Plan Simple with Mia Moran

Living from passion and purpose isn't so much a destination as an attitude towards life.

–Natalie Matushenko

What’s your purpose? Are you living it or are you living somebody else’s dream? Lately women in FLOW365 have been grappling with purpose, so it seemed like a good time to talk with Natalie Matushenko, a friend and a coach who is obsessed with purpose. 

Natalie was living a life that looked like she had it all: flying around the world working on multi-million dollar projects for the World Bank. The money was good. She had six weeks of vacation … and she hated what she did. So she decided to travel through Southeast Asia for a year. During that time, she realized that she didn’t have to spend her life doing something she didn’t want to do. 

She found herself surrounded by other people who weren’t loving what they were doing, who wanted a way out. Natalie is a dreamer and big thinker trained to think systematically, and she came up with a seven-step process to figure out what your passion and purpose is. She’s been teaching it for years.

We talk about: 

• How hard it is to get out of the boxes we were raised in (but it’s possible!)
• What parenting takes out of you and how you can choose your own path
• Using quiet, meditation, and journaling to figure out who you are then taking action on the things that speak to you (I need to make space for art)
• Purpose being something you are willing to suffer or struggle for
• Getting past the idea of selfish and remembering that we when we follow our intuition and dreams we give our kids permission to be themselves and teach them they deserve to follow their inner voice
• Focusing on creating the life that fulfills you and makes you happy — not trying to change others.

BIO

Natalie Matushenko helps soulful, ambitious and multi-passionate women uncover their purpose and start passion-driven businesses. She’s been on her own journey to explore the changes in life after 40. Natalie has created her dream life and believes that anybody can do it! She left a high-flying career in international development to pursue her own version of success. She has lived in the US, Colombia, Ukraine, Spain and Italy and has traveled extensively to over 50 countries. She speaks English, Spanish and Russian fluently and can get by in French. Natalie is passionate about learning from different cultures, creating community, being in nature and creative expression. She volunteers with several organizations that focus on the empowerment of women. Natalie currently splits her time between Colombia, South America and the United States and spends a couple months a year traveling the world with her husband and three daughters.

LINKS

• https://nataliematushenko.com/
• Uncovering Purpose with Natalie Matushenko
• Life After 40 with Natalie Matushenko

Doable Changes from this episode:

• ASK WHAT AM I MEANT TO KNOW? Ask the question: What am I meant to know? Spend a few minutes meditating, focusing on breath, or simply sitting quietly with that question. Then journal, briefly your response. This starts the process of bringing you within, of connecting to yourself and your yearnings and your desires
• TAKE ONE STEP. Getting a better sense of what you want is great, but the real magic comes when you act. That’s what doable changes are all about. You don’t have to pick up your life and move to another country. You don’t have to quit your job. If that’s your next step, go for it, but you can also take a small, next step: Sign up for an art class; Email somebody you want to connect with; Schedule time to work on your book; Take a walk or plan tomorrow’s healthy breakfast … Pick one step to do. Do it. Then the next one.
• REMEMBER WHAT USED TO LIGHT YOU UP. Not sure what makes you happy? Meditation and journaling might reveal something. Taking a step or two toward something you think might make you happy might help. Another option is to think back to childhood. What used to light you up? What if you try doing that? Don’t think about monetizing it or how it fits into big goals. Just try it and see how it feels. Is it something you want in your life? Does it show you something else you might want?

“Carving out time once a month for monthly OM, is like opening up a space for spirit to show up and partner with us.” –Julie Hannon

Potential and possibilities — what’s getting in your way? In FLOW365, we have a monthly Om session, a sacred circle led by shamanic healer, teacher, and OM guide, Julie Hannon. I’m talking with Julie today about making space to access how we want to be and what's in the way of that and how to clear out those obstacles to access all of our potential and our possibilities.

The circle we create is powerful. Julie notes that circles are the oldest form of coming together. We’ve come together around fire in circles and women in circles of seasons and care, and birthing circles. There's no hierarchy, just connection to each other and the sacred.

So what does Om or circle have to do with planning and goals? Meditation, connecting with spirit, coming together … These things help us bend time. It’s one of those things that’s easier to experience than to believe by hearing, but again and again, we see people find more time and spaciousness even as they meditate or come into sacred circle more.

We talk about: 

• The power of meditation and overcoming resistance to it
• Mind, body, spirit connection, and how opening sacred space opens up different parts of our brains that get shut down when we are stressed
• The opportunities and resources that show up for us when we get out of feeling stuck in danger and overwhelm
• Getting out of the rut of habits and worn neural pathways and creating new pathways
• How having a guide helps in meditation and exploration
• Making space for the sacred to partner with us

BIO

Julie Hannon is a shaman and a teacher, committed to helping you discover yourself, your joy, and the beauty in life. Julie is passionate about connecting with people and helping each and every one discover their own special strengths and gifts. This practice is the doorway on the first step of your journey. Julie weaves all her experiences together to create magic. She combines her expertise as an energy medicine practitioner, HeartMath Coach/Mentor and student of spiritual wisdom traditions with more than twenty years professional experience as a human resources director. Throughout her work, she has been a professional facilitator and teacher, moderating, leading groups  and creating programs and retreats.

LINKS

• https://www.innerpeaceandwellness.com/
• FLOW365
• Perfectly Unfolding with Julie Hannon

Doable Changes from this episode:

• TRY GUIDED MEDITATION. Whether you meditate regularly or have tried it and it hasn’t worked, consider guided meditation. Go in open and see what happens.
• CREATE SPACE FOR SPIRIT. You can be guided with something like monthly OM in FLOW365. You can light a candle and set an intention. You can sit quietly for 5 minutes and concentrate on your breath. I have been dialoguing with spirit in a journaling process I learned in Julia Cameron’s latest book Seeking Wisdom.
• ASK WHERE YOU WANT TO GO. This works best once you have gotten your brain out of the danger zone and into possibilities. Ask yourself where you want to go. Follow your own lead, get curious. Get out of your own rut and see what opens up.

Don't shame yourself from wanting to do the work that you love.

–Becca Carnahan

Flexibility and fulfillment? Yes, please — but what does that really mean? I’m really excited to talk with Becca Carnahan, a career coach who specializes in helping moms find fulfilling jobs that they love without giving up the flexibility that they need.

We start with some of the questions that help people define fulfillment for themselves: What skills do you want to use on a regular basis? Who do you want to surround yourself with? What impact do you want to make? What factors play into fulfillment from a job perspective and from a life perspective? We ask questions to define flexibility.

The question of flexibility and fulfillment may come up while you are in a job, but how do you address that when you are re-entering the workforce after time without paying work? We get into 4 steps for approaching the search and finding something that really works for you financially and with fulfillment and flexibility in mind.

We talk about: 

• What it means to job craft and how that can lead to more fulfillment and flexibility
• Results-focused jobs vs. facetime-focused jobs and the effect of company values
• Starting from what you want to do, not what you think you are qualified to do
• Getting clear and comfortable with what you have to offer before you try to sell somebody else on it
• Defining what you want work and parenting and other parts to life to look like
• Anticipating life shifts that will change your wants around work

BIO

Becca Carnahan is a career coach, author, and mom of two. She specializes in helping Millennial and GenX women make big changes and find more joy and fulfillment in their careers. She leads with enthusiasm to make the process fun, brings the expertise gained over a 14 year career in career and professional development at Harvard Business School, and adds empathy so you feel truly seen and heard. Career and life don’t live in separate boxes. Becca gets that and helps clients think about life and career holistically and work with her to find or create your dream job.

LINKS

• https://beccacarnahan.com/

Doable Changes from this episode:

• DEFINE FULFILLMENT. What skills do you want to use on a regular basis? Who do you want to surround yourself with? What impact do you want to make? What factors play into fulfillment from a job perspective and from a life perspective? Try journaling about these questions to get a clearer sense of what fulfillment really looks like to you.
• ASK FOR THE FLEXIBILITY YOU NEED. First define what flexible means. Do you want to get your kid off the bus every day? Do you want Fridays off this summer? Do you want to work from home on certain days? Do you want days with no meetings? Get really clear on what you want. And then ask for it.
• LOOK AHEAD. Becca knew that she wanted something different when her son started kindergarten, and she anticipates other changes as her kids get a little older. What life changes are looming? How might these affect your work? Can you plan for that now? Start by looking 1–5 years ahead. Write down changes you see. Maybe talk to people with kids that age. What will be happening? How do you want things to work? What might flexibility look like in that situation? What steps could you take today to move in that direction?

“I’m here to normalize the fact that women can have a really successful business, make very good money, make an impact, AND have a very high quality of life — unapologetically.”   – Fabienne Fredrickson

What if you could have it all? What if you had a life filled with all the “things” you love? Fabienne Fredrickson is truly happy with her life, her work, herself. She’s created multiple seven figure businesses, written multiple books, takes 14–16 weeks of unplugged vacation each year, doesn’t work evenings or weekends, has a happy marriage, and lovingly mothers three kids. You’re probably saying that’s nice, but “I can’t.” Sometimes we need to start with the possibilities.

We need to nourish ourselves with pleasure, fulfillment, getting our curiosities and needs met. We need to feel worthy enough to live the life we want and worthy enough to say no, without feeling bad and worthy enough to put our own needs before the needs of everybody else as a form of self care, not selfishness.

We usually know what gives us pleasure. Why do we stop ourselves from having that? We talk about guilt and being taught to put everyone else first. But when we take care of ourselves first, when we deem ourselves worthy of having what we want, we are more loving and less resentful and bitter. And we can all learn to do this.

We talk about: 

• How to feel your own worthiness and how when parts of your life that don’t work showing where you aren’t paying attention or taking personal responsibility
• Living from the inside, not from outside responses
• Knowing what you like—and what you don’t like (yes, this can be shuttling your kids to sports)
• The courage to be criticized
• How making money, and lot of it, gives women a voice and a choice
• Setting up our day to leverage both our feminine and masculine energy

BIO

Fabienne Fredrickson is a beloved mentor to thousands of women in business. As founder of The Leveraged Business program, Fabienne has reverse-engineered how she scaled her business to several million annually, while remaining powerfully feminine.

Her book, The Leveraged Business: How You Can Go From Overwhelmed at 6-Figures to 7-Figures (and Get Your Life Back) is the definitive roadmap showing women how to increase their income and impact with heart. Find her at Boldheart.com.

LINKS

• theleveragedbusinessbook.com
• https://www.instagram.com/fabiennefred/
• https://www.facebook.com/iamboldheart/
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/fabiennefredrickson/
• Embrace Your Magnificence

Doable Changes from this episode:

• CLAIM ONE THING YOU WANT. What is one thing you want to do today? Do that one thing … even if it isn’t what others want. It could be planning a meal based only on what you feel like eating, staying home from your kids soccer game, choosing the playlist for the car, reading instead of watching a movie with your family. Claim what you want.
• MAKE A LIST OF THINGS YOU DON’T LIKE. If you don’t know what you want and like, you surely know what you don’t like. Make a list. Include things you don’t like, even if you think you are supposed to like them. Fabienne talks about not liking driving her kids to all their sporting events—so she didn’t. You don’t have to figure out solutions yet, just make a list and get really clear on the things in your life that you don’t actually like. 
• PLAN YOUR DAY. Is your day all push? What if you planned your day with a rhythm like Fabienne's: start with your feminine energy, shift to some masculine push tasks, shift back to feminine for lunch. Flow back and forth, making room for both each day. Write down what that looks like. Try it.

“Get uncomfortable because that creates growth.” 

–Marcy Predmore

Let’s talk about women making money. It’s a topic we tend to shy away from, but every time I do work on making money or my mindset around money or my past limiting beliefs on money, amazing things happen. Money is a great teacher, and I’m excited to talk with Marcy Predmore about the synergy of money, health, wellness, and your mind.

We tend to have a lot of emotions around money, but money itself is just a tool. We grew up with other people’s habits and traditions and emotions around money, but we don’t have to stick with them. For any of you who come from a “money is the root of all evil'' tradition or equating money with greed, consider this: The more you're able to help other people get what they need and want, the more blessings of abundance flow to everybody involved.

And then there’s motherhood and our own well being. How do we fit these together with money making? What mindset blocks are getting in your way? Can you create a thriving business if you are disconnected from yourself? We get into all these juicy questions.

We talk about: 

• Leaning on mentors
• Getting uncomfortable as part of growth
• Using nurturing practices, including affirmations throughout the day as part of personal growth
• The energetic tool of writing what you want on white paper with blue ink with your right and left hands
• Releasing your fears, anxieties, and other feelings about money so that it can flow
• Sharing a different money legacy with our kids

ABOUT MARCY

Marcy Predmore-McPhee is an entrepreneur from Estes Park, Colorado.  As a single mother, Marcy began her journey to financial independence in the life insurance industry to provide for her and her son.  Twenty years and a lot of hard work later, she is consistently recognized as a leader in the industry. In 2015, Marcy and her husband, Tim, saw a way to help others on their financial journey and started Private Banking Concepts with the goal of educating people on how to secure wealth while building a lasting legacy. Marcy and Tim have always focused on an education-first mindset to teach individuals the core knowledge and tactical how-to of implementing concepts used by banks and the wealthy elite to make their money work for them.

Links:

• www.privatebankingconcepts.com
• www.ordinarywomenextraordinarywealth.com
• https://www.facebook.com/PrivateBankingConcepts
• https://www.facebook.com/groups/ordinarywomenextraordinararywealth

Doable Changes from this episode:

• FIND A MENTOR. Mentors share knowledge and experience. They can help us see outside our own perspective, teach us tools, show us paths. What area in your life do you need help with right now? Look for a mentor. Think about people you already know. Start exploring that topic or area and see who comes into your life. Ask other people for connections.
• GET AWARE OF YOUR MONEY THOUGHTS. Money is just a tool, but we tend to have a lot of emotions, habits, and traditions around it. Start to notice these. They might show up like, “There are more important things than money” or “You’re greedy to want more” or “I just want enough to take care of my kids.” They might be a sense of scarcity or striving or feeling like you don’t know what you’re doing. What’s one different idea you want to embrace? Write it down.
• WRITE WHAT YOU WANT. I always say there is magic in writing things down. Marcy shares this tool for working energetically with what you want: Write what you want on white paper with blue ink. Write if with your right hand and then with your left hand. It’s challenging for most of us to do that, but writing it with both hands changes the energy.

“Values are like an anchor, like a calm security blanket for everybody.” –Jenny Warner

Are you ready for summer? Did you think about values and boundaries when planning your summer? I’m talking with Jenny Warner, a parent coach who delights in helping parents learn how to make parenting fun and how to let their kids figure out who they are. She’s a mompreneur with a twelve-year-old, a busy husband, two dogs, an active healthy lifestyle and a fabulous spiritual practice. In other words, she’s got a lot of balls in the air like the rest of us, and she shows up to calls for FLOW365 with a smile. 

There are some big concepts that serve us well and adapt with us as our kids grow: expectations, values, boundaries. But we need to get really clear on what our values are, personally and as a family. We need to let go of expectations we bring in from childhood posing as values. Jenny helps parents unpack their baggage and move forward with more ease.

Think about what you really need to know as a parent. Think about what your gut tells you (or what it might if you knew how to listen to it). That’s the kind of parenting work Jenny does. We come back to the village concept of sharing ideas and information. All of our kids are different, and we all have different perspectives, but we all have something to share and learn.

We talk about: 

• How to lean into the expansive energy of summer 
• Why screen time can be trigger and how to reframe it
• Planning from a place of values and how values can energize us and curb pushback
• Using family dinner or teachable moments to share family values
• How kids want boundaries (even if they fight them) and how to create and maintain boundaries
• Connecting values and boundaries and creating a plan for the summer

BIO

Jenny Warner is the Chief Empowerment Officer of Shine Brite who sees the potential in people. She loves seeing the look of wonder in a kid’s eyes. She loves their imaginations, their questions and their optimistic spirits. She has developed some amazing programs to take parents and their children on a journey of discovery. The information that parents and children discover from this journey together illuminates their worlds, and allows them to see things differently.

LINKS

Join the Challenge: 

• Jenny’s Site: https://ishinebrite.com/

Doable Changes from this episode:

• IDENTIFY YOUR OWN VALUES. Values are a great starting point. To identify yours, start with a list of values. Cross off any that don’t resonate. Highlight any that do. Read through the list again. Keep narrowing it down until you have about 5–10. Journal on what this means to you and how it shows up in your life.
• KNOW YOUR FAMILY VALUES. Choose 7–10 words that define your family or family values. Do this together, maybe at dinner time. Connectivity and taking care of the planet our two of ours. (I talk more about values here). Talk about how this value shows up in your life. What do you do or not do because of this value?
• SET A BOUNDARY FOR SUMMER. Boundaries should be consistent and clear. Maybe certain boundaries change in the summer. Maybe there is a later bedtime or more freedom to choose activities. Think about boundaries you have (or wish you had). Get clear on what that looks like for summer. If it is different, talk about why (You’re older now and can have more responsibility or Our overall schedule is different in the summer, so we are making some changes around bedtime that we will revisit when school starts again.) Communicate the boundary clearly and maintain it. Kids need and want boundaries.

“You can't manage time. Time is a fixed commodity…. Time is not the variable. The variable is how you manage yourself in time.” –Jackie Woodside

What would happen if you managed your energy instead of your time? I’m talking with Jackie Woodside, who went from hot mess to happy and blessed, and learned to manage her energy instead of time. If you are chronically busy, chronically pressured, always overcommitting, and always feeling like you have too much to do, this is for you!

Jackie was diagnosed as an adult with ADHD and dove into the mind-body connection to learn to retrain her brain. During a silent retreat, her energy management system emerged. She originally called it Calming the Chaos and recently updated it to The Four Keys to Productivity and Peace of Mind.

Like a lot of listeners, Jackie was high functioning. She had an impressive career, was involved in sports leagues, and was taking classes. In other words, she was doing a lot and it looked like she was on fire, but she knew she wasn’t reaching her potential or making the most of her capabilities. She was doing everything last minute and putting off things that were important to her, like writing a book, for short-term tasks. We look at how things changed. 

We talk about: 

• Your BEATs (your beliefs, emotions, attitudes, and thoughts) and how you can manage them and why you need to focus on beliefs and attitudes before your to dos
• Specific practices that Jackie uses for self-development and adjusting BEATs, including self-coaching dialogue and shifting perspectives
• Having the neurological and psychological capacity to change our inner world and the difference between your mind and brain
• Dealing with procrastination
• Going from values to vision
• Planning your time and make to dos things you can do

BIO

Jackie Woodside, CPC, LICSW is a best-selling author, TEDx speaker, radio and television personality and seminar leader who is passionate about expanding the edge of human potential. Jackie provides custom training programs, workshops and keynote speeches for businesses, government and non-profit organizations, spiritual centers and national organizations around the country.

LINKS

• Jackiewoodside.com
• On Facebook: Jackie Woodside Speaker
• Also on Facebook: The Vibe Tribe with Jackie Woodside
• Redesign with Jackie Woodside

Doable Changes from this episode:

• MAKE TO DOS DOABLE. Take a look at your To Do list. Find an item on there that is too big or vague. Something like Write book or Declutter the house. Break this down to one tiny task. Write chapter 1 or Research Topic X for 30 minutes, or Clean out the junk drawer OR Make a bag of shoes to donate. Then schedule the time to do that task.
• KNOW YOUR VALUES. Jackie talks about turning values into vision and how she color codes her calendar to reflect her values. The first step to this is knowing your values. Start with a list of values. Cross off any that don’t resonate. Highlight any that do. Read through the list again. Keep narrowing it down until you have about 5–10. Pick one to focus on. How will you incorporate it into your life today?
• GET INTO NATURE. Being in nature calms the brain. Get outside into some green space. If you can’t do that, nature pictures can help. But spend some time in nature to help calm your brain. Do this before you do any kind of planning or visioning. Do it daily for an overall calmer system.

“If I don't feel invisible to myself, then I don't care what the culture thinks about me.”

– Sil Reynolds

Loving your life has more to do with your inner life than your outer circumstances. But most of us try to change the outside. In this episode, I’m talking with Sil Reynolds, my mentor and an “elder” in my circle, about transforming from the inside out. 

Do you ever hear work-life balance and feel like it’s one more thing you are supposed to “do” or make happen? Sil and I discuss the feeling of inner balance and the balance of energies between masculine and feminine or doing and being — and how we need both for balance. 

The overemphasis of masculine qualities, like logic over feeling, have been detrimental to all of us. Bringing the two together, like we do in FLOW where we start with feelings and a creative process and then move into logic and time, is essential for balance. 

We talk about: 

• A new way of thinking about the patriarchy and its effects on all of us
• What we learned from the COVID slowdown
• Resisting the masculine and learning to find the sweet spot where masculine and feminine energy work together in planning
• The value of multi-generational conversations and the power of learning from someone who has done the work before you
• Celebrating yourself and not looking for external validation
• Living into your future self

ABOUT SIL

Sil Reynolds is a mother, author, teacher, and a coach for women. She is proud to call herself an elder. Sil brings 40-years of experience working with women to her coaching and teaching: experience as a nurse practitioner, psychotherapist, and workshop leader. 

Sil graduated from Brown University where she majored in Women's Studies. She studied with the renowned Jungian author and analyst Marion Woodman for two decades and graduated from Woodman's BodySoul Rhythms training in dreamwork, archetypal psychology, and the art and science of listening to the wisdom of the body. Sil loves guiding women in reclaiming rejected parts of themselves, so that they can experience their wholeness and, therefore, a more conscious and authentically lived life. 

LINKS

• Sil’s Site: silreynolds.com
• Mothering + Daughtering: Motheringanddaughtering.com
• The Book 
• On the PlanSimple Podcast: Mothering with Sil Reynolds 

• DECIDE HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL. How you want to feel is the starting point to balance and transformation. You do need to put things into time, but too many people do that without thinking about how they want to feel first. Let your feelings lead.
• PLAN TIME FOR SPACE. That may sound counterintuitive, but we need to slow down. We need space in our lives, and it doesn’t just happen. Look at your calendar for next week. Block off time for space, to be instead of do. To see what happens when you slow down. Once you block off the space, put a firm boundary around it.
• MAKE AN AGREEMENT WITH YOUR FUTURE SELF. Who will you be in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years? How will you feel? What will your home be like? What will your ideal day be like? What is one thing you can do to bring that into action in the next 90 days? Get more journaling prompts and ideas here: Planning with Purpose.

“I really let my heart lead.” 

–Desha Peacock

Have big goals that seem to go against the grain of the world around you? Listen up, because I’m talking with author, lifestyle design coach, and retreat leader Desha Peacock, who consistently builds a life that suits her dreams and creativity — even though it goes against the mainstream. We dive right into how she thinks about the life she’s creating.

It starts with her values, the top two being family and travel/adventure. Eight years ago, she quit her job, started a business, and pulled her daughter out of school and brought her to Mexico for a month. She talks about how she made that happen from the hard conversations with her husband to trading spaces — and about the synchronicity that happened from that trip and where it led her.

We also get into the challenges we face as women when we try to take care of ourselves or follow our dreams if that involves leaving children. But how it backfires if we only take care of others. So how does she make the magic happen?

We talk about: 

• Clarity of desire — what’s the ideal situation you would love to happen
• Supporting practices like meditating to clear and let go, gratitude, asking for things, visualizing, plus how to turn things over to a higher power and also take practical action
• The four ways of being stuck: Stuck in the Muck, Lost Your Mojo, Creative Overwhelm, Out of Alignment, plus how to get out of creative overload (hint, it’s not about choosing one thing)
• Getting ideas out on paper — and finding a good time for them in your calendar
• Email as a more effective business tool than Instagram and Desha’s course to help people build their list
• Navigating family, a major launch, and the rest of life during cancer treatment

BIO

Desha Peacock is a published author, lifeSTYLE design coach & retreat leader. With a background in career development & intuitive sense of style, Desha helps women create their Sweet Spot: a self-defined place of success and beauty.Her first book Create the Style you Crave, was listed by the Huffington Post as one of the best books to buy your girlfriend & has sold over 10,000 copies. Her second book, Your Creative Work Space can be found in bookstores around the nation and online.

Desha holds a Master’s degree from The School for International Training, is a certified Global Career Development Facilitator & leads retreats across the globe. She’s been quoted or featured in Origins Magazine, Design Sponge, Flea Market Décor Magazine, The Jungalow, ABC.News, The Huffington Post, The Houston Chronicle, YahooNews.com, Career Rookie, US News Money, Where Women Create and many more.

LINKS

• Desha’s NEW Listbuilding Course: https://www.zivatribe.com/course/list-from-scratch
• Quiz:  https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/61fd93d2115fc80018fb720b
• Desha’s website: www.sweetspotstyle.com
• Desha’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deshapeacock/
• Desha’s Past Podcast Interview: Make Space with Desha Peacock
• Meet Desha Peacock on Plan Simple

Doable Changes from this episode:

• GET CLARITY OF DESIRE. Start by asking: What is the ideal situation I would love to happen? Don’t shut down ideas because you don’t know how it will happen. Just get really clear on what you truly desire.
• TURN IT OVER AND TAKE A STEP. Desha uses a combination of turning things over to a higher power. Say what it is you need your universal manager to figure out. Then take a practical step. Remember, you don’t have to figure everything out to take each step.
• GET IDEAS OUT ON PAPER AND CALENDARED. If creative overwhelm resonates, this is a great doable change. When you have your brilliant ideas, write them down in a vision book or a space in your journal. Then think about when this could happen and put it on your calendar.

True self-care is about how you respond to how your body is feeling in each moment.  

–Andrea Paquette

“Maybe I'm not that lovable. Maybe my wants and needs belong on the back burner.” Have you ever felt that way? We’re talking with Andrea Paquette, the author of Loveable: How Women Can Heal Their Sensitive Hearts and Live and Love as Their True Selves. 

Loveable is a guidebook for women to come into their full self expression and truly love themselves. Are you the fixer? The one that holds everything together, the one who makes sure everybody else is all right? Are you constantly trying to do all the things for your family and your business? What would happen if you pulled back? Andrea and I talk about how receiving is a muscle and if we develop it we can use it in different parts of our life.

We talk about dropping the conditioning about how we should be on all the time or do everything right. We can get past false beliefs like: I’m not good enough, I’m not measuring up, Nobody likes me, There’s something wrong with me. The masculine way that we have learned how to be doesn't fit with the feminine body, but we can find a different way.

We talk about: 

• How we’ve learned to function on a superficial level and how we can get past that
• Inner work being an ongoing process and that we need to release things again and again
• Finding and healing hidden wounds from childhood, including using tools like meditations and visualizations
• Learning that the world can go on without you, that you can do less and it will be okay
• Trusting and following your intuition and what resonates, recognizing the strengths in your feminine body and energy, and asking for help
• Getting past blocks on understanding what we need and on getting it

BIO

Andrea Paquette, MSN, APRN, is board certified as a Pediatric Nurse Practitioner and a Holistic Nurse Practitioner. She specializes in natural treatments for emotional and mental health issues in women, adolescents, and children. Her private practice is located in Londonderry, NH. While treating children in her private practice, she recognized the need among mothers for new strategies to cope with chronic stress, low energy, and feeling disempowered. In 2018, Andrea completed training as a Life Coach and began coaching and teaching women to express their authentic selves, use their talents in the world, and create a life they love. Her coaching business is Woman to Woman Life Coaching. Andrea also has extensive experience teaching and speaking about personal development, spiritual growth, parenting, and child emotional health. With over thirty years of experience in the healthcare field, Andrea's mission is to support people on their journey to vibrant physical and emotional health, happiness, and fulfillment in life. Andrea lives in Manchester, NH, has two grown children she adores, is a devoted yoga student and an ocean and food lover.

LINKS

• Andrea’s book Loveable
• https://andreapaquettenp.com/
• Andrea on Facebook
• Andrea on Instagram
• Andrea on LinkedIn
• The Life You Want with Deborah Knight

Doable Changes from this episode:

• TRY A HEALING PRACTICE. Order Loveable. The book is broken into three parts: childhood stories, how things show up in adulthood, and holistic healing practices. These are practices we are meant to revisit again and again. Pick one to try.
• STEP OUT OF SOMETHING. Andrea shares a story about asking her husband to pick up the kids because she was at a doctor’s appointment. I shared the story of how I had to let go of things when I had Covid. Pick one thing to step out of and turn over to somebody else. It might be kid pick up, making dinner on Friday, or getting your social scheduled.
• PRACTICE TRUE SELF-CARE. Ask: What does my body need right now? Then listen to it. Does it need water? To stand in the sunshine? To move? A snack? A nap? What happens if you listen to that need?