In this episode, the PolySoCal panel takes a focused look at three emotions central to polyamorous relationships: compersion, envy, and jealousy. The conversation explores how these feelings differ, how they often overlap, and how timing, communication, and emotional awareness shape the way they impact relationships.

Through personal experiences, the group examines how jealousy can signal unmet needs, how envy can arise from exclusion rather than fear of loss, and how compersion can develop over time through trust and security. The discussion also highlights the importance of processing emotions internally before communicating them, and how thoughtful delivery can strengthen connection rather than create unintended harm.

This episode offers grounded insight into the emotional complexity of polyamory and reinforces that these experiences are not signs of failure, but opportunities for deeper understanding and growth.

 Alonzo Banx, Max, Patty, Heather, Jon, Cookie, Lana, Blake 

 In this deep dive episode, Max shares his personal journey through submission, identity, and self discovery. He speaks openly about his experience with hypnosis, kink, and emotional connection, explaining how submission is not about weakness, but about trust, consent, and mutual respect. The conversation explores demisexuality, the importance of emotional rapport, and how personal growth often comes from confronting uncertainty and embracing authenticity. This episode offers an honest look at how identity evolves and how relationships can become a path toward understanding oneself more fully. 

In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Kevin Anthony (Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, NLP Practitioner, and host of The Love Lab Podcast) for an open, practical conversation about intimacy, communication, and emotional connection.

Kevin breaks down common challenges like performance anxiety, delayed orgasm, finishing too quickly, and how porn conditioning impacts real relationships. The panel shares personal experiences while Kevin offers grounded tools around arousal awareness, partner communication, and reframing sex as collaboration rather than performance.

The episode balances vulnerability with education, emphasizing that intimacy works best when partners stay curious, communicate early, and approach sex as something they build together.

 Alonzo (Victor) Banx, Kevin Anthony, Noah, Max, Heather, Psy 

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In this deep dive episode, PolySoCal welcomes back Dr. Deborah Lukovich for a wide-ranging conversation about dreams, desire, projection, and the unconscious forces shaping our relationships.

Dr. Lukovich explores how dream imagery, sexual symbolism, and recurring emotional patterns act as data points from the psyche rather than literal messages. Through personal stories and live analysis, the discussion reframes attraction, fear, fantasy, and intimacy as invitations toward greater self-awareness and individuation.

This episode is reflective, psychologically rich, and focused on helping listeners better understand themselves rather than “fix” their relationships.

In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Brianna Bass, therapist and board certified clinical sexologist, for a deep, practical conversation about burnout, intimacy, nervous system regulation, and how relationship patterns show up under stress. Brianna shares insight from her neuroscience based approach, helping the panel unpack pursuer withdraw dynamics, emotional fatigue, boundaries, and how partners can become either energy drains or energy reservoirs.

The group explores real world challenges including work burnout, chronic exhaustion, communication breakdowns, jealousy patterns, and how intentional connection through the eight forms of intimacy can rebuild closeness. From scheduled quality time to financial intimacy, the episode stays grounded in lived experience, offering listeners concrete tools for navigating modern relationships, especially in ethical non monogamy.

 Alonzo Banx, Brianna Bass, Cupcake, Cookie, Noah, Lana, Jon, Patricia 

In this episode, PolySoCal returns for a deeper, more personal conversation with Dr. Joli Hamilton, exploring individuation, depth psychology, meaning making, and how these concepts intersect with polyamory and modern relationships.

Dr. Joli unpacks what individuation really means, how unconscious material shapes our choices, and why polyamory can function as an individuation path rather than simply a relationship structure. The discussion moves through Jungian psychology, the role of culture in meaning making, midlife transitions, jealousy and envy, and how people metabolize life experiences to become more fully themselves.

This episode is reflective and foundational, offering language for understanding identity, relationships, and personal transformation beyond surface-level behavior or quick fixes.

Alonzo Banx, Patty, Dr. Joli Hamilton,

In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Dr. Joli Hamilton, a depth psychologist, relationship coach, and AASECT - certified sex educator whose doctoral research focuses on jealousy and consensual non monogamy. The panel explores what jealousy actually is, how it shows up in the body, and why the healthiest long-term approach is not suppression or immediate reframing, but naming it, understanding its “flavor,” and building tools for emotional regulation.

Dr. Joli introduces practical concepts like nervous system grounding, regular relationship check-ins, the power dynamic between experienced and newer partners, the difference between jealousy and envy, and the importance of a “jealousy rescue plan.” The episode also dives into the eroticization of jealousy, including why it can be powerful when done safely and why it can be dangerous without strong agreements, skills, and a rescue plan.

 Alonzo Banx, Dr. Joli Hamilton, Solara, Captain Lynn, Cookie, Patty, John 

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In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel is joined by Dr. Deborah Lukovich, depth psychology coach, author, and host of the Dose of Depth podcast. The conversation explores depth psychology, the unconscious, midlife unraveling, projection, shadow work, sexuality, spirituality, and how these concepts show up in relationships, including ethical non monogamy.

Through listener questions and real-life reflections, Dr. Lukovich explains how emotional triggers, attraction, jealousy, body experiences, and relational conflict can be understood as messages from the unconscious rather than problems to suppress. The discussion moves through individuation, ancestral wounds, projection, and the idea that relationships function as laboratories for self-awareness and growth.

This episode is reflective, emotionally grounded, and educational, offering listeners language and frameworks for understanding themselves more deeply through their relationships.

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Alonzo Banx, Dr. Deborah Lukovich, Heather, Beeb, Jon, Noah, Cupcake, Lana, Blake 

In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores a big question: Is ethical non monogamy on the rise, and could it actually change the world? The conversation looks at cultural shifts, generational differences, accessibility through the internet, and how acceptance varies by geography and social environment.

Panelists discuss whether ENM is becoming more visible versus truly more common, how younger generations approach relationships differently, and whether social and economic pressures influence alternative relationship structures. The group also addresses concerns around accountability, emotional responsibility, and whether polyamory risks making relationships feel disposable.

Rather than landing on a single answer, the episode highlights nuance: ENM may not transform the world overnight, but it may expand empathy, communication, and acceptance in meaningful ways over time.

Alonzo Banx, Heather, Ash, Cookie, Cupcake, Noah, Beeb, Max

In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores the difference between structured time and unstructured time in polyamorous relationships, and why both matter. The conversation digs into intentionality, spontaneity, coexisting versus connecting, and how different kinds of time can fill different emotional needs.

Through personal examples involving dating, cohabitation, errands, house swaps, and day-to-day life, the group examines how structured time often centers around intentional connection, while unstructured time builds comfort, familiarity, and a sense of family. The discussion highlights how definitions can vary between partners, and why clear communication about needs is essential to maintaining healthy, balanced relationships.

Alonzo Banx, Heather, Patty, Noah, Jon, Beeb, Max