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- #83 – What You Do When You Get Screwed OverI just heard a stunning definition of trauma from Dr Gabor Mate – it’s not the event itself that is trauma, but the psychic wound.The event can’t be changed, but healing the wound we can do right now.Because trauma can heal – and I wanted to hear that, we all do…And it does make me wonder:If your trust is betrayed, and you’re let down by your partner, a workmate, a friend, then it isn’t the event that is hurtful as much as the wound that it makes.But this act of betrayal has nothing to do with your values, what you do in the world, but more so of the hurt that we carry.This hurt can heal – through the good that we do, and the people we care, and good people we meet because the world is so much greater in goodness than any evil can muster.Yes, the wrongs can be strong.They can overshadow the right, but cannot overtake it.When I look back on struggle and hurt, there was always more beauty and truth that I found in the world.When has this been true for you?What to do when you get screwed over – let’s get right to it on The Happy You:
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22 min - #82 – How To Avoid Comparing Yourself To OthersThe only time I feel a failure is when I compare myself to others.Isn’t it weird??Life seems to be going along just fine…Until you’re struck with a vision of some success that might not even real – a happy snap, a random comment, a sideward glance when you get your coffee…It’s like you don’t even think – just stand there, frozen with doubt.Here is what most of us do when we compare ourselves to others:We downplay our own achievements, ignore the progress we made, forget the journey we’re on.It is unfair and cruel – to you!Because the journey you’re on is unique – we all face our demons, own struggles, and circumstance.Do not forget who you are and where you’re from – and honour yourself, honour the feeling.The further we can get from having this sinking feeling, the better…So join me this week to talk about putting a stop to it now:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
17 min - #81 – When You Feel Alone In A RelationshipWhere should we be the strongest in times of struggle?Home – that should be the place of solace and comfort, the place to heal.You want your partner, your loved one, your friend:To be there for you, and support you, help you get up…But is that always the case?Not for me, at least not in the first big relationship that I had:The beginning was pure bliss, but slowly, the troubles set in.We were growing apart, but I never knew how, until I got sick.The fever, fatigue, I was in bed two weeks…She was gone, and I never felt so alone.Worst part – I didn’t know what to say, or do, helpless, and no clue what next.But I knew it was wrong.We are meant to give love, and be loved in return.We are meant to give joy, and feel pride, and compassion, and care!Because love both ways, and it’s vital we talk about how it works, and how it work better:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
18 min - #80 – How To Stop OverthinkingMy friend I wish life was fair, just and made sense, but it doesn’t always feel that way, does it?Bad things happen to good people, often without explanation, and we struggle with that:Because you want to live well, free of guilt, to dream, and believe in yourself!This is why it’s vital to find the courage and be kind to you.So many times I’m sure you care and listen to others, support them in challenging times, display compassion and kindness…And yet, you might be your own harshest critic!You question and doubt things you do, you talk yourself down, you try to make sense of things that lie beyond your control…It’s when we overthink, get stuck, and feel awful.But give yourself grace, my friend, you don’t have to get everything right, or have all the answers, waiting for you at the ready!If things can take a turn for the worse, then we must also accept change – and change can go both ways.And if you struggle right now, and if it doesn’t feel right, or sudden, then please know that everything is possible.For you, today, always.And I’m here for you – tune in for more this time to talk about overthinking here on The Happy YOU:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
23 min - #79 – The Power of Positive InfluencePositivity still gets a bad rap in the media, but don’t we all need it now more than ever?!In this age of division, when there is so much negativity and change, we’ve got to find ways to keep going…Despite the trouble and the uncertainty when you’re expected to bitch and moan and complain – about EVERYTHING!Don’t get me wrong, life ain’t easy, and yes, we live, side by side, with the struggle, but is does this make it an invitation to perpetuate the negative message further?!Today, I see war, exhaustion, doubt – that is the challenge, our common challenge, to be remain ourselves, true selves, to stay true to our values, and be a positive influence out in the world, today.This – this is our choice…What is it going to be?But every day, every moment, with every breath, we make a choice, the only choice that I hope to make:To share good, to give, to be the positive influence because every smile, every kind word, that is what matters…So how so we make it happen, and influence people around us in a positive way?The answer, it lies in the way we our lives each day, in what it is that we do already, and people we care for the most.To be a positive influence – how?Join me for a frank conversation today on The Happy YOU:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
16 min - #78 – Making Friends in this Age of LonelinessThere’s this weird thing that happens when you make a friend:It’s a moment of trust – when you let them into your world.Maybe you invite them over, or suggest you do something together, that first step, it’s crucial.Looking back, I find it hard to pinpoint those moments when people that I’m holding close, but what they might have in common is this – a shared experience.But what if the experience you want isn’t there?In my twenties, I did a short course on short plays.Great learning and tons of fun – we put on shows together, we’ve grown close, so years later when I signed up for playwriting course, I was expecting more of the same…But once the course was done, we went our separate ways – why?The format, it was the same, but the difference was this – the first class, these years ago, we all went for drinks!!We sat at the bar, we laughed, we told stories, we bonded…It was the shared experience that went beyond age, race, class, or culture, even beyond our artistic sensibilities…We bonded as people going in the same direction, and that’s what I pose to you today:How can you get around people who shares the same aspiration, the same goals, who might be going in the same direction?Assuming you want to bring more people into your life, people that get you, just in the way you are…This is what friends for, isn’t it?But how you go about finding them – that is the subject for our very own show this week right here on The Happy YOU:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
23 min - #77 – Feeling That You Deserve
Can you find love, peace, or happiness if you don’t feel you deserve?
Maybe, but it will likely be that much harder!Why?Because we tend to go for things that seem within reach.And if you don’t feel it’s real, if you don’t believe it attainable, if you don’t feel you’re ready, equipped or deserving, it’s going to be hard to find the way forward.But this feeling of not being enough can only come from one place – the PAST.Irrespective of the great things you know you love, that you brought to life or proud of, there will also failures, mistakes, things that don’t go to plan…It is part of our life – and for me, it is my teenage life, stranger in a strange land, and without a clue.I felt stupid, and awkward, and did not belong.With my big dorky glasses and my broken words, they made of fun of me, trust me they did, maybe not to my face, but that’s made it worse.So now, when I go into new situations, I’m meeting new folks, there’s a part of me – honest – that trembles with fear…I don’t usually think it back to my teenager life, but that link, it’s there, and it won’t go away…But I ask – what is it that I’m missing out on today?What if this is a beautiful chance to learn something new, make a friend, or have fun, wouldn’t that all be worth it?After all, is it really fair to let our past setbacks to direct our lives today?When we leave the past where it belongs belongs, we make room for what is possible for us today.When it feels attainable, real, present, and within reach – it’s when we are ready take it, and feel more deserving because we let go of the past that might be holding us back.Those past challenges, they won’t disappear, but they would hopefully keep their place in a place where they are no longer directing our lives.For more on deserving, tune in for this week’s episode of The Happy YOU:If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
23 min - #76 – The Path Towards Self-Acceptance
We all talk to ourselves. That’s not weird, right? It is something you do, every day, and while some days are better than others, there’s often a pattern:
What you say to yourself, it’s something that helps you, pulls you up, and it gives you the hope for the future, or it’s harsh, full of angst, and it’s holding you back, further.It is hard when you care about others – you do what you can to be kind, to be thoughtful, to encourage and praise…But is that what you do for yourself?And I mean that – if you can be caring, and hopeful and kind towards others, than surely, you must do the same for yourself?For if you can forgive others the misgivings the have, if you can look past their faults, and accept them as they truly are, than you must do the same for yourself!It’s the path towards life you deserve, and if you don’t believe me…Please believe in yourself, my friend!!You have earned it.This is the art of self-acceptance, and it’s what we must practice to be more fulfilled, despite the struggles and the doubts that we have.For more on accepting your true self, join me this week on The Happy YOU:If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
23 min - #75 – How To Feel Worthy of Happiness
Some people are happy – and some are not… Why is that?
Maybe sometimes we look towards the things that went wrong, or you might be missing…
Instead, what if make more time looking for things we treasure, the people we can’t live without?Moments that make you laugh, odd things that bring out memories, times you surprised yourself…These things, they aren’t grand, or fancy, but they bind us, the tapestry of our lives.The moment you look at it, they remind you, of who you are, what you’re proud of, and what you’re deserve:HAPPINESSIt’s here, my friend, waiting for you to take it!For more, check out this week’s episode of The Happy YOU:If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
25 min - #74 – How To Find Inner Peace In The Chaos Around You
You know what’s worse than being scared?
It’s when you feel numb – NOTHING.I look back to when I’m outside the urologist’s office, rain beating across the face.In my hands are the papers with proof of the cancer inside me.The inside is empty, and things won’t ever be the same again.This moment you’re thrust into chaos it’s when you know:A new order is what must emerge.Things won’t be the same, so how is it going to be, from this moment on?We make sense of it, shape it, and find ways to go on.Some call it “the new normal”.What matters the most is the essence – how you find calm, peace, a sense of gratitude and kindness, most of all, towards self.What is going to help you along?To feel good about yourself, and the world around you?It’s what we’re exploring this week on The Happy YOU:If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
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About Power To Be Happy: Journey of Healing, Together
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When you have a difficult story in life, it is so hard to bring it out into the open and “deal with it”… Sometimes you don’t even realise just how much it’s been affecting you in your day to day – or…
so has it been for me. And so I am trying to make sense of it all, and in this podcast, I want to share some of the vital things that I’m learning on this journey towards healing and hope. You are not alone, my friend! I’m here for you, and you – you deserve to be happy, and let’s figure things out TOGETHER!