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#selfhelp #selfimprovement #shame

Are you obsessed with self-improvement? I’ve been thinking lately about how self-help culture often centers shame, as well as how that can translate to how we hold people in our own lives accountable. Here’s an episode of “Plot Twist, Please” about that very thing!

0:03 - Shame and Self-improvement

0:48 - New listeners!

1:43 - Why Public Internet Shame Works

5:47 - Capitalism & Communty Are Enemies But Also On The Same Team Sometimes? 7:37 - Is People-Pleasing Manipulative?

15:18 - Power Dynamics and People-Pleasing

17:19 - Self-help and Privilege

20:53 - The Baseball Game Bullies and “Bad People”

**VOCAB**

capitalism

manipulation

media literacy

people pleasing

binary

influencer culture

internet psychology

privilege

personal growth coach

toxic positivity

What is shame?

http://www.trieft.org/wpcontent/uploads/2015/01/Taking_Stock_Shame_Lit_2003_Mills.pdf

Danger of Centering Shame

https://humanparts.medium.com/the-personal-growth-world-needs-to-stop-ignoring-its-privilege-928530103560

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WHO EVEN AM I? My name is Chamaya and I'm a content creator who is passionate about creating an emotionally healthy, more empathetic world with a touch of creativity. I’m black, autistic, and goofy. Follow my personal Instagram for some good times and/or the Plot Twist, Please Instagram for self-help nuggets, mental health hacks, and strategies for advocacy.

CW: Sexual violence

Pretty privilege doesn’t have a downside, actually. Commodification does.

What actually is "pretty privilege?" I thought this would be a better way to do a deep dive about "pretty privilege" as a structural inequality and how individual commodification specifically affect autistic women's mental health/ well-being than posting a slew of reactionary TikTok videos out of frustration.

NOTE: I don't support bullying and all of my analysis is based on a combination of anecdotal accounts and data-centering feminist theory.

🌼PATREON🌼

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CASHAPP: $ChamayaMoo

WHO EVEN AM I? My name is Chamaya and I'm a content creator who is passionate about creating an emotionally healthy, more empathetic world with a touch of creativity. I’m black, autistic, and goofy. Follow my personal Instagram for some good times and/or the Plot Twist, Please Instagram for self-help nuggets, mental health hacks, and strategies for advocacy.

0:07 - Introduction To "Pretty Privilege"

1:02 - Hi, new listeners!

2:06 - The day I turned "pretty"

7:06 - The "rules" and my autistic brain

8:50 - Beauty As Currency

17:26 - Sexual Violence Stats

20:19 - Don't "Redefine" Beauty. Get Rid Of It.

23:43 - Some Nuance

**VOCAB**

desirability politics

antioppressive

media literacy

institutional racism

colorism

featurism

racism

eurocentric beauty

beauty industry

male gaze

http://www.columbia.edu/itc/architecture/ockman/pdfs/feminism/mulvey.pdf

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male_gaze Sexual Violence

https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnbeh.2022.852203/full

https://dworakpeck.usc.edu/news/7-facts-you-didnt-know-about-human-trafficking%3Futm_source%3Dtest

Video clips from YouTuber

https://youtu.be/KVXxzqBvAx8

https://youtu.be/w3Ti97IgQB0

***Readings***

Manifestation vs. LGS

https://i-d.vice.com/en/article/4ax9dm/lucky-girl-syndrome-is-the-peak-of-the-internets-delusion-era

https://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/lucky-girl-syndrome-smug

https://sports.yahoo.com/tiktoks-lucky-girl-syndrome-explained-150000114.html

Limitations of Positive Thinking

https://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/lucky-girl-syndrome-smug

https://www.self.com/story/fariha-roisin-who-is-wellness-for/amp

https://theoneulzine.com/articles/the-contemporary-whitewashing-of-wellness-and-spirituality

https://medium.com/the-reynolds-media-lab/how-cultural-practices-are-becoming-whitewashed-trends-f8505d8f5caa

https://manifestationsgalore.com/does-manifesting-work/

Hope

https://quotefancy.com/quote/980539/Bell-Hooks-Hope-is-essential-to-any-political-struggle-for-radical-change-when-the

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🌼PATREON🌼 https://www.patreon.com/plottwistplease?fan_landing=true CASHAPP: $ChamayaMoo WHO EVEN AM I? My name is Chamaya and I'm a content creator who is passionate about creating an emotionally healthy, more empathetic world with a touch of creativity. I’m black, autistic, and goofy. Follow my personal Instagram for some good times and/or the Plot Twist, Please Instagram for self-help nuggets, mental health hacks, and strategies for advocacy. Disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional or medical professional, though I am in the process of obtaining certifications. Please consult your doctor/therapist/specialist before taking advice from someone online. ********************************************************************************************** LET'S CONNECT: TikTok- https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMdFGuf6q/ Main Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/chamayamoody/reels/?hl=en Plot Twist, Please Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/plottwistplease/?hl=en Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/plottwistplease/ Blog - Plottwistplease.wordpress.com LET'S DANCE: [email protected] ETSY WALL ART: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1355623643/whimsical-neurodivergent-themed-posters?ref=listing_published_alert

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CASHAPP: $ChamayaMoo

WHO EVEN AM I? My name is Chamaya and I'm a content creator who is passionate about creating an emotionally healthy, more empathetic world with a touch of creativity. I’m black, autistic, and goofy. Follow my personal Instagram for some good times and/or the Plot Twist, Please Instagram for self-help nuggets, mental health hacks, and strategies for advocacy. Disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional or medical professional, though I am in the process of obtaining certifications. Please consult your doctor/therapist/specialist before taking advice from someone online. ********************************************************************************************** LET'S CONNECT: TikTok- https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMdFGuf6q/

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AUTISM RESOURCES: https://www.autism.org.uk https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/links.html

AUTISM ACCOUNTS I FOLLOW:

The Autistic Life https://instagram.com/theautisticlife?igshid=z0n7vfncjbhd Actually Autistic TikToks https://instagram.com/actuallyautistictiktoks?igshid=1vxdzvutuekuba

#calebmclaughlin #tryguys #johnboyega

I'm giving my off-the-cuff thoughts on Caleb McLaughlin's comments, John Boyega dating exclusively Black Women, and cheaters in the public eye. 

 

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CASHAPP: $ChamayaMoo

 

WHO EVEN AM I? My name is Chamaya and I'm a content creator who is passionate about creating an emotionally healthy, more empathetic world with a touch of creativity. I’m black, autistic, and goofy. Follow my personal Instagram for some good times and/or the Plot Twist, Please Instagram for self-help nuggets, mental health hacks, and strategies for advocacy. Disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional or medical professional, though I am in the process of obtaining certifications. Please consult your doctor/therapist/specialist before taking advice from someone online.

The Oscars is rarely a place where socio-political discourse is welcomed. That being said, there is so much more to “the slap” than a lot of white people know. When it pertains to black pain, it’s time for them to listen.

AUTISM ACCOUNTS I FOLLOW:

The Autistic Life https://instagram.com/theautisticlife?igshid=z0n7vfncjbhd

Actually Autistic TikToks https://instagram.com/actuallyautistictiktoks?igshid=1vxdzvutuekub

 

CASE STUDIES ON PERCEIVED PAIN OF BLACK PEOPLE: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4843483/

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/behavioural-public-policy/article/thick-skin-bias-in-judgments-about-people-in-poverty/2A8CCE13402F69C2B0D1145BE5270E1D

https://www.aamc.org/news-insights/how-we-fail-black-patients-pain

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WHO EVEN AM I? My name is Chamaya and I'm a content creator who is passionate about creating an emotionally healthy, more empathetic world. Follow my Instagram for some good times and/or the Plot Twist, Please Instagram for daily self-help nuggets, mental health hacks, and strategies for advocacy. *********************************************************************************************** LISTEN: (Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or Podbean):

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#autism #sia #goldenglobes

Happy Valentine's Day, everyone! Whether you're spending the day with your friends, your significant other, or your dog, you've got something to celebrate. I thought I'd take the opportunity, though, to talk about dating. In this episode, my friend Brittney and I talk about personal boundaries, empathy, race relations, and expectations within dating during a pandemic. 

 

WHO EVEN AM I? My name is Chamaya and I'm a content creator who is passionate about creating an emotionally healthy, more empathetic world. Follow my Instagram for some good times and/or the Plot Twist, Please Instagram for daily self-help nuggets, mental health hacks, and strategies for advocacy. *********************************************************************************************** LISTEN: (Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or Podbean):

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LET'S DANCE: [email protected]

#relationshipwellness #lovelanguages #interracialdating

#newyear2021 #lettinggo #forgiveness

WHO EVEN AM I? My name is Chamaya and I'm a content creator who is passionate about creating an emotionally healthy, more empathetic world. Follow my Instagram for some good times and/or the Plot Twist, Please Instagram for daily self-help nuggets, mental health hacks, and strategies for advocacy. ********************************************************************************************** LISTEN: (Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or Podbean):

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Join me as I chat with my friend Jonah Cochin about power, masculinity, and how filmmakers should respond to criticism.

(This episode was actually recorded 7 months ago, but life happened.)

WHO EVEN AM I? My name is Chamaya and I'm a content creator who is passionate about creating an emotionally healthy, more empathetic world. Follow my Instagram for some good times and/or the Plot Twist, Please Instagram for daily self-help nuggets, mental health hacks, and strategies for advocacy. *********************************************************************************************** LISTEN: (Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or Podbean): Spotify | https://open.spotify.com/show/5cPlDOx... Apple Podcasts | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Podbean | https://plottwistplease.podbean.com Youtube | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ZJTk... LET'S CONNECT: Main Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/chamayamood... Plot Twist, Please Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/plottwistpl... Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/plottwistple... Blog - Plottwistplease.wordpress.com LET'S DANCE: [email protected] DAILY AFFIRMATIONS: https://www.etsy.com/listing/88101624...

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