welcome back to Tuesday Musings.Hi I’m Juli Peaceful Healer, and lets explore the gentle art of unlearning.
It’s lovely to be here with you again. I’ve been sitting with something lately — not just as a concept, but as a lived experience.
I’ve noticed quite a few thoughts and reflections lately — in books, online spaces, even in quiet conversations — all circling around this word: unlearning.
And it made me pause.
What does it really mean to unlearn?
Why would we even want to?
And how do we begin to untangle what we’ve spent a lifetime collecting?
For me, it’s been less about forgetting facts or throwing away everything I’ve known…and more about gently loosening the stories I’ve told myself.
Stories like:— “I need to be the one who knows.”— “I should have it all together by now.”— “If I don’t have the answer, I’m somehow not enough.”
These aren’t truths.They’re old beliefs I wrapped around myself like a safety blanket… until they started to suffocate.
So lately, I’ve been quietly — and sometimes clumsily — unlearning the urge to fix, to perform, to always be wise and composed.
And instead… I’m learning to be real.
To say:“I don’t know.”“I’m not sure.”“I’m still finding my way.”
And you know what? That’s not weakness.That’s freedom.
Because in the space where I stop clinging to what I thought I had to be —a truer self begins to emerge.
One who breathes more easily.One who feels more deeply.One who trusts the unknown just a little more.
So maybe unlearning is really remembering — who we were before we thought we had to be so much.
✨ Pause here — let this moment breathe. You can gently offer a reflective question:
What might you be ready to unlearn?
What belief, expectation, or story no longer fits the version of yourself you’re growing into?
Let’s just take a moment to breathe into that now.
[Optional: include soft background music or a short breath cue]
Take a gentle breath in...And as you exhale, imagine releasing one small weight you've been carrying.
No need to name it perfectly. Just let it soften.
Here’s something that’s been helping me:
"I am allowed to let go of what no longer serves me.In the quiet of unlearning, I find my truest self."
Say that again, if it resonates:I am allowed to let go. I am allowed to be new.
Unlearning is tender work.It’s not a grand declaration. It’s a quiet, everyday courage.To choose presence over performance.Curiosity over certainty.And softness over self-protection.
And the more I lean into it, the more I discover that being “the knower” isn’t where peace lives.Peace lives in the being.Peace lives in the breath, the pause, the willingness to not have it all figured out.
Before we close today, I’ll leave you with this beautiful quote from Caroline Myss:
“The soul often knows what to do to heal.The challenge is to silence the mind long enough to listen.”
So today, let’s listen — not to the noise of the world, but to the whisper within.And if something’s ready to be unlearned, trust that you’ll know.Not in your head — but in your heart.
Thanks for being here.I’m walking this with you.
See you next Tuesday.
Namaste my friend
Peaceful Healer
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