Plan Simple with Mia Moran

I have gotten myself into some scheduling disasters by overgiving, and I know I’m not the only woman who has this issue. This minisode is some of the ways I have learned to both give and receive differently and how I think about giving and receiving when planning.

“Oracle cards are always on point in the most magical way —even when you don’t see it at first.”

–Mia Moran

Let’s talk about oracle cards! Whether you're a seasoned oracle card puller, or just dipping your toes into the mystical waters, oracle cards offer a simple yet profound way to connect with your intuition and the wisdom of the universe. They are one of my favorite tools!

Oracle cards bring intuition, joy, and fun to the planning process — so much so there are prompts for oracle cards throughout the FLOW planner. The funny thing is Oracle cards are always on point in the most magical way —even when you don’t see it at first. 

What Are Oracle Cards?

Oracle cards are decks of cards featuring images, symbols, and messages designed to provide guidance and inspiration. Unlike tarot cards, which follow a structured system, you have more flexibility and freedom in interpreting oracle cards. Each deck is unique, and there is a deck (or many) for everyone. 

Why Use Oracle Cards?

Oracle cards are not about predicting the future or receiving definitive answers; they're a tool for tapping into your own inner wisdom. Oracle cards invite us to embrace the magic and mystery of life. They can help us: 

• Gain Clarity: Oracle cards can provide perspective on various aspects of your life, helping you see situations from a new angle.
• Connect with Intuition: Through the process of using oracle cards, you strengthen your intuition and learn to trust your inner guidance.
• Receive Validation: The messages you receive from oracle cards often validate your feelings, experiences, or decisions, reassuring you that you're on the right path.
• Find Inspiration: Oracle cards are a wellspring of inspiration, offering fresh insights and ideas to fuel your personal growth journey.

You need to trust that the right card always shows up for you.

How to Use Oracle Cards

1. Set Your Intention: Are you asking for a theme for your week? Are you pulling 4 cards? If yes, which spread are you choosing? Clear your mind and focus your energy on your intention. 
2. Shuffle the Cards: Shuffle the deck while concentrating on your question or intention. Some people like to shuffle while silently repeating their question or focusing on their breath. Trust that the right cards will come forth at the right time.
3. Draw Your Card or Cards: When you feel ready, draw one or multiple cards from the deck. Trust your intuition when selecting the cards. Each Friday in FLOW365, I pull 4 cards. I post them, and many women print them and paste them into their planner. You can take a photo and do the same. We have one FLOW365er who draws them in her planner.
4. Interpret the Messages: Take a moment to study the images and messages on the cards you've drawn. Notice any intuitive nudges or gut feelings that arise as you look at each card. The meanings may not always be obvious, but trust that the universe is communicating with you in a way that resonates with your inner wisdom. Many decks come with a guidebook. After you’ve examined the card itself, read about the card in the guidebook to see what other insights arise. 
5. Reflect and Act: Reflect on the messages you've received and how they relate to your situation. Some cards like the weekly or daily one, I reflect in my planner. Sometimes I pivot my focus, or see a new way to navigate obstacles. 

Creating a Seasonal Spread

There is a place in the FLOW planner to plan the season at a glance. One way I like to use this page is to draw a card for each week and record it on the season-at-a-glance page.

Then I go back each week and examine and interpret each week’s card. Even if you don’t know what the card means when you draw it, you will have new insight when you get to that week. 

On the show, I actually draw some cards and show more ways we use them in FLOW365. Check it out:

https://plansimple.com/podcast/

LINKS

• Hear Your Intuition with Heather Dressell
• FLOW Planner
• The Space for Magic Oracle Deck

“The unshaming process is bringing out into the forefront all of that stuff that we're telling ourselves, because shame is really saying that there's something wrong with me. By naming it out loud, we're taking all of the wind out of its sails.”  –Kamini Wood

Are you holding yourself back without even realizing it?  I’m really excited to talk with Kamini Wood, a certified life coach, about limiting beliefs. She shows us how to reign in people pleasing and perfectionism and overcome the beliefs we have that hold us back.

We see a lot of people pleasing and perfectionism in the PlanSimple community, so we started there. Kamini says that overcoming people pleasing starts with getting clear about your needs and values. When you’ve reconnected with that you can begin to realign your actions and step out of the people pleasing role.

Then pay attention to your body. It may take a little time to learn your own cues, but notice what happens when you start people pleasing. Practice self-talk to see what’s happening and what you really want. Kamini recommends actually talking aloud to yourself. It feels weird at first, but it’s important.

We talk about: 

• Perfectionism and “next-ing” 
• Separating out values you were brought up with to what is really meaningful to you now
• Why we avoid boundaries … and why we need them
• Learning how to hold boundaries (it’s something we need to learn!)
• Shaming ourselves and the unshaming process
• Helping kids navigate perfectionism and people pleasing

ABOUT KAMINI

Kamini Wood, a certified life coach, helps high-achievers heal their relationships with themselves. She helps people take courageous steps in identifying limiting beliefs, reasons for stagnation and overcoming self-doubt in order to live a fulling professional and personal life.

Kamini is a best-selling author; holding certifications in various modalities including life, wellness, high-performance coaching, teen life, conscious uncoupling, calling in the one, new money story, breath work, meditation and diversity, equity inclusion, and belonging. She is also trained in conscious parenting and coaching for children.

LINKS

• https://www.kaminiwood.com/
• Instagram: itsauthenticme/
• Pinterest: @itsauthenticme/
• Podcast: RiseUp - Live Joy Your Way Kamini Wood

DOABLE CHANGES

At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Action is where change happens.

Even though we want big change, it’s really little things done over and over that make the difference. So pick a doable thing. Put it in your calendar. Weave it through your days for a week and then move on to the next one. It will have a snowball effect.

Here are three Doable Changes from this conversation:

• IDENTIFY YOUR NEEDS. The first step to break out of people pleasing is to recognize your own needs and values. Take some time to think about what you actually need, believe and value yourself. This can be an ongoing process. You can start by asking yourself questions like: What’s going on here? Is this something you actually want to do? Is this really what you agree with? Pay attention to values you were brought up with. Ask if they fit you now.
• SET AND KEEP BOUNDARIES. You can set and keep boundaries with others and with yourself. It’s helpful when setting boundaries to ask: Why am I setting this boundary? What is the value I have in this boundary? Why is this meaningful to me? Knowing that can help you hold firm when things get rough. Even if you fail to hold firm on a boundary, you can try again.
• TALK TO YOURSELF. Kamini recommends actually talking aloud to yourself. When you say aloud the things you say to yourself in your head, you hear them and realize they are not okay. At the same time, when you say a boundary aloud, you are witnessing it for yourself. Practice talking aloud to yourself.

“Honor the breath for being able to bring you through the journey that is meant for you in that moment.”

–Jen Murray

Breathe! Your breath can save you—really.  I’m so excited to talk with Jen Murray, the founder of the High Vibe Healing Collective, about breathwork. Jen talks about letting go of the trapeze and leaping into entrepreneurship and how breath saved them.

It’s important to have lots of tools at our disposal when you are in spaces that are difficult. Breathwork is one of those tools. Breathwork is both simple and complex. I love the way Jen describes it as both a simple practice you can do daily and an opportunity to go on a journey. At the end, Jen ties it to astrology too — another tool for your tool box.

Jen says, “Your body will go to the level of safety that you create for it, and it will also use your breath in a way that nourishes and invites you in.” Let’s see what we can invite in with our breath.

We talk about: 

• Four portals breathwork can open up
• You body taking what it needs from breathwork
• Conscious connected breath — a non-athletic breath, with not holding at top or bottom
• Breath of belonging and breath groups
• Breathwork opening up creativity and productivity
• How to bring astrology and breathwork together

ABOUT JEN

Jen Murray (they/them) is the Founder of the High Vibe Healing Collective, using their lived experiences as a white-bodied, queer, loving mama, to breathe new ways of being and belonging. They emphasize inclusivity and conscious co-creation of embodied wellness, uplifting LGBTQ+ communities and inspiring heart-aligned leadership for a more justice-oriented world. Jen sparks joy-filled, loving, cosmically divine communities with a passion for social justice and accountability.

LINKS

• linkedin.com/in/jen-murray-healthequity   
• www.linkedin.com/company/high-vibe-healing-collective-llc/  
• https://highvibehealingcollective.com/

DOABLE CHANGES

At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Action is how change happens.

Often we feel like our actions have to be huge to match the bigness of our desires, but we have seen over and over and over again that the little things add up. By stacking up a series of Doable Changes, you will create that big change that you crave. Choose the one that really resonates with you this week and really make it part of your life. 

Here are Three Doable Changes from this conversation:

• DAILY BREATH PRACTICE. You can have both a daily breath practice and go on a journey with breathwork. Choose a daily practice, box breath or another specific breath. Schedule time to do it daily. You only need a few minutes. See what happens when you make it a regular part of your day.
• BREATHE CONSCIOUSLY. We all have to breathe, and fortunately we don’t have to think about it all the time. That said spending time consciously breathing can make a difference. What happens if you bring attention and consciousness to your breath?
• TRY A GUIDED BREATHWORK JOURNEY. Breathwork can take us on a journey. Let a breathwork facilitator take you through breathwork and see where it takes you. Remember and trust that breath will take you where you need to go in the moment.

“Every mom has the power to create a beautiful harmonious environment for her children, regardless of what the other parent is doing.”

–Mikki Gardner

Calmer co-parenting? Yes, please! Mikki Gardner is dedicated to helping moms co-parent confidently and well. You’re not going to agree 100% of the time, but you can co-parent calmly whether you are married, divorced, separated, or working with grandparents or others. Whether you're deciding to leave a marriage, you've already left a marriage, or you're in a marriage, there’s a lot in this conversation for you.

Mikki believes that when moms do the work to protect their wellbeing, to cultivate their own calmness, and to reclaim the freedom that they are really after, it helps not only them, but those around them. Part of that is being responsible, not reactive.

Her three step process for that is awareness, agency, and aligned action. It’s a simple process, but not easy. We talk through what it looks like to actually do it with kids or partners or exes and the other triggers life throws our way.

We talk about: 

• Pausing to take a breath and figure out what’s really going on
• The real options—to accept, change, or leave things—when we think we have no choice
• Getting out of the nasty-gram cycle
• Noticing what being triggered or activated feels like in your body
• The benefits and shadow side of people pleasing
• Making decisions from a grounded place within yourself—you already know

ABOUT MIKKI

Mikki Gardner is a certified life and conscious parenting coach. Driven by her own struggles of overcoming divorce, Mikki helps moms move past the divorce drama and conflict to become calm, confident co-parents, even without their ex’s participation. Mikki is the host of Co-Parenting with Confidence and the author of The People Pleasers Guide to Co-Parenting Well.

LINKS

• mikkigardner.com
• Instagram @mikkigardner

DOABLE CHANGES

At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Change comes from action. 

Doable changes are things that you can add into your life, one at a time to make micro shifts and really create a ripple effect that will create a big change over time. Choose one that really piques your interest and roll with it. 

Here are three Doable Changes from this conversation:

• NOTICE WHAT BEING TRIGGERED FEELS LIKE. Get back in touch with your body. We experience being triggered or activated in different ways. When you know what it feels like in your body, you can use that sign to help you learn to respond instead of reacting. The first step, this doable change is simply noticing how it feels and trying to recognize.
• PAUSE AND BREATHE. Reaction may not take you where you want to go. Pause and breathe. Take time to assess what’s really happening. (It’s often not the first thing you jump to.) Then choose how you want to respond.
• ACCEPT, CHANGE, OR LEAVE. Next time you feel like you have no choice in a situation, use these options. Can you accept the situation? Can you change it? Can you leave it?

“I think it’s a big myth that relationships should be easy, or because I love my partner, it should be easier.”

–Stacey Curnow

Why are relationships so hard? We think they should be easy, but we’re primed from an early age to have trouble. Stacey Curnow is a family counselor and the author of Repair Your Relationships, and we dive into the why behind that — and how we can fix it — in this conversation.

It comes down to our nervous system. If we feel unsafe, we go one of four ways: fight, flight, freeze or collapse. When our nervous system gets dysregulated nothing good comes of it, so Stacey helps us think through what we need to create calm.

One person in a relationship can work on their attachment wounds, but when everyone is doing the work, it goes faster and better.

We talk about: 

• Getting out of a blame cycle
• Intergenerational trauma from a shamanic and neuroscience lens
• Moving away from attack and defense to curiosity
• Tara Brach’s RAIN meditation as a tool 
• Collaboration and understanding priorities even if you disagree
• Prioritizing calm

ABOUT Stacey

Stacey Curnow is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor (LCMHC) and owner of Asheville Family Counseling. She specializes in helping people heal attachment trauma and enjoy more connection and happiness in their most important relationships. She's spent years learning and sharing about how to make relationships stronger and more loving with a unique mixture of cutting-edge science and ancient wisdom. She's on a mission to help people have happier and healthier relationships, and her counseling practice, books, and online programs are a big part of that mission.

LINKS

• Stacey’s book: https://staceycurnow.com/book/
• Stacey’s relationship fire drill
• Stacey & Asheville Family Counseling on Facebook @StaceyCurnow
• Stacey on Facebook
• Stacey on Instagram @ashvillefamilycounseling

DOABLE CHANGES

At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Action is where change happens.

Even though we want big change, it’s really little things done over and over that make the difference. So pick a doable thing. Put it in your calendar. Weave it through your days for a week and then move on to the next one. It will have a snowball effect.

• PRIORITIZE CALM. What do you need to do when your nervous system gets dysregulated? Stacey offers some examples: going for a walk, calling a friend, taking a bath, taking three deep breaths. There are of course many other options. The important one is knowing what works for you. If you don’t know, try out one of these options the next time you feel yourself losing your cool. If it doesn’t work, try another one. Write prioritize calm places where you will see it regularly to remind you to use your calming strategies.
• TRY THE RAIN PRACTICE. Try Tara Brach’s RAIN practice. Here’s how she explains it: Recognize what is happening; Allow the experience to be there, just as it is; Investigate with interest and care; Nurture with self-compassion.
• UNDERSTAND PRIORITY CONCERNS. You may disagree with your partner in a certain situation, but see if you can understand each other’s priority concerns. For example, is your priority safety, fairness, learning, health …? That understanding gives you a different place to address the issue.

“We're so afraid to trust the magic that can happen when we set an intention of connecting with ourselves.”

–Katie Bramlett

What does kindness have to do with weight loss? What happens when we back off the number on the scale and start with questions like: What do you hope to get from weight loss? Is it something that you could get now without weight loss? What have you tried in the past? Are you just trying the same thing in a different package and expecting a different result?

With so many people with weight loss and exercise goals right now,  I’m so excited to share this conversation with Katie Bramlett, the co-founder of WeShape, a home work out company that focuses on mind-body connection, mindful movement, and mental shifts.

One of the main goals Katie has for clients is to turn up the internal voice — not the one that shames you, your real internal voice that tells you what you need. At the same time, turn down the dial on the external voice, what the world tells you that you need.

We talk about: 

• How to find motivation for exercise if the scale isn’t your reason and continuing to unravel body shame and hatred
• Starting from the questions: how do you feel? What does your body need today? 
• Getting out of the “I don’t have time” mindset (even when your calendar is packed)
• The magic of setting intentions related to self-kindness
• What happens when you have health reasons to be thinking about weight loss 
• Focusing on a physical goal, not a specific weight

ABOUT KATIE

Katie Bramlett is the CEO and Co-Founder of WeShape. With a background in Psychology and excellent skills with Infrastructure and Operations, Katie concentrates on the goal that you should strive to feel better in your body, not focusing on how to change your body. With over 20 years of experience, Katie is passionate about social change and is leading WeShape’s brand mission of bringing awareness to the toxic weight loss culture. Her entire company and product is rooted in intention, movement, community, and beliefs. She aims to help people bring self love and emotional intelligence to fitness and to create self awareness through meaningful conversations. Katie and her team deliver customized training and nutrition plans and provide each member with personalized workouts.

LINKS

Special offer: WeShape.com/plansimple for a free 14-day trial of WeShape

• Website: https://www.weshape.com
• Youtube
• Instagram @weshape.wellness 
• Tiktok handle:weshape
• Facebook @WeShape 
• Apple Podcasts

MENTIONED LINKS

• Fat Positive with Nicola Salmon

DOABLE CHANGES

At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Change comes from action. 

Doable changes are things that you can add into your life, one at a time to make micro shifts and really create a ripple effect that will create a big change over time. Choose one that really piques your interest and roll with it. 

Here are three Doable Changes from this conversation:

• START WITH WHAT YOUR BODY WANTS. Instead of putting “workout” or “yoga” or “hike” on you daily schedule, start the day asking what your body wants. Do you need to be outside? Do you need something gentle? Do you have a lot of energy? Choose your movement from that point.
• MAKE MINI MOVEMENT HAPPEN. How often do you think, “I don’t have an hour to work out?” Try asking where can I fit in 5 minutes of movement? Could I do that more than once today? You can pair this with starting what your body wants.
• SET AN INTENTION OF SELF-KINDNESS. Choose to be kind to yourself today. You could start by notice when you are self-shaming or when your inner voice is unkind. If you really listen, you may realize that voice is not your own, but somebody else’s. Practice speaking kindly to yourself.

“If your intention is aligned with how you feel, then magic will happen.”

–Erica Cordeiro

What if there was a shortcut to releasing the things holding you back? I’m really excited to talk with Erica Cordeiro, an energy medicine practitioner, about the Body Code. I’ve worked with the Body Code for a few years now, and it’s amazing — as is Erica’s story.

Erica’s story really demonstrates that we all have a chance to change and shift and be our most authentic selves and find our purpose. We can get past the pain and shame of our own and our ancestors. You have to hear it from her. 

Erica explains that everything is just energy. Emotions are just energy, and sometimes we trap that energy and it wreaks havoc in our bodies and holds us back. The Body Code is a way out.

We talk about: 

• Healing illnesses and physical ailments 
• Breathing through and not trapping emotions
• The belief code and clearing limiting beliefs
• Clearing layers to be able to take the next step
• Releasing shame through the Body Code
• How energies of shame, guilt, and fear can hold us back, and the magic that can happen when we release them.

ABOUT ERICA

Erica Cordeiro is an Energy Medicine Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Breathwork Facilitator & Goddess Yoga teacher who specializes in helping female entrepreneurs heal limiting beliefs, release trapped emotions and expand their energetic wealth containers through a divine feminine lens. She is also launching a podcast called “Sexy & Wealthy Podcast” where she talks about things from motherhood, spirituality, manifestation, and everything in between.

LINKS

• https://www.alignwitherica.com/
• Instagram @alignwithErica

MENTIONED LINKS

• It Didn’t Start with You

DOABLE CHANGES

At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Action is where change happens. 

But here's the thing: when we have a goal, a wish, a desire bubbling up in us, it can feel really huge. Sometimes we stop ourselves in our tracks based on how huge our desire feels. Change needs action, but it doesn't need huge action. When we focus on the next step, the next Doable Change that we can integrate into our lives, we don’t get stuck and we create momentum. 

Choose one Doable Change that resonates with you today and really play with it. Fit it into your life, your days, make it work for you — then move on to your next Doable Change.

• MAP YOUR WAY TO HERE. We don’t want to get stuck in our past, but sometimes it helps to see how you got where you are now. All of your experiences have created the version of you right now. Map it out. Be proud of yourself.
• TRY BODY CODE. You might go to it for a physical ailment like migraines or something like money mindset. It can help release many things that show up in our bodies or blocks in our lives. Remember, it’s not a one and done kind of thing, but each session can help peel back a layer.
• STOP TRAPPING EMOTIONS. Trapped emotions are trapped energy that can wreak havoc in our bodies and lives. Try breathing through your big emotions and reminding yourself not to trap it.

“Space care is a form of self care.”

–Ashley Moon

We’re all swimming in STUFF! I see so many people in FLOW365 and in other circles who want to declutter, downsize, and get their space in order. So I’m really excited to talk with decluttering specialist Ashley Moon.

Ashley suggests that we start by taking stock of how you feel about your space. Do you love it or do you hate it or somewhere in the middle? Are you able to nourish yourself, to rest, to nurture relationships? Another way to look at that is what is the purpose of each room — and does it fulfill that purpose?

Then you follow this three step process: sort, purge, organize. It’s simple, but it’s not easy. Don’t worry — Ashley gives specific suggestions for how to actually follow this system. And she shares the arc of decluttering and how to maintain a decluttered and organized house.

We talk about:

• Easy entry points like setting a timer, and leaving time for wrap up so you don’t have to start from scratch again or sorting by person and putting away things that have a home as a starting point
• Notice your stories and feelings during the purge/decision phase
• Try not to be a perfectionist about deciding how to get rid of things
• Having a body double, accountability partner, or coach to keep you going
• Sorting into subcategories to help you make decisions — like sorting books into fiction or nonfiction, or tackling all your workout clothes, but not your other clothes in one session
• How to tackle clutter in a shared space when not all of the stuff is yours

ABOUT ASHLEY

Ashley Moon is one of today’s top decluttering specialists, with an in-person team serving Greater Los Angeles and virtual support available worldwide. Ashley began organizing as a teenager in the late 1990’s, joined a declutter team in 2005, and started her own business, Creatively Neat, in 2011. 

They’ve helped hundreds of homes and businesses look, feel, and function more beautifully and optimally. They love the art and power of decluttering- for it can offer us so much physically, mentally, and emotionally. 

From an episode of Hoarders to managing moves for bigtime celebrities, and everything in between, Ashley has seen it all and enjoys helping people create neater lives!

LINKS

• Website: creativelyneat.com
• Instagram: @CreativelyNeat
• Free Decluttering Guide & other resources

DOABLE CHANGES

At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Action is where change happens.

Even though we want big change, it’s really little things done over and over that make the difference. So pick a doable thing. Put it in your calendar. Weave it through your days for a week and then move on to the next one. It will have a snowball effect. 

Here are three Doable Changes from this conversation:

• PUT AWAY THINGS THAT HAVE A HOME. Want to declutter a space? Start by putting away anything that has a home. Move dishes from your desk to the kitchen sink. Throw away trash. Put books back on the shelf. Hang up your sweater. Once you do that, you can work through other categories of sort/purge/organize.
• FIND A DECLUTTERING PARTNER. You and a friend could both declutter on Zoom for a set time together. Or get together and have somebody help you go through your closet. Having a buddy can help you stick to the task and make decisions.
• SORT ONE CATEGORY. Pick one category, break it into subcategories. Then sort and purge. For example, you could choose clothes and go through all your pants or all your workout clothes or all your shoes. Do the whole subcategory and focus on another one the next time you declutter.

In today's show, I'm excited to share the Flow Planning Method, a five-step process I've developed to help you center, envision, decide, anchor in time, and follow through on your life goals. This method is designed to bring clarity and balance to the four key areas of life: food and wellness (F), lifestyle (L), om aka spirituality and self-care (O), and work (W). Learn more about FLOW365 at https://plansimple.com/flow365

Join me as I guide you through actionable steps to implement the Flow Planning Method and hear how FLOW365 takes it all to the next level. Let's make every day balanced together! 🌟

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