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- #73 – How To Live Healthy For You
I used to smoke.
Would you believe it?It might be crazy today, but it was easy back then…Back when I was invincible.Or so I thought – and cancer, well, it was only something that happens to “other people”.And living healthy never made sense – because it wasn’t for me, I didn’t need it.But one day, it got me.When they found the cancer inside me, that made it personal.And our health, it’s something I can’t take for granted…I’ve got to take care of myself, as best as I can, so I can enjoy it and feel like I had not wasted a single chance.Sure, anything can happen, and things don’t go to plan, and yet…What I want to know is I did everything in my power to stay healthy so I can feel good and help others.Everyone’s journey towards healthier life is bound to be different, and yet it can help us steer clear of regret.And that’s got to be worth something, isn’t it?Small things can often make all the difference – if you want to think how that might work for you, join me on this week’s episode of The Happy YOU:If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
20 min - #72 – Find Clarity in Your Love Life
If I were to sum up being a teenager, in a word – clueless. No idea what about anything, but especially about love.
I fell in and out of feelings until the one time that became long term…Five and a half years later, she left and I was alone, more lost than I was ever before:People around me seemed to know what they exactly what it is they wanted…And some found it too!Me, on the other hand, had been sleep walking through life.For so long, until…One day, I was on the way home.But instead of music, I stumbled on an audio book.Self help – no idea what that was, but there is a message I got loud and clear:WHAT HAPPENS IN YOUR LIFE IS UP TO YOUIt struck me like thunder.Me, in control of my life??It may seem simple to you, my friend, but this has a profound change for me…I realised that falling in love was my responsibility.To ensure this person loves me for who I am, a person that I can trust…The more I thought about the person I wanted, the more I realised what I’ve been missing and what I deserve.The vision took shape in my mind, I knew what I wanted, which in a strange way, made it MORE REAL.No longer vague, abstract, but tangible, and also…If this is what I expect to find, then it’s the least I must give in return.I have to be what I desire – it’s as simple as that.This – it helped me rise to the occasion, to be at my best, and grow.It brought me closer and closer to the dream that I wanted – until I met her.Meeting my future wife was a turning point, a magical moment I will never forget…And yet, it would never have happened unless I made a promise to stand up for love.When you know what you want and you’re willing to give your best, the result is a matter of time and circumstance.Not the other way around – and making sense of it all is crucial.Do you want to be more happy and joyous in love?Whether you want to meet someone new, or forge stronger bonds with someone in your life, come join me on The Happy YOU this week to find more clarity in your love life:If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
26 min - #71 – Making Sense of the UnexpectedThe first thing that hits you when life takes a turn is, why me??What have I done to deserve this?Will things ever go back to the way they were?These questions they come for you, as they did for me:Standing outside the urologist’s, scans in hand to show cancer inside my body.Most of all, I felt numb.Helpless, don’t know what to do.And so I went to the sea.I stood on a pier, watching the waves pound the shore.Wave after wave they came, crushing the rocks, stealing the sand.It’s a big world, and I’m just one part of it.Somehow, it was comforting, the enormity of it all:To be part of something greater, one part of the greater whole.It helped me find solace in a difficult moment.And what about you?What is it that helps you feel better?Maybe to find calm, some kind of peace within so you can make better sense of it all?I believe that the answers you seek are already within you, and it’s a matter of bringing them out and find clarity.It’s a process of exploration to look deep within and see what you can uncover…Join me on this week’s to try and make sense of the unexpected so you can move forward on your terms:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
24 min - #70 – Taking Next Step In Your CareerSometimes life presents you with a choice, sometimes you have to make one.For me, it was exactly one decade into coding:I reached a point when it was no longer fun, and so I went back to study at night, wanting to figure things out…Honestly I had no idea what I was doing…Countless times I wanted to give up, but inside, I knew there is MORE.That I deserve to be happy in what I’m doing.And yes, that I may not hold all answers – or any answers – but I can try!And you’ve done it too, haven’t you?The times you weren’t sure, but you gave it a go, and you stumbled, but got there in the end!You figured things out, you made it work!!So it’s nothing new, only a commitment to yourself, to find what works, and go with it.There’s a purpose that we all have as humans – to not stay in one place, to find a way forward.To lead a happy and meaningful life so that you feel you belong.And when you are giving your best, and making a difference in a way that’s going to make sense to you, it’s going to feel good, to be yourself and the life that you’re living…But sometimes you’ve got to take that step forward, even if it feels weird, and figuring out what that is – that’s part of the process, to work out what you want to do…So what’s next for you, your career?If you want some help thinking through it, tune in for this week’s show and we’re going to do it together:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
21 min - #69 – How To Break Free From GuiltI don’t know about you, but it’s kind of hard to stay positive…Even though you want to, there’s always something that JUMPS out of nowhere, and you’ve got to deal with it!!That’s true of negative emotions that tend to sneak up on you – like guilt.Just the other day, I asked my son if he’s done his homework:He did not, and trudged off to his room…A few minutes later, I heard him get in trouble with my wife because he was meant to be cleaning up, and didn’t.And you know what?I felt guilty!!Even though it wasn’t my fault, still, I hated the thought of him being upset…So I said – it’s on me, and he can finish it later.This wasn’t some massive change, but it did make think:It doesn’t matter what you did or might have done, or how you feel and who’s fault it is…The only thing that matters is what you do NEXT.Because feelings like shame can only remain in our presence until we do something about them!It need not be some epic change, but one step forward – a conversation, an acknowledgment, a kind gesture…Don’t we all deserve to feel better about ourselves?I believe that we can do much to eradicate guilt from our lives and stop it taking hold, to usher it towards the exit!If you want to find your way around guilt, check out this episode of The Happy YOU for more:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
16 min - #68 – Unleash Your Creative PowerMy friend, what does creativity mean to you?Me, I thought creative = being artistic, but…Nothing could be further from truth.In fact, it is an excuse for being lazy.Years I lounged around waiting for the creative muse to strike me:So you go on with life until there is an urge to start writing, and it’s a rush to get things out as quickly and best you can…Unpredictable, unsustainable, and no direction.Today, I have my creativity right on schedule – every week, I make a podcast.When I work, I make time for practice to hone my skills and get thoughts in order.Every day, I have tasks that move me closer to the vision that I have for myself moving forward:Giving, at my best, helping others.Creativity is discipline when you want results and understanding your rhythm so you can make it work for you!So how can you do that better?Join me on The Happy YOU podcast to help you unleash your creative power and feel like you’re making progress each day:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
28 min - #67 – How To Push On With Your Dream When Things Aren’t Going Your WayYour dream – honestly, is it worth?It’s the question I ask myself because my dream to impact millions of people through my work, it is HARD.Some days – like today – you run around doing a million things feeling nothing gets done…And it’s by no means a question of intent, but clarity and self care.Let’s speak to self care first because it’s so in your face:When I start berating myself for wasting time or not making good on my plans, I know that it is then I let myself down as well as my family.My family because if I’m stuck in self blame and pity, I’m no fun, and that’s a factBut also myself because it’s not fair to treat yourself in this way!If you can be kind, understanding to others, support them and giving them praise, then surely, you ought to be doing this for yourself!!Would you say that’s true?This is self care – when you care for yourself so you can give fully, without holding back.And speaking of giving, we come to the second part of what we need to keep hold of our innermost dreams:CLARITY.For when you can see things the way they are, you bring about certainty to the way you live so you can be so much more confident about decisions you make!But how do you do that in a way that is going to keep you sane so you can get to your dreams faster?I want to walk you through my four step process to find clarity and how it applies to staying on track for the life that you want, even when things don’t go your way…So join me on The Happy YOU for this week’s episode on how to push on with your dream:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
22 min - #66 – How To Live In The Moment When You’re Struggling With DoubtDo you ever say to yourself – why am I not already having that at this point of my life??I know I do, and it’s not a good feeling!It’s like admitting that something is wrong, but is it, really?Doubt raises its ugly head when you’re going for new, creating and being your true self…When what you want to do most is to be present, engaged in this moment, today, living life to its fullest…This speaks to my ambitions of being an author, a thought leader, but I do find it hard to get there because I stumble along the way, I make mistakes, I get sidetracked with day to day problems and feeling misunderstood…It is a part of being human, a journey to self acceptance, and I am here to remind you:You don’t have to be perfect, it’s okay to let go of things that might be holding you back, and move forward, regardless!Because you deserve to be happy, to live a more fulfilled and purposeful life, to live in the moment despite worry and doubt!!So we strive and some ways are better than others – so join me for more on this week’s episode of The Happy YOU:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
19 min - #65 – How Conflict Can Make Your Relationships StrongerTell me – what’s the one thing that is worse than locking horns with your spouse or loved one?It’s the torrent of anger and scorn that builds up inside you afterwards…It is the most destructive, negative state imaginable in a relationship, don’t you think?Because you get so caught up in the heat of the moment – and I should know having plenty of practice until…One day, in the middle of a huge argument with Olya, my wife – was it something she said?As always, I stormed out of the house in outrage, mostly at myself, making up the perfect things I should have said to prove that I’m right.So what’s happened, and who’s fault was it in the end?Could I be one hundred percent right, and her one hundred percent wrong??No, no way – more likely, we hover somewhere around fifty fifty, give or take…Then isn’t it true for all conflict, in the most intimate of relationships that you have?If so, then I must cast aside the whole notion of who’s right and who’s wrong and focus on find a way forward, together.And if there’s no need to prove myself right and if I genuinely care about finding a way through, then it is I who should make the first step towards resolving it.Not because I am better, not because I am wrong, but because I care.It serves me well to this day because that’s what love is – finding ways to bring things out in the open to stop them from getting out of control.How does this sound to you?If this is something that makes sense to you, then check out this week’s episode of The Happy YOU where I talk more about how conflict can make relationships stronger:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
21 min - #64 – How To Keep Out Negative InfluenceThe moment pandemic hit, I could not take my eyes off the news.The number of deaths, the restrictions, the sheer helplessness of it all…Glued to my phone, I kept switching from one source to another, like some guilt edged secret:Because inside, you know that the negative influence is doing you damage.But do you stop there, at the precise point that you know you cannot change or control the situation?And it’s hard because when I get my toxic news hit, I feel the terror rising inside me.My head feels empty and why is it so hard to breathe…Stop! Now is the time to break the chain and do something, anything, to clear my head.So I am off to the reservoir, and I run through the bush, the wind lashing, spurring me on…Over the rocks, puddles, tree limbs, towards freedom.Enough!!I can’t live like this, in trance of this negative influence…For many of us, this negative, toxic influence can come from many sources that we often can’t close off – friends, family, work.Some we come into through habit and way of life – social media, news, our culture.It makes life harder, no doubt, but we can take back control!First, by recognising what sets you off:Look at your feelings, thoughts – what makes you upset and why? Are there any clear patterns that you can notice?This is no easy task and it’s easy to glance over as obvious or unable to change, but it is vital…When you can recognise your emotions, when you know what it is that is setting you off, you put yourself on the track to doing something about it in a meaningful way.Second, you need an approach, a way of looking at it that will help you take charge of what you allow into your life that is sustainable over the long term.This is what I’m covering in this week’s episode of The Happy YOU:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
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About Power To Be Happy: Journey of Healing, Together
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When you have a difficult story in life, it is so hard to bring it out into the open and “deal with it”… Sometimes you don’t even realise just how much it’s been affecting you in your day to day – or…
so has it been for me. And so I am trying to make sense of it all, and in this podcast, I want to share some of the vital things that I’m learning on this journey towards healing and hope. You are not alone, my friend! I’m here for you, and you – you deserve to be happy, and let’s figure things out TOGETHER!