I work with many people, including myself, who think "self-inquiry, or The Work of Byron Katie doesn't work for me!" 

I love finding out why. Over time, working with others, the little bumps and barriers along the way fall apart, or dissolve (that's the good news). 

There is nothing and no one who can't benefit from inquiring to the truth about their mind, if they want to.

I constantly criticized myself for an interesting moment from my past---trying to get my grandpa's approval, as well as be just as good as my sister, when I was ten years old. 

Who would you be without the belief you did it WRONG, because you sought approval? What if that was just YOU at the time?

I often notice I've thought being kind, nice, saying "yes" and being connected = best result. But what if you could be loving and connected, without physical contact? Who says you have to hang out with people forever? Or that it's success if you do? Listen here to how I handled a "no" and moved on, still appreciating the teacher who I learned to say "no" from!

I often want the nice comfy way. Can't we skip the hard parts of life? A little story about a moment I was, literally, hanging on the edge of a cliff face and couldn't get off.

When I was 8 my family moved far away from my home town and the home I had mostly known since I was a baby. It felt devastating, and like it's true you can never, ever go back and that it's painful to get rooted somewhere. I spent many years in my late teens and 20s having home of my own, thinking "home" was my parents house. You can question these kinds of beliefs, even if they don't seem devastating anymore. What beliefs do you have running, that you got from some old memory? Question it!

Money and the absence of it is often a terrible worse-case scenario in our experience. We've lost everything, we think about the stuff we once had, or the house, and how terrible we don't anymore. Or, about the horrible scenario we see in our future, if things keep going the way they do. Yikes. Fear and panic set in. Listen to my story about what I did, when I thought the worse case scenario was about to happen.

Death and dying is so painful, it can break our hearts into a million pieces. Listen as I share today my own experience of death, and a poem that both mends, and acknowledges, the dark and beautiful sadness of death.

The turnaround to #6 in The Work of Byron Katie is often somewhat jolting. The way we're turning around our thoughts is to consider being willing to experience something terrible, and even looking forward to what we think is terrible. But this doesn't mean you have to like it. Here's how.

Sometimes that mind is so tricky, it will make even a great principle like "Be Here Now" into a project. "GET INTO THE PRESENT MOMENT!!" it will scream. So how do you work with that dictator mind? Let's explore how.

Debra Wilkinson shares with us in this beautiful interview about how she made friends with the past, and learned to truly take care of herself with acceptance and joy....and no longer feels anxiety in the present.