How do I get more pleasure in my life and relationships?

Getting past the word pleasure - Culture and church cringy word, kind of awkward, vaguely sexual

Pleasure definition = enjoyment, satisfaction

1 - Look for pleasure to be relationship focused

2 - ask deeper questions about pleasure

3 - pleasure in balance with other emotions

4 - noticing skills

3 stages of pleasure:

Wanting – expectation/anticipation, pursuit/drive

Liking – sensation experience of pleasure, hedonistic hotspots in the brain

Learning – brain updating information, making future predictions; brain begins linking neurotransmitters that were harder to link before

Resources:

Altogether Beautiful video on expanding our understanding of pleasure

45 sec Preview: https://youtu.be/902FvFLwbA0?si=P8irRsjz0AH2ZQXj

https://vimeo.com/ondemand/altogetherbeautiful/260826340

https://www.apa.org/science/about/psa/2004/11/berridge

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-cultures/202107/the-new-neuroscience-pleasure