Peaceful Ease

Fear. We all have it. But how we deal with it sets us apart.

Do you trust your ability to face your fears? Or, do you rather spend your life in your comfort zone.

In this episode, Ela talks about a challenge she set for herself to face her fears. She explains how such a confrontation shaped her, and what she learned coming out of it.

If you are interested in changing your approach to fearful situations life may bring about, this episode is for you!

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Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway, by Susan Jeffers

Are you perfectionist enough to consider perfectionism a good trait, a necessity for success?

Listen as Ela explains harmful aspects of perfectionist tendencies: dissatisfaction, procrastination, self-sabotage, low self-esteem — and how these patterns influence our lives.

She also guides us through a 3-question activity so that we can ease these negative tendencies in our life and relationships.

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Self Compassion, Dr Kristen Neff

Today we revisit Episode 5, where we talked about letting emotions into the ‘Guest House’ that we are, and treating them as temporary visitors, nothing more.

In this episode, Ela focuses on how to let these emotions back out again. She reads a powerful poem that describes what this letting go process may look like and then shares some tips to help your letting process.

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She Let Go, Safire Rose

In this episode Ela introduces us to a fascinating therapy technique that she has recently added to her own self-development journey. It is called Internal Family Systems, or IFS. 

This therapy is based on the theory that we are made up of numerous sub-personalities. These sub-personalities are like roommates in a house. They are always there with us but we aren’t always aware of them.

Listen as Ela shares her experience with this work. She has met 14 different ‘Elas’ and she describes the different roommates living within her.

Let's see how many roommates you will discover as you listen to this episode.

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The Body Keeps The Score, Bessel van der Kolk

In this episode we listen to a voicemail from a listener, Susy, who recently had some one-on-one sessions with Ela. Susy shares her feelings about her work with Ela, and describes the impact of these sessions on her life. 

Susy's message leads on to a discussion about human connection and whether we may have already met before in some form, whether it is in this lifetime or another.

Have you ever experienced a deep connection when you met someone for the first time? If so, this episode is for you.

Are you aware of the foundation on which your self-growth journey is based on?

In this episode, we have a listener question which asks about the role intention plays in personal development.

Listen as Ela guides you to become more aware of your ‘why’ for wanting to grow. In order to choose the right path on your journey of personal development, a positive foundation should be in place. One that come from aspiration and inspiration, not self-dislike.

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Nathaniel Branden

If you were walking down the street and saw $20 lying on the ground, would you pick it up thinking it was the universe offering it to you? Or, would you leave it thinking it is not yours to take?

This question forms the basis of this episode. Listen as Ela and Mario explain what they would do in this situation and the reasons for it.

How well do you know your intentions?

In this episode Ela dives deeper into the topic that was covered in Episode 7: Transforming Your Inner-Critic into Inner-Coach.

Listen as Ela guides you through a deep process, which she uses in her workshops. She will ask you questions around the negative thoughts you have about yourself, and provide you with tools to turn these negative impressions into positive actions.

Have your pen and paper ready for this episode. It is time to become friends with your inner-critic!

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The focus of this episode is a poem, Love After Love, by Derrick Walcott. This poem is all about shaking hands with yourself and becoming a supportive friend to yourself.

You can't truly love others unless you genuinely love yourself, says Ela. So, the journey starts with you. You can be kind and inspiring to others when you treat yourself in the same way.

At the end of the episode, Ela will leave you with a question, which will have you discover what a great friend you could be to yourself.

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Love After Love, Derrick Walcott

The Four Immeasurables, Alan Wallace