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This week the guys talk through essential movies to watch with your sons. Whether you're a dad or mom, watch these movies with your sons. Through these movies you can help them learn healthy masculine traits. 

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Grumpy Cat

Questions to ask while watching films:

What qualities were depicted in this film that teach us what kind of man God wants us to be? 

How can we, like Christ, stand up against insurmountable odds?

Why do some men choose to die for what they believe to be noble/right? 

Essential Movies

1. Field of Dreams

2. Saving Private Ryan

3. Rudy

4. Remember the Titans

5. Glory

6. Wonder

7. Braveheart

8. Gladiator

9. Apollo 13

10. Hoosiers

**Jimmy Fallon is not on Saving Private Ryan, he was in Band of Brothers

Facts about Paul Revere's ride

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This week the guys participate in their own golf tournament, benefiting themselves. No surprise, no one else showed up. But Jimmy and Josh had a blast playing and having a conversation about their lives as father and son. You won't want to miss. 

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Tune in this week and Jimmy and Josh answer parent questions they received at a recent speaking engagement. The boys bat around several topics you're sure to enjoy.  

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The Highwaymen

Lorena

What is the best way to approach the topic of sex with your teenager?

Early and often, don't wait until they are teenagers. This is a lifelong conversation

Raising an Original by Julie Lyles Carr

Preparing for Adolescence by James Dobson

When is a cellphone a good idea and is there an appropriate age to start?

Dumb phone - when you need to communicate with your child

Smart phone - high school/sophomore

How do you apologize to your kid without them using it against you later?

Apologize for your part and punish them for theirs.

They can't leverage it against you unless you let them.

What are the red flags that tells you your child needs counseling?

Look at their lowered level of functioning, see if anything has changed.

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Would you like to dance?  Well, if you're a good Baptist (and Josh most certainly is not!), the answer would an unequivocal "no."  And that would be the correct answer for all of us when it comes to the Protest Polka.  This deadly relationship dance is one of the main indicators of marriages that don't make it past the 5-year mark.  Listen in as the guys, two step their way through this issue and tango their way to a solution…ok, I'm completely done with dancing puns. 

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My Redeemer Lives by Nicole C Mullen

Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson

Emotionally Focused Therapy

Baby attachment video

Soften Your Start-Up (Gottman)

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So, a Sequoia Redwood and a nanoparticle of dust walk into a bar…  What do they have in common?  It's no joke, it's your marriage, of course!  The Bible is stuffed full of powerful and famous verses that relate to our marriage relationships.  And this week, the guys dig into Matthew 7:3-5, one of the least known and most powerful of those snippets from God' Word concerning marital bliss.  Just to give you a heads up.  Jesus doesn't call folks hypocrites very often…

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Anthony Hopkins in Silence of the Lambs - "You don't play the villain like he's the villain, because the villain is the hero in his own story."

ReIengage

"Wagging never works!" 

"Self-righteousness never works."

Dr. Susan Johnson - Demon Dialogue

1990s Worship

Matthew 7:3-5

3 "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.

Watermark Church

"Accept that you're the problem within your marriage."

"When you're arguing both spouses shouldn't leave the argument until both have apologized."

Self assessment:

1) Do you focus on your spouses faults more often than you're thankful for him/her?

2) Do you believe your spouse is lucky to have you?

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Are you sick and tired of all the books, speakers, and podcasts (present company excluded) telling you how to parent?  This week, the guys kick off 2019, we our new goal…how to be a "good enough" parent.  It's not that hard, and it's the fastest way to remove the guilt that you're feeling for how much your kids will have to pay in counseling later in life!

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Sam Ehlinger

Wild At Heart by John Eldredge

Texas WINS the NIT!

Spoiler Alert: Josh is now losing all his brackets, and his WIFE is about to win

Fact: We as parents will make mistakes that will negatively affect our children.

Prepare our kids for the mistakes that we know will happen

Tell your children you are sorry, repair mistakes when they happen

Don't sweat the small stuff

Accept that your child is going to be who they are going to be no matter what you do (within reason)

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So how should we parent? Should we parent based on trying to protect our kids? Or should we try to prepare them? Or both? Listen in as the guys discuss. 

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Howard Payne New Braunfels

Fearless Parenting

Homeschooling vs Public School

Focus on the Family: Preparing vs Protection

Age of Opportunity

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

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Does the term Toxic Masculinity ring a bell?  It's become the new "woke" issue in psychological circles.  But the Pairadocs are here to tell you that the term is in fact, poppy cock!  Poppy cock I say!  Listen in as the guys debunk the latest in political psycho-babble.  Not only is masculinity not toxic, it is essential to our families and our society. 

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Cowboys Outcome

American Psychological Association Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Men and Boys

Affirm your son's masculinity early on

Prepare boys and protect girls

Jesus is the perfect example of controlled power

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Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

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Many of you have read and loved the run-away best seller, Circle Maker by Mark Batterson, well join the guys, this week, as they visit with Joel and Nina Schmidgall who co-authored the new book, Praying Circles Around Your Marriage.  Have you ever wanted to pray more affectively for your marriage?  Joel and Nina will provide you with several amazing, yet practical, steps to actually bring that about.

Links to information discussed in the show:

National Community Church

Mark Batterson's The Circle Maker

The Schmidgall's Latest Book:

Praying Circles Around Your Marriage

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Website: theaterchurch.com

Instagram: @prayingmarriage

Twitter: @joelschmidgall and @ninaschmidgall

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

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So what do we do with the pain and suffering that we experience in life?  Especially, when it happens to good people, that trying hard to life their lives according to the Word of God?  We want life, and what happens to us in life to make sense, right?  But what do we tell ourselves and our children when it doesn't?  When life isn't fair.  When God doesn't make sense?  Listen in, this might be just for you…

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When God Doesn't Make Sense by James Dobson

Pain is OK, God doesn't want us to run from pain. Pain is not punishment.

We don't trust God because we don't take the time to get to know Him.

Celebration of Discipline by Richard J. Foster

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Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

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Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com