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November 28, 2018017: Work and Family Boundaries
Parent Driven Development
Episode 017: Work and Family Boundaries
00:16 Welcome, Chris Arcand!
Chris is a Software Engineer at HashiCorp where he works on Terraform Enterprise, a product that adds collaboration and governance features to the popular open source infrastructure tool, Terraform. As an advocate of distributed teams and open source, he’s spent the majority of his career at other distributed, open source companies such as Red Hat. He calls the Twin Cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul, Minnesota his home where he organizes the local Ruby users group, RubyMN, as well as moderates the ‘MSP Tech’ community Slack. Outside of software, Chris is an avid backpacker and amateur ice hockey player, as well as the father of a rambunctious little 19-month-old.
01:32 Balancing Working From Home with a 19-Month-Old
The Aspect of Literal Time: Utilizing time when kids are napping/otherwise busy
"Shift Work" vs Having Flexible Hours
Hashicorp's "Flexible Time Off" Policy vs "Paid Time Off"
Approaching Work and Dividing Up Your Day
06:46 Making Family Plans
09:29 Commuting Vs Working From Home
Location is Vital
Having an At-Home Nanny
13:28 Choosing a Nanny Over Daycare
18:19 Maintaining Balance and Avoiding Excessive Interruptions
Noise. Cancelling. Headphones.
Shutting The Door
21:14 Improving Mental Presence When Not Working
Give Yourself Time to Decompress Before Family Time
Mindfulness/Meditation
25:23 Exposing Kids to "I'm working, and this is how I'm working."
43:42 Genius / Fail Moments
JC: Has successfully kept his kid alive for 18 years! (#Genius) Also, his sophomore is starting in varsity football! (#Genius) Also, also, he is the team photographer which is a great hobby to have. (#Genius)
Josh: Andrew Bredow's Chore Chart
Chris A: His hockey room! His son is showing interest! (#Genius) ...But, having a new roof put on his house during naptime was probably not the best plan. (#Fail)
Chris S: Let his kids help him paint a room! (#Genius) ...But, it turns out they weren't very good at it. (#Fail)
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Panel
Chris Sexton
JC Avena
Josh Puetz
Special Guest: Chris Arcand.
37 min
November 21, 2018016: Media Picks! Great Apps, Books, Shows, Etc. For Kids
Parent Driven Development
Episode 016: Media Picks! Great Apps, Books, Shows, Etc. For Kids
01:15 T.V. Shows / Binge Watching Discussion
The Good Place (Josh)
05:56 Music
Avoid "Kids" Music!!
Bee Gees - Stayin' Alive (Allison)
Apple Music (Chris)
08:54 Games
A great bluffing game is Sheriff of Nottingham (Chris)
Go Fish (Allison)
Chutes and Ladders (Allison)
Fish Stix (Allison)
How to make Candy Land tolerable (even fun) (Josh)
What Are the Odds? Chutes and Ladders (Josh)
BoardGameGeek (Josh)
Survive: Escape from Atlantis (Chris)
Harry Potter Hogwarts Battle (Josh)
PBS Kids App (Allison)
20:08 T.V. Shows (Cont'd)
Phineas and Ferb (Chris)
21:05 Asking Alexa
She tells stories!
She's got jokes!
She'll play music!
She can even add toilet paper to your grocery list!
23:16 'yesmum' Cards
24:31 YouTube Channels
SciShow
vlogbrothers
27:10 Apps (Cont'd)
Toca Boca
28:55 What We Wish We Had
Filtering options that work on services like Hulu and Netflix
Better screen time controls
Devices that let kids know what the limits are for time budgeting
36:03 Genius / Fail Moments
Chris: Using bribes. (#Genius)
Josh: Cookbooks! Cooking Class: 57 Fun Recipes Kids Will Love to Make (and Eat!) and Cooking Rocks! by Rachael Ray. (#Genius)
Allison: Her son and her had a little argument and Allison yelled (#Fail), but then they came together and calmed down and walked away better and unscathed. (#Genius)
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Panel
Chris Sexton
Allison McMillan
Josh Puetz
44 min
November 14, 2018015: On-Call Schedules
Parent Driven Development
Episode 015: On-Call Schedules
00:20 Welcome, Alyson van Hardenberg!
Alyson is a Software Engineer at Honeycomb and the mother of two boys.
02:41 Pager or Baby? Which do you choose?
It was a non-issue for Alyson. One of Honeycomb's managers, before even hiring Alyson, said that she'd take Alyson's pager during "off-duty" hours as an added responsibility. They'll check in and reevaluate when her son is one.
Equal does not mean fair across teams.
05:07 Having On-Call Schedule Discussions
Special Accommodations
Scheduling Around On-Call Time
On-Call Parenting vs On-Call Job-ing
Working Remotely and Boundaries Around Work
11:33 Living Your Life On-Call
Doubling Up In Pairs
Escalation Policies
On-Call Onboarding Processes
Handling Outings On-Call
22:46 On-Call Team Expectations
Triage vs Fixing
26:04 On-Call Stories & Experiences
31:26 Hours of Coverage
6PM - 9PM = The Worst Parenting Hours
33:46 Results of the 1-Year Check-in and Thoughts on Physical Pagers vs PagerDuty
### 37:07 Genius / Fail Moments
KWu: Taking time off from work, but still having the nanny come. (#Genius)
Josh: Introduced the Twilight movies to his daughter. (#Fail)
Alyson: Taking a Ziplock bag of snacks on long trips. (#Genius)
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Panel
Katherine Wu
Josh Puetz
Special Guest: Alyson van Hardenberg.
45 min
November 07, 2018014: Conferencing After Babies
Parent Driven Development
Episode 014: Conferencing After Babies
00:16 Welcome, Tess and Sean Griffin!
Tess is a Site Engineer at GitHub. Sean is a developer at Shopify, renowned Rails committer, the creator of the Diesel Framework, host of The Yak Shave podcast, and a former host of The Bike Shed podcast.
02:14 Deciding on Conference to Go To and Speak At
Conferences who offer on-site childcare are very attractive. Shoutout to Ruby Central conferences and Rust Belt Rust!
09:56 Evening Childcare
Going through conference organizer recommendations is preferencial because they spend a lot of time scouting the cities, however, services like UrbanSitter and Care.com are options in a pinch.
Conferences that offer child/kid-friendly after-hours activities are also great for parents. It seems like more conferences like that are popping up and opting for less bar atomosphere gatherings. 👍
16:38 Awesome Conference-Provided Amenities / Wishlist Items
Swag Options for Kids (onesies and t-shirts!)
Badges for Kids and Babies
A list of kid-tolerant folks / Babysitting Co-ops for parents amongst attendees / Equipment share (Could be in the form of a Slack channel.
23:34 Having Answers BEFORE Asking People to Commit
Just having people click a box saying they will need childcare but not having any details about what those plans are isn't cool. (It also gives them a great excuse to turn down coming.) Parents want to know from the get-go that there is a solid childcare plan in place before they commit to going to a conference. Remember, the younger the child, the more logistics are involved around needs and stuff (equipment).
Is there a supermarket or supermarket delivery service nearby?
How will I get from the airport to the conference hotel?
Is there additional costs for children?
27:31 Getting Around
Public transportation around your conference is key. 10-15 minutes away from the airport is an ideal distance.
29:26 School-Age Children and Conferences
32:43 Genius / Fail Moments
Chris: Print-and play projects (#Genius)
Tess: Investing in a nice child gate (#Genius)
Allison: Having thoughtful and interactive conversations with your kids (#Genius)
Sean: Teaching babies words is hilarious! 🤣
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Panel
Chris Sexton
Allison McMillan
Special Guests: Sean Griffin and Tess Griffin.
40 min
October 31, 2018013: Babies at Work
Parent Driven Development
Episode 013: Babies at Work?!
00:15 Welcome, Leah Silber!
Leah is the CEO of Tilde Inc. She is also an organizer of EmberConf, RustConf and RailsConf, and Ember.js Core Team Member, a jQuery Core Team alum, author of Event Driven: How to Run Memorable Tech Conferences, and all around technophile.
01:08 KWu is Planning Her Son's 1st Birthday Party! + How Old Are They?
Don't let first birthday parties get out of hand. Not worth it. Get a cake. Let the kid smash. Also, please stop referring to your child's age in months when they turn 2.
04:05 Babies at Work: It’s Weird that it’s Weird
In August 2017, Leah wrote this blog post and it was super well received. In the blog post, she talks about a lot of the objections and concern she had at first that turned out to be unfounded. It turns out, bringing her baby to work changed the mood and culture of Tilde in a positive way -- even among self-proclaimed "non-baby people".
09:26 What About The Fussy Days?
Working from home can be an option especially on days like vaccination days.
Having a quiet area like a conference room or an empty office gets people through short fussy spells.
If that doesn't work, going home is encouraged.
Leah says that having the babies at work made actually for a much happier baby!
17:56 Nursing
Up to the mom! Breastfeeding in public is acceptable, and there are dedicated nursing rooms/spaces to keep it legal (and more private)
It becomes normalized! People don't even notice
Squatty Potty
23:53 Culture From The Core
Stating expectations for parents/non-parents during the interview process
Scaling as children age
Bring the Nanny to work too!
Older children must be up to date on vaccinations
Becomes a routine
32:43 Does Company Size Matter?
Just because there are 50 people in a company does not mean that the volume of babies is going to go up
Setting a limit is an option: luck of the draw
The bigger the company, the more space non-baby people have to stay away from the babies
35:02 Program Evolution
Effects on Nannies
Beneficial for dads too!
42:37 Avoiding Judgement
Turns out, people (who aren't the child's parents) are more helpful than judgemental
Pets are not babies...no, your dog can not come to work because my baby is here
48:31 Genius / Fail Moments
KWu: Water coming out of the tub faucet is fascinating and acts as a baby magnet to draw them to the bathroom for a bath! (#Genius)
Allison: Creating an insane schedule of hodgepodge childcare that involves massive amounts of logistics. (#Fail)
Leah: Shoutout to the parents who think their kids will never walk. Her son started walking at 18 months! (#Genius)
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Panel
Allison McMillan
Katherine Wu
Special Guest: Leah Silber.
57 min
October 24, 2018012: Traveling with Kids
Parent Driven Development
Episode 012: Traveling with Kids
00:48 The Great Screen Debate
Today's particular panelists are all about screens while traveling as long as it's not detracting from the travel experience. Everyone agrees that screens are a great way to keep kids occupied and quiet.
08:09 Transportation Challenges, Woes, and Genius Tips
When your kid gets flagged on her first plane ride...
TSA Pre√ (Worth its weight in gold!!)
Download shows to devices in advance
Have a variety of activities (besides screens)
Hotel Paper & Pens
Books
Cheerios
... and a Walkman?
Building Up Good Will with People Around You: Is it worth bribing others (with chocolate??) and socializing or should they just deal with you traveling with your kiddo(s)?
Use Car Services like Lyft!
24:25 Transportation + Car Seats (Deserves its own conversation, obviously.)
Amazon a cheap one + have delivered to your destination then donate when you go home (Pro tip: Do the same thing with diapers!)
Uber and Lyft have car seat options in select cities
Renting Car Seats: Yay or Nay?
32:58 On-The-Go Childcare
Hotel Concierge - Check Yelp Reviews!
Make sure you know where the closest hospital/urgent care center is
37:46 We're Here. Now What?
Google "Top 10 things to do in X"
Use an app like Winnie
39:48 A Round of Helpful Hints and Tricks
Josh: If possible, get a hotel room with a separate bedroom.
Mandy: Hotels with pools are delightful. (Especially if your kids can swim on their own.) Also use Uber Eats for food delivery to the hotel if going out is undesirable.
Chris: Pizza chains will deliver to hotel pools for an easy pizza party. Great for traveling sports teams!
Allison: Bring a roll of duct tape and use a taller chair on the side of the bed to act as a bedrail.
Andy: Aluminum foil and a sponge!
43:42 Genius / Fail Moments
Allison: MilkStork: A breast milk shipping company when you're away from your infant.
Andy: Andy's son offered his teddy bear to a friend in need!
Chris: Playing Mario Kart on the Nintendo Wii as a family activity to teach good sportsmanship and kindness.
Mandy: Staying on the boardwalk part of the beach on the ground level. Also, if you do a lot of traveling, save up points! Mandy uses Marriott Rewards to get free nights in select hotels for summer vacation fun!
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Panel
Andy Croll
Chris Sexton
Allison McMillan
Mandy Moore
Josh Puetz
51 min
September 11, 2018 011: Being a Trans Parent
Parent Driven Development
Episode 011: Being a Trans Parent
00:30 We're joined by our friend Jess today
We've been soliciting questions from our audience which will help guide our conversation today
02:00 How do you help young children who want to categorize everything in to boys and girls?
How do we talk about boy parts and girl parts and gender identity especially with young children?
It's a complex topic. Different children classify in different ways. Does it talk to how we socialize children? It changes when your children interact with other children in school.
Science has proven that gender identity is mostly internal and it is in flux until children are around 3 and then they demonstrate more behaviors that can be associated with a specific gender.
07:50 How much do body parts relate to gender identity?
Talking about body parts and explaining that you can't tell what a person is by looking at them. You need to ask,
9:00 Children see the world in different ways
There's a need to talk to children in different ways because the way children classify and categorize are different. It's important to reach a child in a way that makes sense for them.
You can still categorize and have these boundaries but talking about what defining characteristics and boundaries are is important.
We're seeing more categories now that are gender non-binary or gender fluid and that's another set of categories to introduce and look for in books.
When other people define those categories, it's also very difficult and overwriting peer pressure and social norms is tough.
We have to understand details and nuance. Needing to overwrite social norms and outside influence is so much of parenting.
It's a beautiful thing when parents can help their children learn compassion and talk through these questions.
14:14 If a child sees someone and wants to know what gender that person is, what is a good way to make sure we're guiding them correctly and having them ask in a way that is not offense and hurtful to the individual?
Parents react in a variety of ways when children ask. Jess talks about some of the reactions she's gotten and what is helpful in the moment.
The polite way to ask as an adult is "hi, my pronouns are and . What are your pronouns?" It's hard to tell by looking at folks so it can be normalized by just asking.
Sarah talks about a camp that does this and the children have picked up on it super quickly. Kids are much more open to these discussions now than we are at our age and they might be more open to these discussions because they are being raised in a different time.
19:50 Listener comment
Conversations about a trans girl in elementary school led to a lot of parental learning.
20:20 Are younger kids talking about this more and recognizing this earlier?
Definitely. Talking about media representations and cultural expectations of trans people in the past and present.
Late transitioners are going to become less and less common.
22:00 What's helpful as parents to make sure our children feel comfortable having these conversations with us?
Podcast: How to be a girl about a parent raising a trans girl

Book: Transgender 101 helps address these issues

As well as some helpful questions and approaches for parents with children talking about gender identification.
25:00 - 28:30 How do you deal with people who can't understand?
trigger warning Gender dysphoria and depression

dysphoria and euphoria. Talking about calling in a support system and recognizing how to be honest with ourselves and our families.
29:00 As parents, how to support trans families?
Best allies are simple things like using the correct pronouns because it's more about being a person and not about being trans.
Jess shares a Mother's Day story which shows fellow parent support and an example of allyship.
32:00 How to help young children develop identity in a world of gender policing?
Graciously accept gifts and then lose them. Trying to phrase things as play or as talking about play as what the child is doing.
Giving children options is good as well.
36:00 What are good resources?
Red: A Crayon's Story
I am Jazz
Kids books are few and far between.
For adults, pflag chapters are also good.
Jenny Boylan as an author is great.
Jess is also happy to chat on twitter!
39:00 Genius / Fail moments
Allison - I took my son to see the fireworks and he was excited but also terrified and asked to leave. I thought it was ok but then once we got home we needed to have a long discussion about how he's safe in the house from fireworks. I may have scarred him for life. #Fail

Chris - My kids wanted to wash the truck which was great but then they got bored of washing and took the hose to the side yard and now it's a muddy mess. #Genius

Jess - My son's daycare has been growing cucumbers and he brought home cucumbers to make pickles! #Genius

Josh - The food wars continue. My daughter helps me pick out the meals that get sent every week so she recognizes that she's agreed to what gets sent. #Genius

Sarah - My daughter drew a picture of being a spider vet when she grows up, but actually it was a spider pirate. She's got a great imagination. #Genius

Also, future genius? Family vacations are hard so instead of a family trip. We're doing 1-on-1 trips depending on where each child wants to go.
53:40 Contact Us!
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Panel:
Josh Puetz
Sarah Olson
Allison McMillan
Chris Sexton
Special Guest: Jess Szmajda.
55 min
August 15, 2018 010: Doing Good with Our Children LIVE! From Ruby For Good
Parent Driven Development
Episode 010: Doing Good with Kids, Live Episode
00:50 We're LIVE from Ruby For Good
02:30 How do we make our kids do good?
School is a good place to start. There are lots of options for kids and parents to start out.
We talk about different activities at different ages, preschool to high school
03:37 Where to start when you want to have childcare at your conference
Treat it as any other vendor
Go to the conference venue and ask for recommendations
Ask for recommendations from the hotel, local user groups, etc.
5:30 Various programs are mentioned
For Girl Scout cookies you can purchase a cookie to have sent to troops overseas
Girls on the Run each session has a theme related to "good" things
6:40 For young children, focus on having the conversation
What does it mean to do good things? We talk about PJ Library and Tikkun Olam
Simple things are good like the Dawn soap that you can use to tell a story
Box Tops can be taken to school
The more exposure, the better
9:50 Bring the kids along
At this conference, bringing kids can help them see that we're doing good things. It also happens when kids see you packing up food for shelters.
The more exposure you have, the better
JC talks about how they help people move a lot. Religious institutions are also a good way to find opportunities.
Mandy talks about doing something nice for a homeless person and the conversation that resulted from that action
13:30 Helping family is also a good option
Helping family members and grandparents can be very important.
Finding places with family and extended family or neighbors to do good things for is really great.
Helping our kids be aware of opportunities to help others is key
17:00 The News
We talk about what's going on in the world and how we help our kids understand them.
Do we bring our children to rallies? or marches? What is the importance of talking about what is going on in the news and being aware of how it affects our children, the world, and others.
How do we support our children if they want to participate in walk-outs or some of the activism happening with our kids these days?
21:20 - 22:53 Trigger Warning: We talk a bit about the Parkland Shooting and gun violence related to our children
23:00 What do we do for the world for our kids?
Beyond involving our kids, we get involved in issues that affect the world our children are growing up in
Like elections, environment, infrastructure, etc.
Writing letters to the Senate can be incredibly important so that funding continues for life changing programs.
26:30 Showing kids that doing good is also bi-directional. You give and you get.
Local tech stuff, mentoring, starting a Women Who Code chapter and more
29:00 Monetary donations are also great
Sometimes you're not going to be able to do things hands-on, giving money is also important
Involve kids in where to donate
Allow children to allocate money to a charity or charity type
Birthdays are a great opportunity as well, money to charity instead of gifts
34:00 Genius / Fail moments
Allison - We sleep trained our daughter! We were going to wait but we didn't and it's worked out really well. #Genius
JC - Teenager was being a teenager and we took him off the Spotify premium family plan. #Genius
Chris - My son doesn't enunciate always and we had a Trader Joe's chicken in the freezer and we called it Emergency Chicken. One day Lars was in class and said Emergency Chicken is his favorite food. #Fail
Mandy - I've been super busy this conference season and end of the school year and I missed an email from a teacher which apparently said there were portfolio reading. My daughter was super sad and I just missed it. But I'm making up for it! #Fail
44:40 Contact Us!
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Panel:
Mandy Moore
Allison McMillan
JC Avena
Chris Sexton
46 min
July 11, 2018 009: Planning Childcare at Conferences
Parent Driven Development
Episode 009: Planning Childcare at Conferences
00:25 We're joined by Abby Phoenix today
01:00 When did childcare at Ruby Central events start?
started in 2015 and have now been at 6 conferences
The intention is to always have childcare at RailsConf and RubyConf
03:37 Where to start when you want to have childcare at your conference
Treat it as any other vendor
Go to the conference venue and ask for recommendations
Ask for recommendations from the hotel, local user groups, etc.
6:10 Smaller conferences
Smaller conferences are a little more difficult but also easier because if it's in the same location every year you can use the same provider year after year
7:30 Very important that childcare is based in the city of the conference
They know how to get around
They have alternative options
They are on time
They have the equipment they need
9:10 How many people use childcare at conferences?
Typically 5-7 kids
Usually younger children especially since RubyConf and RailsConf are during the school year so most older children are in school
Always a question of whether or not a parent can make it work because bringing a child to a conference can be challenging
13:45 Lactation room is also offered
Visibility is very important
It is important that it is known in the community that childcare and lactation rooms are available at these conferences
What to call the lactation room?
How it works at a conference to make sure you don't get walking in on and to make sure it is easy
The lactation room has outlets and a fridge.
20:20 We tangent about all the things we can't wait to forget as parents
Diapers
Wiping bums
and more
21:30 Lactation rooms are really easy to put in place as a conference organizer
22:20 What have been the biggest challenges of providing childcare at a conference?
There were things we did not know to ask when we started and so now we have a list which is helpful
Abby goes in to which questions they have started to ask
26:00 What do you wish you could provide?
Evening childcare so parents can do things.
They will try to work with childcare providers to offer after-hours care but can't provide it themselves
31:00 Childcare is often tailored to 1-5 year olds
Most of the participants are younger
32:00 Mandy talks about what you can do with an older child at a conference
Is it worth it to bring an older child to a conference?
What conferences have a "kids track"?
How to engage older kids at conferences?
The childcare provider will often tailor childcare towards the age range of the children there
39:30 What are the costs involved for organizers and participants
Participants are not charged for using childcare
Discussion about costs in different cities
44:00 Genius / Fail moments
Allison - My daughter has had a rough few weeks and loves being bounced on a ball but it's tiring for me and hurts my back, so I put her on the ball, tummy down, bounced her, and it calmed her down and she got gas out #Genius
Andy - After a difficult day, my daughter wrote "I love you daddy, even when you're grumpy" #Genius? or #Fail?
Mandy - My daughter got the principals award for having a positive attitude, was responsible, did homework, and more. I was very proud! #Genius
KWu - I'm on call for the week and so I set up a daybed in the office and negotiated with my husband that after the wake-ups, I would go to the office and turn off the monitor and be off duty for a few hours #Genius
Abby - My daughters are very picky eaters. My youngest will eat waffles that she'll eat for breakfast. Recently she brought one over to me and said, "mommy I really like these. I like that there is candy inside" #Fail
With my oldest, I asked her to describe her perfect meal and I thought she'd talk about candy or ice cream but she said "My perfect meal is a cheese plate" and so from then on every night has been a cheese plate for dinner, which to her means little bits of a variety of food #Genius
54:00 RubyConf is coming!
Find more information at @rubyconf and rubyconf.org has some information right now.
Registration will open in August or September
54:40 Contact Us!
Email us to ask questions.
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Panel:
Mandy Moore
Allison McMillan
KWu
Andy Croll
Special Guest: Abby Phoenix.
56 min
June 20, 2018008: Remote Work with Kids
Parent Driven Development
Episode 008: Remote working with kids
00:37 Who all works remotely?
02:30 Working remotely with kids at home
Lifestyle choice
Nursing and alternate schedules
Spouses working from home as well
06:00 Working remotely before and after having a child
The difference between working from home with a spouse also working from home vs. not
Hard starts and stops to your day
10:00 JC forgets pickup
11:00 Dealing with interruptions
This classic example
Interruptions from your spouse vs. the kid(s)
15:00 Allison joins
15:45 Do companies who accept remote work also do better at understanding flexible schedules and work/life balance?
Tyranny of the green dot on Slack
What are the expectations of being remote?
Do we feel guilty about doing "life" or kid stuff during the work day?
19:53 Being a remote worker vs. being on a distributed team
Understanding working hours
Helping colleagues be more purposeful about working hours and communication
23:00 Shared calendars and communicating hours to your team
slack notifications and snoozing
google calendar work hours
basecamp Tools
24:00 Based on Cate's blog post Going in to an office established a lot of defaults for a team and working remotely it helps to be more explicit
25:30 Being in the office is nice because you get to talk to other adults. How do you deal with isolation?
Going to stores
Being in the coffee shop
Parenting groups and daycares
Playdates with other kids
The difficulty of coworking and coffee shop working while pumping
Leads to great isolation which is pretty difficult
Rant about when people tell you to be social while pumping (spoiler: it's not that easy!!)
31:00 Being home instead of going out as a matter of priorities
What do you want to have time for?
33:00 Listener Question!! Our first!! It is so exciting!!!
When is the right time to introduce screens to your child and how did you do it?
Allison introduced games first, mostly on flights. When Allison introduced tv shows, she tried to make it educational like Daniel Tiger, PBS shows, etc.
Talking to your child about what they watched and what they learned
KWu thinks what screen time and for what purpose. And introduce something, see the effect and make changes from there.
JC said as you have more kids, it's harder to control media and screen time. Having structure around things is very important.
Josh remembers lots of research but can't remember when they introduced screens
Andy says do it collectively and sparingly
KWu says that technology and watching things can be used as bonding time and can focus on artistic or creative endeavors as opposed to isolating
JC talks about use of imagination using programs like minecraft.
45:00 Genius / Fail moments
JC - my daughter has been playing softball and she looked at pictures of herself batting and fixed an issue! She was resilient and didn't get discouraged. #Genius
Allison - Everything is a genius and fail right now. My son's preschool teacher told me that he's doing fantastic #Genius
Josh - my daughter has guinea pigs named Ana and Elsa and one of them fell which led to a visit to the vet. There they found out Ana and Elsa are male which led to a great discussion about gender and what gender means. #Genius
KWu - Marriage win! We started watching the Americans together and it is so nice to be doing something together and have something not household related to talk about. #Genius
Andy - After a difficult day, my daughter wrote "I love you daddy, even when you're grumpy" #Genius? or #Fail?
53:00 Contact Us!
Tell us what you're learning!
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Panel:
Josh Puetz
Allison McMillan
JC Avena
KWu
Andy Croll
Additional links:
100 Remote Work Stats, Quotes, and Statistics
https://medium.com/@benthompson/breaking-down-the-father-on-bbc-being-interrupted-by-his-children-9840cdc8857b
https://youtu.be/-Ojvk-4IcOE
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