Parenting Our Future

I’m so happy to have my friend and fellow mom, Angela Crocker.   On this episode, Angela and I talk about her newest book, Digital Life Skills for Youth.  Kids age 11-18 have more access to technology than any other generation. We talk about what parents can do to build healthy boundaries and habits around technology.  She shares what danger signs to look out for and when kids should have access.

What about the more ‘diabolical’ world of social media and apps?  Angela gives us a look inside some “Tricky Tactics” where kids can hide content from their parents.

You will learn how to begin navigating the digital world for your kids, even if you don’t know where to start!

About Angela Crocker

Angela Crocker has been called the Ann Landers of digital living, making sense of the online life for thousands of digital citizens. Her expertise includes education technology, digital parenting, online communities, digital decluttering, content planning, and more. Angela works as an author, speaker and educator to help individuals, schools, and businesses navigate the digital life. She is the author of six books including Digital Life Skills for Youth, Declutter Your Data and The Content Planner. To learn more about the book featured on this episode, go to https://angelacrocker.com/digital_life_skills_for_youth/

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From the Podcast:

As discussed in the podcast, here is an excerpt from Angela’s book, Digital Life Skills for Youth

“To help parents figure out a healthy amount of screen time, I recommend looking at each youth’s life overall.  Think about one specific youth and consider these questions:

• Is the youth getting an adequate amount (approximately nine hours) of uninterrupted sleep most nights?
• Does the youth have social connections to peers including some close relationships (best friends)?
• Does the youth get an hour or more of exercise each day?
• Is the youth meeting their responsibilities around the home and at school?  Are chores done and homework completed?
• Is the youth attending school on time and prepared for class regularly?
• Is the youth participating in family meals and social occasions?
• Is the youth completing daily hygiene routines? Showers? Flossing?

If the answer is yes to most of these questions, then whatever time the youth has time left over could, in my opinion, be spent on activities they choose whether online or offline.”

Overall, Angela recommends keeping the lines of communication open with your child(ren). Make sure you talk to them about security, appropriate pictures, privacy, their digital footprint and more.

Lastly, give yourself a break!  This topic is new and complicated and sometimes we get it wrong. It’s ok to make mistakes; this is an ever-evolving world and it new to so many of us! 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to continue the conversation with me, head on over to www.facebook.com/parenting4connection  With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or...

Dr. Vanessa and I discuss her newest book, “Parenting Right From the Start; Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler years.”  In the podcast, we talk about what it means to grow yourself up before you can grow your kids up, what it means to have “swagger” and how being “large and in charge” helps your kids be more independent.  With the new school year upon us, Dr. Vanessa talks about how to orchestrate an “artful introduction” to your child’s new teacher or caregiver. Dr. Vanessa is fun, funny and full of meaningful, common sense knowledge and leaves you hanging on her every word!

About Dr. Vanessa Lapointe

Dr. Vanessa Lapointe is an author, parenting expert, and registered psychologist (British Columbia #1856) who has been supporting families and children for more than fifteen years. Author of Discipline without Damage: How to get your kids to behave without messing them up and Parenting Right From The Start: Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler years, regularly invited media guest and contributor, educator and speaker, a Huffington Post Parent blogger, and a consultant to research projects and various organizations promoting emotional health and development,

Dr. Vanessa is known for bringing a sense of nurturing understanding and humanity to all of her work. She presently works in private practice and has previous experience in a variety of settings, including the British Columbia Ministry of Children and Family Development and the school system.

Dr. Vanessa’s passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way. As a mother to 2 growing children, Dr. Vanessa strives not only professionally, but also personally, to view the world through the child’s eyes.

If you are interested in pre-ordering Dr. Vanessa’s book, Parenting Right From The Start: Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler years, you can order HERE

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Six Parenting Principles from Dr Vanessa Lapointe

1.   No challenge, no growth. Embrace the mess.

Nobody ever said that growing up was meant to be an easy peasy walk in the park with no difficulty. In fact, it is in the mess of it that growth blossoms. It has to be difficult; it has to erupt; it has to feel immovable … and then, magic happens. The human mind and heart come alive in the face of challenge. It is here that adaptation is fostered and resilience is championed. Furthermore, you cannot truly know the up of it if you have not fully lived the down of it. Celebrate the peaks and the valleys. Take heart in the perceived struggle for that is where the path to greatness begins. No challenge, no growth.

1.     Grow you, grow them.

There is nothing quite like loving and growing a child to absolutely bring you to your knees as a parent. Often it is in the act of raising our young that a light is definitively shone on the ungrown parts of ourselves. It seems that nobody can set us off or trigger us like our own children can. And yet, when the origins of these triggers are honestly explored, it becomes quickly apparent that it isn’t...

I’m so happy to have my friend, fellow mom, and one of the newest experts on Cityline, Lindsay Whisen, on this episode. Lindsay and I share a passion for helping people in difficult areas of their lives. Her company serves people by freeing them from energetically draining clutter and inefficiency. In our conversation we talk about the parallels of what we do, in that, both organizing and parenting have always been considered ‘women’s work’. In this day and age, many moms work and still have all the responsibilities at home. The problem? This is work that is expected of women, work that women ‘should’ know how to do (without any training, I might add), and is consistently undervalued. Join us for our discussion into this area and find some help and support for your ‘cluttered life’. 

About Lindsay Whisen

Lindsay is the founder and CEO of Ease Up - The Organizing Experts - a 5-year-old, award-winning company that provides teams of hands-on organizers for people suffering from clutter or disorganization - ultimately their work saves people from wasting time, energy and sanity.

Her passion for Ease Up runs deep as she considers it a feminist endeavor and because she knows first-hand the positive and powerful connection that being organized has with mental health.

Lindsay is passionate about the power of education, social justice, mental health awareness and the energy that is unleashed through being organized. 

Lindsay has a "fortune 500 family". She is grateful to be a parent of 2 good kids (ages 7 and 4) and she is tremendously proud of her marriage with Graham

Web: easeup.ca

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From the Podcast:

Check out Lindsay’s book recommendation: “Drop The Ball” by Tiffany Dufu

How many “French Onion Soup Bowls” do you have in your home?

Look at your space; go from room to room and look at all the ‘stuff’ you are storing. How much of it do you use and really need?

Action steps:

1) Have a bag or box in each closet, and as you notice clothes you/your kids don’t wear, clothes that don’t fit anymore and are worn out, put them in the box. You are doing a little each day so the task isn’t overwhelming. Once the box is full, you can review and give the things you really want to part with away.

2) set yourself up with a plan to do one room a week and remove those things you don’t use or need. Ask yourself, “Am I just storing this, or can I let it go?”

Guilt about giving things away?

Some people feel bad because of the money they have spent but reframing the way you look at it will help. Giving something away gives it a new life, blesses someone with something they need, and stops it from going to the landfill.

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to continue the conversation with me, head on over to www.facebook.com/parenting4connection With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism. We have too much of that! I honour each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be. My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

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In this episode, I talk about what empathy really is and how to use it in your parenting.  Use empathy when you have to say “no”, how to use it when your child is too young to name their emotions and how to use empathy for yourself!

Robbin is a Certified Parent Coach, author and speaker.  She works with parents from all over the world to help them build more connection and find more joy and cooperation to their parenting.

Robbin is a former ‘Angry Mom’ and for over 12 years, Robbin juggled a full-time corporate career while being a mom and wife, prior to becoming a Parenting Coach.  In her corporate career, Robbin has a background in marketing and public relations, training, and event planning. She understands firsthand how many moms struggle to balance work and family.

It’s because of her struggles as a parent that she found the world of peaceful parenting and has dedicated her life to teaching parents how to build a strong family, so their kids thrive. 

Robbin’s work focuses on building and strengthening the parent-child relationship so that children grow up with resilience, confidence and strong emotional intelligence.  She works with parents to help them understand their own emotions and frustrations in parenting, so they can help build their children’s sense of self without losing themselves in the process!

In October of 2018, Robbin released her first book, “The Yelling Cure – How to stress less and get your kids to cooperate without threats & punishments.” Her book is being read by parents all over the world 1000,000 copies sold to date.

Robbin divides her time working with her clients, speaking at events and spending time with her two boys and husband.  You can usually find her at a hockey rink or sports field cheering on her boys.  Most importantly, Robbin has changed the way she parents and connects with her sons and is dedicated to helping parents find the same joy, connection and cooperation in their families.

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Formula for Empathy:

Acknowledge/validate what they are feeling

• BECAUSE = 2-3 reasons why they might feel that way

Say this:

I get why you are feeling disappointed because

1. you wanted to stay longer,
2. you don’t want to go home and
3. you don’t want the fun to end.

Right?

If got it right, your child will say “yeah!”

Words of Empathy

It’s ok to be sad – I know you are sad and it’s ok to cry

I’ll stay with you until you feel better

This is really hard for you – I can see how hard this is for you

I’m here with you – I’ll stay with you

Tell me about it – tell me more

I hear you

That was really scary, sad, etc.

I will help you work it out

It doesn't feel fair

Emotion words from www.groktheworld.com:

http://www.groktheworld.com/sites/default/files/product-upload-files/Feelings%20Inventory_0.pdf

Don’t forget that empathy is also for YOU!!!

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to

continue the conversation with me, head on over to www.facebook.com/parenting4connection

With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that! I honour each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent

Want to add some new superpowers into your parenting?  My conversation with Adele Anderson, Certified Natural Medical Practitioner and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Coach and Trainer will help you to understand how our emotions are attached to our physiology and how we can use that knowledge to get more cooperation from our kids! 

About Adele Anderson DCH MNLP Coach

Graduate: Vancouver Academy Homeopathy

Anatomy & Physiology for Alternative Practitioners

Trainer: Neuro-Linguistics & New Code practitioner

Coach

At 27 I found myself trapped upside-down, drowning in water in a crashed plane. As my life flashed before my eyes, I knew without a doubt, I was out of breath and out of time. That life experience forever changed my perception and beliefs; about the power of the mind; and that choice exists even in life’s most dire circumstances.

Since that fateful day, I have made it my life mission. To understand the mind, conscious choice and empowerment.

For 20+ years I have practiced Natural Medicine, Neuroscience: Neuro-Linguistics programming and now New Code. I work with ages 4-80; 1:1 and with groups. Or study online: communication as a Superpower

Web: https://www.lifecoachadele.com 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Iamyourdestinycoach  Instagram: @adelemanderson 

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adeleandersondch

Podcast: Mind Your Freedom 

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Office: 604-885-0562

From the Podcast:

Personal trance words 

Ask your child to describe three things they love to do and listen/write down the words they use to describe them.  You will hear some of the same words being used.  These words bypass the conscious thinking words.  If you want to make something seem fun that they don't normally enjoy; use those words because this is how they describe fun activities.

Magic words

Stimulate a person’s imagination.  “I don’t have to tell you because you already know” which bypasses the resistant critical thinking part of brain.  Use words that activate their senses; (think of a lemon) or move their mind through time: before, beyond, during & after.

• “You would be surprised if…”
• “I know you want to bee seen as a kid who is (responsible, athletic, liked) 
• “You probably already know what time I want you home tonight”

Command words are task or operational words describe, explain, compare

• Now, (Stop)
• Use the child’s first and middle name
• “I really don’t know what you want me to do when you say (shut up).  Imagine how things would change/what would happen if you didn’t say that to your mom?  OR “imagine what life would be like if we didn’t have these kinds of conversations”
• “I don’t know” – drops your child’s resistance
• Adding “Really” is even stronger than “I don’t know” – “I really don’t know”
• Add because, also a power word, and link it to something important to them.  
• • “Imagine what it would be like to have harmony in our home because I know how much you love it when we are all happy and getting along”
  
  

Power words and phrases 

Raise your