Poly Pages

In Episode 5, Claire and Sebastian enumerate the multiple barriers to safe, positive sexual and romantic relationships. From the lack of legal support for consensual, multiple partner living to the shame we carry inside ourselves. From lack of access to comprehensive family planning, to cultural norms that slut shame and victim blame. It's a cruel world out there. This chapter concludes by discussing Easton and Hardy's through experiment - if sex workers were judged like any other workers - and explain the differences between decriminalization and legalization. 

This chapter is prefaced by the end of Episode 4 - a spotlight on Black and Poly (can be visited here).

Show Notes

Crystal (@crystalbfarmer) was interviewed on the NNM podcast (episode 38) which you can listen to here.

Polyam sub-reddit can be accessed here.

This edition of the Ethical Slut is informed by Dylan Miles Esq,  mediation and family lawyer who can be found here (although he is not at the time of release, taking on new clients).

For DIY legal documents, the publishing company NOLO press.

If you are a lawyer or legal academic able and willing to give advise, be featured on a guest episode, or wishing to expand or correct anything we have said on this episode please contact us on [email protected].

If you are a sex worker, former or current, and are able and willing to give advise, be featured on a guest episode, or wishing to expand or correct anything we have said on this episode please contact us on [email protected].

We expand on types of CNM in Episode 7 – Slut Styles.

Disclaimer – the thought experiment at the end of the episode is led from the chapter and regarding sex work. We acknowledge our language is not politically correct in parts of this and promise this does not come from a place of judgement, hate or disrespect (obviously).

You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - [email protected] - for any questions or comments.

Back at it, Sebastian and Claire are still together in Boston because Claire has missed her flight! They talk about all the ways 'sluthood' has been expressed through the ages, and in different subcultures, and in the end, we feel less alone in our difference. We talk about being queer, coming out, and skillfully avoid explaining what pegging is whilst at the same time basically explaining to you what pegging is.   

Show Notes 

Wild Wild Country is a Netflix documentary series about the ‘guru’ behind the Rajneeshpuram community located in Wasco County, Oregon, and was release on Netflix in March 2018. The Indiewire overview can be read here.

Peter Tupper, A Lover's Pinch: A Cultural History of Sadomasochism. Rowman & Littlefield, August 10, 2018. The author was interviewed by Sluts and Scholars in episode 80 available here. Peter also runs his own website called a History of BDSM.

Sebastian references Terry Gould, The Lifestyle: a look at the erotic rites of swingers. (Vintage Canada, November 23, 1999.) However, has referred to the wrong war (Vietnam not WWII). 

Allure offers a wonderful article on pegging your man, which you can find here. And for those that want to learn how, check out the Pegging 101 live webinar (22 Aug 2019) by Luna Matatas (get tickets here) or ask at your local adult toy store. 

Claire was interviewed further on the theme of polyam cross-cultural dating by the Normalizing Non-Monogamy podcast (episode 66) which you can listen to here.

Black and Poly can be visited here and is explored more in the next episode.

You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - [email protected] - for any questions or comments.

Join genuine poly pair, Claire and Sebastian as they critically read the Ethical Slut by Janet W Hardy and Dossie Easton. In chapter 3, Our Beliefs we get into the values at the core of polyam and non mono culture, disagree on the definition of sex and talk about what listeners can expect from future episodes. Unabridged and explicit.

Show Notes:

The referenced interview with Christopher Smith was on Normalizing Non-Monogamy podcast (episode 48). 

Calendar sharing has been covered by Jezebel and Daily Dot, as well as a lot of personal blogs. 

You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - [email protected] - for any questions or comments.

Genuine poly couple, Sebastian and Claire, take you through a close and critical reading of The Ethical Slut, by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton. In this unabridged episode we dive into the details of Chapter Two: Myths and Realities. Both in Boston, Claire still can't pronounce 'Dossie', and Sebastian comments on being queer.

Some spoilers on Parks and Rec, American Horror Story, Sabrina the Teenage Witch, Magicians, Orange is the New Black, and House of Cards. 

Show Notes:

For more on Victorian Porn, the seminal original work on this was done by Henry Spencer Ashbee, whose enclyclopedia of sex is digitized by Oxford University, and can be found here. Also see Davis, Tracy C. (1989). "Sexual Language in Victorian Society and Theatre" in The American Journal of Semiotics. 

The Long Way to A Small Angry Planet by Becky Chambers can be reviewed here on goodreads.

On Newt Gringrich not being polyam, from the wonderful Poly Weekly.

Future Sex by Emily Witt can be reviewed here on goodreads.

You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - [email protected] - for any questions or comments.

Sebastian and Claire embark on The Ethical Slut by Janet W Hardy and Dossie Easton. In Chapter 1; Who is an Ethical Slut, we talk through the intro to this edition, language and Kinsey style rebellion.

Show Notes:

The Making It Work Podcast interviewed Dossie Easton in Nov 2014 (episode 13). Find on Stitcher here. 

The Kinsey Institute can be found here. 

You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - [email protected] - for any questions or comments.