Imagine being asked to sit in silence for one hour. No phone, no distractions, no multitasking—just you and your thoughts. Does the thought make you uncomfortable? Maybe you’d negotiate, cheat with a quick phone check, or feel like the assignment is a waste of time. But what’s really going on beneath that discomfort?

The truth is, silence often brings up guilt, shame, or fear. You might feel guilty thinking of the “shoulds”—“I should be folding laundry,” “I should be finishing work.” Or maybe silence forces you to confront fears like, What if I realize I’m not happy? What if I don’t even know who I am anymore? As Veronica Cisneros says, “Sitting in silence isn’t unbearable because you’re busy; it’s unbearable because you’re running from the truth.”

This discomfort has roots in the stories we’ve internalized. Many women were raised to equate self-sacrifice with love and worthiness. You might have been taught that rest is something to be earned, that putting yourself first is selfish. But who decided that your happiness, your rest, and your needs were negotiable? Breaking this cycle requires a hard look at where these beliefs came from—and challenging them.

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If this episode resonates with you, it’s time to take action. Veronica created Empower X to help women break free from these patterns and reclaim their time, energy, and sense of self. Through the program, you’ll learn how to define what you want—not just for your family or career, but for yourself.

Empower X will teach you how to delegate without guilt, integrate self-care into daily life, and reconnect with your partner, kids, and most importantly, yourself. As Veronica says, “Self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity.”

This week, challenge yourself to sit in silence for one hour. Let whatever emotions come up—guilt, fear, or even the ugly cry—rise to the surface. And then ask yourself: What do I need to change to start prioritizing myself? If you’re ready to go deeper and do the hard, transformative work in a community of women who truly understand you, join Empower X today.

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