PolySoCal

This milestone episode celebrates 25 weeks of honest conversations, community bonding, and emotional evolution on the PolySoCal Podcast. The cast reflects on how being part of the show has changed them from deeper communication and personal confidence to stronger connections both inside and outside their relationships.

Together they explore how vulnerability has strengthened friendships, how sharing stories helps dismantle shame, and how this podcast has become a haven for those learning to love authentically. The group also looks forward, imagining more guests, broader conversations, and continued growth in both reach and emotional impact.

Playful moments, heartfelt gratitude, and real talk about what relationships take… this episode is a powerful checkpoint on the PolySoCal journey

Alonzo Banx, Patty, Heather, Jon, Noah

This episode dives into the chaotic world of wingmanning and wingwomaning in polyamorous dating. The cast shares real-life stories of how helping a partner flirt can easily turn into blocking them instead. There is a strong mix of humor and truth as the group explores what enthusiastic consent looks like in public spaces — and how jealousy, obliviousness, and possessiveness can shape the night.

There are no conclusions, no clean lessons — just funny and relatable moments that make the poly dating learning curve universal.

Alonzo Banx(Host), Jon, Patty, Cupcake, Heather

This week’s PolySoCal conversation centered around gratitude — and it turned deeply personal fast. The group shared what they’re most thankful for in life, exploring how trauma, resilience, and identity shape the love we give and receive. Themes of healing from injury and illness, releasing grief, and supporting partners through transformation were woven throughout the night. It was a powerful reminder that community is most meaningful when vulnerability is welcome.

Guests talked openly about physical recovery, emotional growth, reshaping relationships, and gratitude for partners and chosen family. This episode highlights how personal evolution and non-traditional love structures often go hand-in-hand — with a community showing up for one another through every version of themselves.

Alonzo Banx , Max, Blake, Lana, Heather, Patty, Katerina, Jon, Beeb 

this episode dives into the emotional landscape of aging within polyamorous and kink-friendly relationships. The group explores vulnerability, sexual confidence, physical changes, emotional safety, and the evolving experience of intimacy between partners of different ages. What starts as a discussion about sexual safety expands into honest storytelling about ED, communication, demisexuality, confidence, being seen, and how partners can support each other as their bodies and desires shift over time.

The conversation becomes one of the most open and intimate episodes yet, blending humor, sincerity, real stories, and cross-generational wisdom. 

Alonzo Banx (Host), Max, Lana, Blake, Solara, Noah, Heather, Captain Lynn

The discussion moves far beyond physical protection, delving into emotional safety — the kind of trust that allows someone to be fully vulnerable, seen, and accepted. Each guest brings a deeply personal perspective: Patty speaks about freedom of expression and emotional honesty, John reflects on being “a safe person” and the complexities of male vulnerability, Heather explores how self-knowledge and boundaries create safety, and Katerina opens a profound dialogue about energy, forgiveness, and the balance between sexual and emotional intimacy.

The result is a moving, intelligent, and deeply human conversation about the courage it takes to love openly — and the spiritual strength it requires to be truly safe with another person.

Alonzo Banx welcomes Patty, Heather, John,  Katerina

In this candid interview, host Alonzo Banx sits down with Patty, a cornerstone of the PolySoCal community, for a deep and heartfelt conversation about her 31-year relationship with her husband John, their journey through polyamory, and the wisdom that only comes from decades of experience.

Patty shares stories from their early days — from swinging to growing into emotionally connected polyamory — and opens up about raising children, facing red flags, and learning the art of saying no without guilt. Together, Alonzo and Patty explore what it means to build love that evolves, adapts, and survives life’s toughest lessons.

This episode is tender, funny, and full of grounded insight for anyone curious about long-term love in non-traditional relationships.

One of the most spirited PolySoCal roundtables yet, exploring the question: Do you have to be kinky to be poly? and Isn’t poly just swinging, anyway?

What begins as a lighthearted discussion quickly evolves into a candid exploration of love, sex, and self-definition. With a full cast including Max, Patty, Cupcake, John, Noah, and Heather, the conversation dives deep into how we define “kink,” what separates emotional connection from sexual play, and why definitions matter less than honesty and communication.

From laughter over “fridge contents” to heartfelt reflections on trust, vulnerability, and love, this episode captures PolySoCal at its best — open, real, and full of laughter that speaks the language of community.

Max, Patty, Cupcake, John, Noah, and Heather, 

In Episode 18, Alonzo Banx brings together a familiar and lively panel — Heather, Cookie, Noah, Blake, and Lana — for a deep, candid conversation about what it really means to feel secure in polyamory. The discussion explores how love languages, trust, and communication shape emotional safety, and how security isn’t static — it’s something partners build, test, and rebuild over time.

From redefining “rules” as evolving agreements, to balancing freedom with safety, and learning to love from a place of divine yes instead of fear, this episode is one of the most emotionally intelligent PolySoCal roundtables yet. It’s a heartfelt mix of vulnerability, humor, and truth about what it takes to build lasting connection in multi-partner relationships.

Alonzo,  Heather, Cookie, Noah, Blake, and Lana

The PolySoCal crew dives deep into the electric, chaotic, and beautiful phenomenon known as New Relationship Energy (NRE) — that intoxicating rush when a new connection begins. Hosted by Alonzo Banx with Heather, Noah, Max, and Cupcake, the conversation explores how to recognize, manage, and sustain relationships when NRE hits hard.

From emotional honesty and neglected partners to compersion, dopamine highs, and hilarious real-world stories, this roundtable captures the full spectrum of what NRE brings — the joy, the fear, the lessons, and the laughter. It’s a thoughtful, funny, and deeply human look at love’s wildest chemical ride.

In this intimate and powerful one-on-one, Alonzo Banx sits down with Cupcake, one of the most loved voices of the PolySoCal community. For the first time, she shares her journey through trauma, recovery, and self-discovery — from surviving assault and toxic relationships to finding love, strength, and healing through kink, polyamory, and community. What begins as a personal history unfolds into a message of courage, growth, and the freedom to finally live as your authentic self.

 Alonzo Banx (Host), Cupcake (Guest)