PolySoCal

In this heartfelt roundtable, the PolySoCal crew opens up about belonging, rejection, and what it truly means to feel part of a community. Hosted by Alonzo Banx with guests Lana, Noah, Ash, Sy, and Cupcake, this episode dives into the emotional undercurrents of inclusion — when we feel invited, when we don’t, and how our own perceptions shape that sense of belonging. The group explores how trust, self-worth, and proactive care from community leaders can make all the difference between isolation and connection. 

 Alonzo Banx, Lana, Noah, Ash, Sy, Cupcake 

 What does fear look like when you’re trying to love openly? In this episode, three men sit down to talk honestly about confidence, insecurity, aging, and the quiet ways anxiety shows up in polyamorous relationships. It’s not a debate or a lectureit’s a real conversation between friends who’ve lived the questions they’re asking. From feeling “replaceable,” to learning emotional maturity, to the unspoken pressures men carry in love, this episode hits close to home for anyone who’s ever wondered if they’re “enough.” 

Alonzo, Jon, Noah

Guest host Noah leads a lively and heartfelt discussion exploring the many forms of polyamory — from kitchen-table dynamics to monogamish relationships, harems of cuddle buddies, and solo poly living. The conversation opens with introductions from the full PolySoCal crew and new guests, each sharing their experiences and definitions of what “poly” means to them. Together, they dive into the importance of communication, boundaries, and how relationships evolve in today’s changing world. What begins as an exploration of relationship types turns into a deeper conversation about the future of love, trust, and connection in a society redefining what relationships look like. 

 Noah, Cupcake, Heather, Ash, Max, Blake, Lana, Kim, Craig 

 In this roundtable conversation, the PolySoCal Podcast takes on one of the most common questions newcomers ask: “How do I join the community and conduct myself properly?” Alonzo Banx is joined by Cupcake, Noah, Ash, Oslo, Heather, and Craig for an honest and sometimes raw discussion about the do’s and don’ts of entering poly and lifestyle spaces. The group explores respect, boundaries, consent, and the importance of self-awareness before diving in. Along the way, personal stories highlight both the beauty and the challenges of building trust in open communities. 

Alonzo Banx is joined by Cupcake, Noah, Ash, Oslo, Heather, and Craig.

 Hosted by Alonzo Banx, this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast brings together a group of men—Jon, Beeb, Craig, Blake, Max, and Noah—for an unfiltered conversation about what it really takes to show up in shared spaces and non-monogamous dynamics. They tackle hard truths about ego, consent, communication, and emotional responsibility, sharing both personal insights and practical advice. It’s an honest and at times vulnerable conversation about growing into the kind of man who builds trust, not tension, and creates real connections, not performative participation. A must-listen for anyone who wants to understand how men are stepping up in this space. 

Participants: Alonzo Banx, Jon, Beeb, Craig, Blake, Max, Noah 

 In this powerful episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, host Patty guides a roundtable of six incredible women—Heather, Jenna, Cupcake, Captain Lynn, and Lana—through a deeply honest conversation about what to expect when entering the world of open or non-traditional relationships. Drawing on lived experience and hard-earned wisdom, they explore how to ask for what you need, how to stay grounded in your values, and how to handle emotional overwhelm without losing yourself. This episode is a safe, welcoming space for anyone curious about stepping into this lifestyle—especially women seeking truth and connection on their own terms. 

Participants: Patty, Heather, Jenna, Cupcake, Captain Lynn, Lana 

This episode of PolySoCal podcast dives into one of the most challenging and relatable dynamics in open relationships: the uneven balance of attention and playtime between men and women. Our panel of voices shared personal stories of jealousy, reassurance, cultural bias, and creative solutions—like being your partner’s wingwoman, setting clear agreements, or simply learning to celebrate each other’s connections. The conversation was honest, vulnerable, and full of insights for anyone navigating polyamory or just curious about how real people handle these challenges

Alonzo Banx (host), Patty (co-host), Heather, Jon, Blake, Lana, Noah, Cupcake, Max, and Ash

In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo sits down with Patty, John, Heather, and Beeb — a four-person polycule — to talk about how their connection began, what it’s like to grow from swinging into a committed quad, and how they navigate the everyday challenges of jealousy, compersion, agreements, and family disclosure. From playful banter about “love cups” to honest reflections on emotional vulnerability and time management, this conversation offers a candid look at how four people are building a family unit rooted in communication, trust, and laughter.

In this episode of the PolysoCal Roundtable Talk, host Alonzo Banx and a diverse group of guests discuss the intricacies of polyamorous relationships. They explore how to navigate the introduction of new partners, the importance of communication, and the lessons learned from past experiences. The conversation emphasizes the significance of mental health and the need for transparency and trust in polyamorous dynamics. Each guest shares their unique perspectives and advice, creating a rich dialogue about love, boundaries, and the evolving nature of relationships.

What does the word “polyamory” actually mean anymore? In this thoughtful and sometimes spirited roundtable, Alonzo Banx opens the floor to unpack a question that’s become more complicated with time: Has the word “poly” lost its meaning—or expanded it?

From ethical non-monogamy to monogamish dynamics, from swinging to polyfidelity, this episode dives into the evolving language of love and the emotional distinctions that set polyamory apart. With voices ranging from deeply seasoned to freshly curious, the conversation explores honesty, emotional depth, autonomy, and why the words we use still matter.

Is poly just about having multiple partners? Or is it about communication, consent, and conscious choice? Come find out what “poly” means to the people living it—today.