In this episode, we explore the relationship-killing form of perfectionism: other-oriented. Being an other-oriented perfectionist has a double-edged sword. It can be a very lonely way to live in addition to being really toxic for yourself and others. Often, other-oriented perfectionism is born from self-oriented perfectionism. You're only as hard on others as you are on yourself! 

Tune in to hear symptoms of this form, long-term impacts, and most importantly, how to combat it! 

Do you feel immense amounts of pressure from what you think everyone around you believes to be "perfect"? Does scrolling social media leave you feeling drained, discouraged, and overwhelmed with expectations? Do you find yourself trying to present what everyone's version of the perfect you is? Don't worry, you're in good company. And we've got a whole episode to help you out. 

Socially-prescribed perfectionism refers to the mentality that one must live up to the idea of perfection set by society, a culture, or other groups of people. These standards are often constricting, overwhelming, and inspire self-betrayal. Join us as we talk about the symptoms of this perfectionism, where it comes from, how to recognize it, and of course how to combat it. This is the last of our 3 forms of perfectionism and our second to last episode of this series! Be sure to tune in. 

Do you hold others to unrealistically high standards? Do you find yourself checking out of relationships because of very small, specific "dealbreakers"? Do you expect others to perform the same way you do, regardless of their circumstance?

If so, this episode is for you. We talk about other-oriented perfectionism. Other-oriented perfectionism refers to the mindset that when others do not meet your personal benchmarks of worthiness (which are often unrealistic or insignificant), you should cut off or leave that relationship. This also refers to seeing yourself as better than many of the people around you and not cutting others slack. To hear the symptoms of this form of perfectionism, its negative impacts, and ways to combat it - tune in! 

Welcome back to Popping Perfectionism! Today we dive into the inner-workings of one of our most familiar and dreaded topics: self-oriented perfectionism. This form of perfectionism packs quite a punch and is where the other forms of perfectionism (to be discussed in coming episodes) typically stem from. 

Join us on this episode as we talk about the symptoms of this type of perfectionism, its impacts on relationships and self-esteem, and most importantly - ways to combat it. 

In this episode, we talk about the two foundational dimensions of perfectionism as well as a common side effect of perfectionism: The Chameleon Syndrome. 

By participating in the two perfectionism dimensions of unrealistic goals and self-criticism, we train our minds to constantly beat down on our self-esteem, worth, and identity. This often causes us to then take on Chameleon Syndrome as a defense mechanism. Chameleon Syndrome allows us to blend in with our environments, consistently displaying other people's ideal versions of ourselves. This prevents us from being our authentic selves which then inevitably ruins any chance of connection. 

By instead practicing Connectionism, we can combat this mindset and move more freely in the world as our true, honest selves. 

In this episode, we explore the "what" behind perfectionism, Connectionism, and how this podcast came to be. The world has perfectionism all wrong: it's not a virtue - it's a vice. We talk about ways to recognize a perfectionist mindset and even more importantly, ways to combat it - through Connectionism.

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