I was overjoyed when I learned that Oludara Adeeyo had published a new book, Affirmation for Black Women. Late last year, I received a notification from the Marketing and Publicity Associate of Simon & Schuster regarding the recent publication from Oludara Adeeyo, and I couldn't wait to have her again on my platform. Adeeyo was a returning guest on Pansa Pansa Podcast. She was initially featured in 2021 before our first book Self Care for Black Women, was published. As I told Adeeyo during our conversation, "You published two books in one year. Who does that? Only someone with Nigerian heritage. Nigerians never carry last!
The Pansa Pansa Podcast welcomes back Oludara Adeeyo, a licensed psychotherapist, psychiatric social worker, and bestselling author whose work centers on helping Black women prioritize their mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Based in Los Angeles, California.
When Oludara first appeared on the Pansa Pansa Podcast, her groundbreaking book, Self-Care for Black Women, had not yet been released. In this long-awaited follow-up conversation, we take a deep dive into the book that has since received widespread praise from readers and publications, including the Boston Globe, for its practical and compassionate approach to self-care.
During our conversation, Oludara explains why self-care is not a luxury but a necessity for Black women, who often carry the emotional weight of family, community, work, and society while neglecting their own needs. She thoughtfully walks us through the three pillars of her book—Mind, Body, and Soul—and discusses how intentional self-care can transform every aspect of a woman's life.
One of the most touching moments in our discussion centers on the book's dedication to her late mother:
"For my mother, who did not live long enough to experience the peace of radical self-care."
Oludara reflects on how her mother's experiences inspired her to write this book and why she hopes future generations of Black women will choose healing over burnout and prioritize themselves without guilt.
Our conversation also extends beyond the experiences of African Americans to include immigrant women, particularly African immigrant women, who often navigate multiple layers of oppression based on race, gender, immigration status, cultural expectations, religion, and identity. We discuss how the principles in Self-Care for Black Women are equally relevant to women in the African diaspora who frequently place the needs of family and community above their own mental and emotional health.
We also explore Oludara's second book, Affirmations for Black Women, where she explains what affirmations truly are and why they play an essential role in building confidence, resilience, and emotional wellness. She distinguishes between practicing affirmations as a daily habit and using them during moments of fear, uncertainty, or self-doubt. According to Oludara, daily affirmations can also become a form of prayer and intentional manifestation, helping individuals align their thoughts with the lives they seek to create.
In the closing moments of our conversation, we examine affirmations through the lens of Yoruba culture. Long before affirmations became a popular self-help practice, Yoruba traditions embraced daily words of encouragement and identity through Oríkì. Oriki is a rich oral tradition of praise poetry that celebrates an individual's ancestry, lineage, character, achievements, and potential. It is passed down through generations, and Oríkì serves not only as a cultural expression but also as a powerful reminder of one's identity, purpose, and inner strength. We discuss how reconnecting with these traditions can inspire modern approaches to mental wellness and self-care.
I encourage our listeners and viewers to purchase copies of Self-Care for Black Women and Affirmations for Black Women for themselves, and to share these empowering books with friends, daughters, sisters, mothers, and loved ones.