Ownit! Powercast

Welcome to Episode 148 where we look at how important boundaries are if we want to change things in our life, especially our self-discipline.

In this episode we focus on an important aspect of self-love, and that is self-discipline. Loving ourselves enough to say no to what isn't working in our life and saying no to hurting our health, draining our energy, and sabotaging good things for ourselves. Learning to practice boundaries and following through even on one change can be empowering and life changing. Change takes courage and it means commitment to taking actual steps to say no to ourselves.

Key Elements:

• Identify the ways we can get clear and committed about our self-discipline.
• Discuss why we may struggle to be more disciplined.
• Process what some of the consequences might be if we don't grab some structure for ourselves.

"The fact is discipline is only

punishment when imposed

on you by someone else.

When you discipline yourself,

it's not punishment but

empowerment."

– Les Brown.

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 147 where we take a hard look at how no matter what we SAY we want to do, we can sabotage the very steps we need to take to move forward, and there are valid reasons why we may do this.

In this episode we get real about the ways we can hold ourselves back from what we say we want…the healthier habits and the steps toward our big goals that are just waiting for us to begin and maintain. We talk about how old, limiting beliefs, lack of boundaries and lack of healthy support can wreak havoc on the best-laid plans. But we also get into some time-tested ways you can counteract those gremlins and get moving toward your goals.

Key Elements:

• Look at how fear is main driver for keeping ourselves stuck.
• Process the different ways fear plays out and helps sabotage.
• Look at how our beliefs and our inner critic may still be in charge.

"I have one life

and one chance

to make it count

for something..."

- Jimmy Carter

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 146 where we interview Life Coach Tabatha Perry, MSW all about her strategies for helping you make small edits that can change your life.

In this episode we are talking to Tabatha Perry, who is a life coach who helps you change your life, one small "edit" at a time. With her background in social work, Tabatha is all about the logistics of how to empower others to make important life changes. She loves to give practical advice and will offer simple ways for you to edit your life so that you no longer feel stressed, burned out, or unorganized. She has a lot of life experience that connects her to most of your everyday issues and so you will feel encouraged that you're not alone in your struggles, inspired to take action in your life, and learn simple ways to edit your life so they thrive personally and professionally!

Key Elements:

• Discuss how when we make small tweaks to our daily choices, we actually change who we are.
• Identify ways we can get back on track when we can't get off the couch.
• Process how being in touch with who we are matters when it comes to changing.

Success is the sum

of small efforts –

repeated day in

and day out.

- Robert Collier

Resources:

Tabatha Perry's Website

https://tabathaperry.coach/

https://www.instagram.com/tabathaperrylifecoach/

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Welcome to Episode 145 where we talk about how assertiveness is actually made up of several aspects that all work together.

In this episode we talk about how assertiveness is actually a package of things that all work together so we can stand in our truth, speak our truth, and live our truth all while being calm, considerate and consistent. Assertiveness is not just a skill, and it's not just one thing either. It's multi-layered and multifaceted, and I believe all the parts are necessary and work together so our insides can match our outsider, and we can connect with others in healthy ways, with boundaries, with self-worth for each, and with compassion. Assertiveness is built and made stronger over time. It may feel scary and awkward at first, but eventually you will incorporate it as part of who you are…someone is emotionally honest, direct, caring and emotionally safe.

Key Elements:

• Look at all the parts that help us be more assertive.
• Process why deeper healing and boundary work may be necessary.
• Discuss the many benefits of speaking clearly and directly.

I think the reward for conformity

is that everyone likes you

except yourself

- Rita Mae Brown

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 144 where we look at one of the most important aspects of healthy communication: owning your truth in the moment.

In this episode we talk about what it means to really own your truth: which means everything about you from your feelings, thoughts and needs to your dreams and everything in between. Owning our truth when we communicate creates self-confidence and helps to create emotional trust and safety with others. We explore why we may struggle to do this naturally, and note some the great benefits we can experiences as we get better and better at it.

Key Elements:

• Look at why getting things straight with ourselves may not be easy.
• Explore what owning it really means, down to the details.
• Utilize an experiential exercise to raise our awareness about taking responsibility.

"Daring to set boundaries

is about having the

courage to love ourselves

even when we risk

disappointing others."

- Brene Brown

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 143 where we talk about how important emotional honesty and assertiveness is to building trust in our relationships.

In this episode we explore what it means to begin getting emotionally honest, being brave by being assertive, and why it helps create trust and allows for more meaningful connection in our relationships. We contrasted healthy connecting with passive-aggressive and avoidant ways to talk to someone, and how taking risks and being vulnerable in our communication actually increases self-confidence.

Key Elements:

• Look at ways we can communicate in unhealthy ways and why we do it.
• Discuss ways to be more clear, direct and specific.
• Process how being assertive involves emotional detachment and good boundaries.

You do realize that

passive-aggressive behavior is

aggressive behavior

for cowards,

right?

— Carolyn McCray

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 142 where we explore the importance of learning how to practice healthy detachment and expressing empathy.

In this episode we focus on a very important part of creating safe communication and that is practicing detachment and empathy. We explore how we may struggle to let go, to refocus on ourselves and to allow them to be wherever they are, or the outcomes to simply unfold as they would anyway. Then we discuss ways to practice empathy and understanding in our communication, using some simple examples to get you started.

Key Elements:

• Identify ways you can tell if you struggle to detach in relationships.
• Look at ways to practice expressing empathy.
• Process ways we can practice detachment in the moment.

Empathy is about

finding echoes of another

person in

yourself.

-Mohsin Hamid

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 141 where we open up the new month and zone in on what healthy communication looks like, and how to do it.

In this episode we discuss how this month we will be focusing on ways to clean up our communication so it's more emotionally honest, positive, and connecting, and healthier for both of you to experience. To do this, so much of this work as many of you already know via experience begins with your thinking and your sorting through. Then your choice of how you want to convey your thoughts feelings and needs to others in an emotionally honest, meaningful way. From empathy to good eye contact and everything in between, it's all about owning your communication, and thus owning yourself.

Key Elements:

• Focus on the different aspect of healthy communication.
• Look at what unhealthy communication looks like.
• Why having healthy communication skills is crucial if we want healthy relationships.

"Don't try to win over the haters;

you are not a jackass whisperer."

- Brene Brown

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 140 where explore an important part of healthy connection: the ability to be assertive when necessary.

In this episode we take a quick dip into why being assertive means being honest, keeping the focus on ourselves, while taking care of our own needs and boundaries. I think being assertive is integral to our self-esteem, where we reveal our truth to others, letting go of what they think of it or do with it on their end. This means risking. If we cannot do this, then the communication isn't safe, because then we resort to more passive-aggressive ways of getting our needs met.

Key Elements:

• Compare and contrast healthy and unhealthy behaviors in communication.
• Process what assertiveness isn't, to better understand what it is.
• Focus on how being assertive is all about taking responsibility.

Your ability to stand up

for your truth is a muscle,

and the more you exercise it

the stronger it gets.

- Dan Palotta

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to Episode 140 where explore an important part of healthy connection: the ability to be assertive when necessary.

In this episode we take a quick dip into why being assertive means being honest, keeping the focus on ourselves, while taking care of our own needs and boundaries. I think being assertive is integral to our self-esteem, where we reveal our truth to others, letting go of what they think of it or do with it on their end. This means risking. If we cannot do this, then the communication isn't safe, because then we resort to more passive-aggressive ways of getting our needs met.

Key Elements:

• Compare and contrast healthy and unhealthy behaviors in communication.
• Process what assertiveness isn't, to better understand what it is.
• Focus on how being assertive is all about taking responsibility.

Your ability to stand up

for your truth is a muscle,

and the more you exercise it

the stronger it gets.

- Dan Palotta

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!