Something I hear ADHDers talking about a lot is how frustrating they find their own inconsistency. How one day, or week, you’re focused, productive, you’re ticking things off, making great progress, firing on all cylinders, getting things done.

But then the next day, seemingly out of the blue, you’re completely unfocused, you don’t know what to do next, you can’t summon the energy or motivation or brain power to do any of the things you were doing and generally just faff around not getting anywhere.

It’s infuriating and feeds into an old story we’ve taken on that we can’t be relied upon, that we can’t rely on ourselves because of our inconsistency.

In this episode I share what’s really going on here and a three-step formula for how to deal with what is seen as inconsistency and erratic energy.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Take a look at the Quiet ADHDer’s Guide to Thriving (not just surviving) this Christmas here

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me [email protected].

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

A question that can be asked when you’re talking with someone about your ADHD suspicions or suggesting you might pursue a diagnosis is:

“What do you need a label for?”

That one question can feel like a shut down of this new, fragile and seismic realisation about yourself and your life to date.

The real question is, what other labels have you been carrying around with you for decades and what’s been their impact on you?

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Listen to Episode 146 The fear of your ADHD not being believed here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me [email protected].

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

During this ADHD Awareness Month I have been revisiting past episodes and sharing one a week to give more explanation and hopefully create more understanding about ADHD experienced by late-discovered, more introverted and sensitive women.

I’ve shared what ADHD looks like for women who have made it through decades of their lives with no idea they have ADHD, why there seems to be a tsunami of women in midlife getting diagnoses, what an ADHD brain can really feel like, and this time I’m addressing some of the common myths and misunderstandings about ADHD that get in the way of people really getting what it is.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me [email protected].

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

As October is ADHD Awareness Month I’m doing things slightly differently this month on the podcast.

Instead of releasing episodes every two weeks, during October I’m popping up each week with a revisit to a past episode focusing on what ADHD looks like for women who have made it through decades of their lives with no idea they have ADHD, why there seems to be a tsunami of women in midlife getting diagnoses, what an ADHD brain can really feel like and some of the myths and misunderstandings about ADHD.

Here I’m revisiting a previous episode where I share what it’s like inside an ADHDer’s brain, what’s going on in that differently-wired brain that goes some way to explain some of the feelings and behaviours you might see on the outside.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me [email protected].

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

As October is ADHD Awareness Month I’m doing things a little differently this month on the podcast.

Episodes are usually fortnightly but each week for the next four weeks I’m revisiting past episodes focusing on what ADHD looks like for women who have made it through decades of their lives with no idea they have ADHD, why there seems to be a tsunami of women in midlife getting diagnoses, what an ADHD brain can really feel like and some of the myths and misunderstandings about ADHD.

This time I’m revisiting a previous episode where I share why the number of women in midlife being diagnosed with ADHD has rocketed and what’s actually behind the increase in diagnoses.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me [email protected].

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

As October is ADHD Awareness Month I’m doing things a little differently this month on the podcast.

Episodes are usually fortnightly but each week for the next four weeks I’m going to revisit past episodes focusing on what ADHD looks like for women who have made it through decades of their lives with no idea they have ADHD, why there seems to be a tsunami of women in midlife getting diagnoses, what an ADHD brain can really feel like and some of the myths and misunderstandings about ADHD.

So, here I’m revisiting a previous episode where I share what ADHD can look like for women who have lived with unrecognised ADHD for most of their lives.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me [email protected].

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

When I reflected on how I’d managed common ADHD challenges for the decades before I knew I had ADHD I realised just how many strategies I’d been employing without necessarily being aware that’s what I was doing.

So in this episode I’m sharing 10 of the ways I manage ADHD struggles such as procrastination, forgetfulness, losing things, object impermanence, self-criticism and more.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me [email protected].

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club, including the Be Your Own Best Friend online workshop, and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

There’s a message I give myself most mornings, a sort of affirmation I say out loud to round off my daily-ish meditation and start the day. It’s something I came up with before I knew about my ADHD but which I realised my subsconscious really wanted and needed me to hear. And which I think so many of us unrealised until later in life ADHDers need to take to heart.

Which is why I’m sharing it with you in this episode…

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me [email protected].

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club, including the Be Your Own Best Friend online workshop, and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

A couple of months ago my husband and I too our first trip overseas since I discovered my ADHD. As well as planning where to stay and what to see I thought about the stress points there had been in previous travels and how I could take a different approach with this better understanding of myself.

While we were away I also learned what helped and allowed both of us to really enjoy our holiday. So, in this episode I’m sharing what I found most impactful, in case it’s of use to you too.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me [email protected].

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

It’s not easy to discover you’re neurodivergent, to realise how it has and does affect your life. It brings up a whole host of thoughts and feelings and it can be quite the rollercoaster. As I mulled over the journey I was taking after my ADHD discovery a framework for the process we go through formed in my head.

The Neurodivergent Self-discovery Spiral is how I see the journey I, and other neurodivergent folk I’ve spoken with, go through as we process what an ND realisation or diagnosis means for us. I hope by sharing it in this episode it may help to describe the process you’re going through and by doing so give you some explanation, encouragement and comfort.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me [email protected].

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.