Ownit! Powercast

Welcome to Episode 120 where we begin this month by exploring what it means to be truly ready to make big changes in your life.

In this episode we talk about when we reach that point in our adult life when we get serious about needing things to be different. Maybe we are hitting an age milestone, a big change or loss, or we simply can no longer ignore the symptoms that show us things aren't ok. All month we're diving into this topic to give you a chance to take a moment and reflect upon where you might be today, and where you'd rather be instead.

Key Elements:

• Normalize the times we usually face upheaval in our lives.
• Explore some of the areas we might want to change.
• Look at some of the telltale symptoms that tell us it's time…

"Change is painful,

but nothing is as painful

as staying stuck somewhere

you don't belong."

- Mandy Hale

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 119 where we wrap up this month focusing in on the biggest confidence builder of all: Integrity.

In this episode we get into what some of the most important aspects of our integrity are, from defining our values to identifying several ways we can become more honest and open. Being assertive requires that we are first proud of who we are, and more certain of our truth before we can put that out into the world.

Key Elements:

• Explore how what you value and believe help you define integrity for you.
• Look at how emotional honesty and healthy boundaries play a big part.
• Utilize visualization to help us define where we would like to be.

Have the courage to say no.

Have the courage to face the truth.

Do the right thing because it is right.

These are the magic keys

to living your life

with integrity.

— W. Clement Stone

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 118 where we look at how commitment and follow through create congruence and self-confidence.

In this episode we talk about a very important aspect of assertiveness and self-confidence, and that is the concept of congruence. Risking commitment to what matters and following through on those commitments to raise self-esteem and bring a greater level of trust in your relationships is life-changing. Join us as we walk through how to build self-confidence by putting more of your truth out there.

Key Elements:

• Look at ways to work on risking commitment to what matters to you.
• Explore how commitment is asserting your truth out into the world.
• Discover via experiential exercise about what congruence means to you.

"Everything

you've ever wanted

is on the other side of

fear."

- George Addair

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 117 where we explore how motivation is connected to holding onto who you are, and not losing yourself in your relationships.

In this episode we talk about how motivation and is a big part of assertiveness, and how confidence is built – or broken by how much we can stay focused regardless of what life throws at us. We explore the typical motivation killers that can creep into our life and take over before we know it. Then we talk about how to get back to you and what you want for your life.

Key Elements:

• Look at how motivation is easier to hold onto when we are clear with our why.
• Discuss the typical ways we can get lost in our life and in others and then lose our mojo for what we want for us.
• Look at ways to get back on the horse and get moving again.

"One of the lessons that I

grew up with was to always

stay true to yourself and never

let what somebody else says

distract you from your goals."

– Michelle Obama

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 116 where we introduce the concepts of motivation and commitment as integral parts of healthy assertiveness.

In this episode we talk about how assertiveness is an expression of confidence, which in turn is built on commitment and motivation. We dive into the conversation about how assertiveness is not just about speaking up, but also about owning our motivation and our commitments. This way we can state our truth, stand in our truth, and live out our truth. Not only does this help us trust ourselves and to feel grounded and confident, but it also allows others to have faith and trust in us.

Key Elements:

• Address the concepts of motivation and commitment to be explored this month.
• Look at the rights we each have when it comes to assertiveness.
• Assess your comfort level with your own expression.

Each time we face our fear,

we gain strength, courage,

and confidence

in the doing."

– Theodore Roosevelt

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to episode 115 where we focus on how asking for what we need in the moment and honoring agreements creates emotional safety in our relationships.

In this episode we get into just what it takes to negotiate needs in the moment – when the thing is happening – when we least want to – because we may fear conflict. But learning how to practice healthy boundaries and detachment go a long way to feeling comfortable doing so. The ability to resolve things as they are happening can help keep resentments from building up. We also explore how honoring agreements can build trust in a relationship, as not honoring them can break it.

Key Elements:

• Revisit the concepts of boundaries and detachment as crucial to negotiating needs.
• Explore how agreements can make or break trust in your relationships.
• Discuss typical scenarios where we might need to put our skills to the test.

Your life works

to the degree

you keep

your agreements."

-Werner Erhardt

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to episode 114 where we identify the communication skills necessary to be able to negotiate in our relationships.

In this episode we talk about how important it is to be able to detach, have good boundaries, and be able to connect assertively and with emotional honesty and genuine caring – about yourself and them. Good communication means no manipulation, no emotional immaturity and focusing on a mutually beneficial interaction. It's about what you're willing and not willing to do, and NOT about them anymore.

Key Elements:

• Identify the key ingredients in healthy communication that make negotiating and problem solving more possible.
• Discuss how assertiveness and vulnerability are so important to connection.
• Focus on ways to keep the focus on you, where it belongs.

"Assertiveness is your ability

to act in harmony

with your self-esteem

without hurting others."

– Author Unknown

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to episode 113 where we explore how our childhoods helped to shape our ability to negotiate or not, via how they managed conflict themselves, as well as how they tried to teach us to do so.

In this episode we talk about how your family, your first friends and your community both taught you and modeled for you how to handle conflict, how to ask for what you needed, and how to problem-solve. Since families can struggle to have these skills much less pass them along, many adults have ongoing issues in their own relationships that they don't know how to resolve.

Key Elements:

• Explore how parents modeled, as well as taught you about expressing feelings, problem-solving and managing conflict.
• Talk about some of the common issues dysfunctional families deal with.
• Contrast this with healthier families and how they operate.

"Not everything that is faced

can be changed.

But nothing can be changed

until it is faced."

– James Baldwin

Resources:

The Cost of Growing Up in a Dysfunctional Family:

https://clinmedjournals.org/articles/jfmdp/journal-of-family-medicine-and-disease-prevention-jfmdp-3-059.php?jid=jfmdp

Stuffing It: The Culture of Not Speaking:

https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/stuffing-it-the-culture-of-not-speaking-v2/

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Welcome to episode 112 where we dive into some of the biggest obstacles to being able to negotiate needs in our relationships.

In this episode we talk about some of the struggles that can get in the way of being able to negotiate in our relationships. We explore the idea that grieving and detaching, setting healthy limits and honoring other's boundaries and health self-esteem wounds are at the crux of being able to collaborate and problem solve.

Key Elements:

• Discuss how boundaries and detachment work are necessary to problem solve.
• Delve into how our self-concept plays into our ability to be assertive.
• Look at ways the ability to grieve can also play a big part.

"It's not harsh to be assertive,

its harsher when people

take advantage of you"

― Janna Cachola

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 111 where we spell out how we will be talking about a very important part of relationships: learning how to negotiate to solve problems and forge a strong friendship.

In this episode we introduce the topic we will focusing on all month – healthy negotiating needs in our relationships. We outline what gets in the way, how we may have never learned how to do it, and why it's so important to practice it with those we care about. Negotiating embodies assertiveness, self-confidence, boundaries and owning our choices. I think it's the best way to problem solve and keep trust alive in our relationships.

Key Elements:

• Identify why we may struggle to negotiate in loving ways.
• Look at important components of being able to ask for what you need.
• Assess how well you know how to negotiate, and what might be difficult.

All broken relationships

can be traced back

to broken agreements

-Stephen Covey

Resources:

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