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Hi lovely,
Over on the podcast this week, we dive deep into conversation around dating after a break up - the fears, the self-love practices, the importance of vulnerability and how you know when you’re ready to start dating again. 
Taking that first step can feel scary and if you’re feeling nervous about getting back into dating then know that you are not alone. In the episode, we share some of our tips to help you with fears and anxieties to help you to move forward on your dating journey with love and courage. 
And even if you’re not currently dating, it’s a lovely opportunity to reflect on your past experiences and the growth that’s happened as part of your journey.

Here is the podcast we mentioned on heartbreak and all of the Get Ready for Love episodes from the series can be found here. 
And if you’re wanting to make 2020 your year of finding love then come and join the Get Ready for Love coaching programme with Vicki as your personal love coach for 3 months. The programme is currently fully booked but you can secure your spot for 2020 now - simply fill out the form here and Vicki will be in touch to arrange your discovery call.
We hope you enjoy the episode!
All our love,Vicki and Selina X
PS this episode is inspired by a recent event that Vicki attended as a guest panellist, in partnership with Tailor Matched (and Asa, the founder of Tailor Matched will be appearing on the podcast in a future episode so look out for that in the new year!) 

Hi lovely! Vicki here 👋
I have such a gorgeous podcast episode for you as I got to interview my greatest teacher and mentor, Reverend Gail Love Schock. 
Gail is an Interfaith Reverend and the world’s first and only Energy Transformation Strategist. She has helped thousands of people to move through radical change, moving closer to love and celebration through meditation, ceremony, ritual, mentorship, and retreats. 
Gail’s ministry focuses on the taboo subjects of life, including sex, money, and death, all of which, enable people to live a rich, vibrant and meaningful life today. Gail is accredited by One Spirit Interfaith Foundation and she has been featured in global outlets such as The Sunday Times, New York Post, The Sunday Post, and Psychologies.
I first met Gail back in 2016 when I was experiencing a lot of growth and expansion in my life. And over the years, Gail has been a constant source of inspiration and wisdom and an illuminating presence of love. I recently attended a workshop of Gail’s, called ‘Unlocking the power of your voice’ and it was so fascinating, I knew we needed to get her onto the podcast to explore this topic further. 
We talked about:

I loved this conversation, I hope you enjoy it too!
To find out more about Gail, head on over to her website here and find her on Instagram here.  And if you are thinking about booking a session with Gail then she is offering a special discount on her 2.5 hour mega sessions for Project Love listeners. Simply head over here to book!
I hope you enjoy the episode 💕
Love, V xx 

Hi guys, Selina here this week 👋

Wasn’t last week’s podcast great when Vicki was joined by Jo Westwood to talk about co-dependency?! Wow, I really saw how co-dependency runs in my family, how I had a very destructive co-dependent relationship in my twenties and how I still have a bit of a tendency towards co-dependent behaviour today. Fascinating!
This week’s topic is a great follow on from that episode, as this week we're looking at people pleasing! I had the wonderful Kate Taylor in the studio with me talking about the disease to please! Why so many of us are brought up with a chronic people pleasing tendency, how that can hold us back and what to do about it.

To find more about Kate, her life and business coaching and her incredible Practical Magic Activation Deck go to https://www.katetaylor.co/

We also mention in the episode the fabulous Tamu Thomas of Live Three Sixty (a wise wise woman) and the book 'The Art of Extreme Self-Care' by Cheryl Richardson.

Now you’ll also hear me at the start of the episode making a very exciting announcement (which you will have heard if you’ve been hanging out with us on Instagram): I’m doing an audio series with a well known brand (can’t name them just yet) all about career change. The series will follow the coaching journey of 6 people being coached by me. 
And so I’m looking for those 6 people! You’ll get coached for free in exchange for being on the series which goes public in March next year. 
To find out more and how to apply, go to http://www.selinabarker.com/podcastproject

Now hit play and feel the liberation of releasing those people pleasing tendencies! 

x Selina

A couple of weeks ago we went to see the absolutely brilliant Marie Forleo at her event in London, celebrating her new book ‘Everything is Figureoutable’.

If you saw our Instagram stories you’ll know that we were like the ultimate fan girls! We were giddy with excitement!

Why? Because Marie Forleo is someone who we have followed and admired for years. She is an unwavering example of someone who brings so much love and joy into her work. And she believes, like us, that our careers can be the source of so much joy, love and fulfilment in our lives and that anything is possible if you allow yourself to dream it and believe in it. 
Being at the event and hearing her share the ‘Everything is Figureoutable’ philosophy really had us reflecting on all the times in life where we’ve gone after a dream, not having a clue of HOW we were going to make it happen, but committing to it none-the-less. And so we wanted to dedicate an episode to diving deep into the ‘Everything is Figureoutable’ philosophy and share how we’ve used this approach in our coaching and in our own lives and careers to follow our dreams, even when we had no idea of HOW we were going to do it.
So if you have a dream that you’d love to go after but you’re not sure how to make it happen, then this one is for you!
X Selina & Vicki

Hello! 👋 Vicki here, with a brand new episode for you 🤗
This week I had the pleasure of speaking to Jo Westwood all about the topic of codependency and what it means to live Lovingly Fierce. 
And wow, what an interesting conversation it was!
Jo is a life coach and author, who is known for her straightforward, down to earth approach in helping you to improve your life. And she specialises in helping women to escape from codependency, reclaim their lives with confidence and live Lovingly Fierce.
In this episode, we explore what codependency is and how it can show up in our relationships (from our friendships and work relationships to our family and romantic relationships), how it impacts us and what a recovery journey can look like. This is such an important topic and one that I don’t think is being talked about enough.
I learnt so much from Jo through this conversation and it’s certainly one I would like to keep talking about in future episodes. If this conversation resonated with you and if you’d like to go deeper into this topic then Jo has very kindly shared resources that can support you. Here they are below:
- Should I Stay or Should I Go by Dr. Ramani Durvasula PhD | LINK

- Codependents Anonymous "Big Book" (to note - this one supports the organisation of Codependents Anonymous and is much cheaper than Amazon) | LINK

- Sweet Relief from the Everyday Narcissist by Melissa Schenker and Tina Moody | LINK

- Codependents Anonymous UK Meetings | LINK

- Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody | LINK

- Jo's 'Lovingly Fierce' Online Course (with Project Love discount of £25 off using code: lfpodcastlistener) | LINK

- And if you'd like to find out more about Jo then you can visit her website here and check her out over on Instagram here.
I hope you enjoy the episode. 

Do get in touch and let me know what resonated with you the most. You can email me on [email protected] or send me a DM on Instagram @loveprojectove.
Love, V xx

It’s Selina here and oh I’m so excited for you to listen to today’s episode. It is with my greatest guide and teacher in life, Donna Lancaster - co-founder and facilitator of the incredible Bridge Retreat who is honestly the wisest, most powerful, loving and humble healer and transformational therapist I have ever met, so ANY conversation with her is going to be food for the soul, but this one in particular really inspired me (and you’ll hear why) because we were talking about the day, two years ago that Donna married herself. On her 50th birthday. With her best friend there as her witness.

SHE MARRIED HERSELF!

The ultimate act of self-love.

And so we talked about it all: what made her want to do it, what the ceremony was like, the vows and commitments she made to herself, how she knew a lot of people would roll their eyes at it and above all the difference it has made to her and the relationship with herself since saying ‘I do’.

As well as self marriage we talked about going through deep transformation in life, the suffering that is a necessary part of our development and growth and how to navigate those times of suffering so that you can get through to the other side where you’ll find peace, love, humility and all the good stuff.

We talked about why it is NOT in the interests of a capitalist society for us to love ourselves. 

And of course we talked about witches 😉

So hit play, open your heart and ENJOY!

x Selina

It’s a new month annnnd a new season, which can only mean one thing… it’s time for a quarterly check-in!
In this weeks podcast episode, we invite you to join us and do your 3-monthly check-in with us ✨
Grab your Goodbye 2018, Hello 2019 journal (if you have one) and join us as we reflect on the past 3 months and share the progress that we’ve made and the lessons that we’ve learnt along the way. If you don’t have a Goodbye 2018, Hello 2019 journal then you can simply write down the questions as we go through them and do it with us 😍
🎉 Annnnd we have a very SPECIAL celebration because...
The Goodbye 2019, Hello 2020 journal is now officially ON SALE! 🎉🎉🎉

The Goodbye 2019, Hello 2020 journal guides you through a journey that helps you to say a proper farewell to 2019 as it comes to an end and create a vision and a plan to help you to thrive and create a life you love in the year to come. 

<<<< Grab your copy here >>>> 

It really is like having a life coach in your pocket (thank you The Independent! 🤗) and it makes a brilliant Xmas gift! 
“Goodbye, Hello was THE BEST thing I did this year! It gave me the focus to go after the things I want in my life. I’ve done so much I’m proud of because of it!”- Laura, London
Now we can’t wait to see what it will do for you! 
So much love, 
X Selina & Vicki

We have a fresh podcast episode for you today that is designed to make you feeeeel better. 

Because today we are talking about SELF CARE 🧘🏾‍♀️🌿✨💛 and using the change in seasons here in the UK (and the rest of the northern hemisphere) as a chance to take stock, check-in with ourselves and see how we’re getting on with looking after our wellbeing on a daily basis AND how our self-care activities change with the seasons.

And so we invite you to join us and use this episode as a chance to check-in with your own self-care activities to see how you’re getting on!

Tune in, enjoy and come over to instagram to let us know what’s on YOUR wellbeing toolkit! @loveprojectlove

Hello! Vicki here, with a gorgeous podcast episode for you 🤗
Today’s episode is a real love story interview with Alexandra Gill, who reflects on her journey of going from someone who was single for her whole adult life (in her words) and thinking that a relationship just wasn’t going to happen for her, to going through the journey of getting ready for love and marrying her best friend (her wedding was just last month).
This is such a special story, I was moved to tears on a number of occasions because I know the courage that it takes to open your heart, to trust and to commit to love. Particularly when you have lost faith in love, which is where Alex was back in 2016. 
This is a story of love, hope and courage and I can’t wait for you to listen to it 💕
And if are interested in going on your own journey of getting ready for love then I’m so happy to announce that I have just opened up the doors to new love coaching clients for the Autumn season and I have a handful of spots for you to work with me 1:1.
The Get Ready for Love coaching programme is my absolute heart and soul and it would be an honour to work with you if you’re feeling the call. If you are and you’re ready for the journey of transformation then I would love to hear from you. 
Simply head on over to https://loveprojectlove.com/lovecoaching for all of the details and how to get in touch.
I hope you enjoy the podcast! 
Love, Vicki xx

It’s Selina here with this week’s Project Love podcast episode.
And I cannot wait for you to hit play on this one, because I am joined by the Queen of Self-Celebration and all round joyous creature: Sarah Powell.

I have head-over-heels fallen in love with Sarah via her instagram stories (if you are on instagram and you don’t yet follow Sarah Powell on @thissarahpowell then go and do so immediately). She is hilarious, courageous, loving and inspiring. 

She is one of those people that has created a career that is a total expression of who she is and what she loves in life. 
She is a celebrant, founder of Celebrate Yourself (the first Celebrate Yourself Live event recently sold out in just 4 hours!), she is co-host of not one, but two hugely successful podcasts - Jules and Sarah and Wobble - both of which she does with her co-host Jules von Hep and she has a rapidly growing instagram community that she pours love into every day. 
And yet just a few years ago Sarah was stuck in what she calls ‘the wilderness’ - that no-man’s land of not knowing what you want to do with your life and career, where you’re feeling totally lost and afraid that you’ll never figure it out. The place where everyone (yes everyone) begins their career change journey (or any big journey of transformation for that matter).
And so we talked about the power of self-celebration, finding humour in the mundane and how Sarah made her way out of the ‘wilderness’ to create a career that makes her heart sing and brings joy into the world. 
This is such an inspiring episode and one that I guarantee will put a smile on your face! 
And if you felt like I was speaking to YOU at the start of the episode and you know that it is time for you to make your career change happen, then I would love to hear from you.

I am opening the doors to my  3 month 1:1 Career Change Coaching programme this month and as always will only be taking on a handful of clients.

And I would love for one of those clients to be YOU this time.

So if you’re ready to take the leap, come and book yourself in for a discovery call!

Let’s do this!

X Selina