Project Love

After taking a Summer break, WE ARE NOW BACK on the podcast and we have a brand new season of episodes lined up for you! 
This week we are back with a bang as we discuss the ever so juicy topic of upper limiting and how we can get in the way of living a life that we love. 

We share quite a few of our own personal insights on this one, as we reflect on a Summer of growth and expansion for ourselves and our business (working with the most phenomenal coach, Dr Tilean - check her out if you haven’t already).
We loved recording this episode, we hope you enjoy it too.

And listen right to the end as we reveal a big celebration 🎉 the Goodbye 2019, Hello 2020 journal is now ready to reveal to the world and she is a beauty! 💃🏻

Pre-order your copies now over on Amazon - for full information head to https://thegoodbyehellojournal.com

Love, Vicki and Selina X

In this episode we dive deep into a topic that everyone has had strong experiences in: *friendship. *

Our friendships have the capacity to give us every bit as much love, connection, pain, heartbreak, growth and belonging as our romantic relationships and when it comes to friendships between women, there is plenty of research that proves that close female friendships are essential to our happiness and our health.

So in this episode we looked at the power of friendship, the pain that can come with friendship break ups, how to make new friends as an adult and how to deal with the ‘friends’ that you realise aren’t treating you right and, perhaps the juiciest of all, how to handle the relationship hierarchy that seems to be at play in our society that relegates friendships to bottom rung once partners and kids come along. It was one of the biggest topics that came up when we got this conversation started over on instagram and the Love Zonelast week. And it’s time we challenged that hierarchy and brought an end to it. It’s no good for anyone!

So come and tune in over at loveprojectlove.com or Apple Podcast and then carry on the conversation with us over on instagram @loveprojectlove

Oooooor let us know what you think of this latest episode (or the podcast as a whole) over on Apple Podcast (a 5* review would make our day ;) ).

Lots of love, 

Selina and Vicki

This has been one of our most listened to episodes and a topic that we constantly come back to with our coaching clients and here on the pod.

Setting healthy boundaries and learning to say 'no', seems to be something everyone knows they need to get good at, but they get stuck on how to do it.

And so in this episode we dig deep and take a look at why it is so important, why people often get stuck when it comes to setting boundaries and saying ’no’ to people, and how to do it the healthy loving way.

This is an episode about the power and importance of self love when it comes to both finding love and making love last, in celebration of our Get Ready for Love course (which has just celebrated it’s 4th birthday). Listen in as we share stories and lessons on love from real women (you can also find some of their stories here too) and to hear us talk about the power of self love when it comes to finding love and making love last. 
Enjoy! Love, Vicki and Selina x

From the archives! This episode is dedicated to those of you that are feeling stuck and miserable in your career, but don’t know what else you could do (or you have some ideas but don’t know where to start). And even more so if you love the idea of doing your own thing and being your own boss, but you just don’t know how to find that ‘right’ thing. Because THAT is what the guest on this episode is ALL about.

Say hello to the wonderful Marianne Cantwell!

Marianne is best-selling author of ‘Be a Free Range Human’ - THE book that I always recommend when it comes to discovering what you love to do and finding a career that gives you fulfilment and freedom. She also delivered a killer TED Talk last year on ‘The power and importance of not (always) fitting in’ that has had almost 200,000 views to date.

And when it comes to creating a career for yourself that doesn’t require you leaving a piece of yourself at the door, then Marianne is your woman.

In fact together we’ve been designing and running courses to help people bust out of careers that make them miserable and show them how to create a career out of doing something they LOVE for almost a decade (gulp!). 

In this episode we talk about how to know when a traditional job is not for you (a lot of us simply aren’t suited to being employees!), how it’s not a case of having a job OR running your own business - there are all sorts of options out there for you - and how it’s not about finding the career that’s right for you, but creating the career that’s right for you. Plus a whole lot more.

There is nothing that Marianne and I love more than getting together to dive deep into the topic of escaping the 9 to 5 and creating a career you love so it was hard frankly to keep the podcast to under an hour. But I sort of managed it… 🤫

So I hope you enjoy it and if figuring out a new career direction is on your mind and listening to the two of us got you feeling fired up then come and find out about the Career Change Coaching I currently offer over on https://loveprojectlove.com/careerlove

Much love, x Selina

Selina here and I am SOOOO excited for you to listen to the podcast episode we have for you today.
I truly believe is one of the most important podcast episodes I have ever recorded. 
I was joined by the amazing Nova Reid to dive deep into conversation about race, white privilege and what I can do as a white woman to play a proactive role in dismantling racism. 
Nova Reid is a Diversity campaigner, anti-racism educator and founder of Nu Bride and is passionate about helping people push through fear, lead by example and be the change they want to see in the world. And I am completely in love and in awe of her. Through her work she is hit by online racist attacks on a daily basis and yet she continues to meet the world with love, courage and an unwavering belief that we CAN be the change. 
I’ve been doing Nova’s ‘White Privilege’ anti-racism course since December and I have found it to be SUCH a powerful course. I once felt totally powerless when it came to racism and inequality. I had no idea what, as a white person, I could do or was supposed to do. 
Now with this course I know exactly what I can do. Nova has given me the tools and guidance to help me do real work. And wow, is the work deep and powerful. 
I am now full of hope and excitement at what can happen if more and more white people stand up and do this work too. Which is what this episode is really all about. 
I can’t wait for you to hear it!
And if you are white, my invitation to you is to come and do Nova’s ‘White Privilege’ course. Let’s do this work together! 
And Nova, being the generous beauty that she is, is offering Project Love listeners a 15% discount if you sign up before 13th July. 

>> SIGN UP TO THE ‘WHITE PRIVILEGE' ANTI-RACISM COURSE HERE

x Selina

Hi lovely,
As we reach the half-way point of 2019 (yes, really, it goes so fast doesn’t it?), it’s time to check-in and see how you’re doing and how the last 3 months have been for you?
Back in March, we made a commitment to organise a collective ‘HIT PAUSE’ every quarter, so we can each check-in with ourselves, review how the last 3 months have gone and review how our commitments have come along and now it is time for our next quarterly review!
And so on today’s Project Love podcast we are inviting you to join us for the second quarterly check-in of 2019 ✨
Grab your Goodbye 2018, Hello 2019 journal (if you have one) and join us as we reflect on the past 3 months and share the progress that we’ve made and the lessons that we’ve learnt along the way. If you don’t have a Goodbye 2018, Hello 2019 journal then you can simply write down the questions as we go through them and do it with us 😍
And if you’re feeling stuck in resistance around your commitments then you are not alone. We’re all in this together and there are always lessons to be found in the commitments that actually dropped off the list (which we talk all about in the podcast)
We hope you enjoy the episode!
X Selina & Vicki
PS in this episode, we mention the books we are loving right now - ‘Woman Code’ by Alisa Vitti (Also her TED talk is amazing - ‘Loving your lady parts as a path to success, power & global change’) and ‘Do Less’ by Kate Northrup 

Vicki here! I have the most beautiful and inspiring real love story podcast for you today in celebration of me opening the doors to working with new love coaching clients this Summer!

In this episode, you’ll hear Lauren’s beautiful love story and journey of self love and transformation. 
Lauren wrote to me back in 2015 when her self esteem and confidence were at an all time low, feeling stuck in a toxic and unhealthy relationship. All around her were friends getting married and buying houses together and she couldn’t shake the feeling that maybe it just wasn’t going to happen for her like it had for so many of her friends. She had convinced herself that she would always feel anxious around men, that she was hard to love and that she was unworthy of a loving relationship. 
In 2016, I started working with Lauren and took her through the 3 month Get Ready for Love 121 coaching programme and I witnessed her grow and transform and open up to love in the most beautiful way. Over the course of the sessions, Lauren’s confidence started to grow, she started to get to know herself (and actually quite like herself!) and over time, she became available to the loving and secure relationship that she now knew that she deserved. 
Cut to today and she has just returned from the most magical wedding in Devon where she married her best friend, surrounded by the people she loves most in the world.
Lauren’s story is such a wonderful example of someone who turned her love life around. It wasn’t easy and she faced a lot of fears along the way but she had the courage and the willingness to learn and grow and do the work and that was key to her transformation.
If Lauren’s story resonates with you and if you too dream of being in a loving and secure relationship then know that you can make that dream come true. Don’t give up on that dream or leave it up to fate or chance. With courage and the willingness to learn and grow, you too can change the course of your love life, just like Lauren did. I am so passionate about working with clients on the journey of getting ready for love and I can’t wait to hear from you if you are ready for that journey too!
If you would like to be one of the four new clients I am taking on this summer on my 3 month love coaching programme then head on over here to check out the programme. If it sounds like just what you need, then fill in the form to book in a discovery call with me - I have put aside time in my diary to talk to you next week (w/c 24th June). 
I hope you enjoy the podcast! 💕
Love, Vicki xx

Selina here! So excited about this week’s episode because in celebration of me opening the doors to 6 new clients this summer and starting a YouTube channel all about career change (eeeek!), we decided to dedicate this week’s podcast episode to...you guessed it, career change! 
We dive deep into:

And a whole lot more!
So if you are feeling miserable in your job and wishing you had a career you loved, then this episode is for you.
Aaaaaand if you want to be one of the six new clients I am taking on this summer on my 3 month career change coaching programme then head on over here to check out the programme and if it sounds like just what you need, then fill in the form to book in a discovery call with me. 
And don’t forget to check out the first of my new YouTube video series on career change over on selinabarker.com. 
Lots of love, 
X Selina
P.S. Find out more about my career change coaching over on https://loveprojectlove.com/careerlove

This week on the podcast Vicki interviewed Chloe Brotheridge, a clinical hypnotherapist and coach, anxiety expert, author of the bestselling and bloody brilliant, The Anxiety Solution and now the author of her brand new book, Brave New Girl (which is equally as brilliant!)
This book is so so good, like one big pep talk to encourage us all to be brave, step outside of our comfort zones and go after our dreams, while also being wrapped up in so much love and compassion. It was a joy to read and it’s jam packed full of powerful tools and techniques to help you to end people pleasing, discover the power of ‘no’ and become your most confident self. 
Listen in to the episode to hear Vicki and Chloe talk about the importance of setting boundaries (to avoid resentment and burn out), perfectionism and what it means to have the courage to be imperfect, loneliness and the power of community, imposter syndrome, the importance of self-compassion and so much more!
To find out more about Chloe visit https://www.calmer-you.com/ and visit her on Instagram over here. 
And you can buy a copy of her book over here!
X Selina & Vicki