, mostly by people who themselves are afraid to be open. But we know we can't be truly confident without it. We know we can't negotiate needs and create trust without it. And we know we can't grow unless we get real. With ourselves, and with others.

Key Elements:

· Discuss how fear is at the core of avoiding honesty.

· Look at four key areas we need to work on that comprise emotional honesty.

· Describe ways you want to come across, contrasted with how we hope no one describes us.

Being emotionally honest takes

commitment, practice, screwing it up,

getting better at it and

incorporating it into who you are.

Eventually it will be HOW you operate,

and being anything else

but will feel awkward

and dishonest.

Hey! My signature course is launching next week! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.mykajabi.com/find-your-voice

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to episode 221 where we go back to the vault and dive into what living in a self-created box looks like and feels like, and how it can truly limit our potential. We explore how our box gets created, and how to climb out.

In this episode we get into how our "box" (the symbolic one) can determine how we live our lives, how we see ourselves, and the world. We talk about how courage means looking at how your past has shaped who you have become, and how facing the possible Box you have created to be your comfort zone can come at a high price. Join as we delve into how this happened, and what you can do about it.

Key Elements:

· Describe how our limiting beliefs make up the box that keeps us safe…and stuck.

· Identify how these beliefs are formed from early negative messaging.

· Look at ways we can begin breaking down our box and expanding the possibilities.

You Have Permission

To be FREE. To choose. To walk away from toxic relationships and bosses that are holding you back. To decide to upend everything and start FRESH and finally honor yourself. To Trash, Burn, and Bury those old LIES you KNOW have been holding you back. To be SCARED yet excited to have a second and a third chance to really live your life. To take risks, change your mind, screw it up as part of the learning and keep it moving. To trust your gut, your heart and the yearning you've had for so long.

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 220 where we grab another one from the vault that focuses on the importance of creating agreements to have trust in our relationships.

In this episode we talk about how healthy negotiating requires us to work on letting go of control and allow others to choose for themselves, while we just keep our stuff about us. That's the magic of boundaries and detachment. That allows us to hold onto our truth and allow others to do the same. It can also mean not trying to change things, change them, or other fear-based behaviors that keep us from being vulnerable. To build emotional trust, have mature and loving relationships, and to be great parents, letting go and negotiating is crucial.

Key Elements:

· Revisit the concepts of boundaries and detachment as crucial to negotiating needs.

· Explore how agreements can make or break trust in your relationships.

· Discuss typical scenarios where we might need to put our skills to the test.

When you first work on detachment

you won't like it. Because it means letting

go of outcomes, which can feel so scary.

It means trusting that even if

YOU aren't in charge, things will be ok.

Resources:

Don't Miss the Free 3 Day Masterclass! https://findyourvoicecourse.mykajabi.com/masterclass

DON'T MISS THE FACEBOOK LIVES! Just sign up here to join the tribe at:

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Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 219 where we grab another one from the vault that's all about how to negotiate what we need.

In this episode we explore how important it is to know how to negotiate needs in healthy ways, so that we can enjoy strong connections with those we care about, problem-solve and resolve conflict without hurting the trust in the relationship.

We identified how our families were our first classrooms where we either learned how to ask for what we need in healthy ways – or not, since they taught us what they knew, and modeled how to handle conflict – and life. From witnessing passive-aggressive behavior, emotional immaturity and maybe even violence, to the other end where nothing was confronted or dealt with in front of the kids, so they never learned how.

Being able to negotiate is so much more than asking for a lower price on a car. It requires having good boundaries, the ability to detach and grieve, and decent self-esteem. That's why when work on this, we work on so much more.

Key Elements:

· Identify unhealthy coping mechanisms families can pass on to their children.

· Look at what a healthy enough family was supposed to provide for you.

· Address ways you can begin looking at your own struggles around boundaries, grief work and self-esteem.

Working on boundaries, grieving and self-esteem

reap huge benefits in so many areas of our lives,

from relationships to career to parenting - to simply

feeling and being more confident and happier.

What price would you pay for all that?

Resources:

DON'T MISS THE FACEBOOK LIVES! Just sign up here to join the tribe at:

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