Plan Simple with Mia Moran

We’re so busy running our agenda that we lose out on who our child is and what they really want. 

–Robbin McManne

Your child’s behavior is never personal. I’m not sure who needs to hear that today, but that’s one of the pearls from my guest Robbin McManne, a parenting coach and mom to teen boys. The first thing Robbin wants parents to know is that this is a tough time and it’s okay if you are struggling — and there’s help!

We prepare for the birth, but not necessarily the lifetime. There’s a lot of brain science to understand where our kids are developmentally through their lives. Even though we study a lot for our jobs, we don’t learn a lot of what we need to know to parent well. Robbin helps people unravel their kids' behaviors.

It’s possible to build a strong relationship with kids as they grow so that they want to stay connected with us. We need to honor who they are over our own agenda. We need to set up boundaries and strong scaffolding, but we need to slow down, get quiet, and listen to our kids. Parenting is not an emergency. We can slow down. We need to respond, not react.

We talk about: 

• Understanding our own triggers as parents and how our kids mirror what we need to heal
• How punishments, threats, and rewards work in the short term but backfire when the stakes are higher
• How parenting affects how we show up at work and the importance of supporting parents
• It not being about or a reflection on the parent when kids are going through something 
• Letting go of the stories in our heads and seeing what our kids need in the moment (even when that moment is a meltdown) and how we can coregulate
• Self-care and making sure you are okay as a mom being the most important thing you can do for your family.

BIO

Robbin is a Certified Parent Coach, author of The Yelling Cure, podcaster and speaker. She works with parents from all over the world to help them build more connection and find more joy and cooperation in their parenting. Robbin is a former ‘Angry Mom’ who, for over 12 years, juggled a full-time corporate career while being a mom and wife, prior to becoming a Parenting Coach. She understands firsthand how many moms struggle to balance work and family.

Robbin's work focuses on building and strengthening the parent child relationship so that children grow up with resilience, confidence and strong emotional intelligence. She works with parents to help them understand their own emotions and frustrations in parenting, so they can help build their children’s sense of self without losing themselves in the process!

LINKS

• www.parentingforconnection.com
• Robbin on Insta
• Robbin on Twitter
• Robbin on Facebook
• Robbin on Linkedin
• Parenting for Connection on youtube
• Pinterest
• Mia on Robbin’s podcast

Doable Changes from this episode:

• SLOW YOUR BREATH. When your kid is upset, try sitting with them and getting quiet. Slow and deepen your breath. They will probably start to follow your breath, without guidance. Let them feel their feelings.
• REMIND YOURSELF IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU. When our child has challenging behavior or is struggling with something, it’s easy to take it personally. Why are they embarrassing me, why won’t they cooperate … Remember it’s not about you. Ask what your child needs in the moment. Do they need connection? Do they need to calm down? Do they need to feel heard?
• TAKE A BREAK. Take a day off. Take a nap. Schedule the time and ask for help. If you can’t do it for yourself at first, do it fo your kids, because making sure you are okay is the most important thing you can do for your family. Notice how you feel when you’ve taken care of your needs.

As we wrap up a few episodes of guests talking about entrepreneurship, I thought I would share a bit about what I’m thinking about when I make my work plan each week.. I may do an episode in the future about how I make choices and make the PlanSimple plans. This episode is all about things other than marketing, sales and fulfillment. Today I am talking about the things that take time, that I, at first, did not realize need time. And I hope to show you how making time for them has really helped with my productivity, confidence and joy.

This is part of a new solo series that will air each Saturday. To get notified, please make sure you are subscribed to the Plan Simple Podcast.

You can change your money story and build wealth.

–Kaila Pilecki

More money and more ease … isn’t that what we all want?  I’m really excited to talk with Kaila Pilecki of My Aligned Purpose about money mindset and systems. If both of those make you groan, you definitely need this conversation.

Many of us equate money with freedom … but sometimes growing money can feel restrictive. We talk about how to make restrictions around money feel better. We also explore a more expansive approach that recognizes the value behind spending for growth. Choosing the approach that works with your own nature is essential.

Systems are another thing that can feel restrictive. I fought against planning and systems for a long time before realizing the freedom they can bring. Whether it’s systems around your money or attracting new clients or any other part of your life, systems can bring more ease — and they don’t have to be a big deal to create.

We talk about: 

• Money mindset and changing your money story (making money won’t make you a horrible person) 
• The easy way to set up a system — start with what you already do
• Creating an amazing customer experience to make it easier to make money
• Understanding whether you are wired to start or finish things — and how to partner with somebody to make things happen
• Setting yourself up for success by getting clear and realistic about how long things actually take
• Delegating — and really letting go of somethings — so that you can focus

BIO

Kaila Pilecki is a Certified Executive Coach and co-founder of My Aligned Purpose, a coaching and learning company for ambitious women entrepreneurs.

She has over a decade of experience, working in leadership and fundraising roles with non-profit organizations, where she raised millions of dollars to facilitate social change. An entrepreneur through and through, Kaila has established and operated multiple businesses including her coaching practice, managing real estate, painting houses and creating artisanal, cultured butter. 

Kaila specializes in creating effective, profit driven business systems that take the guesswork out of growing and scaling your business.

LINKS

• https://www.myalignedpurpose.com/
• https://www.instagram.com/myalignedpurpose/

Doable Changes from this episode:

• ASK MONEY QUESTIONS. One place to start with changing your mindset around money is to ask yourself: Where am I currently spending money? Where do I want to be spending money? What could I do to shift where I spend my money for better alignment?
• DOCUMENT A SYSTEM. We think of setting up systems as a big project. Start with what you already do. Document each step. Pay attention to how long each step takes. Schedule things. What parts of the system do you hate doing? Delegate or (if possible) delete. What parts don’t run smoothly? You can tweak your system once you have it set up.
• THINK LIKE A CLIENT. How can you make it easier for people to work with you? Take some time to visit websites of other people in your field. What is super clear and smooth? What feels hard to navigate? Do you know what to do when you land on the page? Can you find what you need? Take the best and bring it to your own site or process. Check your site or process for things that aren’t working.

As an introvert, I always knew that unstructured time is really necessary to thrive. What I never understood are the benefits of planning that time in advance! It’s life changing!!!! If you are an introvert or live with one, then listen in!

The key to growth is really challenging everything that we believe.

–Dr. Michelle Gordon

Did Covid give you a wake up call? It’s never too late to change course as my guest proves. I’m talking with Dr. Michelle Gordon, surgeon turned coach who now helps entrepreneurs get past being stuck or burnt out to relaunch their lives. Whether it’s the pandemic, the end of a relationship, a death or health crisis … these turning points give us a place to relaunch.

Sometimes the universe has to hit you over the head for change to happen. We have deep-seated, even subconscious, ideas about money and what we are supposed to do. We’ve internalized others’ expectations, and we get so stuck doing what we are doing, sometimes we don’t even realize we could change — but we can. 

It starts with challenging everything we believe. It takes letting go of the stories we tell ourselves. And we need to ask questions like, “What would it look like if …?” Dr. Michelle did all of these things and helps others make this transformation too.

We talk about: 

• Thinking about what we want without doing the things we want — and how to change that
• Why we need to think big to make things happen
• Getting stuck on pre-conditioned beliefs about money
• Replacing negative self-talk with positive talk
• Success stories of people who made big changes in their lives
• How changing your place can help you change your thoughts and patterns

BIO

Dr. Michelle Gordon is a board certified general surgeon, author, and coach. She pivoted from medicine to coaching and helps exhausted high-achieving entrepreneurs relaunch their lives through transformational travel and coaching.

LINKS

• https://drgordon.me/
• discover.drgordon.me
• https://www.instagram.com/drmichellegordon/
• https://www.facebook.com/drmichellegordon
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellegordon/
• Launch Your Life Podcast
• From Overwhelm to Ease

Doable Changes from this episode:

• TRY POSITIVE SELF-TALK. Dr. Michelle talks about changing negative self-talk about her body and her self. Whenever you hear yourself saying something you hate about yourself, change it to “I love …” See what flows from motivating yourself with love.
• QUESTION ONE BELIEF. What’s something you believe about yourself: I can’t make this much money any other way. I could never run a business. I’m not good with money … Question that. Challenge it. What if the opposite were true?
• GO SOMEPLACE NEW. Take yourself out of your house, your city, your usual routines. Go someplace new. It doesn’t have to be far or exotic (though it could be). Getting away from your usual place can help you step out of stale beliefs and thought patterns.

I am about to embark on a journey of deep care for my body that I know will result in losing, or better said, “releasing” some weight that landed on my body after an intense year in my life and also hormonally. I am noticing that I am not so attached to the weight (this time), and more to what it represents, and how to be the healthiest version of myself right now, in the most loving way possible. If you are interested in what I am thinking about as I make a plan for the next 8 weeks, this is the episode for you!

If you are interested in any of the resources shared, please find them in the link in the bio of our Instagram feed @plansimple.co.

This is part of a new solo series that will air each Saturday. To get notified, please make sure you are subscribed to the Plan Simple Podcast.

It's not about growing the audience. It's about getting to know the audience that you already have and see what you can offer them. 

–Ina Coveney

You don’t have to build your audience for your business to thrive. If you’ve been struggling to grow your audience or growing it but not seeing the results you want, you’ll want to listen to my conversation with Ina Coveney, a business coach who helps entrepreneurs with a small audience get clients.

After years in corporate, she quit her job to start her own business. We talk how she actually left, about the flop of her first course, her start in helping people leave corporate jobs, and her pivot to helping entrepreneurs who are already committed build their businesses without building huge audiences. As part of all that, we dig into ideas about what you should or “have to” do and listening to your own intuition.

Ina says that online business isn’t that different from in-person business — we just don’t know how to start conversations online. If you’ve ever been cold pitched in a DM, you know about people starting conversations that don’t feel good. What if you could learn to start conversations that DO feel good online? What if you could turn that into a successful business?

We talk about: 

• Translating an in-person business to the online world
• Knowing your ideal client (and that it’s not everybody who follows you)
• How to connect by continuing a conversation instead of starting it
• Having a conversation and getting to know people without making a pitch 
• Making social media super easy with repurposing and simple post types and how to be consistent, even when your energy isn’t
• Continuing to move in the direction your intuition tells you to go, even if the destination keeps changing

BIO

Ina Coveney is a business coach and host of The Global Phenomenon Podcast. She helps up-and-coming online coaches monetize their tiny audience through organic lead generation strategies before they invest time and money in audience growth. Ina reached 6-figures in her business before ever cracking 1,000 followers on any of her platforms, and her mission to help coaches do the same.

LINKS

• Instagram @yourengagementcoach
• 100 Engagement Post Ideas
• Get Clients First
• https://www.inacoveney.com/
• The Global Phenomenon Podcast
• Speak Up with Alexia Vernon

Doable Changes from this episode:

• IDENTIFY YOUR IDEAL CLIENTS. This isn’t about creating an avatar. It’s looking at people who are following you (or maybe even people you are following) and seeing who feels like they might fit. Don’t overthink it. Just go with your gut. Then start a conversation. See where it goes. Some people may love what you do but not be a great client. That’s OK.
• CONTINUE A CONVERSATION. Instead of starting a conversation, you can continue one somebody else started on social media. Comment on or message somebody about something they posted. Don’t think of it as getting a client, just as having a conversation.
• CREATE SIMPLE SOCIAL POSTS. Pull a tip or quote from something you’ve already written. Pick an image and write a great caption. Find a post you shared a while ago and use it again. Create 5–10 and then schedule them.

Just because we have to take care of our children doesn't mean that we can't prioritize ourselves. 

–Gianna Diggs

How do you prioritize yourself when you have kids and a business? You know you need to, but how does it actually happen? I’m talking with Gianna Diggs, a mindset and intuitive business coach for mom entrepreneurs about fitting self-care into your life, techniques for getting past your fears, and how understanding yourself better allows you to work with your own personal strengths and energies.

You'll never get over a fear at every level, even when you’re doing great. There’s always the next level to unlock. Understanding that and having tools like affirmations and meditation to get past mindset blocks can help move through the things holding you back.

Understanding yourself and how you work is important. You need to be in alignment with the decisions you make for your business, no matter what a coach or other advisor tells you. You need to be the authority of your business.

We talk about: 

• Using business astrology to help you work around difficulties
• How Human Design affects energy and how to find your Human Design type
• Using Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)  to work through fear or worthiness or other blocks
• What the RVI method (recognizing, validating, and implementing) is and how to use it
• Prioritizing yourself and making time to use the tools
• How you can prioritize yourself even while you prioritize your kids

BIO

Gianna Diggs is a #girlmom, Human Design enthusiast (6/2 Emotional Projector! ) Cancer sun, Leo moon and rising, lover of skittles, airheads, romance novels, 90’s Hip-Hop And R&B, and laughing until her belly aches!

She uses intuitive and energetic modalities such as Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Time Techniques, Human Design, Gene Keys, and Business Astrology to help you release your limiting beliefs and blocks, stand in what makes you unique, and then use your uniqueness to gain clarity around how you can create more freedom to do the things you love.

LINKS

7-Days to Self-Care Free Challenge:

• https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62ace0d4849e4b4fbbbea39f

Waiting List for Self-Care Planner:

• https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62acede7849e4b4fbbbea3b1 

https://www.giannadiggs.com/

• https://www.giannadiggs.com/podcast/
• Gianna on Instagram
• Gianna on Facebook

Figure out your human design: 

• https://www.myhumandesign.com/get-your-chart/
• Science of Differentiation
• Self-Nurturing with Kelley Grimes

Doable Changes from this episode:

• LEARN ABOUT YOUR HUMAN DESIGN TYPE. Start by finding out what you type is. Then read online or get a reading to help you understand your type and what that means for you in your life and business.
• TRY TAPPING. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or tapping is one of the techniques for getting past mindset blocks. We have a whole podcast on tapping. Give it a try.
• PICK ONE THING THAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD. Gianna talked about getting her nails done. What’s your thing that makes you feel good? Notice if you find yourself resisting doing it. Work on the mindset around that. Then schedule time for your thing (and follow through!)

It is that ability to say the things you want to say out loud that allows you to show up and ultimately make an impact. –Alexia Vernon

Do you speak up for yourself? For issues that matter to you?  I’m talking with Alexia Vernon, a speaking coach, and we’ve talked before, but this conversation is a little different. We’re talking about being able to walk into any conversation and unapologetically speak up for yourself and any ideas or issues that matter to you.

One thing I’ve noticed is that sometimes this ability seems selective. We can advocate for our kids, but struggle to advocate for ourselves at work. Or you can speak up for your business, but feel like you’ve lost your voice in your marriage. We talk about the why behind this and how to find your voice in any situation.

We talk about layers to address: stories about speaking up and how they feel in your body, messaging and practicing what you’re going to say, presence or using our bodies, and calling people to action.

We talk about: 

• The difference between ruminating and practicing what you will say
• The missing piece when you have a conversation but nothing changes
• Asking yourself where you are feeling constriction when you want to speak up and using breathing or visualization to bring a sense of safety and release to help open those spaces
• Using pleasure points instead of pain points to move people to action (in business and personal situations)
• Setting boundaries clearly and having a shared vocabulary when working with a team or clients
• Not waiting until the top emotion is anger or resentment to have a conversation

BIO

Alexia Vernon is a sought-after advisor to executives, senior leadership teams, entrepreneurs, coaches, and consultants who want to speak with an unshakeable presence, sell their ideas, navigate daring conversations, develop high performing teams, advance their thought leadership, and make a lasting positive social impact. Alexia has supported thousands of leaders and speakers through her Step into Your Moxie® corporate offerings, online training, live events, mastermind, and certification programs.

LINKS

• https://stepintoyourmoxie.com/
• More Please with Alexia Vernon

Doable Changes from this episode:

• NOTICE CONSTRICTION. When you feel yourself struggle to speak up, try to notice where in your body you feel it. Is it in your knees, your thighs, your belly, your throat? Start by noticing. Then see if you can release using breathing or meditation.
• PRACTICE WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY. When we are passionate about something, we think we’ll be able to just riff off the top of our heads and say the important things that move people to action. But without practice, we often miss the mark. You don’t have to write out and memorize a speech, but think through what you want to say. Practice saying it.
• CENTER THE OTHER PERSON. Think about what you want from the conversation: what change do you want, what do you want the other person to do? What do they need? What is their motivator? Can you lead with that?

Dr. Anna tells us exactly what's happening in our bodies after kids, and different ways we can respond and feel our best. Take good notes!

This episode is taken from  Camp, a program we led in Summer of 2021 — the purpose was to pause and learn some new ideas and tools as women who are 40+. Day 1 was all about the body. We ate good food, moved in gentle ways, and learned about our hormones (and other under discussed topics).

I am so excited for you to listen to this conversation with Dr. Anna Cabeca!!! What she shares will help you feel in balance in your body, but can also help make sense of relationships!

Let’s all focus on one doable change this week.

Plan for YOUR body. What would happen if you planned your week in service to your body? Would you sleep differently? Eat differently? Drink differently? What if you ditched what you are supposed to do? What if you treated your body like your best friend? What does she need right now in this phase?

About Dr. Anna

Best-selling author, Anna Cabeca, DO, OBGYN, FACOG, is known nationally as The Girlfriend Doctor and is host of The Girlfriend Doctor show, where she welcomes experts and guests to the show to share their insights on how women can truly thrive in body, mind and spirit. Dr. Anna is triple-board certified and a fellow of gynecology and obstetrics, integrative medicine, and anti-aging and regenerative medicine. She holds special certifications in functional medicine, sexual health, and bioidentical hormone replacement therapy. She lectures frequently on these topics throughout the world to large audiences.

Her first two highly acclaimed books, The Hormone Fix and Keto-Green 16 are best-sellers. In addition, Dr. Anna is the creator of several popular virtual transformation programs – The Keto-Green Way to Breeze through Menopause, Sexual CPR, and Magic Menopause. She offers Keto-Green nutrition plans to online subscribers, is the founder of her Girlfriend Doctor Club, and the host of the vast Keto-Green community on Facebook.

A passionate health advocate for both women and men. Dr. Anna has appeared on numerous television shows and has been interviewed by ABC, CBS, and NBC. Sought after by various other media, Dr. Anna has been featured as a women’s health, nutrition, weight loss, and hormone expert in Shape Magazine, Woman’s World, First Magazine, InStyle, Huff Post,

Mindbodygreen, and others. Forbes Magazine reported on her success in creating and building a successful business around her flagship product Julva - an all-natural, over-the-counter cream that she developed to treat vaginal dryness and discomfort. Dr. Anna is also the creator of

other top-selling health products such as Mighty Maca Plus. Dr. Anna lives in Dallas, Texas with her daughters, horses, and dogs.