Ownit! Powercast

Welcome to episode 101 where we finish up the month on assertiveness by exploring the concept of using your voice, and making your inside and outside voices match.

In this episode we talk about how rediscovering your confident inner four year old, and beginning to use your voice to express your truth. With kindness, firmness, and the vibe that you are straight with YOU. It's about making your insides match your outsides. It's about allowing yourself to be heard. You believe in you, and now it's time to put that truth out there.

Key Elements:

• Discuss examples of what it looks like to NOT use your voice.
• Identify times when it is healthy and necessary to speak up, and how to do it.
• Look at why a good understanding of boundaries and detachment are crucial for assertiveness.

"The most courageous act

is still to think

for yourself.

Aloud."

– Coco Chanel

Resources:

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Wow Episode 100! We are celebrating this milestone with my guest Sonya Thompsen-Halsey, Marriage and Family Therapist and Life Coach, and we get into some wonderful conversation about assertiveness, answering your questions and hopefully provoking some thought and insights along the way.

In this episode, we discuss some of the most common questions we have heard over the years regarding the concept of assertiveness, dispelling some old myths out there and challenging you to think about what being confident and connecting is all about.

Key Elements:

• Uncovering some different angles on the idea of being assertive.
• Understanding how change can look in our relationships when we begin speaking our truth.
• Look at ways we can soften our delivery while standing our ground.

"To be passive is to let others decide for you.

To be aggressive is to decide for others.

To be assertive is to decide for yourself.

And to trust that there is enough,

that you are enough."

― Edith Eva Eger

Resources:

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Book Recommendations:

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Why Won't You Just Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B Rosenburg

The Art of War by Sun Tzu (Author), Ralph D. Sawyer (Translator)

The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!) by Damon Zahariades

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Welcome to episode 99 where we continue the conversation about assertiveness, and especially one of the biggest obstacles we can face: People pleasing behavior. It's a huge paradigm shift from being compliant to being assertive. Don't miss this one.

In this episode, we explore people-pleasing behavior and how destructive it can be both for our self-confidence and our relationships. It is a hard habit to break yet can be done if you are committed to changing.

Key Elements:

• Describe the different people-pleasing behaviors and their purpose.
• Look at the most common origins of these behaviors that start in childhood.
• Define different tools you can begin to use to stop the behavior and start being more honest and direct.

"'No' might make them angry,

but it will make you free.

If no one has ever told you,

your freedom is more

important than their anger."

-Nayyirah Waheed

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 99 where we continue the conversation about assertiveness, and especially one of the biggest obstacles we can face: People pleasing behavior. It's a huge paradigm shift from being compliant to being assertive. Don't miss this one.

In this episode, we explore people-pleasing behavior and how destructive it can be both for our self-confidence and our relationships. It is a hard habit to break yet can be done if you are committed to changing.

Key Elements:

• Describe the different people-pleasing behaviors and their purpose.
• Look at the most common origins of these behaviors that start in childhood.
• Define different tools you can begin to use to stop the behavior and start being more honest and direct.

"'No' might make them angry,

but it will make you free.

If no one has ever told you,

your freedom is more

important than their anger."

-Nayyirah Waheed

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 99 where we continue the conversation about assertiveness, and especially one of the biggest obstacles we can face: People pleasing behavior. It's a huge paradigm shift from being compliant to being assertive. Don't miss this one.

In this episode, we explore people-pleasing behavior and how destructive it can be both for our self-confidence and our relationships. It is a hard habit to break yet can be done if you are committed to changing.

Key Elements:

• Describe the different people-pleasing behaviors and their purpose.
• Look at the most common origins of these behaviors that start in childhood.
• Define different tools you can begin to use to stop the behavior and start being more honest and direct.

"'No' might make them angry,

but it will make you free.

If no one has ever told you,

your freedom is more

important than their anger."

-Nayyirah Waheed

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 98 where we start out the month focusing on the concept of assertiveness and how emotional honesty is such a big part of that ability to speak calmly yet firmly.

In this episode, we talk about how being brave means risking being open, being honest, confronting, setting limits with others and asking for what we need. We explore how to be assertive means to be genuine and therefore emotionally honest. It's the best way but not always the easiest nor is it always well received, mostly by people who themselves are afraid to be open. But we know we can't be truly confident without it.

Key Elements:

• Discuss how fear is at the core of avoiding honesty.
• Look at four key areas we need to work on that comprise emotional honesty.
• Describe ways you want to come across, contrasted with how we hope no one describes us.

"Authenticity starts in the heart."

- Brian D'Angelo

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 98 where we start out the month focusing on the concept of assertiveness and how emotional honesty is such a big part of that ability to speak calmly yet firmly.

In this episode, we talk about how being brave means risking being open, being honest, confronting, setting limits with others and asking for what we need. We explore how to be assertive means to be genuine and therefore emotionally honest. It's the best way but not always the easiest nor is it always well received, mostly by people who themselves are afraid to be open. But we know we can't be truly confident without it.

Key Elements:

• Discuss how fear is at the core of avoiding honesty.
• Look at four key areas we need to work on that comprise emotional honesty.
• Describe ways you want to come across, contrasted with how we hope no one describes us.

"Authenticity starts in the heart."

- Brian D'Angelo

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 97 where we take a moment to evaluate all the work and muddling through you've already done to get to where you are today. Even if you feel like you've just started, or maybe frustrated by your progress or lack thereof…

In this episode, we look at all the areas where we usually need to grow, from having healthy boundaries, self-esteem and our relationships. It's a great episode to listen to so you can gauge just where you are, where you came from and where you want to be headed next. It's important to take stock and be proud of all you have walked through and worked on to get here. Because – if you can get here, then you can get there.

Key Elements:

• Look at all the areas of growth necessary to have a healthy, fulfilling life.
• Contrast healthy vs unhealthy behaviors in each area.
• Take stock of what you have already become aware of, are learning now or have accomplished. You go!

Opportunities to find

deeper powers

within ourselves come

when life seems most challenging.

-Joseph Campbell

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 96 where we explore the magic of envisioning what you want your life to look like, and what a powerful change-making tool it can be.

In this episode, we talk about how powerful envisioning can be in helping you move toward the future that you want. We explore how part of you knows what you want and knows you can have it, while the other part might be afraid and stuck in the past. We practice creating the vision of what you want for your life: goals, ways you want to change, and things you want to add to your life.

Key Elements:

• Look at the benefits of using visualization to help you get there.
• Learn how when we "keep it vague" we can keep ourselves stuck.
• Practice getting unstuck and committing to what you want your life to be like.

One day or day one.

You decide.

-Unknown

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Episode 095 Let Go of the How and Let It Happen

Welcome to episode 95 we talk about the hardest part: Letting go of the How…how we will make it happen, how it will all work out…how we will be able to reach our goals.

In this episode, we focus on how we can easily fall into the trap of wanting to have control when we are making some big changes in our life, because it feels so vulnerable. We explore the HOW and how hard it can be to let go of just HOW you are going to do the things you really want to do…to have a mindset that is wide open to possibilities…to magic, and for the universe to somehow make it possible…

Key Elements:

• Look at why you might struggle to let go of control and let things happen.
• Learn a few "tricks" to help you let go of the How and still move forward.
• Discuss how getting back in touch with your Why changes everything.

Passion is the bridge

that takes you from

pain to change.

-Frida Kahlo

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!