Project Love

We feel like a broken record saying this every year, but…how is it almost April already!?

Are you feeling that too?

It can be so easy for time to fly by and to get sucked into that never-ending to-do list until, before you know it, another year has passed by and those plans and intentions you made at the start of the year have all but been forgotten. 

WELL NOT THIS YEAR.

We have made a commitment to organise a collective ‘HIT PAUSE’ every quarter, so we can each check-in with ourselves, review how the last 3 months have gone, how our commitments have come along and create fresh new commitments for the next three months that will help us each keep creating lives and relationships that we love, that make us feel good and make us proud. 

And so on today’s Project Love podcast we are inviting you to join us for the first quarterly check-in of 2019!

Grab your Goodbye 2018, Hello 2019 journal, if you have one (you can still get your own copy over at thegoodbyehellojournal.com - while stocks last!) and join us as we reflect on the past 3 months, share the lessons that we’ve learnt in that time and create fresh new commitments for the next 3 months that help us realign ourselves with our intentions for the year and the life we dream of living. 

And if you made commitments at the start of the year that you haven’t stuck to, then YOU ARE NOT ALONE. There are always lessons to be found in the commitments that actually dropped off the list (which we talk all about in the podcast!)

And then join us over on Instagram to let us know what was the biggest lesson you learned from doing your own quarterly review!

X Selina & Vicki

So this week we have a very special guest on the GRFL podcast! Vicki interviewed Helen Dent, a clinical and forensic Psychologist, Attachment style expert and author of “Why Don't I Feel Good Enough?: Using Attachment Theory to Find a Solution” and we talked all about attachment styles and how our style can underlie our dating behaviours (and the dating behaviours of others). Here is a quiz where you can discover your style!

Vicki asked all of the questions that you sent in (thank you for those), including ‘how to spot the signs of emotionally unavailable men?’ and ‘how to recognise if you yourself are being emotionally unavailable?’. It was SUCH a fascinating conversation!

For more on attachment theory then check out ‘Using attachment theory to help our relationships to grow’, which is the podcast that Vicki also recorded with Helen. 

We hope you enjoy the episode!

X Vicki and Selina

For those of you that have been wanting more from us on how to thrive in your relationships (current or future) then this one is for you! In this week’s episode Vicki interviews Helen Dent, a clinical and forensic Psychologist, Attachment style expert and author of “Why Don't I Feel Good Enough?: Using Attachment Theory to Find a Solution”. 

It was SUCH a fascinating conversation!

Tune in to hear us talk about:

What attachment theory actually is and how we can use it as a practical tool to help ourselves and our relationships to grow

What the three main attachment styles are (anxious, avoidant, secure) and how we can develop a ‘secure base’ in our relationships (and not just in our romantic relationships but also in our friendships and even with our pets!)

How we develop a blueprint for a relationship and how the relationships that we have throughout our lives can influence our attachment style (here is a quiz where you can discover yours)

The difference between healthy dependency and codependency in relationships 

How we can manage relationship challenges when we have opposing attachment styles to our partner!

Why we are more likely to come across avoidant attachers when we are dating 

And how we can consciously work towards becoming more secure in our relationships

We can’t wait for you to listen to the episode! 

x Selina & Vicki

In this week’s episode from our Get Ready for Love series, we talk about dating after a break-up and specifically, how long you should wait before getting back out there and into the world of dating again. 

And have you watched our Video Masterclass - ‘A Modern Approach to Finding Love’ yet?

It is such a goodie and totally free! Head on over here and we’ll send it to your inbox straight away!

X Vicki and Selina

Oof what a podcast episode we have in store for you today! We have just come to the end of our self love challenge, ‘28 Days of Love’ and we have so many fresh insights and lessons to share with you, this podcast is packed full of them!

Tune in to hear us talk about:

Our top lessons learnt from practicing self love for 28 days to build a self love habit (which has also included the breaking of old habits!)

All of the ways that we resisted self love during the challenge and how we overcame that resistance 

Our misconceptions and limiting narratives around self love and how we challenged them to expand our definition of what it really means to love yourself 

How simple it really can be to treat yourself with love each and every day (and how it really requires very little time and zero money!)

The importance of self compassion on your self love journey

And much much more!

And here is the TED talk that we mentioned from Tracy McMillan, ‘The person you really need to marry’ (it is so gorgeous!) 

We really hope you enjoy this episode, always recorded with love

x Selina & Vicki

PS If you haven’t yet started 28 Days of Love (our free self-love challenge) and you would like to then head over here and download your free PDF guide to getting started (plus you’ll also find a big list of ideas to get you started on your self love journey). And why not get a friend involved too (you can begin any time you like!)

In this week’s episode from our Get Ready for Love series, we asked the question: ‘Can you ever get good at handling rejection?’. Selina shares how her narrative around rejection made dating a source of suffering for years and Vicki offers her advice on how to reframe rejection so that it is much easier to bounce back from. 

Have you watched our Video Masterclass - ‘A Modern Approach to Finding Love’?

If not, then head on over here and we’ll send it to your inbox straight away free of charge! 

X Vicki and Selina

When it comes to self love, we seem to have got ourselves into a right pickle and so we got together to talk about that, sharing fresh insights from our self love challenge ‘28 Days of Love’. We can’t wait for you to listen to this week’s episode!

Tune in to hear us talk about:

The most common narratives and misconceptions around self love and the impact these are having on us and the way that we treat ourselves 

The many misunderstandings around self love and how as a society, we don’t actually value the inner work of self love and self care  

How our perfectionist tendencies can hijack self love and limit us from really experiencing the power of it

Why self love can feel rebellious (and why that’s a good thing!)

Why we can resist self love so damn much

And much more!

We really hope you enjoy this episode, always recorded with love.

x Selina & Vicki

PS If you haven’t yet started 28 Days of Love (our free self love challenge!) and you would like to then it’s not too late, you can start any time! Head over here and download your free PDF guide to getting started (plus you’ll also find a big list of ideas to get you started on your self love journey)

We have a fresh new ‘Get Ready for Love’ episode over on the Project Love podcast and we can’t wait for you to listen to it. In this week’s episode, we talk about breadcrumbing - what it is and what to do if it happens to you.

And juuuust in case you missed it, these episodes form part of our new Get Ready for Love series where we bring you bitesize episodes each week to help you to navigate the world of modern dating and find the right partner for you. In these episodes, we answer your burning questions on all things dating and we bring you practical guidance and ‘how to’s in less than 15 minutes (perfect for listening during the daily commute or en route to a date!). 

Listen to the first two episodes below if you missed them:

Episode 1 | How can I relax and be myself on a first date?

Episode 2 | What can I do if I hate online dating?

And if you are needing some help and support on your dating journey then check out our coaching programme ‘Wing Woman’ where you will have Vicki as your personal love coach and wing woman to hold your hand and guide you through it! 

'Wing Woman' is a 2 month coaching programme designed to transform your whole experience of dating. From getting in the right headspace for dating to creating a profile that will attract the kind of person you want to meet, to dealing with dating nerves and fears and everything in between, Vicki will be your wing woman, lovingly guiding you through the dating journey, helping you to approach it from a place of love (and to have some fun with it!). Apply to join the programme over here and book in your discovery call with Vicki.

With love,

X Vicki and Selina

Last week Selina went to visit the wonderful Tiu de Haan - the ritual designer, creative facilitator and intuitive mentor who has among her list of clients, the United Nations, L’Oreal, Google, neuroscientists, economists, world-leading quantum physicists and burnt out Londoners!

Selina joined Tiu on her magical boat in the heart of London to discover how she helps people to create moments of meaning in their daily lives and experiences that bring them back into a deeper connection with themselves. 

Join them as they talk about:

How to reawaken your sense of wonder

How to bring magic to the mundane 

How to honour your natural ebbs and flows in life

How to create micro moments in the day to reconnect to your deeper self

How to align your life with your natural seasons, cycles and daily energy rhythms

How to master the art of napping 

Radical self care

and a whole lot more!

To find out more about Tiu - her online courses, workshops and 1-2-1 adventures (where you get to hang out in her magical boat too!) head over here. (There are all sorts of wonderful games and online classes for you to choose from in her online shop, so be sure to check it out!)

And if you’d like to buy the online course - Possibility of Wonder - then simply enter LOVE when you get to the checkout and you’ll get £20 off! 

Lots of love, 

Vicki and Selina

It’s been so wonderful to see so many of you enjoying last week’s episode in the Get Ready for Love series! 

Just in case you missed it, last week we launched the Get Ready for Love podcast series where we bring you bitesize episodes to help you to navigate the world of modern dating and find the right partner for you. In these episodes, we answer your burning questions on all things dating and we bring you practical guidance and ‘how to’s in less than 15 minutes (perfect for listening during the daily commute or en route to a date!). If you missed last week’s episode, ‘how you can relax and be yourself on a first date’ then head over here.  

Sooooo onto episode two! In this week’s episode, we talk about what you can do if you hate online dating (because we know that so many of you do!). We loved recording this one for you. 

And if you are finding online dating to be a source of stress and frustration then imagine how it would feel to have your very own love coach and wing woman holding your hand and guiding you through the dating journey. Imagine if you could learn tools and techniques to help you to manage dating fears and dating freak outs. Imagine if you could discover ways to actually enjoy dating and make it fun?

Well that is what you get with the ‘Wing Woman’ Dating Coaching programme with Vicki.

With Vicki by your side as your personal love coach and wing woman, you'll be guided and supported through your dating journey so that you come out the other side with a whole new approach and outlook to dating (so that you are actually enjoying it) 

Head over here for all of the details!

With love,

X Vicki and Selina