Love is the power podcast

This week’s episode takes a look at the stories we have about stories. Sometimes, in its precious eagerness to ‘get it right’ the mind jumps ahead and asks, “Isn’t the turnaround just another story?” And sometimes we believe that and become obsessed with what Byron Katie calls pretending ourselves beyond our own evolution. We assume that we should be constantly living in the blissed-out, meditative, formless perfection that we so often get to experience in question four of The Work. But in this episode we explore that idea and its accompanying implication, “Life is a race.”

This week’s episode is an inquiry into the thought, “I need to keep myself alive.” Something that’s easy to believe, and something we react to in small and large ways. From obsessively feeding the body to attempting to protect ourselves from emotions like disappointment or fear (ironically by living in constant pre-emptive fear), we’re unearthing what the life experience is like when we assume keeping ourselves alive is just part of the job description in this life. This entrenched belief can come from a fear of not existing, and cause us to hold on for dear life to a “who I am,” but could it be that it’s enough to just notice ~that~ we are? And where might that experience lead?

This week we’re exploring the thought, “I could do or be Me wrong.” What happens when we believe this? Does it give rise to self-condemnation, worry, and defence? A sense of having to constantly prove that I’m not doing ‘me’ wrong? It could be that this belief is a major player in a lot of scary stories we tell about ourselves. And what is it like without this thought? What do you notice as you follow along?

In this week’s episode, we revisit a group inquiry into the thought, “I can waste…[fill in the blank].” It’s a popular belief held by most of us in one way or another. We believe we can waste time, energy, money, food, resources and a litany of other things, but as Tom puts it: what if the nature of the Universe is limitless? Meaning “wasting” could be a non-issue. Sound like a fantasy? Let’s find out.

This week Tom leads a simple yet powerful exploration: What are some of the stressful stories you tell about yourself? “I’m not good enough.” “I don’t fit in.” “I’m just an anxious person.” “I’m too much, too intense.” And why not open it up to life? “Life is too difficult.” “Life is out to get me.” “Life is short (and therefore I can get it wrong).” How can we believe these stories without experiencing ourselves as limited and defective, and life as cruel and punishing? As Tom puts it, “Notice how perfectly you live whatever you’re believing.” What kind of world might we experience if we’re open to new ways of seeing ourselves and life?

Have you ever noticed living in a perpetual state of “no”? Pushing against what we don’t want, declaring we never want this, that or the other to happen… Sometimes we hang onto this belief out of fear that if we let go, everything we aren’t interested in experiencing will rush into our lives right away. This week, we’re having a good look at our To-Not-Do lists and seeing if we really need them to run our lives. And because open means open, we also look at the idea of certain desires or goals being “unspiritual” and the idea that we must get to a place of perfect peace about all life circumstances in order to make a change. Could it be that there are no limitations whatsoever in reality?

In an exploration of what Tom calls “feeling the burn” – the sensation of embarrassment at a memory that disrupts our self-importance – what comes up is a beautiful inquiry into the treasured story “I am a loser.” While there is so much pain and self-condemnation in believing that, there is also a significant payout of never having to compete. Join in from wherever you are on the popcorn-style inquiry that ensues as we free ourselves of the notion that life is a competition.

How do you react when you believe that you have to hold onto something—anything? Does it bring peace or stress into your life? In this episode, we’re exploring the mind’s tendency to want to hold onto things. We’re looking at what we think we’re holding onto (a happy life, health, harmony, joy) versus what we really hold onto (fear, scarcity, anxiousness) with this belief. We hold onto this holding on in relation to the future, but when does that future actually arrive? When do we stop forgoing peace now in favor of an imaginary peaceful ‘someday’? Might it be that when we allow the letting go, we allow ourselves to open to the flow of a magical, limitless universe? Let’s find out.

This week we’re looking at not just accepting reality exactly as it is, but welcoming it wholeheartedly. A common argument of the mind against this peaceful way of being is “But if I love everything as it is, I won’t ever be motivated to make a change!” This is especially convincing when looking at the wider scope of the world and all its events. Dive into this meditation on the sense of dependence on anything external (the government, the body, success, relationships, food, approval, etc) for our sense of safety and wellbeing. We have lots of data from experimenting with resistance. What’s welcoming like?

In the world of gaining and losing, one of the main things we hold tightly to is the health of the physical body. We believe it’s something we can lose if we have it, or something we can strive for if we don’t. Either way, this belief creates an intense experience of fear and not-okayness. One of the sub-questions in The Work is “What physical sensations arise when you believe that thought?” In this week’s exploration of what Tom calls “The Myth of Death,” we’re exploring the possibility that health might have nothing to do with the physical body, and everything to do with what we think.