Ownit! Powercast

Welcome to Episode 140 where explore an important part of healthy connection: the ability to be assertive when necessary.

In this episode we take a quick dip into why being assertive means being honest, keeping the focus on ourselves, while taking care of our own needs and boundaries. I think being assertive is integral to our self-esteem, where we reveal our truth to others, letting go of what they think of it or do with it on their end. This means risking. If we cannot do this, then the communication isn't safe, because then we resort to more passive-aggressive ways of getting our needs met.

Key Elements:

• Compare and contrast healthy and unhealthy behaviors in communication.
• Process what assertiveness isn't, to better understand what it is.
• Focus on how being assertive is all about taking responsibility.

Your ability to stand up

for your truth is a muscle,

and the more you exercise it

the stronger it gets.

- Dan Palotta

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 139 where we talk about how taking the emotional risks in the moment is the only way to create genuine connection.

In this episode we take it a step braver. We are actually going to go a little more in depth about connection, and how important emotional intimacy is to our relationships. Why we NEED to bare our souls and be there when others bear theirs…to heal, to connect to belong and to feel alive. We need this to experience the richness of life.

Key Elements:

• Understand the common obstacles to taking risks.
• Look at the benefits of genuine connection.
• Examine ways to start practicing new skills right away.

"Maybe we are not here

to see each other

but to see

each other through."

– Anonymous

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 138 where we explore what to work on if we want to become more grounded and confident when we connect with others.

In this episode we talk about making the connection real…in the moment, and how so many of us struggle to feel confident and grounded enough to connect genuinely and take relational and emotional risks in real time. We talk about how confidence is built by doing some core work on our boundaries and self-trust, then by practicing healthier communication in the moment. By looking at some examples of how to show up more grounded, we also contrast this with ways NOT to. I then give some guidance to what to expect, what's normal, and what to focus on when you are practicing.

Key Elements:

• Understand the core concepts behind great self-confidence.
• Look at what boundary work we may need to do get started.
• Described real-time examples of how to show up and connect in healthier ways.

As soon as you trust yourself,

you will know how to live.

-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 137 where we give an overview of emotional connection, and ways this month we will dive into how to get better at it.

In this episode we do an overview of how this month we will be going a bit deeper on emotional connection, specifically ways to actually put it into practice. We defined it and talked about why it matters so much to our well-being and determines not only the quality of our relationships but the success and longevity of them. We then take a few moments to look within at what our beliefs and experiences of emotional intimacy are, and maybe where we want to start growing.

Key Elements:

• Identify the benefits of healthy emotional connection in our relationships.
• Describe the way boundaries, assertiveness and emotional maturity can create emotional trust.
• Look within at our own narrative around emotional intimacy.

"What happens

when people open

their hearts?

They get better."

- Haruki Murakami

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 136 where we define aspects of a truly trustworthy, emotionally safe person.

In this episode we discuss how trustworthy people are those who have SHOWN that they can be trusted. With our money, our time, our friendship, and our vulnerability. Clients who get themselves out of toxic relationships then ask me well Mar "Now What? I don't want to pick another unsafe person!" This episode is where we explore what characteristics trustworthy people have or are at least diligently working on.

Key Elements:

• Identify how each characteristic works with all the others, and how we really can't leave any of them out.
• Define the basic components and behaviors of a trustworthy person.
• Look at how we ourselves to see how trustworthy we are.

"We're never so vulnerable

than when we trust someone –

but paradoxically,

if we cannot trust,

neither can we find

love or joy."

- Walter Anderson

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 135 where we get honest about ways we can try to control outcomes rather than get close to people.

In this episode we get honest. Honest about some of the ways we can hide in our relationships, and even to the extent that we lose who we are and create enmeshment which just leads to resentment. We talk about self-abandonment, and the different ways we can play that out. When we do these things, we aren't being vulnerable, and we especially aren't being emotionally honest with ourselves or others. This hurts our connections and hurts our self-esteem.

Key Elements:

• Identify how self-abandonment begins in childhood, and why.
• Address issues of rescuing, enabling and losing sight of our own needs.
• Discuss ways to prevent and address losing yourself in relationships.

Get naked with your truth,

offering the world

your greatest gift:

your authentic self."

- Gabby Bernstein

Resources:

https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/self-abandonment-what-it-is-and-how-to-stop/

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Welcome to Episode 134 where we explore why our early experiences with boundary violations can imprint us to not let people in later.

In this episode we talk about an important aspect of the ability to be vulnerable, and that is all about our first experiences. The boundary issues that happened meant that our sense of self was threatened, our sense of emotional safety and trust and our ability to have a close, connected adult relationship…not to mention being healthier parents ourselves.

Key Elements:

• Identify early boundary blurs, including the physical, emotional and psychological ones and what they do.
• Explore the concepts and impacts of emotional abuse and emotional incest.
• Describe how lack of emotional safety early on sets us up to fear true closeness in our adult relationships.

We need to feel trust

to be vulnerable

and we need to be

vulnerable in order

to trust."

- Brené Brown

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 133 where we start the new year exploring why healthy connection with others is a core need, and how it isn't easy for everyone to establish.

In this episode we talk about how this month's focus will be on connection, why we need it, what healthy looks like and what is doesn't, and why even though it's so important, many of us are not that great at it. So, all month we're going to dive into this concept, and bring along many of the truths we've been talking about on the show, but I really don't think we can talk about them enough. We will be exploring the concept of healthy, vulnerable connections, why we may struggle to make and keep them, and how to work on having more meaningful ones every day.

Key Elements:

• Identify the many benefits of meaningful connection with others.
• Explore overview of why it may be hard to just do so organically.
• Talk about how connection is a core human need…not a want.

"Communication is merely

an exchange of information,

but connection is an exchange

of our humanity."

- Sean Stephenson

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 132 where we look ahead to what we want our life to look like in the coming year or so.

In this episode we identify what we want to either begin working on or continue to work on so we can reach our goal of becoming the best version of ourselves. Then we do the hard part: evaluating how ready we are to truly do this, as well as ways to get back on the horse if we fall off. This isn't a lofty idealistic episode about New Year's resolutions. It's about Let's get down to it realty about what you want and what is really possible.

Key Elements:

• Look ahead to what you want your life to look like.
• Evaluate your readiness, and the consequences of NOT making changes.
• Envision your plan for monkey wrenches and mishaps.

"One part at a time,

one day at a time,

we can accomplish any goal

we set for ourselves."

— Karen Casey

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 131 where we take a moment to do a year-end retrospective of our life.

In this episode we take a moment and look back on how your year has been…from things you are proud of, to the difficult things and all the learning, practicing, realizing and coming to terms with as you walk along. We benefit from the self-care of reflection, validation, and honesty as we evaluate what's happened and how far we've come.

Key Elements:

• Identify areas of your life this past year – what you've experienced.
• Note your progress in each area, and ways to dig deeper.
• Validate feelings, hard work and accomplishments.

"Almost everything will

work again if you unplug it

for a few minutes,

including you."

- Anne Lamott

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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