PolySoCal

In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Carolyn Eagle returns for a full roundtable conversation with Alonzo Banx, Noah, Heather, Jon, Cupcake, Blake, and Lana. The group moves past the giggle-factor of sex toys and into the real adult questions: body positivity, plus-size bodies, aging, disability, chronic pain, shame, men feeling threatened by toys, AI intimacy, censorship, product design, and how people actually learn what works for their bodies. Carolyn brings her experience as a certified sex educator and founder of Betty’s Toy Box, while the panel asks the kinds of direct, practical questions listeners may be thinking but rarely say out loud. The result is a useful, funny, grounded conversation about pleasure products as tools — not replacements for connection, but ways to support communication, access, exploration, and sexual health at every stage of life. 

 In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx sits down with Dante and Double D for a conversation about long-term love, ethical non-monogamy, play partners, communication, and creating safer spaces for adult exploration. Dante and Double D share how they found each other later in life, built a committed marriage, and chose a relationship style centered on freedom, trust, and keeping their bond as home base. They talk about opening slowly, having long conversations, setting boundaries, learning from mistakes, and hosting intimate community spaces where people can explore without pressure. The conversation moves through play, compersion, lifestyle events, privacy, aging, and the importance of creating a clear container where people know what they are walking into and can choose their own level of participation. 

 In this season two opener of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx sits down with Carolyn Eagle, founder of Betty’s Toy Box and a certified sex educator, for a conversation about adult pleasure, sex education, body knowledge, and how the sex toy industry has changed. Carolyn shares how her background in publishing, sexual politics, women’s history, and feminism led her to build an online shop that felt more approachable, less tacky, and less shame-based than the adult stores she saw around her. The conversation moves through toy safety, silicone, aging bodies, menopause, male toys, AI-driven sex tech, censorship, and how couples can bring toys into the bedroom without fear or insecurity. More than a product conversation, this episode is about how little most adults were taught about their bodies, and how shame-free education can make pleasure, communication, and exploration feel normal. 

Viola Media Inc. (Parent company): https://viola-media.com/
Betty’s Toy Box (U.S. store): https://www.bettystoybox.com/
Naughty North (Canadian store): https://naughtynorth.ca/
The Pleasure Curve (Curated body-safe toys for curves): https://pleasurecurve.com/

 In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx is joined by Blake, Michael, Noah, Heather, Cupcake, Patty, Beeb, and Jon for a crowded, connected, and very real conversation about metamours, paramours, kitchen-table poly, autonomy, safety, trust, and control. The episode begins with the basic definitions: a paramour is your own romantic or sexual partner, while a metamour is your partner’s other partner. But the conversation quickly moves past vocabulary and into the lived reality of poly relationships. The group explores what it means to know, trust, like, avoid, protect, or build friendship with the people connected to the people you love. From John and Beeb’s close metamour friendship, to Cupcake’s past experiences being hidden, to Blake’s story of turning insecurity into family, this episode asks a harder question: do we need connection with our metamours, or do we need enough trust to let our partners choose for themselves? 

 Alonzo Banx, Blake, Michael, Noah, Heather, Cupcake, Patty, Beeb, Jon 

 In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx is joined by Michael, Noah, and Jon for an all-men conversation about what it is really like to be a man in the poly world. The discussion moves past the fantasy version of polyamory and into the harder realities: jealousy, possessiveness, emotional intelligence, communication, authenticity, sex, respect, and what men have to unlearn if they want to build real connection. Michael talks about honesty, shame, and finally being able to live as himself. Noah challenges men to stop pretending and face the emotional work required in poly relationships. Jon brings a deeper reflection on sex, meaning, respect, and the almost overwhelming experience of being loved by more than one person. This episode is direct, personal, and grounded in the reality that poly is not a shortcut around growth. It is often the thing that forces it 

Alonzo Banx, Michael, Noah, Jon

In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx sits down one-on-one with Dr. Joli Hamilton for a deeper conversation about non-monogamy, depth psychology, and the real work of building relationships that actually function. Dr. Joli shares her own path through polyamory, school, parenting, Jungian psychology, and the creation of The Year of Opening, a year-long learning community for people consciously rethinking relationship structures. The conversation explores deconstructing monogamy, justice jealousy, relational repair, apology and accountability, and her minimum viable agreement process. Rather than treating polyamory as simply having multiple partners, Dr. Joli frames it as a larger question of self-knowledge, repair, agreements, and becoming more conscious about what love asks of us.

Alonzo Banx, Dr. Jolie Hamilton
Are you ready to open your relationship successfully? Take my quiz and find out

co-host of the Playing with Fire podcast 

In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx is joined by Lance Cole, Captain Lynn, Patty, Heather, Jon, Noah, Cupcake, and Brandi Beckett for a wide-ranging conversation about tantra and how it connects to polyamory. Lance and Captain Lynn explain tantra as a practice of breath, sound, movement, awareness, and deeper connection rather than simply a sexual technique. The panel explores how tantric ideas can support communication, emotional regulation, self-awareness, presence, and intimacy inside polyamorous relationships. Brandi asks the practical outsider questions many listeners may have, while Jon and Noah challenge the spiritual language from more skeptical perspectives. The result is a grounded introduction to tantra that connects ancient practice, modern relationships, embodiment, and the everyday work of learning how to be more present with yourself and your partners.


Alonzo Banx, Lance Cole, Captain Lynn, Patty, Heather, Jon, Noah, Cupcake,
Brandi

Links
Tribal Fire Life - Embodiment Coaching - private coaching for couples and singles

Living In Ecstasy | Laurie Handlers - I will be co-facilitating this course with Laurie

In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx is joined by Noah, Heather, Cupcake, Patty, Captain Lynn, and Jon for a deeply human conversation about chronic illness, aging, energy changes, caregiving, and what happens when bodies stop cooperating. The discussion moves through acute injury, long-term illness, fibromyalgia, menopause, mental health, caregiver burnout, guilt, and the hard question of whether love is always enough when care becomes overwhelming. Rather than treating polyamory as an escape from difficulty, the panel explores how multiple relationships can sometimes create a stronger support system, while also adding more emotional complexity. This is not a neat or easy conversation, but it is one of the more grounded PolySoCal discussions about what commitment looks like when desire, health, time, and capacity all change.

 Alonzo Banx,  Noah, Heather, Cupcake, Patty, Captain Lynn, Jon 

Can someone be polyamorous for years and then return to monogamy? In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores what happens when relationship styles change over time. Some guests believe that once you've experienced loving multiple people, that understanding never truly leaves you. Others share their journey from polyamory back to monogamy and why that choice ultimately felt right for them. Through personal stories, the discussion touches on identity, authenticity, relationship agreements, personal growth, and the challenges of balancing your own needs with the needs of the people you love. Whether you're poly, monogamous, or somewhere in between, this conversation explores what it means to choose the relationship style that fits who you are today. 

Alonzo Banx, Noah, Cookie, Michael, Jon, Kat, Quinny 

Is polyamory a path toward deeper connection, or can it become a clever way to avoid it altogether? This week the table welcomes Michael for his first appearance alongside regulars Dahlia and Noah, and the conversation goes straight at one of the most honest questions the show has asked. Michael shares his journey from a Catholic upbringing steeped in shame to discovering, almost by accident, that he wasn't broken — he just wasn't built for monogamy. Dahlia walks the group through a real-time shift in her own thinking, starting the episode convinced poly can absolutely be used to dodge intimacy, and ending it somewhere completely different. Noah and Alonzo test out a long-standing definition — poly as affairs of the heart, swinging as affairs of the flesh — and the panel doesn't just agree, they push back. What emerges is a layered, honest look at what intimacy actually means, and whether the label you wear has anything to do with whether you're actually capable of it. 

 Alonzo Banks (Host) · Dahlia · Noah · Michael (first appearance)