In Episode 18, Alonzo Banx brings together a familiar and lively panel — Heather, Cookie, Noah, Blake, and Lana — for a deep, candid conversation about what it really means to feel secure in polyamory. The discussion explores how love languages, trust, and communication shape emotional safety, and how security isn’t static — it’s something partners build, test, and rebuild over time.

From redefining “rules” as evolving agreements, to balancing freedom with safety, and learning to love from a place of divine yes instead of fear, this episode is one of the most emotionally intelligent PolySoCal roundtables yet. It’s a heartfelt mix of vulnerability, humor, and truth about what it takes to build lasting connection in multi-partner relationships.

Alonzo,  Heather, Cookie, Noah, Blake, and Lana

The PolySoCal crew dives deep into the electric, chaotic, and beautiful phenomenon known as New Relationship Energy (NRE) — that intoxicating rush when a new connection begins. Hosted by Alonzo Banx with Heather, Noah, Max, and Cupcake, the conversation explores how to recognize, manage, and sustain relationships when NRE hits hard.

From emotional honesty and neglected partners to compersion, dopamine highs, and hilarious real-world stories, this roundtable captures the full spectrum of what NRE brings — the joy, the fear, the lessons, and the laughter. It’s a thoughtful, funny, and deeply human look at love’s wildest chemical ride.

In this intimate and powerful one-on-one, Alonzo Banx sits down with Cupcake, one of the most loved voices of the PolySoCal community. For the first time, she shares her journey through trauma, recovery, and self-discovery — from surviving assault and toxic relationships to finding love, strength, and healing through kink, polyamory, and community. What begins as a personal history unfolds into a message of courage, growth, and the freedom to finally live as your authentic self.

 Alonzo Banx (Host), Cupcake (Guest) 

In this heartfelt roundtable, the PolySoCal crew opens up about belonging, rejection, and what it truly means to feel part of a community. Hosted by Alonzo Banx with guests Lana, Noah, Ash, Sy, and Cupcake, this episode dives into the emotional undercurrents of inclusion — when we feel invited, when we don’t, and how our own perceptions shape that sense of belonging. The group explores how trust, self-worth, and proactive care from community leaders can make all the difference between isolation and connection. 

 Alonzo Banx, Lana, Noah, Ash, Sy, Cupcake 

 What does fear look like when you’re trying to love openly? In this episode, three men sit down to talk honestly about confidence, insecurity, aging, and the quiet ways anxiety shows up in polyamorous relationships. It’s not a debate or a lectureit’s a real conversation between friends who’ve lived the questions they’re asking. From feeling “replaceable,” to learning emotional maturity, to the unspoken pressures men carry in love, this episode hits close to home for anyone who’s ever wondered if they’re “enough.” 

Alonzo, Jon, Noah

Guest host Noah leads a lively and heartfelt discussion exploring the many forms of polyamory — from kitchen-table dynamics to monogamish relationships, harems of cuddle buddies, and solo poly living. The conversation opens with introductions from the full PolySoCal crew and new guests, each sharing their experiences and definitions of what “poly” means to them. Together, they dive into the importance of communication, boundaries, and how relationships evolve in today’s changing world. What begins as an exploration of relationship types turns into a deeper conversation about the future of love, trust, and connection in a society redefining what relationships look like. 

 Noah, Cupcake, Heather, Ash, Max, Blake, Lana, Kim, Craig 

 In this roundtable conversation, the PolySoCal Podcast takes on one of the most common questions newcomers ask: “How do I join the community and conduct myself properly?” Alonzo Banx is joined by Cupcake, Noah, Ash, Oslo, Heather, and Craig for an honest and sometimes raw discussion about the do’s and don’ts of entering poly and lifestyle spaces. The group explores respect, boundaries, consent, and the importance of self-awareness before diving in. Along the way, personal stories highlight both the beauty and the challenges of building trust in open communities. 

Alonzo Banx is joined by Cupcake, Noah, Ash, Oslo, Heather, and Craig.

 Hosted by Alonzo Banx, this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast brings together a group of men—Jon, Beeb, Craig, Blake, Max, and Noah—for an unfiltered conversation about what it really takes to show up in shared spaces and non-monogamous dynamics. They tackle hard truths about ego, consent, communication, and emotional responsibility, sharing both personal insights and practical advice. It’s an honest and at times vulnerable conversation about growing into the kind of man who builds trust, not tension, and creates real connections, not performative participation. A must-listen for anyone who wants to understand how men are stepping up in this space. 

Participants: Alonzo Banx, Jon, Beeb, Craig, Blake, Max, Noah 

 In this powerful episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, host Patty guides a roundtable of six incredible women—Heather, Jenna, Cupcake, Captain Lynn, and Lana—through a deeply honest conversation about what to expect when entering the world of open or non-traditional relationships. Drawing on lived experience and hard-earned wisdom, they explore how to ask for what you need, how to stay grounded in your values, and how to handle emotional overwhelm without losing yourself. This episode is a safe, welcoming space for anyone curious about stepping into this lifestyle—especially women seeking truth and connection on their own terms. 

Participants: Patty, Heather, Jenna, Cupcake, Captain Lynn, Lana 

This episode of PolySoCal podcast dives into one of the most challenging and relatable dynamics in open relationships: the uneven balance of attention and playtime between men and women. Our panel of voices shared personal stories of jealousy, reassurance, cultural bias, and creative solutions—like being your partner’s wingwoman, setting clear agreements, or simply learning to celebrate each other’s connections. The conversation was honest, vulnerable, and full of insights for anyone navigating polyamory or just curious about how real people handle these challenges

Alonzo Banx (host), Patty (co-host), Heather, Jon, Blake, Lana, Noah, Cupcake, Max, and Ash